Age 28 - Not addicted to porn, but premature ejaculation seems to be cured

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happy couple167 days ago I started an experiment with NoFap. I went Monk Mode. No porn, no sex, no masturbation, tried to avoid looking at hot chicks. All those months ago I posted a thread talking about how I enjoyed porn now and then, I wasn't addicted to it.

I have control over it and likewise with masturbation.

I started the experiment because I was travelling, away from my partner, and noticed after using porn I'd have wet dreams the following nights. It was getting tiring so I decided to research it. I also felt that I suffered, but not always, with PE. Being turned on easily and not always lasting too long. I pinpointed that to tugging to porn when I was younger and rushing it so not to get caught.

Anyway, over the months I found myself becoming turned on less easily, sometimes the wet dreams calming down, or sometimes they'd be way out of control, multiple times in one night on many occasions. I also found myself looking less at women in a sexual gratification manner (hey, I'm a red-blooded male, so I like hot chicks. However I'm also very respectful of women and this development was refreshing).

The ultimate test was coming back home and seeing my partner again of six years. So two weeks ago I returned, and have got up to plenty of sex to make up for the months I've been away.

I hope I'm not speaking too soon but I can certainly see the results. I'm lasting longer when having sex, BJs etc. I'm not thinking about trying not to cum now. It's great!

I've had one wet dream in two weeks. May sound like a lot to some people but, man, when I was experimenting with NoFap it was a lot often than that.

As a couple we've enjoyed porn together in the past. My partner asked if we should watch some as we were getting down to it the other night. I said I'd prefer not to, and joked we could just fuck like pornstars instead. It was awesome and I lasted far longer!

I appreciate not everyone is in the position I'm in. There's plenty of people on here clearly addicted to PMO, MO or both. But set yourself a goal, go easy. I used to watch porn often, then I slowly started watching less. Perhaps this way works best. Like smokers smoking less each day when trying to kick their habit.

Ultimately, I think the 90 day thing is being misunderstood with new nofappers. There's no switch in your brain which turns off the PE/ED/addiction automatically after 90 days of not touching yourself over porn. It's different for everyone so don't expect results at 90 days. Superpowers? No - you had those before but you never realised it and becoming reliant on porn and masturbation you forgot about those.

And for the record, I don't have too much against porn. My own opinion - it can be used healthily so long as you have control. There's no doubt it's far too accessible though and my concern is for the younger generation, what they'll expect of women and sex. There's also no doubt that in some areas of the industry women are being abused. Those are the problems, I think. And I certainly don't think there's anything wrong with masturbation, especially if porn isn't involved.

TL;DR: Sorry it's a long post. Not addicted to porn. Bit of a PE and wet dream problem. Experimented for 167 days (and will probably carry on) monk mode. Away from partner. Returned back, PE seems to be cured!

LINK - My experiment with NoFap, after over 5 months the results are in

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90 DAY POST - My first 90 days of hard mode

Hey all. I've been experimenting with no fap for 90 days, in hard mode, and I thought I'd post an update. Scroll down for the TLDR.

Firstly, I don't subscribe to the whole 90 days number that's so prevalent here. I'm sure that kind of period is helpful to most and sometimes cures people, but everyone is different and I think it fills those who have a serious addiction, one day in to no fap, with some hope that they'll be cured. I think that kind of person requires a long term approach of a porn free, perhaps fap free life.

Thankfully I am not that kind of person. I'll try and keep it brief as to why I'm here trying no fap.

I started masturbating occasionally at around 12 yo. I'm in my late 20s now. From what I remember it was always to visual aids (mags, porn via 56k modem etc). In my mid teens I started to masturbate more frequently, and my late teens I was in a long term relationship but sex was not interesting and became non-existent. I started to masturbate at least once a day to porn. At the same time, I realised that my performance in bed was all over the place. Sometimes seconds, sometimes half hour.

In another long term relationship now, I started to masturbate to porn a lot less. Eventually probably once a week. However I still have this issue of performance and after years of experimenting with more porn and edging, more sex, hoping that might cure a possible PE issue, a high sex drive, and regular wet dreams I felt that something needed to change.

So 90 days ago, I decided to try no fap. I'm away from my partner until Christmas (in another country), and being a dedicated guy who'd never cheat, I thought the experiment would be an interesting one and I'm hoping it may stave off the issue of PE. I'm also a red blooded guy, I have my kinks and I can't help but look at hot chicks.

The first couple of weeks we're a bit difficult, and the weather was warm, next to a beach = hot chicks walking around. Had a couple of wet dreams at this point.

Then in the midst of it it was plain sailing.

About 3/4 the way through I was getting incredibly horny again, had a ton of wet dreams (two in one night on one occasion). Also, being away from my partner, we were sexting a lot which probably didn't help. But I never touched my dick.

Now, I feel less turned on and less horny all the time. I used to be constantly checking and scanning around for hot girls, almost animalistically (is that a word?), and I don't do that so much now. Every day for as long as I can remember I used to wake up EVERY MORNING with a fucking rock hard one. For the last month or so I've barely had a boner in the mornings. Any sex dreams or wet dreams have all been about my partner which is fucking awesome. Apart from one wet dream very recently which involved me dreaming about looking at porn (that was a weird one that bucked the results). The ultimate thing will be to see how I perform when I'm back home at Christmas.

I have to say it's been fairly easy, but then I don't think I'm addicted to porn anyway. I've realised my will power is pretty good too. In the end I think I'll always be a guy who likes looking at hot chicks, enjoys kinky sex but I really have no urge to pursue looking at porn right now.

I'm sorry if people were hoping for glowing eyes, superpowers, chicks literally hanging off me. I think a lot of that is bullshit personally. But anyway, I feel great about myself and it's good to fulfil that hour or so each week looking at porn with something else.

TLDR: A lot less horny, virtually no boners in the morning, not checking out women ALL the time. (Wet) dreams about having awesome sex with my beautiful woman back at home. The ultimate test will be to see if PE has subsided in the coming months.