Rashin ƙarfi yana ta hauhawa - Daga Arnab Ganguly, Madubi na Mumbai | Mayu 28, 2020
Lalit ya yi ta fama da matsalar watanni da yawa a yanzu. A cikin dangantaka tare da abokin aikinsa na shekaru uku da suka gabata, ɗan shekaru 25 ya sami wahala yin jima'i da abokin aikinsa a 'yan watannin da suka gabata. Da farko, ya kasa yin shimfida a kan gado, a hankali, Lalit ya daina jin sha'awar yin kusanci, duk da cewa yana matukar ƙaunar abokin aikinsa. Me yasa ɗan saurayi mai lafiya, a cikin farkon jima'i, zai sami kansa yana ma'amala da lalata lalata (ED)? Amsar, a cewar likitan ilimin ta, ya zama al'ada da Lalit ya kirkiro tsawon shekaru, daga da yawa kafin ya sadu da budurwarsa ta yanzu. Lalit ya ci tura game da batsa; ya kan yi awanni yana kallon ta, lokacin budurwarsa ba ta kusa.
A asibiti, manyan masu ba da gudummawa ga ED ba su da lafiyar lafiyar jiki, lalata abubuwa da yanayin lafiyar kwakwalwa kamar damuwa, damuwa, gajiya har ma da bacin rai. Amma, sabon makarantar tunani yana ƙirƙirar hanyar haɗi tsakanin wuce gona da iri don kallon batsa da kuma ED. Godiya ga yanar gizon batsa na intanet, yanayin ba ya iyakance ga maza masu matsakaitan shekaru ba tare da motsa jiki ba da kuma rayuwar ƙwararru masu wahala. Yayinda abubuwa kamar rashin daidaituwa na rayuwa, kasancewa mai nauyin jiki, yanayin likita kamar ciwon sukari da sauran batutuwan salon rayuwa suke da tasirinsu
wasa, batsa a hankali yana samun martaba a sanadi.
Alakeka Bharwani mai ilimin tauhidi da tabin hankali ya hadu da marasa lafiya inda kayan batsa zasu zama abin zargi. "Labarin batsa wani yanki ne mai rarrabewa yayin da motsa jiki yake a waje," in ji Bharwani. "Yayin da yake kallon batsa da taba al'aura, mutum yana jin yana da iko. Amma tare da abokin tarayya, ba haka lamarin yake ba, kuma hakan ya kawar da shi, ”in ji ta, ta kara da cewa gaskiyar batsa a sauƙaƙe tana faɗaɗa matsalar.
Dysfunction ya bayyana a lokacin hulɗa tare da abokin tarayya kuma ba yayin kallon batsa ba. Wadanda suke amfani da batsa masu wuce gona da iri, suna samun rabuwar kai tsaye da abokiyar zama tare da abokin zama Sun fara samun wahalar amsa wa abokan hulɗa bukatunsu na jima'i, ko kuma ainihin aikatawar ba ta cika tsammanin batsa mai lalata ba, hakan ya sa ya gamsu. Hakanan akwai wasu waɗanda ke tunanin yadda ake fuskantar tashin hankali kamar yadda ake gani akan yanar gizo, kuma suna fama da damuwa idan aka kwatanta shi da gaskiya.
"Na sami mazaje wadanda zasu iya yin zina da matansu kawai yayin kallon batsa, in ba haka ba ba su da sha'awa. Wannan babban abin kunya ne ga abokin tarayya kuma zai iya kawo karshen alakar juna, ”in ji Pavan Sonar, masanin ilimin hauka da mazinata na asalin Mumbai.
Ba ya taimaka wannan, kamar yadda bincike ya nuna, kallon batsa, lokacin da ya zama al'ada na tilastawa, yana kunna tashoshin kwakwalwa guda ɗaya kamar yadda giya da sauran kwayoyi suke yi. “Kallon hotunan batsa na kara yawan dopamine, kuma kamar yadda dopamine shine mai jiji da kai, yana sanya mutum ya zama abin sha'awar hakan kuma yana sake. A hankali, wannan ya zama al'ada. Kwakwalwa ta zama sharadin da ita. Yin jima'i a cikin rayuwa na ainihi ba ya samar da jin daɗin jin daɗin rayuwa, sannan kuma maza suna da wahala su yi tare da abokan aikinsu, ”in ji Sonar.
Yayin kallon batsa da taba al'aura, mutum yana jin yana cikin iko. Amma tare da abokin tarayya, wannan ba shine batun ba kuma hakan yana cire shi
–Alaokika Bharwani, likitan psychotherapist
Watanni goma sha takwas da suka gabata, Dhananjaya ya yanke shawarar kada ya kalli batsa da al'aura, kuma mai shekaru 33 da haihuwa
ya makale sosai. "Na kalli abubuwa da yawa lokacin da nake ƙuruciya, hakan ya sa ya zama mini wahala."
kunna rai-ainihi, ”in ji shi. "Ba shi da sauki yanke baya. Amma dole ne in iyakance shi. Ya kasance ba da kuɗin kashe kaina
rayuwar aure, sana'ata da sauran abubuwa, ”in ji shi.
Baya ga rantsuwa da batsa, Dhananjaya ya yi canje-canje masu kyau ga salon rayuwarsa. Ya buga wasan motsa jiki sau uku a mako,
yana yin kaya masu nauyi, cardio da zuzzurfan tunani, kuma yana cin kyawawan adadin mutu. Zai fita sosai kuma yana ɗan bata lokaci a ciki
gaban allon.
Shyam Mithiya, masanin ilimin jima'i da kuma mai ba da shawara game da dangantakar, ya ce da yawa daga cikin shekarun 20 zuwa 30 sun kusanci shi da abin da ya kira, "alamomin bayyanar lalacewar laulayi". "Ba su da ED, amma suna tsoron kar su samu," in ji Mithiya. “Kwarewar da suka samu sakamakon yin abubuwa kamar kwatanta kansu da irin abubuwan da ake gani a fina-finan batsa. Hakanan, akwai waɗanda ke da damuwa da kuma damuwa game da ikon gamsar da abokin tarayya a sakamakon kallon batsa. "
Ari ga haka, yawan wuce gona da iri a cikin batsa na iya kawo ƙarshen ƙarshen sadarwa a tsakanin abokan. Ya kara da cewa, "Abin da ake nufi shi ne, mutumin ya manta da fasaha ta karanta harshen jikin abokin nasa," ya kara da cewa
Bharwani.
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