Kulimbikitsa Kugonana Kwambiri Kukhoza Kuwatsogolera Ku Moyo Weniweni Wopanda Kugonana

Zodabwitsa za 6 zomwe muyenera kudziwa za amuna ndi zolaula ndi Jed Diamond PhD

Ndinkachita mantha kwambiri pafupi ndi imfa tsiku limene ndinasankha mbolo yanga. Ndinazindikira kugwedeza kwa magetsi kwa mayi wanga ndipo ndinapeza kuti kusewera nawo pamimba zanga kunapangitsa kuti phokoso likhale losangalatsa komanso kuti munthu akhale ndi maganizo okondwera kwambiri. Pamene izi zidapitilira mwaziphuphu-woyamba wanga, pamene ndinali ndi 11-ine ndinapita kuchoka kumakhala ndikukhazikika ndikukhala wokondwa kuti ndikhale wong'ambika.

Ubongo wanga wa zaka za 11 unayesa kudziwa zomwe zinachitika ndipo unachita mantha pamene njira yokhayo ingatheke kukumbukira. Ndinachenjezedwa za kuopsa kwa chipangizo chamagetsi chomwe chikugwera mu bafa ndikupha munthu ndipo ndinauzidwa kuti ndisagwiritse ntchito chipangizo ngati mapazi anga atanyowa. Anali otsimikiza kuti izi zatsogolera ku electrocution ya mbolo yanga. Zinali zomveka komanso, ndikudziwa, zakufa. Ndinapemphera kwa Mulungu kuti ngati mbolo yanga ikadzakhalanso ndi moyo sindikanatha kutero ".

Uphungu wanga ndi ena onsewo tinapulumuka ndipo zowona, sindinagwiritsenso ntchito kugwiritsira ntchito magetsi pamsewu. Ndamaliza maphunzirowa kuchokera ku vibrator kupita ku magazini ya chilengedwe yomwe ndinapeza tsiku limodzi, ndikubwereka makope a Playboy, ndiyeno kwa mtsikana, ndipo potsiriza mkazi. Monga amuna ambiri pamene mwayi wa kugonana pa intaneti unayamba kupezeka, ndinayesera. Zokondweretsa kwambiri, ndikuyenera kuvomereza, koma sizinandigwire mtima monga momwe ziliri ndi amuna ndi akazi lero, makamaka anyamata ndi anyamata omwe akukula ndi makompyuta ndi intaneti.

Monga katswiri wa zamaganizo odziwa zaumoyo wamwamuna, ndawona chiwerengero chochulukira cha anyamata pakati pa zaka za 14 ndi 24 (ndi ambiri omwe sali m'gulu lomwelo) omwe akugwiritsa ntchito kugonana pa intaneti m'njira zomwe zimawopsyeza miyoyo yawo. Ambiri mwa iwo akuvutika erectile kukanika, nkhawandipo maganizo. Amandiuza kuti akuvutika kuti amukitsidwe ndi "zenizeni, akazi amoyo," zomwe zimawapangitsa manyazi ndipo zimawapangitsa kuti atembenuke kwambiri ku intaneti.

Popeza mwayi wopezera kugonana pa intaneti udzapitirira kuwonjezeka, pali zina zomwe muyenera kuzidziwa:

Anyamata ndi abambo ambiri akukhala ndi nthawi yovuta kukhala ndi maubwenzi abwino ogonana ndi akazi.

Mu 2011, Filipo Zimbardo, PhD., Imodzi mwa zithunzi zofufuza za sayansi kwazaka zoposa makumi anayi inafotokozera nkhani yaifupi ya TED yotchedwa Kuwonetsa kwa Anyamata. Zimbardo anati, "Mwachiwerengero, anyamata akuwotcha maphunziro, akuthawa ndi atsikana, ndikulephera kugonana ndi amayi." Izi ndi zovuta kwa amuna ndi akazi ofanana.

Kulimbikitsa kugonana pachiwerewere kumatha kukhala osokoneza bongo.

Ndagwira ntchito ndi anthu omwe adayamba kumwa mowa ndi chamba ndi cocaine ndi heroin. Koma anthu akhoza kukhala osokonezeka ndi makhalidwe komanso zinthu monga kutchova njuga ndi kugonana. Atafunsidwa zomwe zimachititsa kuti abambo ndi anyamata akule bwino kugonana ndi abambo abwino, Zimbardo akunena kuti vuto lalikulu lingathe kutsatiridwa ndi zotsatira zosayembekezereka za intaneti.

"Ndikuganiza kuti imagwiritsa ntchito intaneti mopitirira muyeso, kusewera makanema kwambiri, komanso kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula mwatsopano. Vuto ndilakuti izi ndizomwe zimapangitsa kuti mukhale osokoneza bongo. Kuledzera, mumangofuna zochulukira. Udzidzimutsa, ukufuna zosiyana. ”

Zizindikiro zokhudzana ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo sizizindikiritsidwa.

Madokotala ambiri komanso othandizira sanazindikire kuopsa kwa kukakamiza kugonana pa intaneti ndipo mwina sangafunse za zizindikilo zomwe zingakhale zokhudzana ndi kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti. Zizindikiro zodziwika bwino ndi izi:

• Kusadziwika bwino kwa erectile kulephera (ED).
• Kuthamangitsidwa kochedwa.
• Kuthetsa chidwi pakati pa enieni.
• Kuwonjezeka kwa kugwiritsidwa ntchito pa-eti-mapulogalamu omwe amatsutsana ndi zoyambirira.
• Kupitiliza kugwiritsidwa ntchito pogwiritsa ntchito njira zokhudzana ndi kugonana ngakhale kuti pali mavuto.
• Amuna amakhala ndi zochitika zogonana ndi abwenzi osiyanasiyana.

Chimodzi mwazinthu zodziwika bwino zakugonana amuna kapena akazi, ndikuti kugonana kwa mkazi kumatha kubweretsa mimba ndi mwana. Kwa amuna, satenga mimba ndipo pali mwayi wosintha kukhala ndi ana ambiri. Popeza kuti mwabwinobwino sizowopsa kwa iye kufalitsa mbewu yake kuposa momwe mkazi angailandire, amuna amakhala ndi chikhalidwe chokhala ndi chidwi ndi anzawo osiyanasiyana. Sindikunena kuti izi ndi zoona kwa amuna onse kapena amuna ambiri omwe amachita. Ndikunena kuti ndichizolowezi chachilengedwe chomwe tiyenera kudziwa kuti chilipo.

Amuna akamapewa zovuta kulumikizana ndi akazi osiyanasiyana, amatha kusankha zosiyana pakati pa okonda kugonana.

Kugonana pa intaneti ndi mitundu yake yopanda malire kungachititse abambo kufunafuna kosatha "zambiri" ndi "zosiyana."

Mumoyo weniweni pali amayi ambiri omwe amapezeka kwa mwamuna wina ndipo amayenera kugwirizanitsa, kukhazikitsa ubale, ndi chidwi ndi wokondedwa wake mu zosangalatsa za kugonana naye. Pokhala ndi kugonana pa intaneti, mwamuna samayenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama kuti apeze mkazi wokongola yemwe angamufunse. Pali chiwerengero chopanda malire cha abwenzi omwe amalingalira ndipo onse amatha kumubweretsera. Ndi zophweka kukhala oledzera.

Mmodzi wa makasitomala anga anati, "Mankhwala anga osankha ndi Zambiri. Zambiri sizingakwanire. ” Pankhani yolimbikitsa kugonana pa intaneti, nthawi zonse pamakhala zochulukirapo. Monga ndidanenera m'buku lomwe ndidalemba zaka zingapo zapitazo tidayamba "kufunafuna chikondi m'malo onse olakwika."

Pali thandizo kwa anthu omwe akuwona kuti kukopa pa intaneti kumakhala vuto.

Wokondedwa wanga, Andrew Wiler, PhD, walemba bwino kwambiri nkhani zomwe zimapereka njira zitatu zosavuta, koma zothandiza, zomwe zingathandize. Mphunzitsi wokhudzana ndi matenda a chilengedwe ndi aumulungu Gary Wilson analemba buku labwino kwambiri, Ubongo Wanu pa Zithunzi: Zithunzi Zolaula pa Intaneti ndi Emerging Science of Addiction. Pa webusaiti yake amaperekanso nkhani, mavidiyo, ndi zokhudzana ndi kumasuka ku zizolowezi za intaneti. Ali ndi kanema yatsopano, Kusokonekera kwa Erectile kopangidwa ndi zithunzi, zomwe ndikulangiza kwambiri.

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