(Mtambasulira wa Google) Owerenga ambiri adzizindikira okha The Inside Zina zokhudzana ndi zolaula komanso ena amaonetsa zolaula pamwamba. Ena amafuna kuti tipeze chidwi kwa amayi pang'ono.
“Ndizabwino kuti mumangoyang'ana pa achichepere, koma vutoli limamveka m'mibadwo yonse. Ndikufuna kuwerenga zokambirana zambiri ndi akatswiri azamisala komanso ofufuza omwe amafotokoza momwe zolaula ndi maliseche zimakhalira kuti akhale okwanira pazokhutiritsa - mwina zogwirizana ndi nthawi yayitali, maubale apamtima. Itha kukhala yolimbikitsa yokha, koma itha kukhala cholepheretsa ngati mwadzidzidzi ikufuna kukhazikitsa ubale wapamtima. Zambiri zomveka pamavuto abwenzi anga zimawululidwa kudzera munkhanizi. ”
- Lisa
"Ndimadzizindikira ndekha pachikuto chamkati pazosowa zolaula. Ndikuthamangira ku zolaula kenako ndimangokhala wopanda mavuto, koma ndikagona ndi mnzanga sakufuna. Ndakhala ndikudandaula za chifukwa chosowa chidwi changa pa zogonana 'm'moyo weniweni'. Mwina sindikukondana ndi bwenzi langa? Ndiyenera Kuthetsa? Tsopano ndazindikira kuti mwina izi ndi zolaula. Chifukwa chake tsopano zayamba kukhala zolaula ndipo ndipatsanso ubale wathu mwayi wachiwiri. ”
- A
"Kuwerenga kofunikira Zolemba zamkati zonena za kusowa kwa zolaula, mwadzidzidzi zidawunikira zomwe" ndizolakwika "ndi ine. Mbiri yanga ya moyo siyofanana ndi Kalle, wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwambiri yemwe samatha kukhala ndi mnzake (DN 5/9). Koma ndimatha kuwona ndondomekoyi. Ndine wosiyana ndi iye. Ndine 50 +, ndakhala ndikukhala ndi moyo wokonda kugonana mpaka zaka pafupifupi khumi zapitazo. Chimene chinabwera poyamba, kusowa kwa kugonana kapena zolaula, sindikudziwa.
Ndidawerenga nkhaniyi lero ndipo ndili ndi zambiri zoti ndiganizire. Koma ndikutha kuwona chitsanzocho: zolaula zambiri = kuchepa kwa mphamvu ndi mnzanu. Ndili pamalo omwe ndimakhala ndikugonana osagonana ndi mnzanga, popeza sizinachitike bwino kangapo, ndikuganiza kuti 'inde, ndiye wokalamba kwambiri. Ndakonzekera moyo wanga, 'ndipo ndinayamba kukhala ndi zolaula.
Nkhani yamkati idatsegula maso! Sindinaganizepo za izi ndi dongosolo la mphotho. Ndipo kuseweretsa maliseche ndi mphotho yayikulu kwambiri! Kuposa chakudya, ndikuganiza… Tsopano ndiyenera kuyang'ana m'mbuyo mmoyo wanga ndi zomwe ndikuchita. ”
- H
"Ndikuvomereza kuti chisangalalo chambiri chogonana chimatha koma sindikuganiza kuti chimangokhudza anthu omwe amawononga zolaula zambiri. Ndikumva mulimonse kuti ndimakwaniritsa zonse zogonana pazanema, kuphatikiza zotsatsa zovala ndi nyimbo, komanso mapulogalamu osiyanasiyana azakugonana. Ayi, sizosangalatsanso. ”
Mwina asexual
“Ndizosangalatsa kuti zolaula zimayambitsidwa. China chomwe ndidakopeka nacho Nkhani yamkati mwake, komabe, ndikuti zimangoyang'ana momwe zolaula zimapwetekera amuna, amuna amatha kukhala opanda mphamvu ngati atayang'ana zolaula kwambiri, amuna osawombera zibwenzi zawo ndi zina zotero. Amuna osauka omwe amayenera kutsimikizira akazi kuti azilimbikitsidwa kugonana!
Nanga bwanji kusamalira amayi zikwizikwi omwe amavutika ndi makampani opanga zolaula chaka chilichonse? Akugwiriridwa, kugwiritsidwa ntchito komanso kukakamizidwa kugwira ntchito zovuta? Zowonongeka pa zolembera ndikupha moyo wake?
Nanga bwanji kumvetsera zakugonana kwa akazi komwe kumakhudzanso kwambiri zolaula? Amayi amatsutsidwa nthawi zonse, ndipo thupi lachikazi limadwala pogonana pachikhalidwe chathu. Kodi zimakhudza bwanji mkazi yemwe ali ndi chibwenzi chomwe samakonda kukumana ndi vuto lanu?
Chifukwa cha kutsatsa zolaula komanso zachiwerewere, amuna ndi akazi chithunzi chodwala cha momwe thupi la akazi liyenera kuwonekera, ndi momwe kugonana kuyenera kupitira (mwa akazi, kugonjera, ndi zina zambiri). Kuyesera kuzindikira mavuto ndikumvera izi nthawi ina. ”
- Mwamuna 1990
"Tsopano ndawerenga nkhani zokhudzana ndi zolaula zomwe ndikuganiza kuti zidagawidwa mwachilungamo. Koma ndidapeza malingaliro owanyoza anyamata omwe sindikumvetsa. Zofanana ndi 'kukonzanso mwamakhalidwe' mzaka makumi asanu. Ndipo bwanji osakulitsa kuwunikiraku ndikuphatikizanso amuna ndi akazi? ”
- Mats
NKHANI - "Ndimasankha zogonana ndi mnzanga"
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