Age 25 - One year: now I am free. You can do it.

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NOW I AM FREE! So, I have my story, but not to bore you with that , let me try to help. I just want to make a few points, that really brought me this success:

1) MOST IMPORTANT REALIZATION

We are only young for a short period of time! LIVE A GREAT AWESOME LIFE !

YOUTH IS FLEETING, SO LIVE IT TO THE VERY BEST. If you haven't noticed by now, time runs FAST!

THE TIME IS NOW! WHEN WE GET OLD LET THERE BE NO REGRET - REALLY THE SADDEST OF ALL EMOTIONS!  LIVE FULLY CONFIDENTLY PURELY , BE DISCIPLINED , SUCCESSFUL, FIGHT FOR GOOD, DENY THE BAD, BE FOREVER WATCHFUL , BE VICTORIOUS , BE FREE, PURE, HEALTHY, BRIGHT AND LOVE ALL THAT IS GOOD!

2) THE FOUNDATIONAL QUESTION:

HOW BAD IS IT TO RELAPSE JUST 1 MORE TIME?

OUR MINDS WORK VERY SUBTLY: "Ah, I'll just do it this time.. I've done it many times before,
this is just 1 more.. let me just do it now, and sometime later I will really stop.. etc.. "
     
 SO , 1 RELAPSE. Can't be that bad right? Just 1 RELAPSE. What is it?

1 RELAPSE = creates a spiral of 1 relapses , where you can not stop! Because you always justify it as just 1 relapse

1 RELAPSE = CAN LEAD TO YEARS OF ADDITIONAL STRUGGLE! 1 relapse is not just 1 relapse.  IT CAN WASTE YOU YEARS!

1 RELAPSE = it destroys much of your progress. It is wasting time. Because it will take days, weeks or months to get back to that level. And it will happen again and again. Time is the most precious thing you got!!!! AND IT IS LIMITED!!!!

TIME IS THE KEY! IT RUNS FAST! 1 relapse is all it takes to waste years repeating the same mistake..  Let's say our best years are from 18 - 35 (in terms of energy, dating, life excitement, building character...) So many men flush all of their best years down the toilet! Don't "ENJOY STUPIDLY" YOU ARE DIGGING A HOLE! STOP!          

TREASURE YOUR LIFE! TREASURE YOUR TIME!

1 RELAPSE = What this is all about. Just take care of that 1! DO NOT DO IT!

3) RULES TO OBEY

1)  CURIOSITY IS NOT ALLOWED TO BE ACTED UPON! "Let me look just a little" is NOT ALLOWED!
Practicing this will make your mind stop being curious automatically
after you've successfully done it a couple of times.

NEVER DO ANY CLICK ON YOUR COMPUTER THAT IS IN THE DIRECTION OF LUST.
The little clicks of curious wondering are deadly. Don't! Just ignore your curiosity. Let it go.

2) When you feel LUST / TEMPTATION TO PMO IMMEDIATELY DENY IT! SAY NO!  
Say it with POWER! Imagine  throwing that lustful ugly feelings out.
You will never beat porn if you don't do the difficult!  Deny it!
This is YOU, YOUR LIFE, wake up! Be STRONG!

And THE MOST IMPORTANT THING ABOUT ALL OF THIS IS, WITH GOING AGAINST YOUR SELF AGAINST
"BAD DESIRES" AND CHOOSING BETTER THINGS, YOU WILL CHANGE YOURSELF A LITTLE BIT.

YOU WILL BECOME ONE DEGREE MORE OF WHO YOU WANT TO BE.
In time you change so much, PMO is the furthest thing from your mind.

3) CATCH THE TEMPTATION EARLY! IMMEDIATELY!! AND DO WHATEVER YOU NEED TO  DO TO GET INTO A NEW MIND-STATE  THIS ONE IS SOOOO IMPORTANT. If you are too late,  porn will overpower you.

4.) DONT JUSTIFY DOING IT.

If you decided to not do that, don't do it. NO JUSTIFYING! EVER! If you fail there is 100% chance of regret.  There is no one final time to do it. There is no comparing yourself to others.. there is no this temptation is too strong .. NOTHING! JUST DON'T DO IT.

This one is soooo snekay. Your mind will tell you well you can start this no porn thing at some other time again.. And many other tricks. Really just become aware of your thoughts and feelings and realize you are often subconscioulsy JUSTIFYING things you WANT but logically know that are BAD

5)  FORGET AND IGNORE WHAT YOU ARE FIGHTING AGAINST, WHEN THERE IS NO TEMPTATION

JUST LIKE IF YOU DON'T HAVE AN ADDICTION TO HARD DRUGS. YOU WONT REALLY BE THINKING ABOUT THEM TOO MUCH.

BUT THERE ARE STRONG DECISIONS INSIDE OF YOU THAT YOU KNOW YOU WON'T DO THEM IF YOU EVER HAD THE CHANCE.

IGNORE THE BAD. REDIRECT YOUR THOUGHTS. If case of dreams and images and thoughts hitting us , do not dwell on them, but simply sort of push them aside and ignore them. Immediately take a deep breath and direct your attention elsewhere.

6) READ YOUR LIST OF RULES REGULARLY!

READ AND RE-READ AND RECOMMIT TO THE PROCESS!

BONUS TIPS:

REMEMBER YOUR PAST. REMEMBER WHAT FAILURE DOES! HOW BAD YOU FELT! WRITE IT DOWN! We are so quick to forget! Please do that! Don't be reminded at a relapse. Be forewarned.

One of the problems is , in the heated moments you may not want porn lust to leave you.
And if you wait, the feeling will overwhelm you and you will be powerless. The only way is to SAY NO EARLY EARLY EALRY!!!
And it helps to say NO if you know WHY you have to say NO. This is it. Have the reasons in your mind.
Once the temptation hits, they will not be found in your head, unless you have them prepared in advance.

THINK ONLY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENS AFTER YOU DO IT   YOU ARE LOST AND DEFEATED
 AND YOU LOSE POWER , LOSE CONFIDENCE ETC. 

 SO CHANGE IT! DON'T DO IT.

RECORD YOUR BENEFITS OF SUCCESS  There will be many.

NO EXCUSES! You are choosing between REGRET and VICTORY!

You can do it.

But all your past experiences have brainwashed us into thinking
it's harder than it actually is. We remember failing, but don't remember
that we could easily have chosen not to do it. This is 100% in your control.

HAVE CONFIDENCE :)

LORD AND SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST - This is NUMBER 1 reason I am where I am.

Turning to God in prayer, turning to Jesus, HE LIVES.

It is always our free will, and He always receives the humble, and sincere.

IF you seek, you WILL find.

search youtube for Bill Larkin... and many others.. , then go into prayer mode :)

LINK - 1 YEAR !!! - SUCCESS !!! - 6 points to success - MUST READ!

 

by Supersonic

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