Thaum porn ua ib qho teeb meem (Irish Times). Kev sib deev kws kho mob Trish Murphy, Teresa Bergin, Tony Duffy (2015)

Rachel xav tias nws tau "saib kev sib deev thiab kev saib duab liab qab", ua ntej nws tus khub los ua ib tus neeg liab qab. "Nws rub kuv nqes mus rau hauv ib qho tsaus ua uas ua rau kuv xav tias khib nyiab kuv yuav tsis ntov kuv rov qab ntxuav dua."

Thaum pom nws tus khub los ntawm kev siv sij hawm txhua hnub nyob rau hauv cov chaw liab qab siv cov poj niam, nws tam sim no ntseeg hais tias "kev saib duab liab qab yog ib txoj kev lag luam tsim thiab tswj los ntawm cov txiv neej; qhov twg cov poj niam raug kho zoo li cov nqaij ntuag ntawm cov nqaij. . . lawv tsis muaj lub suab thiab peb tsis ua poj niam. Thiab cov duab liab qab yog hauv txhua chav pw hauv lub teb chaws - ntawm Luas, hauv chav zaum. Nws yog cyber curb-crawling. "

Cov kws kho mob hais tias saib duab liab qab tsis zoo rau cov poj niam. Muaj ntau tus txiv neej uas saib nws kuj raug poob ntawm kev sib deev kev sib raug zoo.

Pornography tsis yog heev raws li thoob plaws raws li qee cov neeg xav (nws feem ntau hais tias kom muaj peb feem ntawm internet tsheb, txawm tias 4 ib xees feem ntau yog ib qho tseeb tiag). Txawm li cas los xij, nws tseem siv tau tam sim no dua li lwm lub sijhawm hauv keeb kwm: muaj rau txhua tus neeg uas muaj smartphone, tablet lossis computer.

Lub sij hawm sab "porn" yog ntawm cov yeeb yaj kiab yeeb yaj kiab, duab thiab cov account ntawm kev sib deev, tsaus ntuj, cov ntsiab lus tsim txom thiab "tsim txom liab qab".

Nyob rau hauv no kawg pawg, cov "neeg raug" feem ntau yog lam, tab sis cov duab liab qab kuj muaj cov khoom uas cov neeg tuaj koom tau yuam kom koom nrog: cov European sab hnub tuaj muaj qhov phem tshaj cov ntaub ntawv nyob rau hauv no hais txog, raws li anthropologist Laura Agustin.

'Rape porn'

Ntawm qhov sib txawv, yog li "porno" porn, uas cov koom ua muaj kev ncaj ncees, kev ua hauj lwm hauv kev mob nkeeg muaj nyob hauv los ntawm qee qhov Californian cov chaw them nyiaj. "Amateur" - qhov ua yeeb yaj kiab hauv tsev - yeeb yaj duab yog lwm daim ntawv, tab sis cov "amateurs" yuav yog cov neeg koom ua ke.

Txawm tias qee qhov porn qhov chaw them nyiaj rau kev siv, tsis yog cov me me los sis cov ntaub ntawv nyuab siab tsis yooj yim. Kev tshawb nrhiav hauv internet rau "rape porn" muaj cov nplooj ntawv tau los. Cov khoom no yog nyob rau ntawm qhov tsaus ntuj nti ntawm cov duab liab qab, tab sis porn yuav siv ntau hom thiab feem ntau pib ua kom txaus.

Ntawm lub tsheb ciav hlau ua hauj lwm, kuv ua tim khawv ob ntiav tsev kawm ntawv hauv tsev thaum lawv taug kev los ntawm kev xyaum hockey - ib tug tub thiab ib tug ntxhais hauv nkawm thom khwm.

Raws li lawv saib ntawm tus tub lub iPhone, ib tug series ntawm nws tus liab liab selfies pops. Tus ntxhais grabs tus xov tooj, swipes hauv cov duab thiab hawv kom xa lawv mus rau nws tus phooj ywg. Nws sim ua kom nws rov qab. Tus ntxhais qhov kev sib txuam blasee qhia nws tau pom qhov no ua ntej. Cov no yog cov me nyuam faib cov uas lawv tsis paub yog ib kauj ruam deb ntawm cov duab liab qab.

"Tus neeg hluas coob dua pom, qhov zoo dua li qub," hais tias Teresa Bergin, tus kws kho mob uas ua haujlwm nrog cov tub hluas ntxhais hluas. "Teenagers" lub hlwb mas tshwj xeeb tshaj yog yas, "nws hais.

Bergin treats cov txiv neej nyob rau hauv lawv cov laus cov hluas thiab ntxov 20s nrog erectile kawg tshwm sim los ntawm kev nruam hyper-arousal ntawm cov duab liab qab. Tsis tau hais txog qhov tseeb rau cov poj niam tiag tiag, lawv nrhiav kev khaus "tshiab" los ua qhov tsis sib haum, uas tsis tuaj yeem sib piv nrog lub neej tiag tiag, nws hais tias.

Distorted saib ntawm poj niam txiv neej "Lub hlwb hluas yog thaum nws ncov ntawm dopamine ntau lawm thiab neuroplasticity," hais tias Bergin. "Nws ua rau lub hlwb yeej lam tau lam ua rau quav tshuaj. . . thiab cov tub hluas no tau raug yuam kev txog kev sib daj sib deev nrog tag nrho cov kev sib ze raug coj tawm ntawm nws. "

“Cov tub hluas raug kev sib daj sib deev txawv tam sim no dhau los. Qee qhov pom tias lub cev tsis tuaj yeem sib deev. Rau lawv, kev siv ntau uas lawv pom ntawm lub vijtsam tsis tuaj yeem ua ke. Lawv nias rau ntawm cov duab ua muaj zog thiab muaj zog, hla ntawm cov kab lis kev cai qub thiab mus rau thaj chaw xws li S&M. "

Cov hluas tsim teeb meem, tiam sis kev saib duab liab qab tau ua ib feem ntawm peb qhov kev xav ntawm kev sib deev thiab yog ib qho ntawm txhua pawg hnub nyoog.

Irish Times tsis ntev los no tau tshawb nrhiav hauv online ntawm Irish neeg txoj kev nyiam deev. Txawm hais tias qhov no yog ib qho kev tshawb fawb los ntawm nws tus kheej, nws cov ntsiab lus yuav tsum tau pom los ntawm qhov tseem ceeb tshaj, 83 ib xees ntawm cov neeg teb rau daim ntawv soj ntsuam tau hais tias lawv tau saib cov duab liab qab, xws li 99 ntawm ib nrab ntawm cov txiv neej uas muaj hnub nyoog 17-34.

In Irish Times Daim ntawv soj ntsuam ntawm kev sib deev, ib qho tseem ceeb ntawm cov tub ntxhais hluas (17 per cent ntawm lawv hnub nyoog 17-24) hais tias lawv siv porn txhua hnub. Ib feem peb ntawm poj niam cov neeg tau pom porn, thiab 1 ib txhia ntawm cov poj niam tau pom nws txhua hnub.

Rau cov neeg siv hnyav, kev saib duab liab qab yuav ua rau tsis zoo. "Rau cov neeg uas siv nws txhua hnub, lawv cov kev siv porn yuav yog ib qho ua rau cov teeb meem loj loj," hais tias Trish Murphy, psychotherapist thiab Irish sij hawm columnist. "Nws feem ntau siv lawv cov kev xav thiab lub neej thiab lawv yuav pom tias nws nyuaj heev kom ua rau txoj kev coj cwj pwm."

Margaret Dunne, ib tug poj niam kws kho mob, hais tias: "Porn muaj mob txaus ntshai tiag tiag kev sib deev los ntawm kev tsim kev puas tsuaj thiab kev ua rau kev sib raug zoo. Nws nyhav heev rau cov txiv neej lub siab nyiam. Porn saib feem ntau yuav ua kom tiav nyob rau hauv daim card thiab thiaj li ua rau lub siab ntawm kev ntxeev siab thaum tus neeg pom tawm. "

Dunne kho cov neeg tsis muaj porn uas "mob siab khov qis mus rau kev tiv thaiv, uas ua rau tus txiv neej muaj teeb meem nrog tus erection nrog nws tus khub.

"Kev saib duab liab qab yeej tseem yog ib qho kev ua tsis tau zoo," hais tias psychotherapist Brendan Madden. "Qhov no qhia txog qhov kev saib duab liab qab uas nws yog ib lub sijhawm zoo rau kev xav thiab xav txog kev nkag mus rau kev sib deev nrog lwm tus thiab kev ua haujlwm hauv kev sib deev uas tsis muaj nyob rau hauv lub neej tiag tiag."

Kev sib deev thiab kev sib raug zoo nrog tus kws kho mob Tony Duffy tseem pom porn siv cov txiv neej muaj peev xwm los ua kev sib deev hauv lub ntiaj teb.

Cov neeg ua haujlwm hauv thaj chaw ntawm kev sib daj sib deev obviously tau ntsib qhov phem tshaj plaws, tab sis lawv hais tias lawv pom lawv nrog kev ua raws cai.

"Kev sib deev rau porn yog qhov tshwm sim ntau dua thiab kuv xav tias kev sib deev ntau tus kws kho mob yuav pom zoo. Ntau tus txiv neej yog siv ntau lub sij hawm tshuaj ntsuam interacting nrog porn, thiab qhov no yog teeb meem ntawm kev sib deev tus cwj pwm, "Duffy hais.

Puas yog kev saib duab liab qab ib txwm tsis zoo? Tsis tas. Ib nrab ntawm cov neeg uas tau teb peb daim ntawv ntsuam xyuas (saib phab 2) lawv hais tias lawv tsis ntseeg tias pornography cuam tshuam txog kev sib deev hauv lub neej.

Thiab Teresa Bergin hais tias thaum lub sijhawm kev sib deev yog cov pom kev loj loj hauv cov teeb meem kev sib deev tshwm sim los ntawm porn, nws tsis yog ib txwm ua kom puas. "Nws muaj qee cov kev qhia rau cov neeg uas tsis muaj kev kawm txog kev sib daj sib deev, zoo li feem ntau ntawm cov pejxeem, thiab cov tub ntxhais hluas tau hais tias lawv tau kawm ntau yam hauv lawv txoj kev hlub, thaum ob niam txiv uas saib porn ua ke hais tias nws tuaj yeem pab tsim lub siab ntawm taug txuj kev nyuaj, ntev li ntev tau ob leeg pom zoo. "

Kev sib deev ntawm poj niam txiv neej Emily Power Smith hais tias nws yuav muaj kev lom zem rau cov poj niam zoo li rau cov txiv neej. "Keeb kwm, cov poj niam tsis tshua twv porn vim muaj dab tsi muaj. Pw lub ntsiab lus yog thiab tseem muaj kev yaum kom cov menyuam yau nruab nrab ntawm cov txiv neej ncaj ncaj.

"Txawm li cas los, qhov no hloov nrog ib tug tshiab yoj suab ntawm" feminist porn ", nrog ib zaj dab neeg, thiab kev sib deev uas muaj cov poj niam muaj orgasms tiag tiag. Cov duab yeeb yaj kiab tau tsim, uas txhais tau hais tias txhua tus neeg tau txais kev pab zoo, noj qab haus huv thiab tsis nyob hauv nws vim kev yuam los yog quab yuam. Ntau cov poj niam thiab cov txiv neej xav tau kev pab no porn kom lawv muaj peev xwm txaus siab rau nws dawb los ntawm kev txhawj xeeb lossis kev txaj muag. "

Cov poj niam hauv kev pom zoo tuaj yeem saib xyuas nws ua ke los txhim kho lawv cov kev sib raug zoo (tus Irish sij hawm daim ntawv ntsuam xyuas qhia ntau dua Irish khub niam txiv siv nws ua li no).

Tsis yog txhua tus niam txiv tuaj yeem ua qhov haujlwm no, hais tias Bergin. "Kev sib txheeb ntawm kev ua kom sib deev ntawm kev saib duab liab qab yuav raug rau cov khub niam txiv uas twb tau zoo nyob hauv lawv cov kev sib deev. Yog hais tias ob leeg koom tes tsis sib luag rau cov porn thiab ib tug ntawm lawv xav tias nws yuav ua teeb meem, ces cov nyhuv tuaj yeem tsis zoo. "

Dunne hais ntxiv tias: "Kev siv duab liab qab kom muaj kev sib raug zoo thaum kev libido tsis muaj peev xwm yuav zoo yog tias ob tug neeg xav saib nws [tabsis] thaum nws tawm mus thiab saib nws ib leeg, muaj daim ntaub thaiv ntawm kev txaj muag thiab kev txaj muag."

Secrecy Dermod Moore, ib tus kws kho mob uas ua hauj lwm nrog kev sib deev, pom zoo tias kev ceev faj yog qhov teeb meem tseem ceeb. Watching porn yuav yog ib qho kev zoo siab, tsuav yog nws tau sib tham.

"Kuv lub ntsiab lus yog tias tsis yog saib duab liab qab ua tsis zoo; nws yog tias txhua yam uas tsis tau sib tham tau ua tsis zoo. Muaj ntau nqe lus hais txog nws txoj haujlwm, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog los ntawm feminists; tab sis dab tsi yog tsis los ntawm ob qho tib si kab lis kev cai thiab nyob rau hauv peb ntiag tug kev sib raug zoo yog [kev sib tham ntawm] qhov kev xav ntawm nws muaj rau peb. "

Rachel - uas pom tau tias tsis muaj leej twg nkag siab tau yog tias lawv nyob hauv nws qhov teeb meem ntawm kev ua neej nrog kev sib deev nrog kev sib deev - poob nws tus khub, nws lub tsev thiab tau tawm hauv kev ua neej nrog cov menyuam yaus tom qab siv kaum tawm txhiab tus euro hauv kev cai lij choj rau nws tus kheej ntawm qhov yuav tshwm sim ntawm kev sib daj sib deev uas nws tus khub tseem tsis kam. Nws xav tias nws yuav tsis cia siab rau leej twg txaus los hlub dua.

"Lawv ua raws li koj lub qhov ntswg ntawm lawv lub laptops thiab cov xov tooj. Nws yog txoj kev dag - txawm tias thaum pom tau, tsis muaj kev tsis sib haum xeeb, lawv nyob ntawm kev khav theeb ntawd txij li ntawd.

"Thiab nws escalates raws li lawv mus rau hauv ntau thiab ntau cov ntaub ntawv, ces tig mus rau yuav khoom ntawm cov poj niam rau poj niam txiv neej."

Rachel nrhiav tau nws tus khub siv cov pojniam cev nqaij daim tawv tom qab nws muab nws ua kab mob kis los ntawm kev sib deev. Hers yog ib zaj dab neeg, tab sis zoo ib yam li tau rov qab rau kuv ntau zaus hauv kev xam phaj nrog kev sib deev kws kho mob rau hauv tsab xov xwm no. Lawv hais tias nws tsis yog qhov txawv txav rau kev saib duab liab qab ua lub qhov rooj mus ua niam ntiav.

"Tom qab pib ntawm lub xov tooj liab, nws xaus rau cov lus teb tawm rau qhov 'zaws nrog ib tus zoo siab kawg'," hais tias Dunne.

"Hauv kev kho, txiv neej yuav qhia rau koj tias lawv yuav tsis tau npaj siab mus rau qhov kev ntawd," hais tias Dunne. "Yog tias koj tuaj yeem qhia tau lawv daim duab rau hnub lawv pib ua ntej ntawm txoj kev no, ntawm cov duab liab qab thiab kev yuam deev lawv yuav xaus rau hnub lawv tab tom kho, lawv yuav xav tsis thoob."

Kev sib tham qhib Lub 11 ntawm ib nrab ntawm cov txiv neej siv cov porn txhua hnub yuav tsum nug lawv tus kheej. "Txhua hnub siv txhais tau hais tias koj yog ib tus neeg muaj kev sib daj sib deev los yog ntawm txoj kev los ua kev sib deev," hais tias lwm tus kws kho mob uas ua haujlwm hauv ib lub tsev kho mob loj.

Ntawm qhov teeb meem nws treats yog kis tau ntxiv vim kev ua haujlwm tsis zoo los ntawm porn, thiab kev nyuaj siab nyob rau hauv cov poj niam uas nws tau koom nrog kev tso cai rau lawv hauv kev nyiam ntawm porn online. Nws tau muaj cov neeg uas tau poob haujlwm vim hais tias lawv tau porn-obsessed lawv ua tsis ntawm "ncaj ncees kev txiav txim siab".

"Lawv nyob hauv ib lub ntiaj teb thib ob ntawm lawv tus kheej thiab ua rau lawv tsis tshua los ntawm lub neej tiag tiag uas lawv poob tsev, hauj lwm thiab tsev. Nws tsis yog ib qho chaw dhia loj los pib siv niam ntiav, qws ua si thiab kim sib tham sib kim. Qhov ntxaum lawv mus tsawg dua qhov kev xyiv fab thiab ib txhia muaj plaub los yog tsib 'affairs' mus tib lub sijhawm ntawm lub tuam txhab credit card, "nws hais.

"Lawv cov poj niam koom nrog yog tag nrho thiab utterly tawg. Koj yuav yog ib qho dej cawv lossis ib tus twv txiaj thiab muaj qee qhov kev lees txais ntawm, tabsis kev tiv thaiv kev sib daj sib deev sib txawv yog qhov txawv txav ntawm kev txaj muag kom tsis muaj leej twg hais txog nws, ua rau tus txiv neej thiab poj niam cais tawm. "

Qhov "kev saib tsis taus thiab kev tsis ncaj ncees" ntawm cov poj niam, muab cov tub thiab cov txiv neej "ib qho cuam tshuam txog kev sib deev thiab kev sib raug zoo", hais tias Dunne.

"Kuv tau hnov ​​cov menyuam kawm ntawv qib nrab hais tias lawv tus hluas nkauj yog qhov ntxim heev. Lawv nrhiav tau tias thaum lawv xav kom muaj kev sib raug zoo thiab kev sib raug zoo, kev saib duab liab qab yuav cuam tshuam lawv tus hluas nkauj cov kev cia siab ntawm kev sib deev. "

cov Irish sij hawm Daim ntawv soj ntsuam ntawm kev sib deev qhia ntau tus tub hluas tam sim no tseem siv cov porn los kawm txog kev sib deev. Tsib caum plaub feem pua ​​ntawm 17-24-xyoo-laus tus txiv neej tau hais tias lawv pom porn "instructional", uas yog qhov kev txhawj xeeb ntawm Margaret Dunne.

Qhov no, nws hais tias, tawm tsam "ib tug heev messed li lub tswv yim ntawm dab tsi kev sib raug zoo thiab kev sib deev yog txog. Tam sim no muaj qhov tiag tiag uas tam sim no hais tias cov txiv neej hluas cov ntawv kev sib deev yuav dhau los cuam tshuam ntau heev, thiab cuam tshuam los ntawm kev siv porn ntau. "

Porn qhia neeg txog kev pw ua ke, tab sis tsis yog ib txwm nyob hauv ib txoj kev zoo, hais tias Madden. "Cov neeg kawm ntau yam ntawm kev saib duab liab qab thiab nws tseem siv ntau tshaj qhov qhia ntawm kev sib deev nyob hauv nruab nrab. Kev saib duab liab qab nyob online hauv kev ua plees ua yig uas yog qhov tseeb ntawm kev sib daj sib deev uas yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws kev tsis ncaj thiab nyob rau qhov phem tshaj plaws kom coj tus cwj pwm phem. Rau cov tub ntxhais hluas, hauv particular, nws yuav nyuaj rau qhov txawv ntawm lawv. "

Moore cov lus hais tias: "Rau tag nrho cov kev ywj pheej uas hauv internet tau coj ntau lub xyoo dhau los, kuv tsis paub tseeb tias peb nyob hauv Ireland yog nyob qhov twg ntawm qhov chaw uas peb tuaj yeem sib tham txog kev sib deev thiab / lossis cov duab liab qab ntawm kev noj qab nyob zoo.

"Peb tsis txhob tham hauv Irish kab lis kev cai uas yog kev sib deev-zoo; uas kuv hais ncaj ncees thiab ncaj qha. Yog muaj ntau ntawm nws txog; nws yog nyob rau hauv xov xwm, tab sis qhov nyuaj tshaj plaws ntawm tag nrho, nws zoo li, yog coj li lub npe ntawm poj niam txiv neej nyob rau hauv ib txoj kev uas tsis comic, los yog txaj muag, los yog xav tau Dutch siab tawv kom nws nyob. Siv tag nrho cov txiv neej tau siv porn; muaj pes tsawg leej tau sib tham txog, qhib? "

Nrhiav cov dab neeg

Kate Holmquist tab tom nrhiav nyiaj ntawm cov duab liab qab siv los ntawm cov neeg Irish. Qhia koj qhov kev paub tsis pub lwm tus paub los ntawm email tellkate@irish times.com