Age 18 - Less socially awkward, improved focus, got a girlfriend, for the first time in 5 years
MY STORY - I started nofap 160 days ago, as a depressed and lonely man. Having struggled with PMO for about six years, I never thought I would have gotten this far on my first attempt. But failure was not an option for me. I had reached my personal “rock bottom” point. I was 18 when I began my journey, but for many years prior, I sat around as I watched my life fall apart.
I was realizing that all the things that I hoped to go well just weren’t going to pan out. . I would see my the quality of love life, family relationships, friendships, and my finances all deteriorate in front of my eyes. As a result, I harbored a wide range of negative emotions within me Here is the story of how nofap helped me in life.
It all started with the concept that a man’s confidence is only as good as his word with himself. I had set big lofty goals in the past, but only to fail and destroy my sense of self worth. So I changed my strategy, and I decided to start with small and simple goals. The first of which was to stop fapping. This was definitely no easy thing to accomplish, but with the support of this community and helpful tips from other fapstronauts, I managed to make it past the 30 day mark. From there, it was pretty smooth sailing. I continued my journey by SEVERELY LIMITING or completely eliminating other time unhealthy activities:
- Video games
- Junk food
- Mindless internet surfing
- YouTube Browsing
- Listening to music
- Partaking in any negativity
I have found so much more time and happiness in my daily life, just from unplugging myself from all this bullshit stimulus. It is possible to rationalize these behaviors but in the end of the day, I was just merely trading my future for what I wanted in the moment. In turn, I replaced this “noise” with more productive activities, and I have cultivated healthier habits. I now:
- Schedule and Plan
- Read books
- Work out
- Eat healthy
- Immerse myself in self development material
- Maintain my hygiene and the cleanliness of my environment
This lifestyle change has yielded tremendous results internally. I will list some of which below:
- I no longer associate my worth with the status of my looks and money
- I am no longer validation seeking
- I am no longer stuck in depression and negativity
- I no longer have a huge ego
- I take more personal responsibly for my life situation
- I find great joy in my daily life
- I am more present in the moment
The external results are not as apparent, but there still are some.
- I can hold relaxed eye contact effortlessly
- I am less socially awkward
- I have improved focus. I can study for much longer
- I am slowly cutting away at my debt
- I have created general plans and goals for my future
- I got a girlfriend, for the first time in 5 years
To conclude my story, nofap was a great stepping stone for success in life. It hasn’t quite given me super powers, but I used nofap as a token of self confidence. It has helped me cultivate an internal locus of control. I know there is still a long road ahead, but I’m excited to get back on the nofap diet!
WHY I FAPPED, AND WHY I DON’T REGRET IT My girlfriend and I decided to abstain from all types of sex for the time being. After some making out, she revealed to me that she wanted to see me cum. She knows I haven’t fapped for 160 days and that I haven’t experienced any wet dreams. So no ejaculation at all for 160 days. One thing led to another, and I was getting a hand job. Seeing as we had the exceedingly rare opportunity of being home alone and time was running out, I decided to screw the 160 day badge and fap with my girlfriend. So I took over and fapped! I have never reached orgasm with a girl before, so this was a mind blowing experience for me. I couldn’t stop laughing for ten minutes afterwards. I’ve had this stupid smile on my face all night. Thanks nofap. I’m going to reset my badge, but I honestly don’t mind at all. I don’t have an ego attached to my number.
OTHER INTERESTING THINGS About 4 months into my nofap journey, I began to develop a moderate case of Paruresis (shy bladder). Basically it’s extremely difficult for me to take a piss in a public bathroom, even when I really need to go. After my fapping today, I intentionally went to the busiest bathroom at my university and successfully took a piss. I believe nofap is in some way related to my Paruresis.
tl;dr Nofap changed my life. I fapped with/for my girlfriend and had a blast. I’m resetting my badge.