Age 24 - Greater energy, focus, confidence, compassion, balls; Less anxiety, depression
This is a pretty huge deal for me, possibly my greatest accomplishment. 3 whole months without pmo is an epic achievement considering where I started. It's taken me years of failures, pain, and persistence, but what do you know? It's starting to pay off.
First of all, I want to give hope to any of my fellow brothers out there having doubts or struggling and just reiterate that it IS possible to overcome this, it IS 100% worth it, and life CAN and WILL get better.
Believe it. I was a 5x or more a day compulsive fapper for over a decade. If I can do it, anyone can.
Alright, so here are the benefits I've noticed:
- -Clarity of mind
- -More energy (physical and mental) throughout the day
- -More interest in people/reality in general
- -Focus is better, actually started to enjoy reading books
- -More stable mood
- -I'm actually getting a sex drive/talking to girls (started to think I was asexual there for a while)
- -Clearer vision/eyes
- -Can get boners without having to touch myself
- -I now feel hopeful for the future
- -Better workouts
- -Feeling depressed is not as severe or as frequent
- -Nature is so beautiful to me now, I love being outside with my dog
- -I feel more compassion for others
- -More effective/efficient at work
- -Bigger balls (literally and figuratively haha)
- -Much less anxiety, no panic attacks in a while
There are probably others I'm forgetting, but you get the point.
Keep in mind most of these benefits really started appearing around day 60, when I started leveling out and felt ready to start eliminating sugar from my diet, and instead eat lot's of whole grains, protein, and fruit/veggies.
Now, some things that helped me through the hard times (days 1-60ish):
- -Coming on NoFap a shit ton and participating in discussions, posting, etc...just feeling like I am a part of the community.
- -Journaling whenever I felt really depressed, alone, not making progress, this is a really powerful tool.
- -Sleeping a bunch, especially in the early stages. Being tired/sleep deprived has got to be the leading cause of relapse.
- -Watching tv/playing video games and eating ice cream when I really couldn't take reality and needed an escape (hey, it got me through).
- -Making NoFap a priority, meaning that it came first before anything else. Didn't matter what else happened these three months, NoFap came first.
- -And along the same lines, falling in love with recovery, with the journey. There's a really good quote from a book on addiction I've read: ""Somewhere down the line, your love of recovery will be so strong, that nothing will get in the way of it. You will feel filled up rather than deprived. And you won't trade those feelings for anything." I'm beginning to understand this for myself, and it's exciting.
- -Treating it like a drug addiction and reading drug/alcohol addiction literature really helped me.
So overall my life has improved greatly and I plan to keep the ball rolling.
My life is by no means perfect, and I still have a long way to go in terms of battling PMO. I'm still a 24 year old virgin living in his parents basement with no social life, but hey, I'm trying my hardest to better myself, to climb out of the hole I've dug myself into.
And I'd say that 90 days without PMO is a pretty good start, wouldn't you? :)
Want to say a big thank you to all you guys, from the bottom of my heart. I couldn't have gotten this far without this community, and I love you for it.
P.S.: Be patient. This might be the single biggest factor in a successful recovery. Don't expect to be a totally different person who is all of a sudden a suave and confident macho man, chasing dreams/women after just 3 months, and don't compare yourself to others. Don't put that pressure on yourself. Change takes time, so just let it happen, be patient, and don't fap. :)
OK, now I'm done.