I was a daily fapper since around 12 or so, and a frequent porn browser since 15. I found NoFap in the middle of July, started right away, and haven’t lapsed once. A few observations and thoughts. I’ll just put it in point form for conveniences sake.
- I had tried to quit porn or reduce my amount of MO at various points before in my life, but I had always failed to keep at it. It seems obvious to me now that I didn’t -really- want to quit, deep down. It was something that part of me thought I ‘should’ do, or ‘ought’ to do, but those shoulds and oughts lost out because I had never truly made the honest choice to quit. This time around it was easy because I knew it was time. I had a few dreams about looking at porn, and a few nights where I really felt tempted, but by and large it was OK.
- Being 29 has probably helped me here. When you are 20 you can tell yourself that there’s plenty of time to become a better person when you’re older. Staring at 30 after years of being single starts to really shake your complacency.
- I felt a rush of confidence and and increased desire to be social about a week in. I had a couple of days in particular which were just surreal. This decreased quite a bit, but stabilized at a level that is a fair bit higher than before. I don’t necessarily care to talk more to strangers, but I am far, far more relaxed when I do. This really helped me take the leap of getting out of my little safety bubble and finally starting a relationship.
- I dare say many NoFappers (especially those who have been single for a fair while) have a lot of emotional shit to deal with that will be uncovered when you quit medicating yourself with PMO and/or start a relationship. Growing as a person requires exactly what we put off with this habit (among others), which we use to help patch up our various insecurities, fears and boredoms. Quitting will help you get back on the path to being an adult (it will be painful).
- It’s very strange to think that the statement ‘I am not a wanker’ or ‘I don’t look at porn’ are true statements. It makes me happy, but also quite sad that I was too weak of character to make them true sooner.
- Before quitting I used to feel like I lived in some kind of forever alone void that women just could never enter. I was doomed to singleness. After quitting I have found myself coming out of my shell almost without much effort at all. I haven’t been trying to talk to women as I now have an SO, but even so I have really felt a lot more smiles coming in my direction, and on three occasions I had clear advances from their end (which -never- used to happen).
- Now that you are quitting PMO, start going to the gym while you are at it. It really doesn’t take that much effort to get into better shape.
- E leschte Gedanken. Ech hunn dat anzwuesch gesot, awer ech mengen et muss heefeg widderholl ginn. Et kënne Fäll vu soss normalen, gesonde Leit sinn, déi zréckgehal / beschiedegt gi vu PMO, fir déi PMO eng "Sucht" duerstellt, déi d'Ursaach vun hire verschiddene Probleemer ass. Fir vill wann net déi meescht vun eis, awer ech mengen et ass en Deel vun engem gréissere Bild vun eiser Generatioun. Mir hunn, vill vun eis, erlaabt eis Adoleszenz wäit ze verlängeren, wäit an eis Zwanzeger (oder souguer Drëssegjäregen!) Duerch d'allgemeng Permisibilitéit vun der moderner Kultur an d'Elteren, an d'Disponibilitéit vu verschiddenen Distraktiounen, déi vun eiser Technologie geliwwert ginn. Mir ginn ufälleg a passiv well mir ni fir d'Recht kämpfe mussen d'Liewen ze genéissen. Wéi an engem Tank suspendéiert an aus engem Rouer gefiddert ginn, ginn eis Muskelen (béid aktuell, mental an emotional) déi vital Stimulatioun ofgeleent déi se brauchen fir sech z'entwéckelen. PMO opzehalen ass e ganz wichtege Schrëtt fir Leit wéi eis, awer et ass nëmmen ee Schrëtt. Mir mussen iwwerdenken wat et heescht ze liewen, a sech froen ob mir dat wierklech maachen. Sou eng Introspektioun ass penibel, awer néideg.
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