Age 31 - 90 days: I've been addicted to PMO for 16 years
I was debating with myself whether I should post this report or not, but I remembered that when I first discovered /r/nofap that reading success stories from people like myself was a huge motivator to get on the nofap train. So here it is, I'll keep it short.
Brief history: I've been addicted to PMO for 16 years before I started taking nofap seriously. This is my first time taking the 90 day challenge with /r/nofap.
Changes I've experienced over the last 90 or so days.
- No more shame feeling like I'm living a double life (my nasty private PMO life vs my everyday normal life).
- I can look people in the eye now.
- I know I have access to newfound confidence, but I still have to actively initiate it.
- Broke up with gf because I needed to stop making compromises with myself.
- Been finding that I can be a lot more open with my sex/addiction history in order to show others the benefits of the nofap-life and get them on board.
- I'm disgusted by hardcore pornography and what it does to people.
- I find that I have much greater self-control in general since I'm no longer used to getting things done the quick and easy way all the time (porn).
Changes I have NOT seen.
- You go through highs and lows, but in order to become a better person, simply cutting out PMO isn't going to do it.
- By default I can still revert to a lazy, introverted self. I have to be active in engaging people and my dreams.
- I'm not immune to triggers. I have to stay vigilant.
My future goals and commitments.
- Continue to improve myself and my life. Learn how to love myself and be honest with myself.
- Continue to stay away from triggers.
- Continue filling my life with goals and ambitions to keep myself busy.
- Continue to remind myself about how dangerous and debilitating PMO addiction can be.
Biggest piece of advice I can give.
Control your thought life. In my humble opinion, it's impossible to beat the addiction by simply cutting off external stimuli; it has to be cut off internally. Stop fantasizing. Stop looking at T&A. Stop dreaming about girls and how much you want them - physically or emotionally. Redirect your thoughts at dreaming about your future goals and ambitions and work towards them. It's a much better use of your time. Learn how to pray, meditate, or lucid dream in order to keep your mind off of unhealthy thoughts before you fall asleep.
TL;DR If you can control your thoughts, you can control your sex drive.
LINK - My 90 Day Report