Age 23 - From a socially-inept porn addict living with his mum, to in my own house, preparing to launch my own company

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happy guyOver a year or two ago now, I sat down in front of my computer after work, fired up facebook and resumed the all-familiar position that I had become all too accustomed to for the evening. Relentless scrolling, browsing, masturbating, everything I could do to distract myself from the monotony of what my life had become.

I was single, a virgin, I had a close circle of friends, but I was the quiet one. I was technically overweight, and always looked at gym-buffs and thought of them as meat heads.

I remember the night well, I had just been out for dinner for one of my friends birthdays. That night, I stumbled upon NoFap. Reading some of the success stories, with promises of 'super powers' and lives being turned around, I decided to give it a go - starting from NOW.

For the first month, it was very strange, I noticed my energy levels were rising to what they hadn't been for years, my head was clearing, I was becoming more socially outgoing. It was great. I felt as if I wanted to share this secret with the world, but I felt reserved, almost as if by not masturbating I was not conforming to the social-norm, and people wouldn't understand what I'm doing.

After 2 or 3 months the temptations and the symptoms of addiction all faded into oblivion. What I was left with was something that I had honestly not felt for as long as I could remember. I felt nothing. No urges, no anxiety, no repressed feelings of anger, hate or love. What I had was something that I was subconsciously yearning for, and I didn't even know it - I felt free.

From here on my life has been a roller coaster. I have focussed my new found energy on one area of my life at a time, shaping my reality and my self to become truly the best version of myself that I can become.

My career has blossomed as a result of the new-found social confidence. I can converse, relate and negotiate with clients and bosses alike while remaining personable. This has allowed me to focus on my long-term goals, communicate them clearly and take the steps necessary to overcome each hurdle.

My social-life has improved ten-fold. Coming from being the quiet one that just comes along for the ride, to actually organising the ride, bringing people along, and ensuring everyone is having a good time.

I now have a steady relationship with a lovely girl. I had always wondered what it would be like to have intimate relationships with a girl whose name wasn't 120932.JPG. The sense of achievement that came with this was incredible, knowing that I had brought this into my life by taking the right steps, and learning the right skills to become attractive, funny and dominant.

I now frequent the gym 5 times a week. It has been this way since Day 0. I am fortunate enough to now see that it is not for the roided-up meat heads which I had previously thought. More so a place where I can channel my angst, energy and dedication into area where I can see physical results of my effort.

So as I sit here and write this, documenting my progress from a socially-inept porn addict living with his mum, to sitting here in the best shape of my life, in my own house, preparing to launch my own company, I can't help but have a deep, warm sense of gratitude for all of you here at NoFap. Without you, I wouldn't be where I'm sitting today.

This one goes out to you, NoFap.

LINK - 543 Genuine Days - It's about time I did a report of my experience with NoFap

BY mymindstellingmeno


 

ANOTHER VERSION

Can't stop watching? I'm 350 days rebooted, and my Mojo is BACK!

Guys. The benefits of a rewired brain... Are amazing.

Simply amazing. If you stop watching, you will rewire. You will get your Mojo back. Your libido will come back. Your Johnson will start functioning like a grown ass man. You'll reap the benefits of self-motivation. Your entire life will improve, and you'll become equipped with an arsenal of weapons to destroy all of your problems.

I cannot describe to you how huge of an obstacle I overcame to reach this point in my recovery, and it all was completely worth it.

Here's my story (it's well worth the read):
Before picking up Porn, I was a leader. A great Soccer player, had tons of friends and was a normal little kid. And then I picked up Porn at age 11, and within months I was hooked. It all started with images on my cell phone. I remember I would hide in the bathroom for an hour or so pretending to take showers while I M'd to P... And then I got my first computer. And let me tell you, it was downhill from there! I began watching every single day, 1-3 times a day. Usually multiple times a day. I remember instead of going to Skateworld (Puberty Palace) on the weekends like all of my friends did, I stayed inside and played video games and demolished my Johnson. In school, I was known as that "Video Game Nerd" and I hung out with a couple people who were just as behaviorally messed up as me, but I still had a few friends. I'm pretty sure my biggest achievement of Middle school was reaching level 50 at Halo 3.

Then High school. Can things get worse? You're probably thinking "Nah. He was already at the bottom. He can only up from the bottom"
I DUG A FREAKING HOLE IN THE BOTTOM BRO.

I escalated into hardcore weird fetish stuff my Freshman year at age 15 or so. In Highschool, I didn't talk to anybody. I remember having social anxiety so bad that I couldn't answer questions in class. I avoided everybody. I was THAT GUY! I remember playing with my freaking calculator during class because we weren't allowed to have our phones out. For some reason, I tried going to a school dance.
Not a good idea. Ended up leaving after 5 minutes because nobody wanted to dance with the awkward kid with lots of Acne and a huge Jewish-looking Afro. Did I mention I was afraid of going to the barbershop because you have to socialize there?

Highschool went kind of like that, until Senior year when I began to realize it was probably time to try and get a life. I then attempted to put the Porn down. I think I lasted 4 days. Nice job Dom! Pat yourself on the back. (sarcasm)

And then it was 14 days before I left for College... And I'd had enough. I finally realized it was Pornography that caused all of my problems. So I stopped. Set my counter for 360 days. Apparently I forgot that a year is 365 days, but you get the point!

Here is a progress report for those 360 days:
I went to a full year of College, and went from a 2.6 GPA to a 3.5 GPA.
I am WAY more outgoing, and I'm a frequent public speaker.
I've had a girlfriend, and have hooked up with many women successfully.
I'm now a 19 year old Student Helicopter Pilot. I fly Helicopters almost everyday.
I am an entrepreneur on the side. I own a clothing line, as well as a moderately successful vending machine business that pays for my lifestyle. Visit my clothing line's website at www.portlandsfinest.net My penis works. 100% of the time. It's like strong now. ITS SO AWESOME!
My libido is here...ITS HERE BABY! I've never felt libido before because I've never had it. I feel like a 13 year old kid reborn.
Some days I have to try not to get hard when I see a pretty girl in a dress...
I feel emotions now. It's really weird but it's so cool. It's like I'm ALIVE! DOMINIC IS ALIVE!

I went from being a socially awkward, Erectile Dysfunction plagued, negative minded person with a shriveled Johnson to everything I mentioned above.

Guys, stop watching Porn. Set your counters to 360 days, the magic number baby!

And you will rewire, reboot, and get your Mojo back.


 

UPDATE

7 Tips to Beat the Worst-Case Scenario of Porn Addiction (How I Overcame)

Hello guys. Dominic here.

I am going to give you 7 essential tips that I used to make a complete transformation of my life.
Using these tips, I went from a loser, to a winner.

I was masturbating 1-3 times a day, every day, from age 11 to age 18. That's 7 years of my developmental life torn apart by Porn. I had the worst ED imaginable.
Using these tips; My life went from being a loser, a hardcore videogame junky, barely passing classes, with losers for friends; to pure greatness.

Here's how I did it:

1. I Informed myself about EVERYTHING Reboot-Related

I made sure I had gone through Gary Wilson's website (YourBrainOnPorn.com) thoroughly. I studied videos made by Gabe Deem. I read success stories and pieced together what works, and what doesn't work.

2. I changed my mindset

I didn't go into my reboot "trying" to see if I "maybe" could reach 90 days. I made it so that Porn was never an option, ever again It wasn't until I changed my mindset, that I was able to fight urges and stop giving in to temptation. As soon as I set this goal, I watched myself improve day by day.

3. I drastically reduced all forms of artificial stimulation

This means I stopped watching endless amounts of Youtube. I quit video games, forever. I stopped surfing the web as much. I put my laptop in my living room (S/O to Gabe Deem). Facetiming females stopped. I stopped watching Netflix, TV and I stopped going to the movies.

4. I went outside

Whenever I became bored, I went for a walk. I read books. I went out and forced myself to socialize (even with social anxiety). I started hiking once a week, playing basketball, and doing healthy outdoor activities. I ate food and drank water more. I began working out at the gym like crazy.

5. I maintained healthy activities, and made a commitment to do them.

Going outside for a hike once is easy. Working out at the gym for 15 minutes on a Sunday night with nothing to do, is easy.
But doing these activities regularly is the real challenge! I did them regularly, and am now reaping the benefits of a satisfying recovery.

6. I got mental support

Finding a counselor was perhaps the most essential part to my reboot. I met with her once a month, and she helped get my life on track. She also helped me figure out why I was watching Porn in the first place. Counselors make you feel like a million bucks. I remember always getting huge confidence boost after a session; and I figured out more about myself than ever. It was a must-have! Regularly checking YBR, YBOP and NoFap helped as well.

7. I saw the light at the end of the tunnel, even when it wasn't visible.

I knew that I would recover. At times, I became so depressed that I had suicidal thoughts. I remember having anxiety attacks, where I had to leave my room and go throw something at the ground. But I knew, in the back of my mind, that it was all worth it. And because of this belief that I would get to the end of the tunnel in the near-future; the near future is the present moment. I am feeling better than ever, I am a social butterfly with many friends and lots of life experience for my age. I have had girlfriends, I attract women (they come to me now it's kind of weird but cool) and I can talk to anybody. For those of you who used Alcohol to calm social anxiety; I feel "drunk" 24/7. I feel whole.

So that's mostly how I did it. If you have any questions feel free to message me. Cheers and good luck fellow rebooters :)


 

UPDATE - 450+ days and ROCK SOLID

Yo. It's kind of cool to be sitting on a bus headed back to College, seeing a pretty girl sitting in a couple of seats ahead putting her stuff in the overhead cabin. All of the sudden, like magic, I almost rip my freaking jeans

That's the magic of being rebooted. I respond to life. Not that I walk around with boners all the time now, but I feel human again. I notice ladies noticing me, I feel as if Ladies notice me more, and I don't see them as a mere object for my bidding any longer. I'm able to see them as people, and treat them as such. I have developed real friendships with women, nurtured a dog, and have shown my family more love than I ever have previous to my reboot.

So what is it that changed? Not only am I able to have sex with women, but I can fulfill my (as well as others) human need for companionship. I can feel again, and I can feel when other people aren't feeling so well. I have Wet Dreams almost twice a month, it's like I'm going through puberty for the first time... In some weird medical scientific way I probably am going through developmental stages that were stopped by Porn.

Guys. Rebooting changed my life, and my life is freaking awesome today. You can do this too. Inform yourselves and keep supporting your brothers on this website to stay "sober". Try and find a buddy in real life who is going through the same shit.

Anyways I just felt the need to post this. Good luck, and good riddance to Porn and its devastating side effects.

Comments

Nice story man. Would you like to suggest any ways to cope up with porn induced social anxiety? Something from your personal experience. Did you have social anxiety?