ຂ້ອຍໂພດເລື້ອຍໆແລະເຄີຍເປັນນັກສັງເກດການທີ່ງຽບໆກ່ຽວກັບສິ່ງທີ່ໄດ້ດໍາເນີນຢູ່ໃນເວທີສົນທະນາເຫຼົ່ານີ້, ແຕ່ຫຼັງຈາກບັນລຸເປົ້າຫມາຍຂອງຂ້ອຍຂ້ອຍຮູ້ສຶກຖືກບັງຄັບໃຫ້ແບ່ງປັນປະສົບການຂອງຂ້ອຍກັບສິ່ງທ້າທາຍທີ່ຮ້າຍແຮງທີ່ສຸດແລະເປັນໄປໄດ້ທີ່ຂ້ອຍຈະປະເຊີນເປັນເວລາດົນນານ. ມາ. ເປົ້າຫມາຍຂອງຂ້ອຍແມ່ນເພື່ອປະສົບຜົນສໍາເລັດ, ບໍ່ບັງຄັບ, ບໍ່ມີຢາຊ່ວຍການຮ່ວມເພດກັບ GF ຂອງຂ້ອຍ, ແລະໃນນັ້ນຂ້ອຍປະສົບຜົນສໍາເລັດສອງຄັ້ງຫຼັງຈາກລໍຖ້າ 177 ມື້.
ສະນັ້ນ, ເພື່ອເລີ່ມຕົ້ນ, ຂ້ອຍເລີ່ມຕົ້ນໄປ solo ຕັ້ງແຕ່ອາຍຸປະມານ 12 ປີແລະຕົວຈິງແລ້ວໄດ້ບັນລຸນິໄສ HOCD ທີ່ບໍ່ດີຢູ່ທີ່ປະມານ 15. ຂ້ອຍເກັບຮັກສາມັນໄວ້ເປັນຄວາມລັບທີ່ສຸດແລະບໍ່ເຄີຍຖືກຈັບ. ມັນເພີ່ມຄວາມຕື່ນເຕັ້ນໂດຍການແນ່ໃຈວ່າບໍ່ເຄີຍຖືກຈັບ. ມັນເປັນສິ່ງທີ່ຕ້ອງຫ້າມ, ແຕ່ຈາກທຸກສິ່ງທຸກຢ່າງທີ່ຂ້າພະເຈົ້າສາມາດເບິ່ງໃນຊີວິດ jerking ມັນເປັນຢ່າງຈະແຈ້ງເປັນສິ່ງທີ່ດີ. ດ້ວຍເຫດນີ້ ຈິ່ງດຳເນີນຕໍ່ໄປ. ຂ້າພະເຈົ້າໄດ້ລົງວັນທີໃນ HS, ແຕ່ເລື້ອຍໆພວກເຂົາຖືສາສະຫນາແລະມີການຈອງກິດຈະກໍາທາງເພດ, ດັ່ງນັ້ນພຽງແຕ່ເວົ້າວ່າຂ້ອຍບໍ່ໄດ້ເຮັດຫຍັງນອກເຫນືອຈາກການຝຶກຊ້ອມກັບບາງສິ່ງທີ່ຫນ້າເບື່ອງາມໃນອິນເຕີເນັດ. HOCD ເປັນ bitch ແລະ screws ກັບໃຈຂອງທ່ານ
Fast forward to a handful of time I failed to achieve anything close to enough of an erection to get the job done in college and you get one hell of a frustrated and confused man after that. I am quite healthy, work out a lot, and am not the worst looking guy in the world. Laughter is my saving grace, but these failed attempts made me anxious and I pulled back from trying much for a while. I still had a great time. I don’t blame anything else on my habits. I was by no means doing it multiple times every day, but needless to say I couldn’t get hard from literally anything after a while. I lived life though a few lies here and there, parties where I would just ditch girls unexpectedly, and pull back after things got too hot. Really kind of a shame, but it ended up being for the best.
Fast forward to my last year when I began being interested in my current GF. There were many extremely awkward nights, hurt feelings, really depressing evenings of me starring into a mirror sad as hell, but I literally stumbled upon an article about porn induced ED and from that day onward I threw everything I had at it. I grew the balls to tell her what was up with me… one of the harder things I have ever done in life. Hard… Haha, but in all reality it was the only way to make things right, and the best part is she stuck with me. Make sure they know it is you and not them. Repeat this many times, and mean it.
She judged me as a man not for my ability to screw anything with a skirt, but for the other aspects i had control over. I am a successful person in school and career wise now, but at the time none of that was set in stone. She empathized with my issue and we have used it to grow as a couple ever since. It is something I can never thank her enough for and I owe so much of my recovery to her. Not to say we didn’t have our fun while this was all going on. Lets just say our mouths were plenty busy when we had the chance to see each other after I finished rebooting 90 days later.
I didn’t find any issue with rebooting. I stopped cold turkey right away. I have extreme motivation when I can actually identify the problem. Having a goal like sleeping with the woman you love doesn’t hurt. Forgot to mention, we admitted our love for each other roughly a month before I had to go long distance for work. So to those of you with long distance ladies fret not, you can get to where you want to be with skype, the occasional dirty text, and a general lack of physical contact from her. I feel that that is important to say. I’m not perfect, we would sext every now and again, share some lude pictures and so forth, but I am ready and kicking now.
Things I concluded; people tend to ball together low energy, low motivation, and general problems with life to this. I say that is a bit of a cop out, but to each there own. I have somehow managed to graduate with honors in engineering and get a job while this was all going on. I also managed to attract the opposite sex regardless. I think a majority of that is in our heads, but the placebo effect is strong enough that if you believe it hard enough you’ll at least think you are less lazy. It did however make me focus on my health even more. I’ve put on muscle, changed my diet, and taken every measure possible to make sure this never happens to me again.
After the reboot I truly believe that resentization is a must ການໃຊ້ເວລາສອງສາມນາທີທຸກໆມື້ເພື່ອສະແດງໃຫ້ເຫັນວ່າບໍ່ມີຫຍັງເລີຍແຕ່ຄວາມຮູ້ສຶກກ່ຽວກັບການສໍາຜັດກັບຕົນເອງທີ່ມີແສງສະຫວ່າງແລະບໍ່ແມ່ນເປົ້າຫມາຍແມ່ນສໍາຄັນຕໍ່ກັບການຟື້ນຕົວຄືນສຸດທ້າຍ. ສໍາລັບໃນຂະນະທີ່ມີຂ້າພະເຈົ້າໄດ້ໄປບ່ອນໃດ, ແລະຂ້າພະເຈົ້າແມ່ນຫນຶ່ງໃນບັນດາປະຊາຊົນເຫຼົ່ານັ້ນທີ່ຜ່ານມາມື້ 150. ຂ້າພະເຈົ້າຮູ້ສຶກຄືກັບ hell absolute ເພາະວ່າຂ້າພະເຈົ້າຄິດວ່າຂ້າພະເຈົ້າໄດ້ເຮັດທຸກຢ່າງທີ່ຖືກຕ້ອງ. ການບູລະນະການເຊື່ອມຕໍ່ນັ້ນແມ່ນສໍາຄັນ. ຢູ່ຫ່າງຈາກ porn ແລະສຸມໃສ່ຄວາມຮູ້ສຶກຂອງມັນທັງຫມົດ.
ເຊັ່ນດຽວກັນ, ຂ້ອຍໄດ້ເຮັດ MO ໃນຊ່ວງເວລານີ້. ມັນບໍ່ແມ່ນຈຸດຈົບຂອງໂລກ. ມັນສາມາດແກ້ໄຂທຸກຢ່າງໄດ້ແນວໃດ? ມັນເຮັດໃຫ້ທ່ານຊ້າ, ແນ່ນອນ, ແຕ່ວ່າບໍ່ຫຼາຍ. ພຽງແຕ່ຢູ່ຫ່າງຈາກ P ແລະທ່ານຈະເຂົ້າໃກ້ທຸກໆມື້. ຖ້າທ່ານມີເພື່ອນຜູ້ຍິງຂ້ອຍຂໍແນະ ນຳ ໃຫ້ພວກເຂົາ“ ຍ້ອງຍໍ” ເຈົ້າໃນໄລຍະ ໜຶ່ງ. ໃຫ້ພວກເຂົາຄ່ອຍໆນວດທ່ານໃນບໍລິເວນສາຍແອວດ້ານລຸ່ມແລະພຽງແຕ່ດູດຊັບທຸກຢ່າງເຂົ້າໄປໃນຄວາມຮູ້ສຶກເທົ່າທີ່ທ່ານສາມາດເຮັດໄດ້. ຂ້າພະເຈົ້າສັນຍາວ່ານີ້ແມ່ນຂາສຸດທ້າຍຂອງການຟື້ນຕົວທີ່ມີຫຼາຍຄົນຫາຍສາບສູນ. ພຽງແຕ່ບໍ່ສົນໃຈຂີ້ເຫຍື້ອຂອງທ່ານບໍ່ແມ່ນວິທີທີ່ຈະເບິ່ງແຍງມັນ.
There are some really shitty times ahead. I have been weeping on the floor a few times because of this. Trust me, I freaking get it. There is so much pressure to define manhood like this and to see ourselves as failures, but you know what? Taking all that time that i would have fruitlessly perused sex like an empty minded animal has given me some rewards. I used that time to study, I delayed my gratification which has rewarded me immensely. I am now in a loving and open relationship with spectacular communication. We started with mental compatibility, love, and a focus on being able to communicate what we want for sex. Any awkwardness about sex vanished with me revealing my issue to her. Everything became so open after that. We could non judgmentally connect to one another as i had come out with such a powerful challenge for us to face.
I have learned so much about what she feels, what she like, and I have become quite talented with the tongue and fingers. So screw feeling sorry for myself, i think this has given me a unique way to approach a relationship… Like a self induced chastity belt. Regardless, you can have a relationship with the right woman. I am sure there are some who will drop men like a bad habit if they cannot do the deed… Well they can go find somebody else, because that should not be the only focus of a healthy relationship. If they truly care for you they will understand and be willing to help. Help from a woman can make all the difference.
Fellas, stay away from the drugs. Trust me, I was sitting there starring at the screen looking at possible fake viagra on the Internet too. Don’t go down that path. You don’t need it, and your gonna feel like Lance Armstrong if you do. You want this victory to be yours, not a drug companies. You can do it, but you have to be strong enough to fight through the day ahead and get what is rightfully yours.
After so long, after 177 days of recovery, for no reason in particular I got to a point where i made that night the night. It wasn’t spectacular, nor was it long lived, but that next morning on the other hand I buried this issue with a fucktactular morning of passion. Shit YEAH! Everyone’s day will come to them in time, and until that day focus on the good, focus on improving yourself, and make sure to realize you are not defined by this issue. You are still in control of 99% of your body and 100% of your life. Don’t let this cripple you, and do what a real man would do. Take life’s challenges head on and never look back. I could sit here and regret the times i have missed out on, or keep my eyes forward on the next day.
Here is a link to me ranting about how much society is bashing on men. I am anyman. Worth a read. The article this guy wrote pissed me off.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/just-listen/201210/women-are-the-only-chance-the-world/comments
Everyone can do this! Don’t let setbacks distress you! Take time to enjoy life!
ຂໍໃຫ້ກໍາລັງຢູ່ກັບທ່ານ!
LINK TO HIS POST on YourBrainRebalanced
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