Insomnia, headaches, a couple periods of flatlining, maddening temptation and the feeling of uncertainty when facing the problems of your life without a fap security blanket. I experienced all of these things in these 90 days. Why would anyone want to go through it?!
Well, this is a clear case of how enduring temporary pain leads to rich rewards. I’m only 90 days into this, but I can’t believe how much I’ve learned about myself. I can’t believe how many plans I’ve made and new projects I’ve started to address the areas of my life that I want to better. I can’t believe at the sustained motivation I have for sticking to these projects, when before I would lose energy and revert to my lowered expectations. I can’t believe how my priorities have changed and the time wasting activities I used to enjoy seem unfullfilling and pointless.
90 days is a good start, but the good fight continues. My next goal is 120. I can’t wait to see what the next 30 days brings. Thank you guys on this forum for sharing. I am always learning.
Jikọ - Ụbọchị 90!
by sporto2005
I wish I had kept some notes about how I was feeling on each day. I know the physical stuff like insomnia and headaches were the worst in the first couple of weeks. There was also a letdown from not being able to enjoy the masturbation thing. Somebody described this letdown as being a mourning process, when you know that the relationship you used to have is gone. At this point, I’ve made peace with not having that relationship to masturbation. I still have to be very vigilant about giving in to temptation. I am becoming more aware of my triggers, which are the standard ones– time alone, emotional lows, emotional highs, and seeing stimulating images (damn NFL cheerleaders!). So, even now it’s still hard to stay strong.
DABỌCH 80 XNUMX - 80 day report card
Before I jot down my thoughts, I want to thank you guys for the honest, useful and inspiring posts I read on this forum. I am constantly discovering new ideas and tips to keep my journey towards self-improvement humming along. Also, I’m amazed by the quality of the writing. I won’t try to compete; I’ll just try to get my points across as best I can.
My report card will come in the form of questions I’m asking myself and what my answers are today…
Is my reboot from porn/fapping addiction as clean and strict as it can be? I give myself a B. My nofap streak is alive and well, but I have had some weak moments looking at sexy (non-nude) video clips on youtube recently. It only happened a couple of times, but I notice some of my confidence going down the next day and I sensed some shame. I’m eliminating these weak moments. Avoiding the let down of having lower confidence is my motivation for staying strong.
Do I objectify women still or put the attractive ones on a pedestal? I’ll give myself a C. I noticed the other day when I was at a coffee shop, I couldn’t act as naturally as I wanted to when I interacted with the hot looking counter chick and I felt like I might be coming off creepy. My goal is to feel at ease and worthy of her company, not attached to any outcome like wanting her to like me, and just appreciate women for who they are, whether they look attractive or not. I have a serious girlfriend already, so I’m not looking, but I’m a guy and I can’t help but notice. This is going to be a tough goal to reach. I’m also trying to avoid fantasizing/lusting about any other woman besides my girlfriend.
Am I making progress on my self-improvement projects? Letter grade A-. In this area I’m shining. My exercise program is going great. I’m cleaning up my diet. I’m working on my career goals. I’m looking for ways to strengthen my relationship with the girlfriend. My motivation has never been higher.
Am I working to reduce social anxiety? B+. Recently, I started reading a book on NeuroLinguistic programming recommended on this forum. The swish pattern for replacing negative images with positive ones is proving to be very valuable. I’ve been using this a lot in my daily interactions and I’m seeing some nice changes. I am planning on doing a lot of reading to get good at overcoming my subconscious habits that defeat me in this area.
Is my confidence soaring and do I have an attitude that says I don’t fucking care what you think? C+. I am getting better, but I can go so much higher. I still think about what others think of me and let this affect my decision making. I still walk around with feelings of self-doubt, even when I’m doing things I’m pretty good at. One thing that is changing, though, is my belief that I can achieve this. I know it’s possible now, which is huge!
Continued success to all of you!
EGO EGO - ụbọchị 40 abụrụwo agha (nke mbụ)
I’m new on here. I’ve been reading a ton on yourbrainonporn and such. I’m on day 40 of no PMO. My goal is a complete reboot of my reward circuitry, which I expect to be 90 days minimum.
Ppingmepụta ghọrọ ihe na-eme ka m nwee nkụda mmụọ nke mebiri ikike m na-elekọta mmadụ ma mee ka mụ na ndị ọzọ na-arụ ọrụ na-echegbu onwe n'ihi enweghị ike inwe ahụ iru ala na ndị ọzọ. Karịsịa, enweghịzi m ike ile ndị mmadụ anya ma nwee obi ike na onwe m. N'ozuzu, ndị mmadụ nwere ike ịgwa m na m bụ ezigbo mmadụ, mana m mere ka ndị mmadụ nwee obi iru ala na ọ na-eweda m ala. Ya mere, ana m eguzo ma na-eweghachi ndụ m. Obi dị m ụtọ na m ghọtara isi okwu m. Agara m ịhụ onye na-agwọ ọrịa afọ ole na ole gara aga ma chee na m na-achọsi ike na m ga-emegide mmekọrịta mmadụ na ibe ya. Onye na-agwọ ọrịa enyeghị m nghọta ọ bụla ma mesịa kwụsị ịga. Amaara m na ọtụtụ mmadụ na-egwu egwu ma yie ka ha na-ebi ndụ nkịtị na ọ dịghị mgbe m kọọrọ m nsogbu m. Ugbu a amaara m na porn anọwo na-eme ụbụrụ m. M sụrụ ngọngọ na vidiyo nke yourbrainonporn na ọkụ wee pụọ.
Ya mere, akụkụ siri ike na-arụ na atụmatụ m reboot. Anọ m na-eme nke ọma na atụmatụ m. Alanarịrị m ụra ụra, ụfọdụ isi ọwụwa, obere libido ugbu a, na-ewekwa iwe. Achọpụtala m ọtụtụ mgbanwe dị mma. Olu m dikwa karie ike. Nke a dị nnọọ ịrịba ama nye m. Ikem iguzo ihu na ihu na mmadu ma na-ele ha anya na-adiwanye mfe. N'ozuzu, ụjọ m na-enwe maka mmekọrịta mmadụ na ibe m na-agbada. M ka na-eche banyere izere ọnọdụ, mana nwayọ nwayọ, enwere m ụzọ m nwere ike iso ndị ọzọ nwee mmekọrịta.
Taa, ụbọchị 40 enwere m oge buru ibu nye onwe m. Achọpụtara m onwe m na-agagharị na TV maka ihe nkiri na ọkụkọ ọkụ. Mgbe ahụ amalitere m ọchụchọ google maka ụmụ agbọghọ nwere mma abs. Nke ahụ bụ mgbe m mechara kpebie na m kwesịrị ịpụ n'ụlọ. Agara m igwu mmiri n’ọdọ mmiri dị n’obodo ha. M ga-adị ndụ taa ma nọgide na-eji ndụ m na-aga n'ihu. Amaara m na ụgwọ ọrụ ha ga-enweta n’ọdịnihu ga-eme ka àjà ndị ahụ yie ihe na-enweghị isi.
good luck to all you guys.
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