Age 23 - ED cured: had escalated to femdom & transgender porn

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young guyHere's my story in a nutshell. I'm a 23 year old male in good physical condition. I started PMOing with high speed internet at the age of 15. I quickly escalated from normal porn to bukkake porn, transgender porn, femdom porn, incest, etc... I didn't realize how much I was hurting myself. It wasn't until I lost my virginity at 20. I had a problems achieving and maintaining an erection through the whole interaction. It seriously hurt my self confidence and made me fearful of sex.

 I was able to have a few more experiences with other women, but with similar results.

I kept on PMOing, increasing frequency, length, and escalating to more disturbing fetishes. After about a year without sex, I tried to have sex with an attractive girl. I could only muster 20% of an erection and that lasted only about a minute. For the first time in my life, I couldn't perform at all. It seriously messed me up in the head. I spiraled down a hole of despair for a year and a half. I started watching sissy hypno porn, and occasionally masturbating anally. I thought that I might have been gay, but gay porn never did it for me.

Feeling shameful after another porn session, I started googling why I was so messed up in the head. I found this subreddit and yourbrainonporn and started nofap. After a few relapses, I had finally made my 90 day mark. Within that time I have lost my cravings for all porn, especially extreme porn (I am truly disgusted by it now). At 87 days, I had my first date in a long time. At 96 days, I had my first bj since nofap. I had no problems at all, which is amazing because I used to get bored during bjs and lose my erection. And at 113 days, I had sex and performed better than I ever had. I had a rock hard erection the whole time.

It might be to early too tell, I probably have some more rewiring to do, but I feel confident that I will make it through this. I can honestly say that I will never watch porn or masturbate again. I have zero desire for either. I feel like I've been given a second chance at life. I have never been happier. I want more people to be aware of the dangers of porn. There are so many people who don't know why they have ED. Just cut out the porn and let your brain heal itself!

LINK - 114 days... I think I'm Cured...

by Erdynn

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I'm 23 and i started looking at porn waaay too young, probably when I was 13 years old. My porn escalated from normal stuff like lesbian sex to anal to femdom. I was on femdom and strapon porn for a while, but that led to transexual porn. My rock bottom was fapping to sissy hypno videos like yourself. One Day I just decided that this was not the way I was meant to live my life. I had anxiety, sadness, restlessness, underconfidence, etc. I even prompted my now wife to use a strapon on me. I didn't really enjoy the feeling, but the thought of her doing it was a turn on. When we did the act itself, she didn't like it. I didn't really either. After this happened, I struggled to stop my escalating use of porn. This has been a real battle in my life. Something that has helped me immensely has been Proverbs telling of a sinful woman that leads a naive young man into her house for sex. She stands outside waiting for men to, in essence, devour. She lurks and invites these men into her house. However, this message talks of her house being a highway to destruction and her devoured souls are a mighty throng. i see this throng as everyone who has escalated into addictive porn and has had emotional issues as a penance. The bible prompts us to be wise. Call wisdom our sister and love understanding. The bible tells us to set our paths far away from the temptress' door where she awaits us.
I see this as keeping myself from spending time looking for novel things on twitter and facebook, non-stop googling and watching too much TV getting bombarded with commercials that have sexual connotations and suggestions.
I think it's interesting that the bible uses this as an example almost telling us that we have a job to do, that is to eliminate (or at least try to contain) the temptations set before us.
The bible then tells us to drink from our own cisterns, and from our own fountain's. I believe this means we need to save sex for our relationships with our spouses. (I'm not judging those who would do this with a girlfriend) I think saving sex for our spouses eliminates consequences we worry about when masturbating in general, looking at porn, cheating on our spouses, etc. The only thing that can happen when having sex with your partner is makin' a baby, and hey! That's kinda the point of all of this! and what a GREAT GIFT that is.
I'm 15 days no porn with 1 relapse. I'm trying very hard to not masturbate and save this for my wife and I and our relationship.
I really needed to get past the idea that I needed a sexual release once a day. This is a LIE that is whispered to you by the enemy. A couple of times a month is all i REALLY need. My wife never lets me go longer than once a week so I'm completely covered there.
Be encouraged brothers and sisters. Forgiveness has already been paid for you just need to accept it and move on. If you want to talk about your walk by faith or mine please feel free to reply back or direct message me.
God Bless.
RecoveringJohn