I was a daily fapper since around 12 or so, and a frequent porn browser since 15. I found NoFap in the middle of July, started right away, and haven’t lapsed once. A few observations and thoughts. I’ll just put it in point form for conveniences sake.
- I had tried to quit porn or reduce my amount of MO at various points before in my life, but I had always failed to keep at it. It seems obvious to me now that I didn’t -really- want to quit, deep down. It was something that part of me thought I ‘should’ do, or ‘ought’ to do, but those shoulds and oughts lost out because I had never truly made the honest choice to quit. This time around it was easy because I knew it was time. I had a few dreams about looking at porn, and a few nights where I really felt tempted, but by and large it was OK.
- Being 29 has probably helped me here. When you are 20 you can tell yourself that there’s plenty of time to become a better person when you’re older. Staring at 30 after years of being single starts to really shake your complacency.
- I felt a rush of confidence and and increased desire to be social about a week in. I had a couple of days in particular which were just surreal. This decreased quite a bit, but stabilized at a level that is a fair bit higher than before. I don’t necessarily care to talk more to strangers, but I am far, far more relaxed when I do. This really helped me take the leap of getting out of my little safety bubble and finally starting a relationship.
- I dare say many NoFappers (especially those who have been single for a fair while) have a lot of emotional shit to deal with that will be uncovered when you quit medicating yourself with PMO and/or start a relationship. Growing as a person requires exactly what we put off with this habit (among others), which we use to help patch up our various insecurities, fears and boredoms. Quitting will help you get back on the path to being an adult (it will be painful).
- It’s very strange to think that the statement ‘I am not a wanker’ or ‘I don’t look at porn’ are true statements. It makes me happy, but also quite sad that I was too weak of character to make them true sooner.
- Before quitting I used to feel like I lived in some kind of forever alone void that women just could never enter. I was doomed to singleness. After quitting I have found myself coming out of my shell almost without much effort at all. I haven’t been trying to talk to women as I now have an SO, but even so I have really felt a lot more smiles coming in my direction, and on three occasions I had clear advances from their end (which -never- used to happen).
- Now that you are quitting PMO, start going to the gym while you are at it. It really doesn’t take that much effort to get into better shape.
- Eritreritra farany. Efa nilaza an'io tany an-kafa aho, saingy heveriko fa mila averimberina matetika izany. Mety misy tranga olon-salama raha tsy izany dia voatazona / simbain'ny PMO, izay i PMO no misolo tena ny 'fiankinan-doha' izay mahatonga ny olana maro samihafa. Ho an'ny maro na tsy ny ankamaroantsika aza, heveriko fa ampahany amin'ny sary lehibe kokoa ho an'ny razambentsika io. Izahay, maro amintsika, no navela hanitatra ny fahatanorantsika, hatramin'ny faha-XNUMX taonany (na telopolo taona aza!) Amin'ny alàlan'ny fahazoan-dàlana ankapobeny amin'ny kolotsaina maoderina sy ny fitaizan-jaza, ary ny fisian'ny fanelingelenana isan-karazany omen'ny teknolojia anay. Manjary mahay mandanjalanja sy mandefitra isika satria tsy mila miady ho an'ny zo hankafy fiainana. Toy ny mihantona ao anaty tanky ary fahanana amin'ny fantsona, ny hozatsika (samy izy, ara-tsaina ary ara-pientanam-po) dia lavina amin'ny fanentanana tena ilain'izy ireo hivoatra. Ny fialana amin'ny PMO dia dingana iray tena lehibe ho an'ny olona toa antsika, saingy dingana iray ihany io. Mila mieritreritra ny dikan'ny hoe miaina isika ary manontany tena raha tena manao izany. Mampijaly ny fitsirihana toy izany fa ilaina.
LINK - Tatitra Day 90
by thsntht
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