Idan ka rasa wannan labarin TIME game da zubar da jima'i na zinare, ba a baya ne a bayan kundin tsarin biya. Karanta shi a nan.
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Ikilisiyar Nuhu ita ce mai cin wuta mai suna 26 da ke cikin Portland, Ore, lokacin da yake 9, sai ya sami hotuna a kan yanar gizo. Ya koyi yadda za'a sauke bidiyo. Lokacin da ya kasance 15, saurin bidiyo ya zo, kuma ya dubi waɗannan. Sau da yawa. Sau da yawa a rana, yin abin da mutane sukan yi yayin kallon su da kansu.
Bayan dan lokaci, ya ce, wadannan bidiyoyi ba su tada shi ba, saboda haka ya matsa zuwa wasu sharuɗɗa daban-daban, wasu lokuta ana hade da mata kawai, wani lokacin wani mace da wasu mutane, wani lokaci har ma mace marar yarda. "Ina iya samun wani abu da na yi tunanin kuma abubuwa da dama da ban iya tunanin ba," in ji shi. Bayan yunkurin da wadanda suka yi, ya ci gaba zuwa mataki na gaba, mafi tsanani, sau da yawa mafi tsanani.
A lokacin da yake karatun sakandare, yana da damar yin jima'i, tare da abokin tarayya. Ya janyo hankulan ita da ita a gare shi, kamar yadda ya nuna cewa ta tsirara a cikin ɗakin kwana a gabansa. Amma jikinsa bai zama kamar sha'awar ba. "Akwai wata rarrabe tsakanin abin da nake so a zuciyata da kuma yadda jikina ya amsa," in ji shi. Ya kawai ba zai iya samun isasshen kayan lantarki ba.
Ya sanya shi ga jijiyoyin farko, amma shekaru shida sun shude, kuma ko wace mace yake tare da shi, jikinsa ba ya kasancewa da haɗin kai. Ya amsa kawai ga ganin batsa. Coci ya yi imani da cewa sha'awar Intanet ya haifar da matsalarsa kuma yana da abin da wasu ke kira lalata lalata (PIED).
Yawancin samari suna da tabbacin cewa an lalata maganganun su na jima'i saboda an kusan lalata kwakwalwar su a batsa lokacin da suke samari. Zamaninsu ya cinye bayyanannen abu a cikin adadi da nau'ikan da ba su taɓa faruwa ba, a kan na'urorin da aka tsara don isar da abun cikin hanzari da keɓaɓɓu, duk a lokacin da ƙwaƙwalwarsu ta fi roba - sun fi saurin fuskantar canji na dindindin – fiye da rayuwa mai zuwa. Wadannan samari suna jin kamar aladun da ba su sani ba a cikin gwajin da ba a kulawa ba tsawon shekaru goma game da yanayin jima'i. Sakamakon gwajin, suna da'awar, a zahiri yana ƙasa.
Don haka suna fara turawa, ƙirƙirar ƙungiyoyin jama'a na kan layi, aikace-aikacen wayoyi da bidiyo na ilimi don taimakawa maza barin batsa. Sun fara bulogi da kwasfan fayiloli kuma suna ɗaukar duk wasan kwaikwayo na magana da jama'a da zasu iya samu. Batsa koyaushe yana fuskantar zargi tsakanin masu aminci da mata. Amma yanzu, a karo na farko, wasu daga cikin fitattun faɗakarwa suna zuwa daga alƙaluma ɗaya kamar abokan cinikin su.
Tabbas akwai damuwa mafi yawa game da tasirin batsa akan zamantakewar da ta wuce yuwuwar lalata jima'i, gami da gaskiyar cewa sau da yawa yana murna da ƙasƙantar da mata da kuma daidaita tashin hankali na jima'i. A watan Fabrairu, waɗannan batutuwan sun jagoranci gwamnatin Firayim Minista David Cameron, wanda a baya ya nemi masu ba da sabis na Intanet su bincika abubuwan da ke cikin manya sai dai idan mai amfani ya shiga, don fara aiwatar da buƙatar shafukan yanar gizo don tabbatar da shekarun masu amfani da su ko kuma fuskantar tara. Ba da daɗewa ba bayan haka, majalisar dokokin Utah gabaɗaya ta zartar da ƙuduri don ɗaukar hotunan batsa a matsayin rikicin lafiyar jama'a. Kuma tilasta sabon bincike kan abubuwan gani na gani yana ba da tallafi ga tunanin samari, yana mai nuni da haɗakar samun damar komputa, jin daɗin jima'i da hanyoyin kwakwalwa don koyo na iya yin batsa ta yau da kullun ta zama al'ada, tare da tasirin tasirin halayyar mutum.
Ga Gabe Deem, 28, batsa ya kasance wani ɓangare na samartaka kamar aikin gida ko ƙuraje. "Ya kasance al'ada kuma ya kasance ko'ina," in ji shi. Ya girma a zamanin lokacin da abin da a da ake ɗaukarsa a matsayin wanda aka yiwa ƙimar X ya zama ya zama ruwan dare, kuma shi da abokansa sun kasance suna kallon bidiyon bidiyo koyaushe, in ji shi, har ma a lokacin aji, a kan kwamfutocin tafi-da-gidanka da aka ba su. "Ba wani abin da muke jin kunya ba ne." Deem, wanda ke zaune a Irving, Texas, shi ne wanda ya kafa Reboot Nation, wani dandali da tashar bidiyo ta yanar gizo wacce ke ba da shawara da tallafi ga matasa waɗanda suka yi imanin cewa suna batsa da batsa, suna da lalata ta hanyar jima'i sakamakon haka kuma suna so su daina.
Ya ɗan bambanta da yawancin masu fafutuka na batsa, saboda yana yin jima'i ta ƙuruciya kuma yana cin batsa kawai a matsayin abincin kwano. Amma ya zama ya mamaye abincinsa, kuma wasu shekaru bayan makarantar sakandare, “Na samu wata kyakkyawar yarinya kuma mun je yin jima'i kuma jikina ba shi da amsa ko kaɗan,” in ji shi. "Na kasance cikin firgici saboda ina saurayi kuma na dace kuma na kasance mai sha'awar yarinyar." Ya tafi wurin likitansa. "Na ce, Ina iya samun ƙananan T," in ji Deem, ta amfani da lafazi don rashi testosterone. "Ya yi dariya."
Yawancin bayanai game da labarinsa an tabbatar da su ta hanyar budurwarsa a lokacin, waɗanda za su fi so a sakaya sunansu. "Zai yi kokarin fara wani abu, sannan a tsakiya ya ce, 'Ina ganin ya kamata mu jira,' in ji ta. “Na kasance cikin rudani sosai kuma zan iya tunani, Shin ba ya sona? Me ke faruwa? ” Ya ɗauki watanni tara bayan ya gaya mata matsalar sa don ya iya yin aiki tare da ita.
Samun abokin tarayya tare da ED ba shine matsala ta farko mafi yawancin mata mata ke fuskanta da batsa ba, kuma kawai ƙananan yan mata suna bayar da rahoton jin jaraba, amma duk da haka basu da kariya ga tasirin girma cikin al'adun da ke cike da wannan abun. 'Yan mata matasa suna ƙara ba da rahoton cewa samari suna sa ran su yi hali kamar taurarin taurari, waɗanda gashin jiki ko bukatun jima'i ba su damunsu.
A watan Afrilu 2015, Alexander Rhodes ya bar aiki mai kyau tare da Google don haɓaka shawarwari da shafukan tallafi na al'umma ga waɗanda ke gwagwarmaya da al'adar batsa. Ya fara ƙaddamar da kundin tsarin NoFap –wani sakonni akan batun daya - akan shahararren gidan yanar gizon Reddit da wani shafin yanar gizo mai suna NoFap.com a cikin 2011, amma yanzu ya zama aiki na cikakken lokaci. (Sunan ya samo asali ne daga fap, yin magana da Intanet don al'aura.) Matashin mai shekaru 26 ya ce kallonsa na farko ga batsa shi ne tallar talla - a'a, da gaske, ya rantse! –In da ya kusan kai 11 Mahaifinsa masanin injiniya ne a Pennsylvania, kuma an ƙarfafa shi ya yi wasa da kwamfuta tun yana ɗan shekara 3. Rhodes ya ce: "Tun da dai akwai Intanet, da ina da hanyoyin da ba a tantance su ba," in ji Rhodes. Talla din ta shafi ne da ya nuna fyade, amma ya ce kawai ya fahimci akwai wata mata tsirara. Ba da daɗewa ba ya buga zane-zane na sakamakon bincikensa na hotuna don “matan mata” ko “kyawawan girlsan mata.” A lokacin da yake 14, ya ce, yana jin daɗin yin batsa sau 10 a rana. “Wannan ba karin magana ba ne,” in ji shi. "Wannan, da kunna wasannin bidiyo, duk abin da na yi ne."
A cikin shekarunsa na matasa, lokacin da ya sami budurwa, abubuwa ba su tafi daidai ba. Rhodes ya ce: "Na yi mata mummunan rauni (a zuciya)," "Na yi tsammani abu ne na al'ada don yin sha'awar batsa yayin yin jima'i da wani mutum." Idan ya daina yin tunanin batsa don mayar da hankali ga yarinyar, jikinsa ya rasa sha'awa, in ji shi. Ya daina yin batsa sau biyu kafin daga bisani ya yi rantsuwa da shi mai kyau a ƙarshen 2013. Shafukan sa guda biyu suna da kusan membobi 200,000, kuma ya ce suna samun kusan masu amfani miliyan ɗaya a wata.
Wadannan mutanen, da sauran dubunnan da suka cika gidajen yanar gizon su da labaran rashin jima'i, duk suna cikin azaba don bayyana cewa ba antisex bane. Deem ya ce "Abin da ya sa na daina kallon batsa shi ne karin yin jima'i." Rhodes ya ce: "Barin batsa yana daya daga cikin mafi kyawu da jima'i da mutane za su iya yi," Wani mai sharhi kan layi, sirrifo, ya sauƙaƙe shi: "Ina so in sake jin daɗin jima'i ne kuma in ji sha'awar wani mutum."
Shin da'awar da suke da shi game da batutuwa na ED ya haifar da wani yabo? Ƙididdigar kwanan nan suna nuna wasu alaƙa. A cikin 1992, game da 5% na maza sun sami ED a shekarun 40, kamar yadda Cibiyar Kula da Lafiya ta {asa (NIH) ta Amurka. Wani binciken a cikin Yuli 2013 Journal of Medicine Medicine ya gano cewa 26% na mutanen da ke neman taimako ga ED sun kasance karkashin 40. A cikin nazarin 2014 na ma'aikatan soja na 367 na Amurka wadanda suka fi girma fiye da 40, wani rahoto na uku ED. Kuma bincike na 2012 na Swiss ya sami yanayin a cikin kashi uku na mararru: 18 zuwa 25.
Tabbas, akwai wasu dalilai da yawa don waɗannan binciken. Tun da zuwan Viagra da makamantan magunguna, wayar da kai da yarda da raunin mazakuta ya fi girma, kuma godiya ga duk tallan TV ɗin, tozarcin ya yi ƙasa da haka, don haka mutane da yawa na iya yarda da shi. Ciwon sukari, kiba, tashin hankali na zamantakewar jama'a ko damuwa na iya haifar da yanayin, kamar yadda za a iya shan ƙwayoyi ko maye Kamar yadda waɗannan suka tashi tsakanin matasa, don haka yana iya samun misalan ED. Amma masu ilimin urologists basa yarda suyi sarauta cewa batsa na iya zama wani ɓangare na zargi. “Ina ganin abu ne mai yiyuwa,” in ji Dokta Ajay Nangia, tsohon shugaban kungiyar Society for Reproduction Male and Urology. "Akwai wata irin lalatawar wadannan mutane, kuma kawai suna kai wa ga jin motsawa lokacin da jima'i yake kamar a fim."
Idan abubuwan da ke haifar da karu a cikin ED sun kasance don muhawara, damar da ba a taɓa samu ba ta batsa ta hanyar bidiyo mai gudana a cikin shekaru goma da suka gabata ba. Zuwan shafukan bidiyo wanda, kamar YouTube (wanda aka ƙaddamar a 2005), ya ba masu amfani damar lodawa, tattarawa da tsara bidiyo ya canza yadda mutane ke cin batsa. Akwai nau'ikan abubuwa masu ban mamaki iri-iri na kyauta wanda yake fadada koyaushe saboda kowa, daga masu son zuwa kwararru, na iya sanya bidiyo akan layi. Wani kamfani mai bin diddigin gidan yanar gizo ya dauki kimanin miliyan 58 a duk wata don ziyartar Amurka a wuraren manya a watan Fabrairun 2006. Shekaru goma bayan haka adadin ya kai miliyan 107. Ofaya daga cikin manyan rukunin yanar gizo na manya, Pornhub, shafin yanar gizo na musayar bidiyo, ya ce yana samun baƙi miliyan 2.4 a kowace awa kuma a cikin 2015 kawai, mutane a duk duniya sun kalli awanni 4,392,486,580 na abubuwan da ke ciki, wanda ya ninka ninki biyu. matukar Homo sapiens ya shafe a duniya. Batsa tana da yawa a ko'ina, yayi fice daga memes, gami da Doka ta 34, wacce take cewa, "Idan akwai, to akwai batsa akanta." (Leprechauns? Check. Pterodactyls? Check. Pandas? Duba.) Intanit kamar gidan cin abinci ne na kowane sa'a-na-cin abinci wanda ke ba da kowane irin abincin jima'i.
Kuma matasa suna cinye shi. Kusan kashi 40% na yaran Burtaniya masu shekaru 14 zuwa 17 sun ce suna kallo a kai a kai, a cewar binciken da Jami'ar Bristol ta yi a watan Fabrairun 2015. Chyng Sun, wata mataimakiyar farfesa a fannin nazarin watsa labarai a jami’ar New York, ta ce kusan rabin maza 487 da ta bincika a wani binciken an nuna su ga batsa kafin su cika shekaru 13. Nazarin a cikin Jaridar Nazarin Jima'i ya fara nunawa a , a matsakaita, shekaru 12 don samari.
Babban canjin zamantakewar da ke tattare da lafiyar matasa galibi yana haifar da cikakken bincike don tantance ainihin abin da ke faruwa. Amma a wannan yanayin, ba yawa ba. Yana da wahala koda samun kudade don yin nazarin yadda yawan amfani da batsa yake, in ji Janis Whitlock, wani tsohon malamin koyar da ilimin jima’i wanda yanzu haka mai bincike ne a lafiyar kwakwalwa a jami’ar Cornell. Ma'aikatan NIH sun ba da shawara ga masu bincike game da yin amfani da kalmar jima'i a cikin aikace-aikacen tallafin su idan zai yiwu. Masanin Neuroscientist Simone Kühn, wanda aka buga bincikensa kan kallon batsa da tsarin kwakwalwa a cikin JAMA Psychiatry, ya ce masu ba ta aiki a Cibiyar Max Planck ba su da farin cikin haɗuwa da ita.
Rashin bincike yana kara dagula fada a cikin al'umman ilimi game da illar amfani da batsa da yawa. Kuma babu kimiyyar wuya mai yawa don yanke hukuncin sakamakon.
Maganar batsa ta matasa suna da guruwa maras kyau: Gary Wilson, 59, tsohon malamin nazarin ilmin halitta a lokaci daya Southern Jami'ar Oregon da wasu makarantun sana'a da kuma marubucin Brainka a kan Yanar-gizo: Intanit Intanet da Kimiyya na Farfesa. Kamfanin yanar gizon yanar gizo, yourbrainonporn.com, ko kuma mafi yawan YBOP, shine mai tsabta don bayanin da ke tallafawa hanyar haɗi tsakanin yin amfani da batsa masu amfani da batsa da kuma cin zarafin jima'i. Mutane da yawa sun sami shi ta hanyar 2012 TEDx magana, wadda take da fiye da 6 miliyan views.
YBOP yayi jayayya cewa kallon abubuwa da yawa marasa kyau a lokacin samartaka yana shafar kwakwalwa ta hanyoyi da yawa. Wilson ya ce "batsa tana koyar da kwakwalwar ku don buƙatar duk abin da ke da alaƙa da batsa." Wannan ya haɗa da ba kawai abubuwan ciki ba har ma da hanyar isarwa. Saboda bidiyon batsa ba shi da iyaka, kyauta kuma mai sauri, masu amfani na iya dannawa zuwa wani sabon yanayi ko jinsi da zaran sha’awarsu ta tashi kuma ta hakan, in ji Wilson, “suna sanya yanayin sha’awarsu ta ci gaba, mai sauya sabon abu.”
Jadawalin batsa mai nauyi da sakamakon ci gaba mai girma na dopamine yana ƙarfafa waɗannan alamu. "Sakamakon haka a cikin wasu masu amfani da batsa na Intanet shine mafi girman kunnawar kwakwalwa zuwa batsa na intanet, da ƙarancin sha'awar yin jima'i da mutum na ainihi," in ji Wilson. Sannan akwai al'ada: buƙatar ƙarin don samun irin wannan bugun. "Matsanancin sabon abu, wasu fitattun abubuwa, kaduwa da mamaki da damuwa - duk wadannan suna daukaka dopamine," in ji shi. "Don haka suna buƙatar waɗanda za a tayar musu da hankali."
Sauran masu binciken suna watsi da duk wata alaqa tsakanin batsa da rashin karfin erectile. ”Idan babu goyon bayan bayanan kimiyya, karfin [wadannan samari] imanin cewa batsa tana haifar da ED ba hujja ba ce game da ingancin imaninsu,” in ji David J. Ley, masanin halayyar dan adam kuma marubucin Labarin Batsa na Jima'i. “Mafi yawan masu amfani da batsa ba su da rahoton wata illa. ,Ananan tsiraru suna ba da rahoton waɗannan damuwa game da ED. ”
Ley ya nuna karatun da aka yi kwanan nan game da samarin da ke amfani da batsa, kamar takarda ta 2015 a cikin Jaridar Magungunan Jima'i, inda masu bincike daga Jami'ar Zagreb ta Croatia suka binciki nazarin kusan samari 4,000 masu yin jima'i da juna a cikin ƙasashen Turai uku kuma sun sami kawai wani ɗan ƙaramin haɗi tsakanin amfani da batsa da matsalolin tashin hankali. (Kuma a cikin Kuroshiya kawai.) Wani ya gano cewa masu amfani da batsa wadanda ke da addini suna iya tsammanin suna da lahani. Nicole Prause, masanin halayyar dan adam kuma likitan kwakwalwa, har da Shugaba na Liberos, kamfanin bincike na kwakwalwa, shi ma ya yi imanin cewa PIED tatsuniya ce: "Mafi yawan binciken da aka gudanar ya nuna cewa masu karfin hangen nesa na ED na ci gaba da zama bakin ciki da amfani da kwayoyi."
Ga samari 'yan gwagwarmaya, Nunin A koyaushe nasu ilimin lissafi ne. "Idan har za ku iya samun abin da ya fi kyau ta hanyar batsa kuma ba za ku iya samun boner ba tare da batsa ba, wannan yana da matukar wuya kamar yadda shaidu ke ganina," in ji Deem na Reboot Nation. Yana ƙetare kowane dalili na lalata jima'i. Rashin kwarewa? "Na kasance mai kwazo da karfin gwiwa ta fuskar jima'i tun ina dan shekara 14," in ji shi. Kiba? Kwararren mai horar da kansa ne, in ji shi, a karkashin kashi 10% na kitsen jiki. Amfani da kwayoyi? Ya yi iƙirarin cewa ya sha taba kusan haɗin gwiwa biyar a rayuwarsa. Kuma ED dinsa ba zai iya kasancewa saboda tashin hankali ba, saboda ya ce ba zai iya tayar da hankali ba ko da kuwa lokacin da yake lalata al'ada a ranar Lahadi da yamma. “Na sake komawa kwamfutata domin in duba sau biyu. Na kunna batsa da bam! ”
Bayan matsalolin da ke fuskantar waɗannan samari, akwai binciken da ke gudana wanda zai ba kowane mai amfani da batsa ɗan hutu. Nazarin 2014 fMRI daga Cibiyar Max Planck ya gano cewa amfani da batsa na yau da kullun na iya yin tasiri a kan kwakwalwa. K Thehn, marubucin ya ce: "Yawan kallon hotunan batsa da maza ke amfani da shi, karami ne kwakwalwa, cibiyar ladabi ta kwakwalwa." "Kuma waɗanda suka kalli karin hotunan batsa sun nuna ƙasa da martani ga hotunan batsa a yanki ɗaya." Wani binciken ya nuna cewa yawancin masu amfani da batsa suna da saurin motsa jiki kuma suna da ƙarancin damar jinkirta gamsuwa. Kuma binciken binciken kwakwalwa daga Jami'ar Cambridge a cikin 2014 ya nuna cewa maza da halayen halayen jima'i sun amsa ga shirye-shiryen bidiyo daidai yadda masu amfani da kwayoyi ke amsa magunguna; sun so su, koda kuwa basa son su.
Babban mai binciken a cikin wannan binciken, masanin kimiyyar jijiyoyin jiki da likitan kwakwalwa Valerie Voon, ya ce yawancin batuttukan batsa masu amfani da batutuwa suna ba da rahoton cewa suna da matsala. Amma ita da Kühn duk sun lura cewa babu ɗayan wannan da ke tabbatar da cewa batsa tana rage ƙwaƙwalwa; yana iya zama cewa mutanen da ke da ƙananan cibiyoyin lada dole ne su kalli ƙarin batsa don samun irin wannan farin ciki. "Zan yi taka-tsantsan game da amfani da wani hoto na hoto don nuna cewa akwai 'lalacewa' ga kwakwalwa," in ji Voon. "Muna bukatar karin karatu ne kawai."
Tattaunawar batsa-jita-jita wata ƙungiya ce ta rikice-rikice a cikin likitocin da masana kimiyya game da ko zai yiwu a rarraba abin da ake kira jarabar ɗabi'a, kamar waɗanda ke yin caca da cin abinci, a cikin rukuni ɗaya kamar yadda ake shan ƙwayoyi, kamar waɗanda ke shan barasa ko magungunan ƙwayoyi. Gwadawa yayi jayayya cewa amfani da kalmar jaraba don bayyana abin da kawai zai iya zama babban sha'awar jima'i ba shi da taimako kuma yana iya ƙara matsalar ta hanyar ƙyamarta.
Amma ga Voon, wanda ke nazarin jaraba, kallon batsa mai tilasta tabbata kamar ɗaya ne, kodayake yana da halaye daban-daban, gami da ƙarancin sha'awar sabon abu fiye da sauran jaraba. "Mai yiyuwa ne haduwar tasirin batsa da ke da matukar alfano baya ga sabon abu na iya samun wani tasiri mai girma," in ji ta.
Brian Anderson, masanin ilimin kimiyar jijiyoyin kwakwalwa a jami'ar Johns Hopkins, yana da wata ka'ida mai ban sha'awa. Kwarewar sa ita ce samuwar al'ada; a watan Fabrairu tawagarsa ta fitar da wani bincike da ke nuna cewa abubuwan gani na gani wadanda ke da nasaba da lada suna da wahalar watsi da su idan aka sake fuskantar su. Lokacin da kwakwalwa ta gano shaidun abubuwan motsa jiki, tana mai da hankali sosai kuma tana toshe wasu abubuwan. Anderson ya ce "Kwakwalwarka tana da waya don bunkasa wadancan tsarin, kuma idan ka hada su da wani abu kamar batsa zai iya zama mai rudani da wuyar warwarewa," in ji Anderson.
Ya yi tunanin cewa yanayin kallon batsa yana ba shi sha'awa musamman ga kwakwalwa. "Yana ba da karfi ne ga karfi da saurin kulawa da hankali," in ji shi. "Kwakwalwa za ta koyi wannan haduwar da sauri." Kuma saboda rayuwar mutanen zamani tana da nauyi sosai a kwamfuta, akwai tunatarwa game da batsa ko'ina. "Akwai yiwuwar lokaci ya zo," in ji shi, "inda kuka buɗe burauzarku kuma kawai za ku fara tunanin batsa." (Kuma wannan shine gabanin fasaha ta gaskiya mai ɗaukar abubuwa zuwa wani sabon matakin.)
Tunda samari suna jujjuya duk abin da batsa ke narkar da shi a cikin kwakwalwar da ke ci gaba, yana yiwuwa suna da saukin kai musamman. Philip Zimbardo, farfesa farfesa na ilimin halin dan Adam a Jami'ar Stanford (kuma mutumin da ya yi shahararren gwajin kurkukun Stanford), ya lura cewa batsa sau da yawa tana tafiya tare da wasannin bidiyo kuma ana daidaita su daidai don zama masu al'ada kamar yadda ya kamata.
"Hoton batsa ya sanya ku cikin abin da na kira shiyyar zamani mai zuwa," in ji shi. "Kuna neman farin ciki da sabon abu kuma kuna rayuwa na ɗan lokaci." Duk da yake ba shan jaraba ba ne, in ji shi, batsa tana da tasiri iri ɗaya a kan ɗabi'a kamar yadda shan ƙwaya ke yi: wasu mutane sun daina yin wani abu da yawa don son bin sa. "Kuma to matsalar ita ce, yayin da kuke yin hakan da yawa, cibiyoyin lada na kwakwalwarku sun rasa ƙarfin motsawa," in ji shi. A lokacin da samari suke a saman jikinsu, in ji shi, duk rashin aiki na iya bayar da gudummawa ga lalatawar jima'i da ba zato ba tsammani.
Ikilisiyar Nuhu ta ba da kimanin sa'o'i 20 a mako don ƙoƙari don taimaka wa wasu su kawar da batsa daga rayuwarsu, ko kuma aƙalla don yanke al'adar da ake kira PMO (batsa, al'aura, ko inzali). Ya rubuta littafi kyauta game da shi, Wack, yana gudanar da addictedtointernetporn.com kuma yana yiwa mutane nasiha ta hanyar Skype kan farashin $ 100. Rhodes, a halin yanzu, yayi ƙoƙari don taimakawa mutane su dawo da martabarsu ta hanyar shirya "ƙalubale," yayin da matasa ke ƙoƙarin ƙauracewa PMO na wani lokaci. Akwai matakai daban-daban na ƙaura: mafi tsaranci (sananne, abin ban mamaki, azaman "mawuyacin yanayi") yana nisantar duk wani aikin jima'i, kuma mafi ƙarancin mawuyacin hali shine samun duk saduwa da jima'i da ke gabatar da kansu, gami da waɗanda ke faruwa su kaɗai, amma ba tare da kayan gani ba. Shafin Deem yana ba da irin waɗannan dabarun, tare da yawan tallafi na al'umma da kayan ilimi. Wani rukuni na samari daga Utah sun fara wata kungiya mai suna Yaki da Sabon Magunguna, wanda ke da shirin dawo da kyauta ga matasa da ake kira Karfafawa.
Samarin da suke son sake yin kwakwalwa suna bayyana irin wannan sakamakon yayin da suke kwance al'ada. Wasu daga cikinsu suna da alamun kamuwa da cuta irin na ciwon kai da rashin bacci. Yawancinsu suna magana ne game da “faɗakarwa,” lokacin rashin farin ciki, libido mara ma'ana har ma da raguwar al'aura da ke iya ɗaukar makonni da yawa. "Na ji kamar aljan," in ji Deem. Maza tsofaffi sun ba da rahoton irin waɗannan alamun, amma gaba ɗaya suna murmurewa da sauri, mai yiwuwa saboda sun sami ƙarin abubuwan jima'i a rayuwa ta ainihi. Kwallon kafa player juya actor Terry Crews kwanan nan posted jerin Facebook bidiyo game da lalacewar da batsa ta ɗabi'arsa ta yi wa aurensa, da rayuwarsa, kodayake ba rashin mutuncinsa ba ne. Ya tafi don sake rayuwa. Sauran suna bayar da rahoton dawo da sauri da sauri. "Na ji na fi mai da hankali, na farka, na amince da zamantakewar jama'a, da alaƙa da wasu, na fi sha'awar ayyukan yau da kullun da kuma jin daɗin motsin rai," in ji Church. "Na fara jin waɗannan canje-canje jim kaɗan bayan na daina."
Saboda cin batsa sau da yawa ana yin ta ne bisa ga son zuciya, sabon samfurin NoFap shine maballin gaggawa na kan layi, wanda idan aka danna sai ya ɗauki masu amfani zuwa hoto mai motsawa, bidiyo, labari ko shawara, kamar haka: “PMO ba ma zaɓi bane. Hanyar cin dusar ƙanƙara mai rawaya ba zaɓi bane. Hakan ba ma zai iya shiga cikin tsarin yanke shawara ba. ” Manhajar ta Brainbuddy, wacce aka kirkira bayan wani saurayi dan kasar Australia mai suna David Endacott ya lura da wahalar da yake da shi ga barin batsa, ya gabatar da wasu hanyoyin daban –wani aiki ko bidiyo mai jan hankali. Ba kallon batsa ba ne kawai rabin yakin, in ji shi. Dole ne kwakwalwa ta haɓaka sabbin ƙungiyoyi masu gamsarwa tare da kwamfuta. Kamar Fitbit, app ɗin yana bin diddigin kwanaki masu amfani da suka tafi ba tare da yin al'ada ba. Tana da saukarwa sama da 300,000 kawo yanzu.
Abu daya da waɗannan samari basa bayarwa shine ƙarshen batsa, koda kuwa hakan zai yiwu. "Ba na jin cewa ya kamata a sanya doka ko hana shi ko takura shi," in ji Rhodes. A kowane hali, yin doka game da batsa koyaushe yana cike da damuwa, kuma a yau wannan ba kawai saboda Tsarin Gyara na Farko ba ne amma kuma saboda fasaha. Challengeaya daga cikin ƙalubalen da ke fuskantar shawarar Burtaniya don tilasta shafukan batsa don tabbatar da shekarun masu sayen su shine gano yadda za a yi wannan aiki ba tare da mamaye sirrin manya ba kuma duk da sauƙin da yawancin matasa ke iya lalata matattarar yanar gizo. (Rahotannin sun nuna cewa maziyarta miliyan 1.4 na musamman da ke manyan wuraren a Biritaniya ba su kai shekara 18 a watan Mayun 2015 ba, bayan da masu amfani da intanet suka shiga aikin zabar wuraren.) Kodayake wani shafin yanar gizo na Amurka, Pornhub, ya yi alkawarin bin sababbin dokokin Burtaniya, masana'antar na da shakku game da iƙirarin kiwon lafiya. Rhodes ya ce: "Riko na na 1 game da masana'antar batsa shi ne cewa ba su yarda da dukkan ayyukan dawo da batsa ba," in ji Rhodes. "Da gaske suke ba komai bane." (Pornhub ya ƙi amsa duk wata tambaya game da doka ko damuwa da lafiyar wannan labarin.)
"A matsayinmu na masana masana'antu mun ga abubuwa da yawa na firgita," in ji Mike Stabile, darektan yada labarai na Hadin gwiwar 'Yancin Magana da Hadin gwiwa, kungiyar cinikayyar masana'antun manya da nishadi. “Babu alama babu cikakkiyar cikakkiyar kimiya ta kimiyya. Idan wani abu ya kunsa zai iya haifar da tattaunawa. ” Masana'antar ba ta goyi bayan tsarin Burtaniya da ke sa masu amfani da Intanet su zabi abubuwan da ke cikin manya maimakon ficewa ba, in ji Stabile: "Wadancan matattara na iya toshe hanyoyin shiga kungiyoyin LGBTQ da shafukan ilimin jima'i." Amma wannan shine ainihin samfurin da sanatan jihar Todd Weiler yake fata za ayi amfani da shi a Utah. "Mun canza yadda muka tunkari taba, ba wai ta hanyar hana shi ba amma ta hanyar sanya takunkumi yadda ya kamata," in ji Weiler. Yana son wurare kamar McDonald ta da Starbucks –da ma dakunan karatu - don tace wi-fi nasu domin su zama basu da batsa.
Bayar da shawara ga matasa game da batsa da ba makawa zasu fuskanta, duk da duk abin da aka sanya matatun, shine babbar maƙasudin matasa masu gwagwarmaya. "San shekaru goma sha uku da 14 suna da damar yin amfani da hanyar batsa ta Intanit ba tare da takaitawa ba kafin su gano cewa hakan na iya haifar da lahani," in ji Rhodes. Deem ya nuna cewa ya guji shan hodar iblis saboda an koya masa zai cutar da shi. Yana so a ga ana yin batsa iri ɗaya, tare da makarantu suna koyarwa game da illolin tasirin batsa yayin jima'i. "Zan iya gaya wa ɗana, zan kasance kai tsaye tare da ku, duk abubuwan almara, kamar su batsa ta Intanit, abinci mara daɗi da kwayoyi, na iya zama daɗi da daɗi, na ɗan lokaci," in ji Deem. "Koyaya, suna da damar da za su rage ku da al'amuran al'ada, na al'ada kuma daga ƙarshe kuyi abu ɗaya da kuke tsammanin zasu ba ku, ikon sanin nishaɗi."
Gabatar da batsa don yin jima'i a makaranta zai zama abin nema. Ilimin jima'i ya riga ya haifar da rikice-rikice, kuma makarantun ba sa so su zarge su da gabatar da yara zuwa batsa, ko da kuwa an tabbatar da kimiyyar abubuwan da ke faruwa. Iyaye ma suna jin tsoro don yin magana akan batun, tsoron abin da za a iya tambaya. Amma sha'awa shine aboki; labaran layi na yau da kullum suna zama da ma'anar jima'i da dama ga matasa.
Whitlock, tsohuwar mai koyar da ilimin jima'i, ta ce ta yi mamakin yadda rashin son abokan aikinta su yi magana game da batsa. Ta yi imanin cewa saboda masu koyar da ilimin jima i suna yaƙi da mummunan hoto na jima'i na tsawon lokaci a cikin shekarun kamewa-kawai ilimin, suna da lahani ga duk abin da ke tambayar sha'awar jima'i. Ta gano cewa hatta tambayar ɗalibai da su yi tunani a kan abin da ɗabi'un kallon su ke yi ga lafiyar hauka ya gamu da turawa. "Babu ma'ana a gare ni," in ji ta. "Kamar dai in ce idan kun yi tambaya game da amfanin cin Dunkin Donuts a duk lokacin da kuke 'rashin cin abinci.'
Hanya madaidaiciya don isar da saƙon na iya kasancewa ta kan layi, amma abin ban mamaki, yawancin waɗannan ƙoƙarwar suna gusar da masu lalata batsa. Wannan matsala ce ga Brainbuddy. Mahaliccinsa yana jin yana da mahimmanci a isar da shi ga taron mutane 12 da-manya, amma dole ne masu amfani su wuce shekaru 17 don zazzage shi.
Abin kunya game da batsa na batsa yana sanya neman taimako da wahala, kodayake masana ilimin kimiyyar jijiyoyin jiki sun ce hakan na iya faruwa ga kowa. Sannan akwai kyamar kyama ga samari waɗanda ke magana game da jinsi a cikin al'adun da ke bikin jima'i. Deem da sauran masu ba da shawara sun san suna tafiya cikin halin rashin kulawa, adawa da izgili. Amma ba su damu ba. "Idan wani abu zai canza," in ji Deem, "dole ne ya shigo cikin mutanen da suka ratsa cikin ramuka, wadanda a zahiri suke danna shafuka kuma suna kallon batsa mai wuya lokacin da muke 12."
Daya daga cikin sabbin membobin NoFap (wanda aka fi sani da Fapstronauts), wani mutum mai 30 mai son luwadi kawai yana fara kalubalantar kwanaki 30, ya sanya shi ta wannan hanyar: “Lokacin da na yi tunani game da shi,” in ji shi, “Na ɓata shekaru na na rayuwa neman kwamfuta ko wayar hannu don samar da wani abin da ba zai iya samarwa ba. ”
gyara: Harshen asalin wannan labarin ba daidai ba ne waɗanda suka karɓi biyan kuɗi don shawararsu.
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