Comments of a Woman on New Yorker article about porn

Porn addiction can hurt sexual performance

This is a serious problem. I am not a prude at all, and I’m not blaming men either. I dated a guy for 9 months and he could never come with me, it was a serious problem. He watched a lot of porn every day and masturbated many times a day. I believe he had a biochemical addiction to porn and masturbation. We could not get close. It is such a turn on for me when a man comes, and he could never come with me and that was such a turn off.

This man had serious physical and psychological problems. I even caught him in an off-guard moment, where he said to me “I was watching this girl and she had south park panties on” and I was like “what?” He was talking as if she were real, as if he was with her. He was talking about the porn he saw that day, but I could tell by they way he said it, that he felt like he actually met a new girl that day. It was really sad and creepy.

I love sex and I could have given him a sensual and REAL time, but this guy was so messed up. A few times he would turn on porn while we were having sex, to “help him come”. It was awful. This guy needed psychological help.

Please know I am not completely against porn, but this experience with a severe porn-and-masturbation addict was shocking to me. He didn’t even think he needed help.

He was so “checked” out, so numbed out, and seemed like a shell of a person. It was disturbing! In the end I felt sorry for him; he couldn’t be present with a real woman. You might just think that this guy must have had other more serious mental issues, but I know the porn & masturbation addiction either had made him this way, or had made him a lot worse! I was with a zombie, a porn zombie!

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