The Big List of Tips & Tricks

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Displacement Activities

  • Work out (squats seem popular with many nofappers).
  • Do yoga or stretching.
  • Groom yourself (shower, trim fingernails, shave, floss, brush teeth, use tongue scraper, wash your clothes, etc.).
  • Get squeeze balls for your hands (squeeze the squeeze ball and not your dick).
  • Go for a walk.
  • Read a book instead of surf the web.
  • Hang out with people.
  • Join a club (or clubs).
  • Clean the house/apartment/room.
  • Fix something around the house.
  • Start a chore that you have been putting off.
  • learn something new (a language, a musical instrument, cooking, solve a Rubik's cube etc).
  • 2 minute time out.

Avoidance Techniques

  • Delete your porn folder, delete your porn links.
  • Install a porn blocker (no more looking at sexy pics).
  • No edging, period. Touch yourself only when cleaning your body or urinating (see squeeze ball above).
  • Stay in public places.
  • Stay off the computer or phone except for a dedicated task like
    banking, work, school work, email, texting, checking nofap, checking the
    news, etc. and then log out.
  • If you are surging stay off the computer or phone completely.
  • Do not mindlessly surf the web because you will eventually click on a trigger.
  • Wear thick pants with a belt.
  • Go to bed only when you are about to sleep.
  • Get out of bed immediately after waking.
  • Beer, wine, liquor and pot: avoid these until you have solid control of your fappy impulses.

Mental Motivation

  • Remember why you are doing this.
  • Acquiring that strong sense of self-pride and being able to look people in the eye.
  • There will never be a day where porn will leave you happy and fulfilled.
  • Remember how shitty you feel right after you fap.
  • Remember that as your pleasure centres rewire you will start enjoying the experiences of your life more vividly.
  • If you fap then you are training yourself to be mediocre.
  • If you fap then prepare to lose your manliness.
  • When you fap then your sex life is watching other people fuck. This trains your brain to be a beta male.
  • If you fap you will numb yourself to your life (your only life) and you will never have a hope of completing yourself.
  • A fraction of the women in porn are leading abused lives. You don 't want to contribute to the harm of another person.
  • Porn and fapping makes you look at woman in the wrong ways. You don't want to be that guy.
  • People can sense you are a beta male when you fap. They can sense it.
  • When you don't fap you will become more alpha. Alpha doesn't mean
    aggressive douchebag, I know buddhist monks and lay meditators who are
    very alpha and very good people at the same time.
  • Don't do nofap to get a women in your bed, do it for yourself.
  • Remember that if if you don't have ED you will eventually get it.
  • Remember that if you have ED then nofap will cure it (if there are no underlying medical issues).
  • You will have the freedom of not worrying about your browser history.
  • You will have the freedom of not having that second, hidden, fappy personality.
  • You will have a more sensitive and normal genital response (i.e. no more death grip/death schlick syndrome).

Improve Your Commitment

  • Acknowledge to yourself that you have a problem, an addiction even.
  • Make a public commitment to stop fapping (for most of us this is an
    anonymous but public commitment like here on nofap, for some it could be
    a trusted buddy or your SO).
  • if you have an accountability partner, call or text them when you are surging.
  • Mark out your nofap days on a calendar ('x' out each day with a
    coloured marker, if you relapse then 'x' out each subsequent day of your
    new streak using a different coloured marker). It doesn't have to be
    paper, I use my iPad calendar.
  • ... but remember that every day is Day 1 no matter how high your counter is.
  • Also post your progress on nofap every so often. Post daily if you are going through a rough patch.
  • "Low  fap" does not work, cold turkey is the best way to go.
  • Go to nofap and help others.
  • Meditation.
  • Identify your triggers (stress, anxiety, boredom, some kind of perceived failure) and realize that a fap session will not help.

Tricks of Last Resort

  • Cold showers.
  • If cold showers are too traumatic for you then wash your unit with a
    cold face cloth until the urge passes. Washing your face in cold water
    may also work.
  • If you are not doing hard mode then get your woman or man to "relieve" your tension.

This post is only about Phase I of nofap. Phase II of nofap is about living for purpose, not pleasure.


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