Age 50 - Many men continue PMO throughout their lives, never questioning why they can get it up with porn but not for real sex

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Nofap cured my anxiety, depression and negative thoughts. Living life before was like driving a car with ten screaming arguing children in the back seat. I clearly remember waking one morning and realised my mind was quiet!

I cut gluten, dairy and MSG from my diet, and my lifetime IBS has COMPLETELY disappeared. People ask me how I can handle such a "boring" diet and I just laugh. Try eating only fruit and veggies and only drinking water for a couple of days and see what happens. Good luck.

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My voice got deeper and I am 50. Puberty was a long time ago for me. When I was younger people used to make fun of me, "when is your voice going to break?" I sing and cannot reach notes that I could a year ago. 14 days is not going to do shit, you can bag nofap after 12 months if you feel no change in your body, stop discouraging other men from trying to better themselves. Stick with it and your body and mind will experience fantastic changes if you stop relapsing.

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My wife has deserted me twice, we are still living in the same house but haven't shared a bed all year. I have been PMO free for one year, I feel excellent, reaping all the benefits of nofap and we are getting along much better. I hope to return to the way we used to be, before I even knew that PMO was affecting me. I love her dearly but my wife has never been interested in my journey or the immense difficulty in giving up something I have done regularly for almost 40 years. Your husband doesn't know how lucky he is to still have you.

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NOT a placebo effect. Why do thousands of people experience the same benefits and still suspect it may be placebo effect? If you keep relapsing you will never overcome your social anxiety. It takes time, 6 days is nothing. I'm sorry to sound harsh, 6 days may be a fantastic effort for you, but it has taken me two years of nofap too overcome my social anxiety. I love that feeling of not feeling inadequate when talking to people, even people I know well. Or stumbling, searching for words. Or saying something stupid and regretting it for the rest of the day. Glowing red from the embarrassment. Stick with nofap and don't relapse because what you have to look forward to is owning conversations and making other people squirm with your gaze. Women love it. Men not so much.

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I have suffered from social anxiety and blushing all of my adult life. (I'm 50). Stopped PMO, social anxiety and blushing along with many other problems are now zero. This is no coincidence.

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I had no idea that I was suffering from social anxiety until I wasn't any longer. I just always thought I was shy, and it was just a part of me. It was who I am. I had forgotten that I wasn't particularly shy as a child. Now after 38 years of fapping and shyness I am no longer! After two years of trying to understand the connection between fapping and the chemicals involved, I have given up and just enjoyed my newfound confidence and "don't give a fuckness" :)

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Now that I am on the other side (safely I hope, but I can never let my guard down) I see heavy fappers everywhere I go. They look at the ground as they walk and when I look at them they instantly look away. They do not even look at or acknowledge the existence of the attractive young cashier taking their money and they mumble a bearely audible thankyou. They have expressionless dark eyes, the eyes of an addict. How do I know this? I know this because I was one for 38 years! But now my world has opened up and I am part of it. I would have told you before nofap that I was part of the world, we all are in some way. But it pales in significance to what I am experiencing now. This is not placebo, this is not imagined, this is not just using my old fapping time more productively, this is a shift in my consciousness that still surprises me EVERYDAY. I enjoy life much more now, and women can see this. They are attracted to a man that is happy, has ambition, and is confident. Break through to the other side and you will experience this in varying degrees. It has been a hellish two years but I wanted it so fucken bad. Want it, and achieve it. Start living my nofapper friends!

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I never had ED problems but had bad anxiety, depression, and lack of connection during sex. I didn't realise they were problems until I joined nofap and they disappeared. Many men try to justify watching porn occasionally, or masturbating once a week or so, but I found sex so fulfilling that PM just seems like a waste of time for me now. Mind you, it took lots of hard work to get where I am now, I was a crazy addict to the dopamine rushes.

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[In reply to this request for advice: "I'm 49 and have been getting softer erections (or losing it mid act) for over 2 years. I thought it's a combination of old age and too much (5 times a week) porn and masturbation. But maybe it's just the PM! I'm PMO free just 10 days. Love to hear more."

Are you in a relationship? I'm 51 and had a similar frequency of use as yourself. I didn't start nofap in time to save my marriage, but now my extremely attractive and much younger GF keeps me so busy that I don't think of PM any longer. I beleive that most cases of ED are caused by excessive PM. This is an addiction that many men continue with throughout their lives until they die, never questioning why they can get it up with porn but not for real sex with their wives.


 

UPDATE - 1000 days.

I have written so much over the last 1000 days but will share a little of what I have learned about this process of eliminating an addiction that I had for 4/5th of my life.

Masturbation changes you. It changes your perception of the world, other people and other people's perception of you. Unless you can manage to do it occasionally, but I doubt there are many occasional fappers here. I'm not writing this for slaps on the back, I'm writing exactly what I would have liked to have read when I stumbled upon this site over three years ago. I knew something was wrong with me but didn't know what it was. My wife had an affair and it blew my world apart. I stumbled on this site while looking for answers and read stories that I wanted to believe but deep down I was convinced that PM was no harm to me. I was at the lowest point in my life and knew I needed to try nofap, just in case these nut cases were actually right. It took many relapses before I started noticing changes in my life.

Some of us are here because we want to make changes in our lives and better ourselves. Some are here because they want to find their soulmate. Some just want sex. But whatever your motivation, it doesn't really matter, because if you're successful with nofap you will become a better person regardless.

Women are passionate creatures and desire passionate men. They don't necessarily want men who perform well in bed. Performing is a performance. Performance is acting. One of the main changes in my life is noticing how differently I treat sex. It used to dominate my thoughts constantly, but I could rarely get it. Now it is in the background of my mind, I can get on with my life and the sex I have now is better than I have ever experienced because I am truly myself and don't have to think about what to do in bed. Everything comes naturally and so it should, we've been doing it for millions of years. No porn scenes in my head, my stamina is amazing, and four days after orgasm I am so passionate that I constantly surprise myself. I practice semen retention and notice how differently people relate to me according to the amount of time since my last ejaculation. This is not imagined, this is real. (I'm talking about orgasm through sex of course, I will never masturbate again for the rest of my life). You need to think of fapping as an addiction. Orgasm is addictive. When you have sex and orgasm is not the goal it changes your whole perception of sex. The flatline is real but needs to happen. It will seem like the end is not in sight but it gets closer every day. You are here because you want something better in your life. This is your only life, it is ridiculous numbing yourself to your only time on this planet. Your life can be so much more exciting than it is. Get off Facebook and create your own life instead of reading about the occasional good fortune of someone you hardly know. YOU CAN DO IT!!