6 surprising things you need to know about men and pornography by Jed Diamond PhD
I was scared almost to death the day I electrocuted my penis. I had discovered my mother’s electric vibrator and found that playing with it around my genitals gave both an interesting humming sound and an increasingly heightened feeling of pleasure. When that continued through an explosive orgasm—my first one ever, at age 11—I went from being erect and excited to becoming limp and drained.
Wow what a ride, an immensely beneficial self development ride. I am really glad I found this community when I did. I was in a dark place, masturbating multiple times a day to porn of all kinds. I had social anxiety issues and girls considered me creepy and getting friendzoned was commonplace.
Started June, 2014 and promised to write only when I confirmrf the cure. My first true sexual experience was on my wedding night for both myself and my partner. Before that i was only making out. Needless to say complete failure first 5 attempts (2 weeks!!).
I started PMO at age 12 or 13. I decided to stop fap and porn when i started to look hardcore porn and also because i "failed" sex twice with 2 different woman...(One of this was my first time and i thought that fail was causing by stress).
So I made it to 90 days in hardmode after many failed attempts. The first 45 days were like hell, then it became much easier. You need like 3 months of time to learn yourself a new behavior. The difficulty was not in abstaining from watching porn, the difficulty was in abstaining from masturbating.
I have been pretty much been jacking it since 13, had my first orgasms ever jerking to porn. As years went on my jerking habits got progressively worse i eventually could not keep an erection unless i was looking at the computer screen. I thought nothing of it and kept at it.
I just reached a new record, 107 days on hard mode. I'm 38yo and have been jerking to porn since age 10 or so and struggling to quit for a while. This was made even more challenging by the fact that I work from home and live alone so I am home alone all the time with the perfect porn delivery device literally at my finger tips.
I feel like one of the lucky ones, after all the posts I've read on here. Maybe I never was addicted, or maybe the shock was so great seeing the Ted Talk on yourbrainonporn.com and matching all the symptoms that my resolve to fix myself immediately was greater than most.
Started heavy PMO when I went living on my own for my study in 2002. When I had my first sexual encounter a couple years later, I could easily get an erection. But very difficult getting an orgasm. And the sex wasn't satisfying, even when I came. A PM-orgasm was much, much better.
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