Had my 18th birthday two weeks ago. 4 days after my birthday I changed from a kissless virgin to a non-kissless non-virgin man. Lol you know what I mean. I don't have any urges to PM at all, except occasional urges to real sex.
My inability to get and maintain an erection while trying to have sex with my live-in, long-term SO, was putting an incredible amount of mental and emotional strain on my body. When I'd realized how fucking stupid it was that every time I was alone, I would flip open my computer and start looking at whatever raunchy shit I'd want to see.
I'm 21/M whose been through a lot like many of you brothers and sisters. When I was 18 I had a full ride to a univeristy of my choice, but I fucked it up (or did I?). I was academically expelled from the univeristy in 8 months for having all F's. Why 1) porn 2) gaming, you can imagine losing a 150k ride because of porn.
20 years old, virgin, somewhat social anxiety, started P and M when I was 13 and since then I watched porn and masturbated every day and felt like I couldn't go to sleep unless I had a release. Porn topics got weirder and weirder as time went by and I started watching some really freaky stuff.
So today I'm 90 days PMO free. Prior to this venture one of the hardest things I ever had to do was pass pole climbing school. One week of leaving the safety and security of the ground to climb poles. I hated every second of that class and I was afraid to fall and hurt myself.
My original goal was to be less preoccupied with sex. Seeing beautiful women shouldn't feel depressing just because you might never be with them. After just a week or two I noticed I was having higher energy throughout the day.
I want to share my experience here, because I believe I can share some insight that may help others. If at any time I come across as boasting or arrogant, please forgive me; that's not my intention. A few months ago, I was an undisciplined wreck.
I was probably one of the worst cases I've heard when it comes to porn I would pmo and mo at least 6 times a day. I remember doing until my penis was lifeless and as small as can be. I started from the age of 11. I thought this was completely Normal and acceptable behaviour.
I was masturbating and "addicted" to porn, I started in middle school probably around age 12 or 13. My guess as to why I started and why porn gripped me so hard was the fact that I was scrawny and weak, or as some call it "beta". Due to that, many boys disrespected me and picked on me, and girls always ignored me or rejected me. I never realized it as a problem because I was young and thought everyone did it every day like me.
I am proud to declare that I have reached 90 days! I started NoFap back in July and in these last few months I've really been able to fight the urges like never before. So how has my life improved? I'm 30 lbs lighter than I was a year ago and I am making progress in my weight lifting and pushups. Exercising has been a huge help in fighting off urges.
So the reason why I started: I've always tried to stop masturbating. For many reasons. The main reason was that I could not cum for the life of me when I was with my girlfriend. If I got lucky, I would cum during intercourse but it was a rare occasion, getting rarer. Don't get me wrong, everything felt great, buy just couldn't get me there.
Report: As I mentioned in the past, I used 'Learned Optimism' 's technique of Disputation to kill my urges. Based on my findings from other NoFappers, I found more visual flashbacks and vivid ones as well creeping into my mind of late. I believe this has to do with me feeling alone from time to time in the GF department.
I don't think NoFap gives you something MORE. It powers up your mind. When you can set goals like NoFap, and fight back urges, you're actually training your mind to do whatever the fuck you need to do and especially you WANT to do. This is the power of NoFap. You can set a goal, and reach it.
I started this whole NoFap thing about 6 months ago, and I can honestly say that I have noticed real changes in my life outside of the obvious that I do not masturbate or watch porn any longer. But there are some things that I have come to terms with throughout this experience that I thought I should share in the event that these experiences are common ones. For the first few months of NoFap, things were smooth sailing.
PE 100% gone. I've gone from ~30 seconds to about 3-4 minutes. Still not exactly where I want to be, but definitely an improvement. I'm taking this as a process. I did have one experience where I had a BJ that lasted 10+ minutes. Remember that the average guy lasts about 7 minutes, so every increased minute counts!
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