Age 38 - 90 days straight after 25 years of PMO (ED)

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Porn recovery heals brain fogFirst attempt at trying this and thought I'd share my story after lurking. I'm in my late 30's, so have a good 25 years of PMO behind me. After feeling lots of brain fog, exhaustion, ED... I finally made the connection between PMO and my mental/physical state. Went cold turkey 90 days ago and I'm very pleased with the results.

Mentally I can think much more clearly, feel calmer, and have a much more stable mood. The social anxiety and general anxiety I used to suffer from seem to be gone. Can talk to people much easier and people seem more open to initiating conversations. Much more attracted to women in general, it doesn't take much for me to get aroused. Physically, I've never been stronger, and have gotten ripped at the gym and cut my body fat to close to single digits. Eating much healthier has helped too.

Over the 90 days I've had 7 wet dreams. They usually happen every 10-14 days.

Only slipped up on the P one time and that was about a week ago before I went to Vegas on vacation. I was looking at some random online nightclub photos and recognized an amateur porn chick I really like in some of the pics at a Vegas lounge - she was there as a civilian. That caused me to watch some videos of her, but no MO. Just watched, and was actually kind of bored by it.

I'm not currently working and don't go out much, but I've had some interesting experiences with women lately. Have noticed some women checking me out on the street. A couple weeks ago I had a woman randomly reach out and grope my chest at a bar as I walked by. Later that night another girl reached out and pulled me toward the bar. The next weekend in Vegas I had a really good looking woman get all over me and we ended up making out. Felt good to touch a woman again. The next day I talked to a bunch of younger girls at the pool and one was flirting hard with me. No social anxiety or anything, it was great.

I don't currently have a partner and don't have any prospects, so my plan right now is to go 120 days and see how I feel then. Seeing all the benefits as the days pass by make it easy for me to stick to it. Glad I decided to give this a shot because it's had so many positive effects in all aspects of my life.

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Gary -

Thanks for sharing. It's really inspiring to learn of the 'rewards' of abstaining from PMO.
I'm about the same age group as yourself and have struggled with PMO addiction for a good 15-20 years.

You are a lot stronger though - I've tried unceasingly to quit over the last 10 years and have only at my best managed a month. When I do abstain though, I am encouraged also to report the similar 'benefits' you shared.

Your post is helping with my struggle today. I binged yesterday after staying away for a week. It's always the 'next' day after compromising that I find so difficult to overcome.

I hope to be more active on this forum - and also to be encouraged. It's awfully discouraging to intellectually know the benefits and desire it so bad - but still fall to the flesh.

Does anyone know of anyway to manage the 'temptations'? I have been taking 5-htp daily and I 'think' its helping but I can't say for certain. Does having bananas help - I understand dopamine pre-cursors are present in the fruit.

- D

This is not my rebooting account. It has my name attached - as most pages do on this site - because I submitted it. My wife and I run this site.

Hopefully you are making your way around the site. The "FAQ" and "Tools for change" pages cover nearly everything you need to be successful. Click on the tools for change above, and the article has links to suggestions and what others have done.

Here's several rebooting accounts -
http://yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-accounts

The actual forum for this site is at reuniting http://www.reuniting.info/tracker - it functions as a blog/forum for porn recovery and karezza. The hearts are karezza posts.

We don't give advice on supplements. However, as you will see in "tools for change", diet and exercise are keys for many guys.

As far as banana's, I can't find good info on it. Some sources say bananas contain the dopamine precursor amino acid tyrosine. Unless you are protein deficient, you get plenty of tyrosine. If you believe you need more, there are cheap tyrosine supplements. Other sources suggest dopamine is present in bananas. If so, it will be broken down by digestion and not available for absorption into the blood.

5htp can antagonize dopamine in the brain so you will need to monitor its use.

Bottom line - time and doing any of the suggestions found in the tools for change pages. Lots of stuff there.

Most everyone relapses. All you can do is learn from it and keep getting back on the horse. every time you choose not to use porn, you are strengthening your executive control pathways.

keep going

Thanks Gary. Have read through a lot of the material on this site already.

Big thank you to you and your wife for this website.
You'll see me on the forums a lot more.