Jason tsis ntseeg tias nws tuaj rau qhov no: Nws yog dag hauv txaj, liab qab, nrog ib tug poj niam zoo nkauj - thiab nws tsis tuaj yeem qhib. Nws tus kheej tau piav qhia "txiv yawg horny heev," uas nws lub npe tau raug hloov vim tsis pub leej twg paub, vim thaum kawg nws tus poj niam tom qab tsib hnub kev sib daj sib deev - tab sis tam sim no hais tias ob tug yeej muaj intertwined, nws yog dab tsi tab sis stimulated.
Tsis tau, Jason tsis tau tsim ib qho teeb meem ntawm 11th-teev kev sib deev theem kev ntshai. Nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, nws qhov teeb meem yog heev rov qab: Nws tau saib ntau porn. Txhawm rau nws tus kheej-paub-thaum-poj niam-yuav-ua rau ib lub neej, tus 36-xyoo-laus kws tshuaj sawv cev tau nws cov porn kom tsawg kawg ib zaug ib hnub. "Kuv siv kev qhuas kuv tus kheej rau ntawm kuv lub peev xwm kev sib daj sib deev, tab sis thaum kuv pib masturbating mus rau ntau porn, Kuv tuaj yeem feem ntau tsuas yog tau txais ib nrab ntawm cov neeg koom nrog tiag," piav qhia cov neeg nyob sab hnub tuaj.
Jason tsis yog tib tug txiv neej uas poob tus neeg raug tsim txom rau qhov teeb meem no. Lub Xya hli ntuj 2014 kawm los ntawm Phau Tsom Cai Kev Noj Qab Haus Huv ntawm Asmeskas Psychiatry pom hais tias txiv neej muaj hnub nyoog 21 rau 45 leej twg saib ntau porn - txhais tau li plaub teev ib lim piam - muaj tsawg dua kev ua hauv cheeb tsam ntawm lub hlwb uas muaj feem xyuam nrog kev sib deev tshaj li cov neeg uas tau saib tsawg dua. Tsis tas li ntawd, 2013 daim ntawv ntsuam xyuas los ntawm cov ntawv xov xwm Christian Post pom tias ntau dua 50 feem pua ntawm cov porn-watchers hauv Internet qhia txog kev txaus siab rau kev sib deev nrog lawv tus khub. "Cov kws pab tswv yim txog kev sib deev pom tau ntau dua cov neeg mob uas tau tso siab rau cov porn - leej twg xav tau - kom tau txais kev txhawj xeeb hauv lub neej tiag tiag," hais tias tus kws ntsuam xyuas poj niam thiab kev sib raug zoo Yvonne Fulbright.
Yog li, vim li cas qhov txuas ntxiv-porn-tsawg-horny kev twb kev txuas ntawm lub siab? Tsaug rau hauv Internet, nws yooj yim dua puas tau mus saib porn, yog li ntawd ntau tus neeg tau saib nws. Txawm tias cov neeg tsis tshua lees los saib nws ntau npaum li lawv ua tau, 66 feem pua ntawm cov txiv neej thiab 41 feem pua ntawm cov poj niam saib nws tsawg kawg ib hlis ib zaug, raws li txoj kev tshawb fawb JAMA Psychiatry. Thiab vim hais tias ntawm qhov chaw nce, ntau tus txiv neej ua desensitized rau hauv tus neeg stimulation. "Thaum cov txiv neej xav masturbate rau ntau porn, lawv nyob nraum yeej kawm lawv lub cev kom cia siab tias hom stimulation kom tau nres rau yav tom ntej," Fulbright piav.
Lwm biggie: qhov novelty tau. "Txij li muaj ntau ntau yam porn muaj hauv online, qee cov txiv neej tau siv los saib cov poj niam sib txawv txhua lub sijhawm," hais tias Ian Kerner, uas yog New York City-based sexual therapist. "Thiab yog tias txoj kev tshiab no tsis rov tsim nyob rau hauv lawv lub neej, tej zaum lawv yuav hnov tsis tshua tig mus."
Tseem, saib porn yuav ua tau kom muaj kev noj qab nyob zoo thiab muaj kev nyab xeeb, yog tias koj tsis dhau nws. Nws kuj tsis ua kom txhua tus menyuam yaus tsis tshua muaj randy. Qhov tseeb tiag, qee tus neeg xav tias lawv pab lawv ua rau lawv cov kev ntshaw ntawm kev sib deev.
"Kuv saib cov porn txhua txhua hnub, thiab yog tias kuv tsis ua, kuv xav tias kuv yuav ua ntej txhua txhua lub sij hawm kuv muaj kev sib deev - nws pab kuv tso kev nruj kom kuv tswj tau kuv tus kheej zoo dua hauv lub neej," hais tias Ben, 26, nyob rau hauv txaj-Stuy uas xav kom nws lub xeem lub npe ntiag tug.
Tab sis yog tias koj los yog koj tus hluas nraug libido noj ib beating? Kerner qhia txog kev txiav txim siab txog koj cov porn lossis kev siv lub lim tiam 3 lub hlis. "Yog hais tias tsis muaj porn, feem ntau cov txiv neej yuav pib ua kom pom cov duab ntawm lawv tus hluas nkauj thiab cov poj niam es tsis yog cov poj niam hauv online," nws hais. "Qhov ntawd yuav ua rau lawv xav nyob ze rau lawv cov neeg koom tes, uas lawv xav tau nce lawv cov libidos."
Lwm qhov kev xaiv: Mimic porn tus tshiab tau los ntawm kev hloov nrog cov khoom ua si tshiab, kev ua haujlwm pw ua ke los yog ua si. "Ua txhua yam tshiab tso lub koob tshuaj dopamine, uas yuav pab tau koj zoo siab rau hauv chav pw," Kerner advises.
Jason coj tus mus kom ze thiab txwv nws porn kom tsawg mus ib zaug ob peb hnub. "Nov yog li cas kuv pom nws: Kuv tau noj cov cereal qab zib, thiab tam sim no kuv noj nqaij veggie vim lawv nyob zoo. Kuv siv los saib ib tuj porn, thiab tam sim no kuv tau scaled rov qab, "nws piav txog.
Thiab kwv yees li cas? Nws liam tias nws yuav ua haujlwm. "Cia peb hais tias kuv tau sib ntsib ib lub hli dhau los - thiab kuv twv yuav raug tsis tu siab!"
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