Ib qho teeb meem yog vim li cas cov millennials tsis muaj kev sib daj sib deev dua lawv cov niam txiv yog txog kev coj cwj pwm uas lawv kawm ntawm Is Taws Nem. Tam sim no muaj ib pab pawg tau sim 'reboot' lawv lub siab
"Volakov", raws li nws tau paub ntawm lub rooj sib tham - thiab nws tsis xav tau lwm yam kev qhuab qhia tau tawm - yog 18-xyoo-laus uas muaj teeb meem. Nws tsis tuaj yeem muaj erection nrog tus hluas nkauj uas nws hlub. Nws qhov teeb meem tsis yog lub cev. Tsis yog nws yog ib qho teeb meem kev xav xws li kev ntxhov siab ntawm kev kawm. Qhov laj thawj Volakov tsis muaj zog, nws ntseeg, yog is taws nem internet.
Thiab nws tsis yog ib leeg xwb. Volakov yog ib qho ntawm ntau dua 200,000 cov tswv cuab ntawm NoFap - "fap" yog ib qho sib txawv ntawm Amelikas "wank" - ib lub zej zog hauv internet uas sim kov yeej cov teeb meem zoo li no. Qhov ua rau ntawm Volakov tus nyuab siab yog li porn ntxias erectile kawg, ib tug 21st xyoo pua qhov teeb meem kev sib deev whereby cov txiv neej tsuas yog ua tau los yog tswj tau ib qho erection masturbating rau liab qab, tab sis tsis nrog ib tus khub tiag tiag. Thiab tus mob no tsis yog qhov teeb meem xwb. Kev ncua sij hawm ejaculation, kev ploj zuj zus, thiab qhov kev qia ntawm qhov chaw mos no yog qee yam ntawm lwm cov tsos mob ntawm lub cev, nrog rau cov teeb meem ntawm lub hlwb xws li kev ntxhov siab, tsis muaj kev siab ntsws thiab kev nyuaj siab.
Ib tug tub hluas uas mus dhau tag nrho cov teeb meem no yog tus founder ntawm NoFap nws tus kheej, 26-xyoo laus Alexander Rhodes, los ntawm Pennsylvania. Rhodes thawj zaug rau porn yog ib tug 11-xyoo-laus tub loj hlob tuaj hauv lub Nineties. Thaum caij nthwv dej ntawm lub vev xaib, nws tau pom ib tus poj niam hauv lub simulated rape scenario. Rhodes lub porn siv ceev nrooj ntawm nws lub npe hu ua "laughable" hauv internet tshawb nrhiav cov duab xws li "ob txhais ceg" lossis "lub plab" mus saib hardcore porn yeeb yaj duab rau cov sij hawm ntawm kev xaus - ntawm ib qho taw qhia 14 zaug hauv ib hnub. Rhodes lub porn siv sai sai no thiaj li mob siab heev hais tias nws lub cev injuring nws tus kheej. "Kuv sim noj ib so rau ib hnub kom cia kuv raug mob kom zoo thiab kuv tsis tuaj yeem nres rau ib hnub. Kuv tsuas yog masturbated los ntawm qhov mob. "
Hauv nws thawj zaug kev ua neej muaj kev sib deev, Rhodes tau ntxhov siab vim nws nrhiav tsis tau nws tus kheej. Nyob rau tom ntej ntsib nws pom nws yuav tsuas yog tiv los ntawm fantasizing txog porn tab sis txawm ces tsis muaj peev xwm orgasm. Thaum kawg, paub tias nws muaj ib qho teeb meem, Rhodes tig mus rau hauv internet rau kev pab tab sis pom tsis muaj dab tsi txog nws tej kev paub. Nws pib xo npe ntawm cov txiv neej txoj kev noj qab nyob zoo thiab kev txhawb tus kheej kom zoo thiab sai tau pom muaj coob tus txiv neej uas muaj qhov teeb meem zoo li no. Muaj tsis muaj qhov chaw tshwj xeeb los sib tham txog lub ncauj lus, yog li nyob rau hauv 2011 Rhodes teem NoFap, ib pawg ntawm kev sib tham xov xwm Reddit. "Kuv yog expecting, zoo li yim neeg," hais Rhodes. "Fifty, tops." Instead of cov naj npawb thawj tau "heev alarming" thiab cov pabcuam hauv Sub-Reddit hlob tuaj.
Tsa ncaj qha rau tsib xyoo thiab NoFap muaj ntau dua 200,000 cov tswvcuab, lossis "Fapstronauts", thiab tsuas yog ib qho ntawm ntau cov zejzog hauv online. Cov chaw no tsis tsuas yog ib qhov chaw los qhia cov teeb meem tab sis kuj, lawv thov, daws: "rebooting".
Kev ua ub no yuav tsum txwv tsis pub porn; porn thiab masturbation; lossis porn, kev dag siab thiab kev pw ua ke, los ntawm lub sijhawm 90 hnub lossis ntev dua. "Rebooters" hais tias ntev abstinence los ntawm liab qab thiab tom qab "rewiring" ntawm lawv lub hlwb (li no lub sij hawm rebooting) kho tag nrho lawv cov teeb meem, txawm impotence. Cov neeg siv cov lus tsis txaus siab rau lawv cov kev xav nrog cov neeg sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus, tiam sis tseem nrog lub neej feem ntau, txawm tias lo lus "superpowers" rau lawv qhov kev muaj peev xwm ua kom zoo, koom nrog zej zog thiab siv lawv tus kheej mus rau lwm yam kev ua.
Lub tswv yim ntawm rebooting rests rau ib co tsis-tag-tsim neuroscience tying ua ke qhov nce accessibility thiab txom tsis muaj porn nrog neural hloov desensitising tus txiv neej lub paj hlwb rau kev sib deev stimuli. Qhov no ua rau lawv mus nrhiav kev yooj yim dua thiab haj yam "hits" thiab tso lawv txias rau kev ua neej nyob hauv lub ntiaj teb uas tsis ua neej nyob raws li lawv qhov kev xav ntawm cov dej porn.
Qhov kev tshawb fawb tseem muaj kev sib cav tseem yog cov qauv ntawm kev quav yeeb quav tshuaj uas feem ntau mus nrog nws. Tab sis txawm yog tsis muaj pov thawj, qhov pov thawj anecdotal yog kev txhim kho. Ib tus kws tshaj li uas tau pom thawj zaug yog Robert Weiss, tus sau txog kev sib daj sib deev thiab tus lwm tswj hwm ntawm tus Thawj Coj Kev Noj Qab Haus Huv, lub koom haum thoob plaws Tebchaws Asmeslivkas uas saib xyuas kev coj tus cwj pwm. Kev sib deev, leej twg tau kho kev sib daj sib deev ntau dua 20 xyoo, tau pom muaj cov tub ntxhais hluas uas muaj teeb meem hauv porn nrog nce ntawm zero-quarter rau tag nrho nws cov neeg mob, yam tsawg kawg yog ib nrab ntawm cov teeb meem ntawm erectile kawg.
Thaum nug nws yog tias nws xav tias kev ua lub zog erectile kawg yog qhov tshwm sim tiag tiag, Weiss hais tias: "Yog kiag li, yog tias koj siv lub siab ntawm kev siv internet liab qab ua rau koj tsuas yog ua kom muaj lub zog tshwm sim, koj tab tom tsoo koj lub hlwb. xws li dopamine qib siab, thiab xws li qib siab ntawm kev cia siab nyob ib ncig ntawm kev sib deev yog dab tsi, tom qab ntawd thaum koj nkag mus rau qhov tiag, uas tuaj yeem hnov tsw me ntsis, ntub me ntsis thiab tsis xis nyob me ntsis, nws zoo li - Kuv xav tsuas saib kuv porn xwb. " Weiss kuj tseem taw qhia tias qhov teeb meem tshiab no txawv ntawm kev sib daj sib deev ib txwm muaj sib deev uas feem ntau cuam tshuam rau qhov mob thaum ntxov xws li kev ua phem rau kev sib deev. Hloov chaw, raws li Weiss, cov kws kho mob tau pom ntau dua li lwm tus txiv neej hluas noj qab haus huv nrog kev txhawb nqa zoo hloov mus rau porn ua ib txoj hauv kev kom dim ntawm txoj kev nyuaj ntawm lub neej tiag tiag.
Tab sis qhov teeb meem tsis meej rau cov hluas ib leeg zaum ib leeg hauv lawv chav pw. Cov txiv neej laus hauv kev sib raug zoo ruaj khov, thiab lawv cov neeg koom tes, nce mus rau hauv cov chaw sib tham nrhiav kev pab. Ib tus neeg rov ua haujlwm, tus txiv neej sib yuav nrog cov menyuam uas sau lub npe “Sender”, piav qhia txog nws kev saib xyuas porn cia nws siv nws tus poj niam li cas “porn fantasy prop”. Nws hais tias, "Kuv tsis tuaj yeem muaj lub orgasm tshwj tsis yog tias nws tsis ntsib kuv," nws hais. "Qhov ntawd thab kuv ntev." Lwm daim ntawv sib tham hauv daim ntawv tshaj tawm yog 49-xyoo-laus Dutch tus poj niam thiab niam ntawm peb tus uas siv lub npe Volpool. Volpool cov ntaub ntawv nws 44-xyoo-laus tus khub txoj kev tawm tsam nrog porn kev vam khom rau ntawm lub rooj sab laj Reboot Nation. Nws hais tias, "Nws tau quaj koj tus kheej," nws hais. “Paub hais tias koj tus khub nyiam porn rau koj. Nws nyuaj heev uas yuav daws tau. "
Tab sis qhov teeb meem tsis yog rau cov poj niam los ua ke. Muaj coob leej tuaj koom nrog cov rooj sib tham nrog lawv cov teeb meem porn liab, nrog rau cov poj niam lub npe ntawm cov porn-vim raug erectile kawg uas muaj lub cev tsis muaj peev xwm tswj tuav tsis tau kev pab cuam porn.
Ib tug poj niam 'fapstronaut' yog 29 xyoo-laus-laus Sami Kiley ntawm Georgia. Nws zaj dab neeg yog zoo li feem ntau ntawm cov txiv neej zog. Nws tau mus pib los ntawm thawj zaug tuaj porn thaum muaj hnub nyoog 12 los sneaking ob peb feeb hauv tsev neeg lub computer hauv nws cov hluas thaum ntxov. Nws siv porn siv zog thaum nws tau txais nws lub computer thiab high-speed internet. Nws xav saib porn ob peb xuab moos nyob rau hauv ib lub sij hawm kom txog thaum nws pib tawm tsam nws txoj kev kawm thiab nws txoj kev sib raug zoo. "Nws tau pib ua rau kuv xav tias kuv tsis xav zoo," Kiley hais. "Nws hloov kuv cov kev xav txog poj niam txiv neej. Txhua yam yog pornified. Kuv yeej tsis xav tias kuv muaj qhov tshwj xeeb txuas qhov twg koj muaj kev sib deev thiab tiag tiag txog rau lwm tus. "
Kiley txiav txim siab txiav tawm liab qab nyob rau lub rau hli ntuj tom qab koom nrog NoFap. Zoo li ntau tus kws kho mob, nws txoj kev siv porn tau nce mus rau qhov chaw uas nws tau saib yeeb yaj kiab uas tsis txawm tias nws tus cwj pwm sib deev, tsuas yog mus nrhiav tus tshiab ntaus. "Kuv xav tias zoo li kuv tau tsiv deb ntawm kuv tus kheej kev nyiam kev sib deev, kuv tau qias neeg rau kuv tus kheej. Kuv zaum muaj thiab quaj thiab hais tias, qhov no yog qhov txaus. Kuv xav nres qhov no tam sim no. "
Poj niam rebooters ua dua tsawg dua 5 ib xees ntawm lub zej zog NoFap, tab sis feem ntau cov neeg ntseeg tau tias cov lej uas pom hauv cov forums yog qhov ntxeev ntawm daim ntawv ntsej muag. Muaj qee leej ntseeg tias qhov teeb meem ntawm kev sib thim hauv internet, yog tias tsis tshuav txoj kev tshawb nrhiav, muaj peev xwm tig tag nrho ib tiam neeg tawm ntawm kev sib deev. Ib qho ntawm cov no yog tus tsim ntawm Reboot Nation, Gabe Deem, ib tug 28-yim-xyoo-laus tus txiv neej uas raug kev txom nyem los ntawm qhov porn-vim raug erectile kawg li ntawd nws coj nws ob xyoos kom zoo. Raws li Deem: "Koj yuav muaj ib tiam neeg ntawm tag nrho cov neeg uas yuav tsum tau saib lwm tus neeg sib deev ntawm kev tshuaj ntsuam kom muaj peev xwm sib deev nrog tus neeg tiag tiag."
Muaj cov pov thawj qhia tias Deem tus taw tes yog ntau dua qhov hyperbole xwb. Ib txoj kev tshawb fawb Canadian tsis muaj peev xwm nrhiav tau ib tug txiv neej uas tsis tau saib dua porn. Thiab kev kawm Japanese ua rau cov me nyuam me poob qis pom tau hais tias qhov thib tsib ntawm tag nrho cov tub ntxhais hluas, thaum lawv nug tias lawv nyiam nrog kev sib deev nrog tus khub tiag tiag, hais tias tsis yog, lawv tau zoo siab nrog cov porn.
Qhov tseeb ntawm qhov teeb meem yuav tsis paub txog xyoo tuaj tab sis txhua tus pom zoo tias cov kev daws teeb meem yuav tsum tau ua tam sim no. Ib txhia xav pauv ntawm porn, xws li Volpool, uas taw rau qhov tsis sib haum ntawm peb kev kho mob porn thiab lwm yam kev pab cuam xws li kev quav dej caw. "Lub khw cawv tsis tuaj rau kuv lub tsev ob zaug ib lub lim tiam kom tawm suab ntawm npias txhua qhov chaw rau qhov twg kuv cov me nyuam nrhiav tau lawv. Qhov ntawd yog yam ua rau kuv ntxhov siab heev - nws yog qhov txhia chaw. "
Lwm tus, zoo li Rhodes, tsis pom zoo, thiab siv tus qauv cawv los taw tes rau cov teeb meem cuam tshuam nrog kev txwv. Rhodes xav pom thiab paub zoo dua hauv tsev kawm ntawv. Raws li Deem, leej twg porn porn thiab nws cov teebmeem rau cov zaub mov qua ntxi thiab cov kev mob ntsws rog tam sim no yog tackled hauv cov tsev kawm ntawv.
Tseem, hais tias Weiss, kev sib deev kev kawm tsuas yog mus kom deb li deb. Nws ntseeg hais tias cov niam txiv muaj lub luag haujlwm tseem ceeb ua si - tab sis ua ntej, nws hais tias, peb xav tau kev hloov ntawm kev ua niam txiv saib lawv cov menyuam lub neej nrog kev pw ua ke. "Peb xav tau cov niam txiv los piav tias porn tsis yog lub neej tiag," said Weiss. "Tiam sis peb nyob rau hauv ib kab lis kev cai uas tsis muaj leej twg xav xav txog kuv tus me nyuam tub los yog tus ntxhais ua txoj hauj lwm ntawd. Cov hnub uas cov niam txiv tau hais, 'Kuv tus me nyuam yuav tsis ua li ntawd' lawm. Txhua tus menyuam yaus saib porn. Peb yuav tsum tau tig mus txog qhov ntawd thiab mus rau. "
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