PIED improving, watched porn with my GF

I used porn to masturbate since I was about 11 and didn't know it would be a problem until last August when my girlfriend and I got together. All was well until the first time we tried to get intimate - I just couldn't get excited. Luckily she was very supportive and told me it was okay, but I knew something was wrong, since I never had this problem when watching porn.

Age 26 - Gay couple - NoFap saved relationship

My boyfriend and I had noticed the sexual aspect of our relationship was becoming monotonous and a bit stale, that we were growing apart and had become quite distant in the terms of personal space and being touched romantically or sexually. I've been on and off NoFap for awhile but never stuck to it long enough to see real changes.

Age 18 – Hitting the gym regularly way more confident

I just want to give a quick thank you to everyone in this subreddit. It's been a wild ride. I had a few run-ins with PIED a couple of years back, but didn't think much of it until I found NoFap and YBOP.

Age 20 - I kissed her, productivity and confidence up

20 y/o long time lurker of nofap dropping by to say thank you for your stories, words of wisdom, pieces of advice, etc. Yesterday after an amazing day of hanging out with a beautiful woman, I finally did something that I never would have done without nofap. I made a move and kissed her before she went home. She seemed to enjoy it and now we have a date next week.

Age 30 – NoFap is changing me from within, social anxiety disappearing

Never thought myself will be improved like how it is now. It's changing my inner self. I am more satisfied with the life, things, people. I feel free and feel myself 24/7. social anxiety is getting out of myself. I'm more open while talking with people and even with strangers. I can understand what my responsibility is and I always try to act on it.

ED? Gone with the wind in less than 90 days

Finally. Freaking finally. My main objective has been fulfilled. I expected it to take longer and was a little bit nervous because I MO'd twice just two days prior to meeting her. It went perfect in the end and it feels like I've finally re-discovered sex, with no failing soldier.

Age 17 - School is becoming fun

Life is so much better now! Benefits: confidence, motivation, better at sports, I can talk better to girls, need less sleep, more energy, no brain fog, school is becoming fun, brighter eyes (like shining) and better eye contact.

Greater Awareness, Self-confidence & Self control. Appreciation for the smaller things. More comfortable with myself & others

Brothers. I did it. This is what helped me along my path:

  • Moderation of social media. It's mind numbing and very addicting. If you're not on it to market your business then there's no reason to be on it. Learn to not give a fuck, social media is the first step.

Transforming into a stud

100 days, and I'm still going strong. Over the 100 days, I have become more confident, happier, a lot calmer, Less temperamental, clearer skin, clearer mind, Smarter, more attractive to girls.

Age 22 - Everything is coming back to baseline

Back [in] my fapping days I became really much socially disconnected, my libido was super low since years, no desire for woman, despressed, didn't enjoy watching movies or music. Man, everything became boring. Really. Nowadays, everything is coming back to baseline. REAL desire for woman eg. wanting to know them better and not just fuck them to be cool.

Age 23 - Anxiety, depression and brainfog gone. Motivation sky-high and rising. Confidence all the way up. Energy and desire for women are back.

I do not have "superpowers", I simply have my identity back. Granted, when you haven't felt these things for years upon years, getting them back seems almost surreal but the truth is NoFap does not give you these proclaimed powers.

How to Downplay the Harms of Pornography, in 4 Simple Steps (by Jacob Hess, Ph.D.)

Are you – or someone you love – getting tired of all this talk about porn being so harmful?

Rather than having to worry about making serious personal or public changes, wouldn’t it be nice to stop worrying about this all together?

Thankfully, a small handful of authors have been coming up with some compelling rationales for doing just that. If you know someone ready to believe that porn is not (really) that big of a deal, here’s a 4-step formula that is proven to work:

Enjoying sex more in my marriage

After 90 days I can say I feel much better compared to 3 months ago. I'm not as much drawn to PMO as I used to be. I can't say the urges have disappeared, it is just easier to resist them. I think I also reached a new normal in sex life with my partner. We are both enjoying it more, I'm more alive and ready for it.

Early 30s - Sleeping better, time for projects despite greater responsibility at work, connected with crush

I'd had two long term relationships in 12 years. The end of second one left me a broken man I had been living off PMO, and it was disrupting my sleep, my health, my time, my motivation, my productivity. It was two years later that I met my crush. I would long for her like a typical nerd. Then she said she was leaving for another country. I figured I could go for it, safe in the knowledge that if it was awkward it would only be for a little while longer.

Study invalidates the CPUI-9 as an instrument to assess either “perceived pornography addiction” or actual pornography addiction

SECTION 1: Introduction

A new study (Fernandez et al., 2017) tested and analyzed the CPUI-9, a purported "perceived pornography addiction" questionnaire developed by Joshua Grubbs, and found that it couldn't accurately assess "actual porn addiction" or "perceived porn addiction" (Do Cyber Pornography Use Inventory-9 Scores Reflect Actual Compulsivity in Internet Pornography Use? Exploring the Role of Abstinence Effort). It also found that 1/3 of the CPUI-9 questions should be omitted to return valid results related to “moral disapproval”, “religiosity”, and "hours of porn use." The findings raise significant doubts about conclusions drawn from any study that has employed the CPUI-9 or relied on studies that employed it. Many of the new study's concerns and criticisms mirror those outlined in this extensive YBOP critique.


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