I am a 21yo male. This has been the longest clean streak in my life thus far. It did not, however, happen by itself. I reached a point in my life where I felt completely unable to connect with others. My impulse control was out of the window, and I would surf the internet mindlessly for days on end. I was beyond depressed and started thinking about suicide daily.
Back in June 2012 I couldn't even get it up for porn. In this time I fall in love with my beautiful now-girlfriend. After noticing that I couldn't get it up for her I got depressions and also thought about suicide. Can't having sex with the girl I love was one of the hardest things i was confronted with in my life. Especially when she wants it so much.
It's been a while since I made a thread like this.I've learned quite a few things in the last few months. So I'm going to share them with you guys.First of all, I want to give the majority of credit to Al. It was thanks to him (and his insistence) that I've been gradually shifting from an abstinence approach to a recovery approach.
Every day, a group of men and women around the world digitally congregate at a Reddit board called NoFap to specifically discuss not masturbating. Yes, just like the famous Seinfeld episode, "The Contest" – Jerry and the gang bet $100 to see who can remain "master of their domain" the longest. It's a community called NoFap, and it has its own theories, ideology, and mutual support.
If there were any doubt left in my mind about nofap, it all went out of the window on Nov 26th Tuesday, at around 9:30 pm... Please bear with me, I am still in shock at what happened that day (in a good way).
So, some of you may remember me. I was here quite a lot and I fretted and worried about my abilities, I gave advice to others, and I learned a lot from this board. But I want to ensure those that are confused, worried, or unsure. THIS WORKS! It is NOT easy and relapse WILL happen. But it works.
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