Age 25 - Atypical porn user fixes PIED with intermittent masturbation

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happy guyCOMMENTS: Keep in mind that guys who didn't start early on internet porn typically recover from PIED far more easily, so this man's advice may only work for those in a similar situation. 

I've come here to share my success story in the hopes that it may help other guys out there with this problem.

First, a little about me: I'm twenty-five. I began masturbating when I was about sixteen, and became a regular porn watcher around age nineteen. By around age twenty-two, I noticed that the quality of my erections was not what it once was. This was a gradual realization; I'd been masturbating with an increasingly tight grip, and so I figured that this was to blame.

I kept going, though, and my ED got worse. By the summer of 2014, my ED was so severe that I no longer woke up with erections. I could neither get nor maintain an erection without physical stimulation. My grip when masturbating was so tight that I my penis was red and swollen by the time I was finished.

Well, I had to fix it.

But how?

First, I considered seeing a doctor. But, deep down, I knew that my ED was my own doing. So I thought to try abstinence--to stop masturbating entirely. That option seemed to make sense on the surface, though upon greater reflection it made no sense; I had conditioned my brain and body to respond to a specific sexual stimulation in a certain way, so if I wanted to get back where to I should be--to where I used to be--then sitting around and waiting for my body to magically reverse its conditioning wasn't going to work.

If I had conditioned my body to like one thing, I would have to actively condition it to like something else.

What was that something else, though? Well, I needed to determine my goal. That was simple enough: I wanted my penis to be able achieve normal, healthy erections, and with little to no physical stimulation.

MY METHOD

I approached the reconditioning of my brain and body as one would approach teaching an animal.

Step One I abstained from masturbation for a short while. I knew that, in order to retrain my brain and body, I would have to first deprive it of what it wanted. I spent about two weeks without masturbation. It was difficult, of course, but I had to let my brain know that I was in charge.

Step Two After the two weeks, I masturbated, but instead of using a tight grip like I had been, I purposefully used as light a grip as I could. I also went as slow as I could. My penis was completely flaccid. The urge to go tight and fast was difficult to resist, but I knew that I had to be in charge. It took about half an hour before my penis finally started responding to this stimulation, and another hour or so before I had an orgasm. The whole time I maintained a light grip and went slow. (That's the important rule.) My orgasm was not great. It was mildly pleasurable, at most. But I was teaching my brain and body a valuable lesson: if it wanted that pleasure, then this was the only way it was going to get it from now on.

The brain is very malleable. When we sleep, our brains "rewire" themselves to adapt to whatever we did that day. This is how "muscle memory" develops. When you teach your brain that sexual pleasure is only going to be via soft, delicate touches, it will adapt. This won't happen overnight, but it will happen. This was my theory. In my opinion, the worst thing you can do when trying to reverse porn-induced ED is to just abstain and do nothing, waiting for your body to repair itself.

So anyway, I masturbated like this once per day for an entire week. During that first week, my brain and body resisted. I'd often lose my erection during my masturbation, and I desperately wanted to go fast at times, but I forced myself to go slow and gentle.

The second week was spent in abstinence--no masturbation whatsoever.

The third week was a repeat of the first. I masturbated once per day, slowly and gently. The first thing I noticed was an increase in sensitivity. I had written down how long it took me to finish during each day of the first week, and I did the same for the third week. When comparing the two weeks, I found that the time it was now taking me to orgasm was less. I also noted that my erections were firmer, and wouldn't vanish if I stopped masturbating. (They'd stay for about twenty to thirty seconds before starting to fade, compared to the first week, during which they would drop instantly.)

I repeated this process on and off, alternating each week between gentle masturbation and abstinence. It's now the middle of January 2015 and I can honestly report that my sexual health has almost completely returned. I've been able to successfully retrain my brain and body. I wake up every morning with a full erection. I can think dirty thoughts and become fully erect without having to touch my penis. My erections stay firm when I stop masturbating--sometimes for minutes at a time. I'm in a long-distance relationship with a girl, and I'm fully confident that, when we meet and decide to have sex, I'll be able to perform like a healthy twenty-five-year-old man.

This is my success story. I honestly can't say if it will work for other people, but hopefully it will help at least one other person.

LINK - How I Fixed My Porn-Induced ED Without Giving Up Masturbation

BY - Random_Guy