Age 23 - (ED) Success after 23 days - not really addicted to porn

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couple huggingSome cliffs:
- age 23,  been masturbating for 10 years,  ~7-8 years of PMO, for the last years pretty much every day before going to bed (no hour-long sessions)

- I was never positive on me being addicted to porn since it was/is not that hard to abstain for me, but I was very positive that porn hurt my erection qualities and also performance-expectations
- having trouble to get/keep it up when attempting sex for the 2nd time within an ~<=8 hour period
- had regular sex with my gf from the beginning of no-PMO but didn't see her from day 14-23.

 I'm cross posting this from my journal. (http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=16615.0 ). Most info is included in the post, all other in my journal.

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Update - Day 24

Hello! Today is the 24th day of my no-PMO journey.

It hasn't been long since I posted my last update, but I have to type once more since something great has happened! I'll start from the beginning.
Yesterday in the evening I left my parents house, where I stayed for for the last 8 days for christmas and new year. During that time I didn't see my gf so I had basically no stimulation down there for the whole time except 2 times where I tried to get it up by myself since I hadn't had morning wood or spontaneous erections at all for that time. Fwiw, both times I did get it up.

Whilst driving to my hometwon yesterday in the evening I was very excited to see my girl again. We haven't been dating that long and it was our longest break thus far. On the other hand, unfortunatly, I was pretty nervous how the night would go sexually. For those who haven't read the above posts, it is usally (90% of the time I'd say) no problem for me to get and stay hard when attempting sex for the first time in at least ~6 hours. However, the qualitly of my erections isn't always very good even when I haven't had sex for some time.

The main problem however is that my refactory period is very long. Sometimes, when I have sex before going to bed, I still feel like I can't maintain an erection for the full duration of intercourse.

Anyways, yesterday was AMAZING! When we met, my girl and me took a bath and I was ridic hard for the most time. Wasn't that long tho, since it didn't even take us 5 minutes to start having sex. Unfortunatly that didn't last too long, but I was fine with it since I haven't had a 10 day-no-orgasm streak for prolly a few years.

After I ejaculated, I decided that I didn't wanna stop right away so I tried to give her some fun with my hands. Whilst doing that I became hard again (~5 min after cumming) which I was happy abuot, but I've already been there, and every time I tried sex again it went down instantly or within a short time. Despite that, I decided (or she decided :P) to give it a go again and it just worked. IT WORKED! We had sex for like 5-10 minutes and then I lost my erection but I was fine with that since it was on the stone-cold bathtub and we had some trouble finding a postion which was comfortable for both of us. It wasn't a discomforting problem tho (not finding a position). Acutally we had some giggles and decided to get back in the hot tub.

Again, we didn't stop making out so like 2 minutes later, my erection was back and we again had sex. 1 hour later, we were in my bad an watched mentalist, aaaaaaand had sex again. 7 hours later, we woke up, aaaaaaand had sex again!

I still can't believe it!! Another thing worth mentioning is that I ejaculated 3 or even 4 (think it was 3 tho) times which is even more rare than me having sex that often in such a short time.

I'm very excited to see such big progess so early. Since it's only been 3,5 weeks, I'm torn to say that maybe the nerves on my penis were a bit overexhausted/ damaged due to masturbation w/o lube (I'm circumsized). I had waaay greater feeling while having sex than before and the orgasms were better too.

I already mentioned that above, but I think that my porn-addiction is low to non-existent. I haven't had much trouble staying away from it. Despite that fact, I def. think that porn is a factor in my ED and also causes/caused wrong expectations from real sex. I know and have always known that not everyone is a pornstar and usually girls were pretty happy with my performance (when I performed...) but I think those abnormal expectations are still back somewhere in your head.

It also was a great feeling to see my girlffriend enjoying the sex so much. I'm really really glad that this night happened and am now even more motivated than before. Of course, I'll keep my journal going.

Take care, guys!

LINK - First success after only 23 days

by NoNick