ED Recovery Stories 7

I remember a few years ago I was having sex with an ex girlfriend and I remember almost getting bored as thrusting wasn't doing much for me. Actually the first time I got off from a blow job a different girl gave me, I remember I had to think about porn.

Now, with my sensitivity restored I get it. Sex doesn't require thinking. You shouldn't have to strain to get off. The sensations themselves are what should get you off. I realize that you can't refrain from masterbating forever so now I think the plan is to not do it more than once every six weeks. That way I'm not dulling my senses down there but I'm not depriving myself completely.

Thank god for this site as I now realize how addicted I was and how it was affecting me. I knew I was doing well abstaining before but now that I've masterbated and ejaculated based entirely on sensation I can say that things have officially turned around for the better. As Bill Murray once said, today is tomorrow. This marks the end of a very long day...

-Age 23: Started using porn heavily around age 18 after a bad break up.

-Used to have successful sex with my high school girlfriend no problem. -After not dating for 2 years I finally started seeing some other girls. -There were 3 girls total that I made it into bed with, all really attractive young girls. -Couldn't get hard. Even if I did get hard I would lose it pretty quickly. -This sucked. A lot. Huge blow to my already low confidence. Severely depressed.

-Led me to start seeing escorts (expensive prostitutes I guess you could say). -This was party to test myself, and partly an extension of my addiction. -Problem persisted with the escorts. Could not stay hard. They had to use their hands to make me cum.

Reboot attempts began in November 2011 -After a couple of relapses after single digit attempts, I relapsed in mid-December after a 3 week run of no PMO. -During this 3 weeks I felt AMAZING! I was no longer stressed, angry, anxious and everything else that I had become. Felt like I was on track to beat my addiction and I was incredibly happy.

In January I decided to test with two escorts: On Wednesday the 11th of January the first girl came out to my house. Holy shit.. I was able to get hard... And stay hard... And I was actually able to orgasm while inside her (with the condom on of course). Oh my god!!!!! I know it was with an escort that I had to pay, but this was the first time I was able to orgasm with a girl without her having to use her hand! I was so so happy.

The next day I went to visit the porn star at her hotel. My erection strength was not as strong as the day before (I would say 70-80%), but I managed to stay hard and came inside her as well. I left with a giant smile on my face.

22 yo , fappin since 12 .now on day 45

this is is so cool! my dick also looks BIGGER now when the blood flows trough my penis. last night i was dancing with a girl for 15 minutes was really horny and got a constant boner. so happy with this i think rewiring with a girl FAST FORWARDS a PIED recovery

also less anxiety , more confidence, concentration, motivation and other activities seem more exciting

stay strong this shit is awesome

Some things I learned: - Every time I go approximately 10 days or more without masturbating and watching porn I can maintain a decent erection during sex. This means that abstaining from masturbating and porn usually "cures" me, but the erections are still very far from ideal. - Visiting prostitutes is extremely similar to watching porn. Both of them give you lots of novelty. Both of them are very addictive. Both of them are easy. Both of them neglect feelings and bonding behaviors.

- During periods when I masturbate frequently to porn I always suffer some kind of erectile dysfunction when having sex, unless the escort has some specific physical attribute that excites me a lot (like an incredible ass or super big tits). Since regular women aren't usually that hot, you can assume that as long as you keep masturbating and watching porn you'll always have trouble maintaining erections during sex.

- When going for a reboot, quitting prostitutes is a must. I have tried quitting porn and masturbation without quitting prostitutes and it's just not possible. It leads to relapses/binges and you end up spending a lot of money. - You will be tempted to "test your erection" with prostitutes. Don't bother. Trust me, your dick will get hard. Save your time and money. You'll think you're cured since you got hard and then you will use that as an excuse to watch porn and masturbate, since you can always "abstain for a couple of weeks and go back to normal".

Getting hard does not mean that your brain is balanced and you're good to go. I believe that sooner or later we all have to go through a long period of no PMO in order to restore our brain balance and go back to normal.

90 day report: Holding back a primal urge is not easy. That’s what all of us are doing with NoFap. Any urge that strong is going to be a difficult animal to cage and train. NoFap isn’t just about curbing a detrimental PMO habit, what we’re really doing is learning how to control ourselves.

My reason for doing the reboot as stated in my journal on Day 1 (November 10, 2010): Day One: The goal is to weaken my brain’s neuron pathways responsible for porn enjoyment. I had porn induced ED, and suffered it with my last 7 partners. I failed to perform in a real-life threesome with two women. So there’s that.

I found YBOP on this subreddit and watched as it described my problem perfectly. I read some success stories. I decided to commit that day (having already fapped of course to some probably hardcore stuff) and deleted all my porn. 90GB nicely sorted and organized. I had a fear to perform in the bedroom ever since my first long-term girlfriend and I broke up 5 years ago. When we fought, she would often insult me then shut me out. The attacks were personal, but not always sexual.

Once we separated, I began fapping heavily to all kinds of porn. This developed into the problem I feel I have now conquered. Over the last 3 months, I have noticed large changes in my thinking that I believe are directly related to my reboot:

Day 1: I was more afraid to perform with a woman then I was to just fap. Now: I’m afraid to fap but plan on fucking the brains out of the next girl I meet.

Day 1: it would have been impossible for me to stimulate myself into a full erection without pornography. Now: I can get hard with just some thoughts and light touching. These erections last long even after I stop fantasizing.

This has been a great success. I’m grateful to everyone here for their threads and discussions. Without them, I wouldn’t have been able to actually quit PMO for good. This is a commitment now that I refuse to break.

After lots of effort, I managed to get to 90 days of no porn. My life improved a lot... I broke up with my girlfriend, had sex with 4 girls, found a new girlfriend. I was sociable, confident, etc. For some months I was having LOTS of awesome sex, but she had to go back to her country in January.

After she left...well, the porn/fapping cravings came back HARD. I was fapping 2/3 times per day and watching porn (something I hadn't done it in 6 months). It was all downhill from there: Loss of motivation, didn't go out on the weekends, gained a bit of weight, etc. Then I got to have sex with another girl and...let's say it was a bit disappointing. I didn't "work" as well as I used to do without fapping.

So now, more determined than ever, I'm back at 5 days of nofap and feeling much better. For me the biggest danger is the 3 days after having sex or fapping. If you can get over that, it's a piece of cake. But the cravings after sex...f*ck that sh*t. I do lots of drugs too, and fapping is definitely harder to stop.

So just be careful. Don't relapse. If you feel like fapping just go out and do anything you can to find real sex. Fapping isn't worth it

I know my problem is sexual performance anxiety caused by erectile dysfunction caused by porn. So when you break it down I wouldn't have sexual performance anxiety if I didn't have a porn induced erectile dysfunction. Therefore the root of my problem is porn that caused the ED and desensitization to real women, that is causing sexual performance anxiety.

Now that my ED is starting to get cured my confidence has increased therefore my sexual performance anxiety has also decreased. The sexual performance anxiety is in my head; however the ED is also physical and metal.

Now I:

1. I look at women more

2. My penis is more sensitive, this probably related to a more physical level that I’m more sensitive to dopamine and my penis is growing more receptors

3. More motivation to talk to people

4. More motivation at the gym

5. Can't stop thinking about sex

6. I’m more attracted to women that used to below my standard

7. I want to talk to people more

8. I have a lot more confidence talking. I was already pretty confident however now it’s on steroids.

9. More energy If you think about an alcoholic addiction, the person gets angry and upset, and yells at their partner more than a normal person. They need more alcohol to get high. The problem is both in their head and physical. An alcoholic can't just be normal without first getting rid of the alcohol addiction.

So I couldn't have great easy sex, and no sexual performance anxiety without getting rid of porn and doing a reboot. Porn addiction you are abusing the natural sex process. You need more stimulation to orgasm and get a hard on. As time goes on you need more and more stimulation and more porn to get hard. Then a women in real life comes a long and nothing happens. Why? Easy too much porn and masturbation orgasm which lead to desensitization to women.

The problem is both physical and mental. Its physical because your penis isn’t sensitive to dopamine due to the decrease in receptors. That’s why you need more stimulation to get hard because you don’t have as many receptors as before. It’s PMO which lead to ED which is then leads to sexual performance anxiety. I’m going to do her that's for sure, and i will have a great story to tell you guys! I wrote a lot so other people that might have a similar problem can understand what's going on.

I agree that now my ED is starting to go away that my next problem is to tackle sexual performance anxiety.

When I started noticing ED when sleeping with women, I started getting really worried (I'm in my early 20's). I looked it up and found this website, watched all the videos, that documentary included and after only 2 weeks I can safely say that it has changed my life. I feel more confident than ever, women are more attracted to me, I'm seeing great improvement in the bedroom. Every day it gets better and I'm noticing how ridiculous I was being by being so attached to porn.

I never thought of myself as someone with an addictive personality because I eat well, almost no junk food, I never got hooked on any drug or anything. It's fascinating to me that I never -ever- considered my usage of porn as addictive. I've shared this with close friends and we're all doing the 'challenge', it's amazing the amount of positivity it brings.

Hello everyone!

I have been off of the rebalancing site for quite a while. No big reason, just loving life and, of course, sex! Just checking back in to assure you all that you are on the right path. I have been dating the same girl for 10 months now. The sex has been mind-blowing and it continues to get better every day.

If someone asked me what my secret to rock-hard reliable erections was I would simply tell them that it has been well over a year sinse I have viewed porn and basically 10 months since I have masturbated. I am almost 32 years old and I continually wear-out my 21 year old, track athelete, girlfriend in bed. I can make her cum vaginaly, which is something I used to have a lot of trouble with because I could rarely last long enough. We still don't live together officially yet. She stays with me usually in 3 to 7-day strethes.

During these visits, we usually end up having sex somewhere between 3 and 6 times a day. I have taken a, kind of hybrid approach to karrezza, mixing non-orgasmic sexual activities into the orgasmic sex routine. As good as the sex is, I am still succeptible to the coolidge effect and the allure of novelty. I have become attuned to my body and mind well enough to sense when my desire is diminishing. Luckily, though this usually means my erection might take a little more coersion than usual, these are the times when I can last forever in bed and really make her cum like crazy while preventing myself from cumming. I have many times experienced ejaculation without loss of erection and being able to go right back into sex after cleanup. I can literally last for hours. Please note that I am not trying to brag. I am simply trying to reassure all of you that NO PMO WORKS!!

I was probably as bad off as any of you. There were times that I wondered if I would ever get it up with a woman again. Preformance anxiety, vascular blockage, penis pills, testosterone levels..BULLSHIT!! Years of internet porn and excessive masturbation are the culprits, period.

If I knew that sex could be this good back in those days I would have thrown my computer out the window! Anyhow, if anyone needs some advice or just wants to chat with someone who has been through the fire and come out the other side, I'll be checking the forum more regularly for a while. Gary and Marnia are absolutly right about this stuff. Good luck and stay srong!

3 months no PMO: Awesome sex with new GF, + ED completely recovered!self.NoFap

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 So here's a brief story of my past: Currently 21, fapped to porn since 14, had multiple girlfriends but with most of them (if not all) I had some serious ED kicking in during sexytimes. This ruined most of my relationships, and I thought I was doomed for the rest of my life.

/r/nofap and everything suddenly made sense. So I'm close to 3 months no PMO and daily Kegels, and last week I had a new girlfriend. Yesterday night she came at my house, and one thing led to another, we ended up making out naked in my bed. And guess what: NO FUCKIN' ED! Just kissing her was enough to get me hard, and that boner was like rock the entire time. Not only this, but I went for 20 minutes straight during intercourse before orgasming (Kegels, THEY DO WORK). This morning we went at it a second time, same thing again. Everything was freakin' amazing, and I kid you not: she cried from too much pleasure. I can't believe it myself. So to all nofappers that are trying to get rid of their ED, whether Porn-Induced ED, Death Grip issue, or even Performance Anxiety (mine was probably a mix of these 3), and are worried that it's not gonna work: IT WILL! Give it some time, 3 months might seem to be long, but it's absolutely worth it, and now porn and fapping don't even cross my mind anymore.

Thank you /r/nofap. This subreddit has changed my life in so many ways, and all for the better. Let's do an AMA in this thread, I'd like to help as many people as I can with my personal experience!

I wanted to share my story here briefly.  (LINK TO THREAD)

I'm a musician in my late twenties, and I have had a problems with my sexlife ever since i can remember. Firstly, I have never had a real girlfriend, so you can also tell that I have not developed a healthy sexuality either. I have been masturbating more or less regularly since the age of thirteen, and while most of the time I didn't do it but maybe 1-3 times a week, there has been times when it was daily and even multiple times a day.

I had my first sexual encounter with a girl when I was around the age of 23, and after that i have had tens of short term sexual relationships ranging from one night stands to couple of months at the time. Especially in the beginning i used to develop a crush on the girls, but after several failures I learnt not to develop feelings and kept it very physical. I found out that it was very difficult for me to climax and usually it was only after a long time that i could orgasm, if at all. After a while I gave up on the orgasms and focused only on the women. As you can imagine, it got quite boring after a while, and the excitement of conquest after another got lower and lower.

Around 2 years ago I started to believe I have a problem with this, and began soul searching as an attempt to find out what is wrong with me. I found it difficult to develop feelings to women, and I began feeling like a lost cause and focused a lot on working and hobbies. I still went on dates, and even had one relationship with a good woman for almost 6 months, but it also dried up as it felt more like a friendship with sex.

Now last year I gave up drinkin almost totally, and began working out regularly and got into meditation & martial arts. Soon enough I began having some kind of visions about myself and new feelings, and I realized that it is probably the porn that is the main problem for me. I tried giving it up months ago but always got back to it after a week or so, as i was really yearning for that portion of dopamines. But at the same time I was going for more softcore porn, as the hard core stuff i had been watching was really disgusting me. Then i remembered the YBOP site and from there I navigated into this site. And I have to tell you, everything on this site is really making sense to me.

I gave up porn about 4 weeks ago, and haven't looked back since. These weeks have been kinda difficult for me still, as the withdrawal effects are massive! So far I have had insomnia, blue balls, aching penis, increased urge to pee and heavy mood swings. Also at times I feel so horny I don't know what to do about it! It's new for me, as previously i have linked that feeling to MOing - now I'm thinking about a real live female. I've managed to get aroused by just thinking about the girl I like! Also, I haven't even wanted to watch any porn, and if i have by accident seen a nude photo i didn't get the urge to MO. My morning woods have come back and they are massive :D Insomuch that it has almost been a problem for me.

I have also just recently met a girl that I seem to like. We haven't had sex or talked about it too much yet, but I seem to just enjoy being close to her, and feeling her energy when i'm holding her or dancing with her. My moodswings and insomnia are causing a bit of a problem though, as they make me sometimes crumpy, impatient and so on. And the time I slept with her in spoon, I had a hard on for the whole damn night - adding to the difficulty to get sleep

I'm hoping that this will get easier and that she doesn't judge me because of these, as for the first time in a long while I would like to go for a real relationship. I feel bad that I didn't manage to cut the porn out of my life earlier, but I'm trying to be happy that I finally did!

Too much porn/masturbation cause ED?  LINK - By quarantine:

I'm 115 days in, success!! last night i was able to orgasm during sex for the first time in 10 years (2002, i was 23, i'm 33 now),

I never thought that would EVER happen again. the reboot works fellas, don't give up on it! porn truly ruined 10 years of my life & probably much more, who knows what & who i missed out on because i couldn't enjoy sex, my penis was basically numb to it because of porn, & usually never fully hard, especially if i went fast it would go wet noodle.

10 years of that!! i was withdrawn emotionally from every girl i dated, major walls up cause i knew i'd never have great sex again. self confidence shot, faking orgasms inside girls for the 10 years feeling very little pleasure, just frustration. well last night i did! a new chapter starts now, & the porn & death grip masterbation (masturbation) is gone,

I'll never go back, it robbed me of more than i can even imagine. but now i can enjoy sex again & rebuild my soul & confidence gradually. Thanks to this reboot, yourbrainonporn.com porn is more damaging than you can even fathom, do the reboot, stick with it, it works. i'm amazed, i NEVER thought his day would happen, orgasm during sex, staying hard through buildup. unreal. hope this helps somebody quit porn for good

Cured - Thanks for all the help

I'll try to make this short and to the point:

PMO from Age 13 - 23

Go 60 days, M out of boredom which eventually leads to a relapse. (Although I relapsed, I am 100% sure the 60 days of abstinence was still beneficial in the long run.)

A few weeks later I go 60 days again, start MOing once or twice a week to no P obviously. I'd say its about day 85 now. The Ming in my experience helped to 'wake up' my sex drive.

- Wake up with consistent hard morning erections

- Now get hard while just making out with a girl

- MO'd twice yesterday before girl came over later that night, unexpectedly got head, was 100% erect entire time, no problem reaching O, sensitive, etc.

After last night, I can say I am definitely cured of PIED.

My most important piece of advice would be to meditate 20-30 minutes a day and do aerobic exercise for 60 - 75 minutes a week.

Your brain is your biggest sex organ and that is where all of these problems are arising; meditation and aerobic exercise are hands down the healthiest activities for your brain. 

Good luck

Day 93

I'm past 90 days. Which where my original goal. I've had three relapses during this period. One major where I binges. That was two weeks ago.

I actually believe that you need to relapse. The experience and the opportunity to figure out why you relapse are vital if you're going to succeed long term. I've learned a lot from the relapses. I've learnt a lot from my relapses. Especially the last one.

So am I cured? No, or actually I don't now since I haven't had sex yet. Marnie keeps busting my balls to find some one to at least cuddle with. And shes right, but I've been making excuses. Someone please bitch slap me, I deserve it!

So I'm not cured. But I am ecstatic, I see women, myself and the world in a different way. My erections are back and they are back big time. Even to the point that Mr Johnsson keeps popping up out of nowhere in ordinary day situation. Awesome!!

The erections are between 90 - 98% strength and lasts. It's great!

Basically I'm saying that I'm convinced that this has been a life changer for me and the only thing is that I'm regretting is that I've lost a lot of years in the PMO-fog.

So I will keep this nofap/no pm(o) thing going.

I feel great!!

No super powers, just an amazing relief

It's been 24 days. Since I started nofap, I hadn't had a chance to really see my girlfriend for a while, due to school starting up and us both being busy. However, yesterday when we finally got together, it was amazing. I was immensely interested in her, and I had no issues with ED. We had an amazing intimate night where I felt I could really show her how attracted to her I have always been. I do not believe that nofap is a magic cure that gives you the ability to attract women. I think that's silly and a bit misogynistic. But this was a real benefit of this program, and I'm happy to have experienced these results.

Best sex ever!! Thanks, NoFap!

I just got back from a 5-day work conference. Normally I would have been fapping the entire time, but with a week already under my belt I was committed to no PMO while I was away. A little back story: I've been in a relationship for 5 years as of this past Sunday, and I've recently begun to wonder if the chemistry is fading. But that was before NoFap. When I got back from the conference yesterday I was exhausted physically and mentally. In the past that would have meant me backing out of sex, fully believing that the fatigue was the problem. But this time I discovered an inner reservoir of energy I never expected to find. The sex was incredible, passionate, and unbelievable.

I felt like I was 20 years old all over again. After 5 years of being "too tired" to have sex in times like these I now know the problem isn't about fading chemistry but about wasting my sexual energy fapping all the time. Thanks, NoFap! You just improved my relationship and revolutionized my sex life!!

19-day Report, First PIV Sex After NoFap (Erectile Dysfunction)

Male, 23. I've been suffering from ED the past few years and just started NoFap after many years of porn and masturbation. Tonight I had my first PIV sex since starting NoFap, and glad to say, I think I've made it! This is not an encouragement at all to start masturbating after 19 days. I used to suffer from premature ejaculation as well and wearing a condom kills my erection. But tonight, I lasted a long time without premature ejaculation and stayed hard all throughout! What a life lesson! No more masturbation for me. Thank you,

Recovering from serious ED: Sex on day 45.

So after 45 days without PMO, I had sex with a girl I've been going out for two weeks now. To be honest I was in a low libido period, not flatline but really low. Last week it was exactly the opposite. So I thought it would not happen. But at somepoint while kissing and caressing it got up. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that my girlfriend knows about my problem and she also had her own reservations. This made me feel kinda relaxed, took away the performance anxiety.

Bottom line, the feeling was fantastic. I can't remember when was the last time that sex felt this good. I knew I could cum from the first two minutes, but I was able to postpone it. Before nofap I needed hours if not days (literally) to cum. Some people say that sex while recovering delays your progress. But I really feel I didn't force anything to happen. It just did.

And the most important thing is that I want to get rid of my previous ED problems. Having sex with a girl without using a pill is a great achievement for me, and a major confidence boost. This thing works. I am so glad I found this community, it keeps me going on. My most honest gratitudes.

My story... 12 Years of PMO, ED, but now I feel like a new man.