Apre 30 ane nan PMO - Mwen kenbe yon batiman pandan kouche la pou premye fwa tout tan nan lavi mwen

82 jou se yon nimewo etranj yo afiche sou, men mwen frape yon gwo etap enpòtan jodi a. Quick background. Mwen divòse e mwen te marye ak premye mennaj mwen (ak premye patnè seksyèl). Sa te dire plis pase yon dekad e mwen wont admèt ke PMO te lakòz mwen gen prèske pa gen okenn lavi sèks.

Divòs la pa t 'sèlman akòz PMO men mwen ka di ou ke yon relasyon ki pa gen okenn lavi sèks se yon move relasyon, peryòd.

Apre divòs la rete mwen te ale nan yon anpil nan chanjman, ki gen ladan pèdi yon anpil nan pwa, chanje travay mwen, machin, atitid, tout bagay. Men, mwen pa t 'chanje PMO, menm si yon konseye maryaj kòrèkteman te di m' mwen te dejwe pònografi (mwen jis pa t 'wè rezon ki fè yo kite fimen - Mwen pa te gen okenn GF e li te tèlman rekonfòte).

Vit pou pi devan yon ane apre divòs la epi mwen rankontre yon bèl ti fi k ap pran swen epi ou ka deja devine istwa a - Mwen pa t 'kapab jwenn li. Ak jis tankou pandan maryaj mwen mwen te kòmanse panse hey, mwen jis kase ak ti fi sa a ap gen yo viv ak lefèt ke mwen se yon konpayon gwo EKSEPTE pou fè sèks la.

Li te trè ki bay sipò e li te di nou ta 'travay nan' pwoblèm mwen yo - e sa te fè m 'reyèlman panse sou sa ki pwoblèm mwen an te. E depi mwen te bay yon preview de sa ki pwoblèm lan te prèske yon ane de sa, mwen te kòmanse li sou li, yo te jwenn fowòm sa a, YBOP, ak lòt sit. Ak yon sèl jou a lè mwen te an vakans ak olye pou yo ale deyò mwen te ale nan gade pònografi sou laptop mwen ak plezi tèt mwen, li frape m '- sa a te pwoblèm nan. Mwen te bezwen sispann.

Jou sa a te 82 jou de sa e mwen fyè pou mwen di ke mwen te pafè sou pa gen okenn Masturbation ak pa gen okenn orgasme. Mwen menm mwen pa tankou fyè yo di ke mwen fè rplonje sou pònografi chak kèk jou li sanble - anjeneral jis kèk minit nan bikini / nwayo mou men mwen konnen li toujou mal. Sa a se batay la mwen toujou goumen.

Sepandan, omwen pou mwen, li sanble ke nofap se nwayo a nan solisyon an, paske pwoblèm nan mwen te gen desansibilizasyon akòz deathgrip - mwen pa te santi anyen nan men PIV oswa BJ oswa nenpòt lòt bagay pase men m '. Pa konplètman elimine men m 'mwen ka tou dousman (trè dousman, men siman) santi ankò.

Apeprè 45 jou nan mwen te kapab definitivman santi PIED la ale, men li toujou pa t 'pafè. Mwen te di GF mwen sou pwoblèm mwen an lè sa a, ki se yon lòt bagay moute pou deba isit la; omwen nan sitiyasyon mwen an li te trè itil di l 'konsa li konprann bagay sa yo li te fè pou ede m' jwenn pi bon.

Ak pou li ale nan limyè a nan fen tinèl la - ki se èspere ke jis limyè a PREMYE - maten sa a mwen te kapab kenbe l 'pandan PIV Se konsa, pou premye fwa tout tan nan lavi mwen (e mwen nan fen 30s mwen ) Mwen te bay yon ti fi yon orgasme jis nan sa. Mwen menm mwen te santi yon anpil plis (evidamman depi mwen te kapab jwenn nan ak kontinye ale) men mwen toujou gen yon fason yo ale anvan mwen konplètman rdemare.

Se konsa, wi, sa a se yon ti jan nan yon pòs vante, men mwen te renmen li pòs lòt moun vante paske siksè yo te ban m 'espwa pou siksè mwen. Mwen toujou gen yon fason yo ale, men si mwen ka rezime pwen yo nan vwayaj mwen an:

  • Long tan PMO adikte ki kite yon pouri maryaj soti nan anndan an akòz li
  • Finalman konfwonte dejwe mwen an sou twa mwa de sa ak te 100 bon sou nofap (pa gen okenn kwen oswa Masturbation) men pa tèlman gwo sou pònografi (redwi anpil, men se pa pornfree).
  • Pataje tout detay ak nouvo mennaj. Se konsa, mwen sou mòd 'fasil' rewiring an menm tan an kòm rdemare.
  • Pi redwi PIED (ranplase ak kèk enkyetid pèfòmans) sou 45 jou nan
  • Te kapab ranpli PIV XN jou nan
  • Te plis pase 90 jou san pwòp orgasme mwen, epi mwen pa pral eksploze - Se konsa, li pa nesesè pou tout mesye

td; Dr adikte PMO ki pa t janm kapab konplete PIV te kapab fè apre 82 jou NOFAP. Rdemare se definitivman pa konplè, men anpil nan pwogrè ak vo sakrifis yo te fè

LINK - 82 jou pòs - gen yon limyè nan fen tinèl la!

by yetanotheranon1

 

MIZAJOU - Apre prèske kat mwa, mwen kòmanse vin nòmal

Kat anivèsè nofap mwa mwen an se yon koup de jou de sa. Li se egzakteman yon mwa apre mwen te rankontre mennaj mwen ye kounye a, ki moun ki te pay la ki te kraze chamo yo tounen sou mwen finalman kraze sik la PMO. Li te tèlman dous ak konpreyansyon e mwen te vle l 'tèlman mal, men pa t' kapab fè ak pou la pwemye fwa nan lavi m 'mwen te di mwen vle yo dwe pi bon, pa sèlman pou li, men pou tèt mwen. Lè sa a, mwen li, li, li ak deside antreprann pwogram nan.

<--break->” src=”https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/spacer.gif” title=”<--break-->“>It has not been without its bumps. I’ve been completely free of fap — no edging, no masturbation — but not pornfree. I’ve learned that its not because I am not satisfied looking at my girl, but its because of the novelty of seeing something new.</p><p>My main symptom was terrible PIED; while I was married for over a decade (to my first girlfriend and only sexual partner ever) I can’t say I ever successfully had PIV sex. I just assumed I was ‘broken’ at sex and that the PMO cycle was not the problem.</p><p>During the divorce I saw a counselor who told me I was addicted to porn, but I was going through a LOT of things and chose to ignore it, thinking whats the problem with PMO when you don’t have anyone. Looking back it was so stupid, but in my own defence, I was able to lose a LOT of weight and change my attitude towards women even before I quit PMO.</p><p>At around the 30 day mark of the program I told my girlfriend what I was going through. She was supportive and I stuck with ‘easy’ mode in the sense I still had sexual activity, just didn’t O, and still had PIED issues. At around the 90 day mark I for the first time in my life had PIV sex where I gave her an orgasm, and a few days later, I actually had an O inside a woman for the first time EVER. It was such a different experience that I didn’t even know it was happening till it was done.</p><p>Suffice to say I felt pretty good (even though like any one who is having first time sex, it was sooo quick). Then I think I fell into a flatline, or something happened. For the next two weeks I couldn’t get it up at all, and I was despondent. I felt like I did in my first relationship, that I was broken. But unlike last time, I felt horrible because I wanted to be better, because I know myself and my girlfriend deserve a normal sex life.</p><p>If one thing I’ve learned as a side effect of giving up PMO is that your emotions pour out of you like no one’s business. And this weekend after some progress in the right direction a few things happened that led me down a deep, dark path of self doubt. I can say honestly I never thought about relapsing, but I could not see the light at the end of the tunnel.</p><p>I also read the forums and we all know that in addition to the success stories we have stories of struggle, and there was a post yesterday that was something like “I just want to cry”. And I’m a typical guy, was told never to cry, and then you add on PMO which masks our emotions, I never cried. But I just cried about where I am, and cried in front of my girlfriend, just because the emotions were pouring out and I wasn’t bottling it up anymore and I wasn’t resorting to fap either.</p><p>As someone who PMOed for 30+ years and didn’t cry for 30+ years I can say that both things are definitely wrong. I can only wish someone I trusted had told me this. I can’t say that crying on its own felt better, but confronting my emotions, my insecurities, my fears, with someone I trusted was a big step of the process.</p><p>So after being reassured that my girlfriend and I would work on it as a team, and us talking over some things that normal couples do (such as being more expressive during sex over what we like, etc) we tried again the next couple of days. The next day, I was able to have PIV sex and have an O (so yes, the second time in my life inside a woman). Since I was aware of the sensation I was able to actually delay the O for a few minutes, but still not enough for my GF to O. The day after, I can say that it was a normal (still brief) sexual encounter .. I brought my GF to O and then I O afterwards.</p><p>In any regular life this is not something to write home about, because the sex was just ‘normal’. But after all this time, being normal is all I want. I now have regular issues – having to time my and my GF O, different sexual libidos, etc. And I’m not completely out of the woods. I am still so insecure about this and know that doubt will come into my mind again.</p><p>But I only know one thing — PMO is no longer an option. I just can’t do it anymore. One last aside. A couple of days ago my GF and I watched the movie Thanks for Sharing. That movie is about sex addiction but there’s a LOT in common with our problems (as porn and masturbation addiction are often also problems of sex addicts). My GF told me after watching it she felt a lot more understanding of the journey I was going through. Since she was sitting next to me she also said I was sweating a lot through the movie. I believe that was because it was uncomfortably accurate. So we had some more serious and frank discussions about the addiction and the recovery process.</p><p>I told her that while I’ve been tempted to fap I didn’t do it because I didn’t want to fail you guys online, fail the fellow soldiers in the nofap war, fail her, or fail myself. I think about all of those folks I’d let down if I fap and then I don’t. I told her the truth that I’ve had much more difficulty with porn and that I want to give it up for good too. And then she asked me, very sweetly, to give that up for her too. And you know, I’m glad she asked me. Some guys might take it poorly (like the Don Jon character did in that movie) but I know she did it because she loves me and now every time I’m tempted to click a link I don’t want to let her down.</p><p>tl;dr After four months with some severe ups and downs, many of them emotional, am able to have normal sex with all the normal issues that normal people have. The reboot isn’t complete but the journey is the ONLY option I have.</p><hr><p> </p><p><strong>UPDATE2  <a class=- Ou ka tounen ankò (divòse akòz pònografi)

Se konsa, mwen te gen yon gwo pwoblèm ak pònografi tout lavi mwen. Pi bon zanmi mwen prezante m 'nan li tounen nan lekòl segondè e mwen te yon jik, jenn ti kabrit nerdy Se konsa, mwen sonje pase èdtan ap eseye telechaje GIFs soti nan modèm 1200 baud m' ak kache li nan men papa m '(bò nòt: paran mwen apwòch jis di m' move li yo san yo pa janm eksplike poukisa PA travay. Ou gen tou asime timoun ou yo pi entelijan pase ou - si yo vle fè yon bagay ou pa apwouve yo, yo pral fè li).

Relasyon mwen ak pònografi anvan nenpòt relasyon reyèl mwen te gen ak fanm yo. Li pa t 'reyèlman afekte ki jan mwen trete fanm, men li trete ki jan mwen trete sèks. Ak liy anba a se mwen pi pito fè sèks ki pa gen okenn jijman ak sou demann olye ke UPS yo ak Downs nan fè sèks reyèl.

Se konsa, pandan ke mwen pa te gen okenn rezèvasyon sou fè 'sèks' anvan maryaj mwen sonje ki jan pipi pòv li te ak ki jan mwen prèske imedyatman tounen nan pònografi. Pa t 'fè sèks sou nwit la la maryaj, ak Lè sa a, pou katòz ane mwen ta pè lannwit sèks mwen chak semèn ak madanm mwen (kounye a ansyen), fè moute eskiz pou fè pou evite li, ak Lè sa a olye vle ale nan lòt chanm lan epi jwenn kèk pònografi Jack koupe nan.

Pandan ke sa a pa t 'pwoblèm nan sèlman nan relasyon mwen an, nan retrospective li te yon pòsyon gwo nan li - pwobableman 90%. Epi li pa menm mank de sèks, li reyèlman te mank de entimite. Epi pandan ke nan moman sa a mwen te planche lè (kounye a ansyen) madanm mwen mande pou yon divòs, kounye a mwen pral panse poukisa lanfè a li rete tann sa lontan, poukisa mwen pèmèt li?

Se konsa, pandan pwosedi divòs la mwen te wè yon konseye maryaj ki kòrèkteman dyagnostike pwoblèm mwen an ak pònografi. Men, mwen toujou inyore li, espesyalman depi mwen te fèk selibatè pou premye fwa nan ven ane, ak pònografi te bagay la konfòtab mwen te konnen tout lavi mwen.

Lè sa a, mwen te rankontre yon ti fi pafè, epi nou te fè sèks. Epi li te tèlman fwistre. Li te ale mal ankò. Men, fwa sa a, mwen pa te ale nan jis asime 'ki nan fason li ye'. Mwen te bezwen konnen ki sa ki te mal, paske mwen te sipoze ak ansyen madanm mwen ke 'sèks pa t' nesesè si ou gen renmen 'oswa kèk estipid tankou sa. Mwen kounye a te konnen ke yon kè kontan, ranpli lavi sèks te yon kondisyon pou yon relasyon long tèm.

Se lè sa a mwen te vini nan tout fowòm nofap ak pornfree epi li kèk istwa sou moun menm jan ak mwen. Epi li te yon wout LONG ak rplonje nan ant, men mwen te ap eseye bay moute pònografi ak fap pou prèske yon ane. Mennaj aktyèl la konnen sou pwoblèm mwen e li te sipòte.

Depi mwen te eseye bay moute tou de, mwen te fè pi bon sèks (pa pafè pa nenpòt vle di) e mwen te kapab orgasme avè l '(mwen pa janm te fè ak ansyen madanm mwen). Ak long la ak kout nan li se ke mwen angaje ankò, ak tan sa a yon lavi sèks an sante san yo pa pònografi ak fap kòm yon pati nan plan an.

tl; dr Premye relasyon nan prèske ven ane pouri soti nan andedan akòz PMO dejwe ak mennen nan divòs. Te kapab vire l 'otou ak bati yon nouvo relasyon (** Mwen angaje **) apre yo fin bay PMO.

Se konsa, pou moun ki santi tankou ou se nan yon pwen ki ba, anpil nan nou yo te la. Ou ka vire l 'alantou, pa gen pwoblèm ki kote ou ye.