Hello /r/pornfree. I'll start off by giving you guys a description of my problem. I met this new girl about a month ago, and we decide to go on a date after some time of texting etc. That same evening, she asks me if I want to sleep over, and I say yes.
42yo, first extended stint of nofap, and made it to 90 days. (I had a 23-day streak last fall, but didn't know what I was doing and relapsed.) I started NF with a few goals: curb my ED, get my sense of control back, and start mending my marriage, knowing that my P distractions weren't helping our relationship.
Nofap pretty much opened my eyes and showed me that PMO drained my energy. In fact nofap showed me a lot of more problems of my life. At least i see them now so i can work them out. It is still a way to go for me.
Hey guys. This was one of the hardest things I've ever attempted. I started in December but kept relapsing week after week. Nevertheless I hit 90 days. I did it totally alone. Told no one. Didn't check nofap. This was my personal war that I had to triumph in alone.
CSB subjects reported that as a result of excessive use of sexually explicit materials.....experienced diminished libido or erectile function specifically in physical relationships with women (although not in relationship to thesexually explicit material) (N = 11)...
The subjects stated that porn use caused their ED. The average age was 25, yet 11 out of the 19 subjects experienced erectile dysfunction and diminished libido with partners, but not with porn.
Is highspeed porn use rewiring adolescent sexuality?
A few years ago, when guys first showed up at our website with chronic porn-related sexual performance problems, they generally recovered after about two months of no porn, masturbation or porn fantasy, and a minimum of orgasm. Most were computer wizards who had acquired highspeed Internet porn ahead of the herd—and then developed uncharacteristic performance problems during real sex. We'll call them "Oldtimers."
Soon we began to notice two unexpected trends:
A flood of younger guys (early twenties and late teens) showed up with the same erectile-dysfunction problems. Rapidly, they comprised the majority of visitors to most threads and sites where men were complaining of porn-related sexual performance problems, and
These younger guys ("Newcomers") generally required longer (sometimes months longer) to recover from their performance problems. In fact, some needed regular contact with a real partner—which presents a challenging "chicken-and-egg" problem in the world of casual hook-ups.
COMMENTS: Limp boners and low desire in teenage males are things that should make everyone take notice as being extremely surprising. This study found rates of sexual dysfunction in 16-21 year olds that surpassed the rates found in adults. Especially surprising were the high rates of sexual problems in males (54%):
Erectile Dysfunction - 27%
Problems with orgasm - 24%
Low sexual desire - 10%
Note: the above percentages are about twice those found in this study of men ages 40-80. Keep in mind that in the 1940s Kinsey found that prevalence of impotence was less than 1% in men under 19 years of age, 3% of men under 45 years, 7% less than 55 years and 25% by the age of 75 years.
So it's been 90 days. I can't say I've gained any superpowers. What I can say is that I feel like I've regained control of my life. I'm no longer wasting my time away engaging in this harmful and solitary act. My relationship with my girlfriend of almost 8 months is improving every day. My PIED has resolved.
Well it's 21:05 09/06/2014 in China. I'm not sure if you are British people or American people. But it's amazing to find this website. It seems that the bad effect of porn has spreaded all over the world. You have NoFap,and we China also have our own forum just like NoFap. There are over 500,000 Chinese people getting together there, discussing similar problems as you discussed here, trying to get rid of sex addiction and internet addiction.
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