Age 38 - Married, introvert: 30 days
As some Fapstronauts pointed out in comments to my previous post, (http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/23bybk/day30_report_i_changed_my_mind/ ); I have decided to give back to the community and share my 30-day progress report.
Me: 38 years old, married, no kids. Introvert.
Pre NoFap: Daily fap to porn in the morning; Depressed in life; hated job; passive aggressive; marital problems; Sex with wife was maybe twice a year with severe PIED and death grip. And even for that, needed help of ED pills with the sessions were getting weirder. Come to think of it, I don’t think I ever had good PIV sex.
-- I may have hit rock bottom when I ordered PPV porn in the hotel room during vacation, so that I could get off during sex with my wife.
Intro into NoFap: Previously, I was not ashamed of MO or PMO and thought it was all healthy and liberating. In fact I didn’t even think I had a problem until I read the stories in here. I stumbled in here and discovered NoFap by accident because of my depression at work. I had become extremely depressed at my new job which I started this year and was basically using porn, internet and TV to cope and escape. It was a bad slippery slope and in fact now I see that it had been a slippery slope for the past several years. If I didn’t find NoFap, I would have been clinically depressed and/or divorced by now.
NoFap experience: (started hard-mode with a vegan diet, no alcohol)
Days 1-7 (Superman)
--Huge boost to self-confidence and self-worth (no shame or self-pity) --Cold showers (These are so important, it must be mandatory in hard mode) --Deleted porn collection from 15+ years. (THIS was hard to do) --Started working out twice daily. --Renewed focus on life and thinking of ways to improve self. --Aggressive at work. --Started professional development with a determination to move out of the sucky job soon. --Immune to all kinds of stimulation in media and surroundings
Days 7-19 (Twilight Zone) --Doubts creeping in. --Beginning to lose workout routine and starting to get lazy again. --Strong urges to look at porn and PMO. (almost failed and close to collapse) --Extreme sad emotions and mood swings. --Depression at work starting to return. From everything I have read here and my own experience, this is where most people fail and I almost did. But one thing I did was to keep coming back to NoFap and keep reading every day. Every new post I read pushed me farther a little more and I learned from the failures and experiences of others. Without NoFap to fallback for guidance, I never would have made it through this.
Days 20-30 (Return of the King)
-Slow return to the feelings of Phase 1, except with less aggression. -More determined than ever to stick with Hard mode -Starting to like exercise -Starting to like new diet -More active, less time on internet; starting to dislike wasting time or sitting around. -Wife starts noticing changes. (She doesn't know a thing and the change in her attitude is clear; She is happier) -Ambitions are sky-high; strong desire for professional development and improvement. -Increase in productivity
Day 30 on-wards – -This has become a way of life. (So far sticking to all hard-mode goals) -Increased intensity and effort in exercise. -High level of persistence and no laziness -A state of calmness and determination in life. -Starting to like the job “I hate so much”
Now, I know that Phase 2 could return any time in NoFap, but I’m better prepared to handle it.
Benefits of NoFap so far:
-Completely quit smoking, bad food and laziness -Helped me start exercising and lose 10 lbs. -More energy and positive attitude. -Made me realize how hyper-sexualized our society really is. -How everyone tries to control you with sex. -How much our mind is occupied with porn throughout the day. -How we don’t live to our full potential.
Nofap really is the central hub that connects together all the cogs my self-motivations together. This was the missing ingredient that had held me back for years, living in a state of limbo of wasted potential. NoFap is not even about fapping anymore; it’s about self-control and self-improvement. (and its necessary to have other goals and persistence to succeed in NoFap)
To conquer life, I must first conquer my mind.
NoFap has enabled me to do that and put me towards a path of self-improvement and elevated goals. I fully recommend NoFap to anyone that desires to live a life worthy of living.
“Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one” ― Bruce Lee
Thank you for reading Fapstronauts. I thank you for helping me come this far…