Age 32 - Don't do this with your girlfriend: "porn-style sex"

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Old time Nofapper here; thanks partly to NoFAP I've been from a completely forever-alone fellow into a nice 6-month relationship with a woman I plan to marry next year. Long story short; I was so into pxxrn that every time I watched a X movie I said to my self.."oh boy I wanna do that!"  and "I wanna twist her like that!" and "I'll also put my winnie in there!" and "I wanna move my waist as FAST as that Asian folk!" Dream came true, and eventually I had a gf.

Even though I went FAP-free virtually as soon as we started dating, I still had all that "nasty wishes" in my mind. Every single time we went into bed I tried one weird position, I tried high-speed / intense /non-stop banging, or simply could not stay laying in bed without wanting action, 'cause I wanted to feel as a champion, as if I was "Super pleasure provider".

Nothing could be further from the truth...One day my gf "apologized" 'cause she couldn't do it, she wasn't feeling well and it hurt down there. I didn't pay much attention and I followed my bed-athlete-routine next day. One week after she confessed she had spent the whole week in pain because of our "intensity" and until then I just realized what I was doing.

The industry makes you think you have to be a Mr Siffredi in order to please a girl, or that you must outperform all males on the surface of earth in order to retain her.

Lucky me, it seems I realized on time and I've been trying less, low intensity, better quality moments, exactly the kind of thing that will never appear in a movie because it's not visual, it's not marketable, not shareable. So I realized there's some type of dehumanizing effect in fapin to Poxn that can potentially affect the lives of couples.

If you got one, congrats and take notes. If you still haven't got one also take notes. Hope it helps.

LINK - Don't do this to your GF's, and read this if you still don't get one (contains triggers)

by JCerb