Age 32 - Definite connection between my ED/DE and porn use.

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Hey guys,

I'd heard of nofap before but didn't realise how much porn was screwing with me until the other day when I had a beautiful girl in bed with me but couldn't perform. I met her while I was on holiday and at the time hadn't looked at porn for months nor masturbated for a week or so. I was able to perform while pretty drunk but couldn't finish myself. I put this down to the alcohol and the fact that the girl came so quickly and felt sore afterwards... so we had to stop before I could get off.

Anyway after I came back from my holiday I started watching porn again and masturbating daily. Out of the blue this girl got in touch with me and wanted to meet up again. I think I laid off masturbating the day before meeting her, thinking I'd be fine. However when we were in bed together I couldn't seem to stay hard - I started to go limp when attempting to put on the condom. It was incredibly humiliating although I joked about it with her and she didn't seem to mind.

The moment she left I instantly decided never to look at porn again. I've done this before but relapsed every so often (or rather, I only look at porn when I feel there's no chance of me meeting any girls in the near future).

It's been about ~6 weeks since I last looked at porn. I've not been tempted to look at it again and doubt I will any time soon. I was planning on giving up masturbation too but that seemed too difficult. I think I have a pretty high sex drive. I noticed after about 2 weeks of not looking at porn that my erections seemed to hit full strength again. I'd not noticed this before.. it was only when I stopped that I felt that was a difference in the rigidity.

Anyway I spoke to this girl again the other day and we'll be meeting up again in another 2 weeks or so. I'm determined to give up masturbation for this entire period just to make sure there are no 'problems' when it comes to the big day.

The only thing is I've been reading all these accounts of nofap where people are saying they flatlined or it took months for them to regain their libido etc. I'm just terrified now that 2 weeks isn't enough and I'll go limp with this girl again.

For those of you that have gone 2+ weeks of nofap, do you think I'll be okay to perform? Like I said, I won't have looked at porn in 2+ months, but I /have/ been masturbating.

I'd also like to add that fortunately I grew up in that generation that was pre-porn. I was masturbating to magazines/mental fantasy for a while before I even started looking at porn (I'm 32). Like I said I have no problem masturbating now without porn however I'm scared that if I stop masturbation totally for 2 weeks, I'll not be able to perform again.

Anybody able to give me their experiences around the ~2 week mark of not looking at porn? How was your libido/ability to have sex?

Thanks a lot guys

LINK - nofap for 2 weeks but no porn for 2 months..

by mighty_white