I’ve learned a lot about myself in the past 90 days, I’m not sure if I’ll ever be healed. The Good News I don’t feel as old. With a seemingly infinite pain tolerance, I can workout like I did in high school, my skin has returned the olive glow it had when I was in middle school and my genuine curiosity for how the world works and how people think continue to blossom in ways that deepen the contrasting colorfulness of life’s challenges.
Jim is 31 and a recovering porn "addict" who says porn has stopped him functioning "normally".
He's been telling Newsbeat about the devastating effect it's had on him after he began searching for more explicit material online. "The internet gives you this private space that nobody knows about," he says. "You can try things with a complete absence of consequence."
For many porn is part of a happy sex life but for those like Jim (not his real name) it can become an obsession that ruins relationships, friendships and jobs.
Here is the short version of my story: 25 years old. 5 years into porn with bad habits such as fapping inside my pants without erection. PIED and PE. Not weird tastes. I stopped watching porn 1.5 years ago. I made my 90 days of nofap and then masturbating on and off without fantasizing.
I realize as I look back at this 2 year journey how important it was to see other reports and know it can get better.... I'm 29, single and fighting for a career... And it is all happening, one step at a time.
I can't believe I've gone almost a year without fapping. I'll be honest. I had a few peaks at porn and was close to relapsing but I just stopped myself and said "NO DO NOT DO IT!" and I turned it off and walked away from my computer.
I'm at 160+ days right now, and I'm starting to actually love myself. Not the "I love myself if I do this". This love is "I love myself regardless of who I am or who am I becoming". During the years of masturbating and watching porn, I hated myself and I wanted to kill myself, but now there's hope for me and a better future of myself.
I have been with my boyfriend for 14 months and I love him deeply. However we have always had issues in the bedroom. It is rare that he can maintain a full erection for the duration of our sessions. Often he will stop, re-arouse himself and then carry on to climax.
I'm a 30 year old guy and I'd consider myself an extreme PMO addict. As soon as the alarm went off, I couldn't get out of my bed without watching a bit of porn or GIFs on my mobile and I jerked-off at least twice a day.
A top psychosexual therapist is warning about a surge in the number of young men suffering sexual health problems because of online pornography.
Angela Gregory says more and more men in their late teens and early 20s are suffering from erectile dysfunction. She puts the blame on people becoming addicted to watching online porn. There are no official figures but she says a lot of the time it is via smartphones and laptops.
"What I've seen over the last 16 years, particularly the last five years, is an increase in the amount of younger men being referred," she said. "Our experience is that historically men that were referred to our clinic with problems with erectile dysfunction were older men whose issues were related to diabetes, MS, cardio vascular disease. These younger men do not have organic disease, they've already been tested by their GP and everything is fine.
"So one of the first assessment questions I'd always ask now is about pornography and masturbatory habit because that can be the cause of their issues about maintaining an erection with a partner."
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