I actually started this journey on my own at the beginning of last summer. I discovered this community after two months of struggling on my own. Once I joined I relapsed only 3 times before this current streak. A few thoughts thus far:
Positive changes are all of the usual stuff; increased confidence and positive attitude. The biggest difference is my ability to stick to things, like a workout plan, book or project. I started attending a salsa class. The other night I was at a nightclub and I plucked about 10 different girls from their respective groups of friends and spun them around and had a dance (3 of them even leaned in to kiss me). I NEVER would have done that before.
I have been a lurker for a long time and after a roller coaster of last 5 months, thought I should pen down something here. I had a terrible case of PIED before i started the NoFap journey, and even though I knew that porn and masturbation were the root cause of my ED, it took me about 2 years to finally complete the 90 days. And trust me guys when they say that it gets easier with time. It definitely does.
Marty Klein wrote a reaction to our original post on how porn is shaping young men’s sexual response. Klein suggested that science doesn’t empirically support our assertion of unprecedented rates of sexual dysfunctions in young men. In fact, all studies assessing young male sexuality since 2010 report historic levels of sexual dysfunctions and startling rates of low libido. Erectile dysfunction (ED) rates range from 27 to 33 percent, while rates for low libido (hypo-sexuality) range from 16 to 37 percent. The lower ranges are taken from studies involving teens and men 25 years old and under, while the higher ranges are from studies involving men 40 years old and under. Read the entire article
it's been two years for me. I have went nomadic the past few months. I really have stopped keeping track of the days. It just felt like a leader board like I was more interested in how long it had been rather than what I had done in that time.
English is not my first language. I got a new gf after being single for almost 3 years, during which I PMO'd at least once a day (often more than that). I already struggled with my previous gf (I used to PMO during that time, albeit not as much as I did after we broke up), now with my new gf my PIED got so bad I went to see an urologist - actually, one of the most highly reputed (and costly) in my country.
The primary change is that I no longer have PIED! That was my main motivation. Also, I feel a whole lot better about myself now that I don't look at the shit and spend hours on the internet watching porn.
I started this when I was 15, but I turned 16 last month and just reached the big 90! The journey started on April 16, like my username shows, but on May 13th I had too much free time and well, relapsed. But how has the 90 days changed me?
To put it quite simply, I have become a person who has the ability to get shit done. It's an amazing feeling when others can rely on your work ethic & ability to deliver results. I can't even explain it, it's better than sex. No seriously. It's better than sex.
I've been struggling with beta issues since I was 9, due to porn. I was also deeply depressed, and started spiraling into an addiction frenzy. Video games, food, weed, porn, music. It took GREAT amounts of effort for me to socialize, and I would always question myself. I would always feel awkward and out of place no matter where I was.
It seemed like everyone around me was enjoying their lives while I was stuck in my own head, lost in my thoughts and addictions, listening to every temptation that comes my way. I was a downright loser. Hardly anything motivated me.
I realised a few things, and i wanted to share some of these findings which are less spoken about on this group. Waking up is so much easier. As someone who has long term depression, getting out of bed in the morning to go to work is the hardest part of the day, and getting back into bed at night is usually the best.
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