Ine ndikuyimira njira yowopsya yotheka kwa inu. Ndine chitsanzo cha chifukwa chake muyenera kudziŵa kuti kuonera zolaula ndi vuto lalikulu. Ine sindiri zaka chikwi zomwe zikungoyesa kudziputsa yekha ngati kuyesera. Mwanjira zambiri, izi zakhala ulendo wautali.
Kwa ine, kuseweretsa maliseche kuyambira ndili wamng'ono kunayambitsa chizoloŵezi chogonana ndi anyamata omwe adakali achichepere omwe pamapeto pake amachititsa kuchita zachiwerewere ndi atsikana omwe amachititsa kuti azigonana ndikugonana ndi anyamata kuchokera ku craigslist komanso maholo akuluakulu komanso mahule achikazi, otsutsa, masseuses, ndi zina zotero. Pa nthawi zingapo ndakhala ndikuyenda ndikuyesa kutenga anyamata achizolowezi akuyenda kapena akudikirira pa basi. Ndondomeko yanga yogonana maliseche kwa zaka zambiri ikuphatikizapo zinthu zapakhomo, chakudya, zovala / nsapato kuchokera kwa abambo aakazi, kudyetsa mkodzo wanga ndi umuna wanga, ndi zina zotero. Nkhani za nyuzipepala zowerenga komanso mavidiyo owonetsa a amuna odwala, ndikudziwa kuti pali ngakhale chiwerengero choyipa pambuyo pake, ndipo ndikuthokoza kuti sindinayambe ndachitapo.
Pamene ndimayesetsa kusiya, zimakulirakulirabe. Zili ngati kutola nkhanambo. Pali nthawi zina zomwe ndakhala ndikuyeretsedwa kwa miyezi komanso nthawi zina nthawi zingapo kangapo tsiku lililonse. Nayi malangizo anga:
1) Pezani gwero la vutoli pogwiritsa ntchito njira zamaganizo zodzifufuza. Khalani oona mtima ndi inu nokha komanso amuna. Dzikhululukireni nokha. Zizolowezi zambiri zoipa zimachokera ku malingaliro osathetsedwa kuyambira ubwana kapena unyamata, zinthu zomwe simunathe kuuza aliyense, madandaulo obisika omwe mwakhala nawo. Nthawi zambiri zimayambira pa ubale ndi makolo, banja, aphunzitsi, anzanu akusukulu, kumva kuti mwazunzidwa kapena kupatsidwa zinthu zosalungama m'moyo. Zili ngati mumadzimva kuti muli ndi vuto choncho gwiritsani ntchito kuonera zolaula kuti mudzaze dzenje m'moyo wanu. Ngati simungathe kupeza zinthu pa intaneti, muyenera kupeza thandizo la akatswiri kuti akutsogolereni m'njira yoyenera. Zoona zake n'zakuti katswiri aliyense wa zamaganizo amene ali woyenera kumudziwa adzamvetsa ngati mukuchita mopitirira muyeso ndipo mukuziganizira kwambiri, ndipo adzayesa kukuthandizani kuchepetsa kuwonongeka. Vuto ndilakuti ubongo wathu uli ndi zokondweretsa ndipo uyenera kupitiliza kuzipititsa pamlingo wina ngati yankho la kupsinjika maganizo. Koma tikhoza kubwezanso ulamuliro.
2) Dziwani momwe mumachitira zinthu ndi zizolowezi zanu. Dziwani pamene mukudziganizira nokha zomwe ndi chinyengo chabe. Khalani ndi chiyembekezo ndi chikhulupiriro kuti ngati mutakhala oyera kwa kanthawi, zilakolakozo zidzatha, kuti zilakolakozo ndi zachibadwa, kuti ubongo ndi thupi lanu zidzachira zokha, kuti ngati mulembanso chizolowezi chanu ubongo wanu udzasintha malamulo atsopano. Dziwani kuti kumva nthabwala ndi "kungomva" ndipo simuyenera kumva kuti mukukakamizika kuchitapo kanthu, monga momwe simuchitira ndi malingaliro anu ena onse. Chitani china.
3) Musalole zolakwa zakale, machimo, ndi katundu wanu kukugwetsani pansi. Anthu atembereredwa/adalitsidwa ndi chisoni ndi zakale ndi nkhawa za mtsogolo. Timaiwala za nthawi yamuyaya ya tsopano. Tili ndi mphamvu zokhala ndi moyo wamakono ndipo mwina tili ndi mtambo wabwino wa mtsogolo. Pamene ndinaulula zonse zomwe ndachita pogonana kumayambiriro kwa positi iyi, mungaganize kuti ndasokonezeka ndipo moyo wanga watha. Ndipotu, nditha kupita patsogolo. Ziweruzo zanu sizili ndi tanthauzo pa moyo wanga. Simuli m'malo mwanga. Tonse tachita zinthu zomwe timachita manyazi nazo. Koma sitiyenera kupanga miyoyo yathu kukhala gehena tsiku lililonse. Sitiyenera kudzilanga tokha. Tiyenera kuyambanso mphindi iliyonse. Ingobwerezanso tepi ndikuphunzira kuchokera kwa inu nokha. Simubwerera pansi pa phiri. Ndipotu, palibe phiri konse.
4) Bwezerani ulamuliro. Ingoyesani pamene chilakolako chofuna kugonana chikubwera ndipo muli nokha. Palibe amene akukukakamizani kuti mulowerere zolaula kapena kuyamba kuonera zolaula. Izi ndi zizolowezi zoipa zomwe mwaphunzira, ndipo zitha kuchotsedwa. Dziwani malingaliro ndi momwe mukumvera koma musamvere. Malingalirowo adzayesa kukutsimikizirani kuti mukuyenera kufika pachimake, kuti muli ndi ufulu chifukwa palibe amene amasamalira zosowa zanu, kuti si nkhani yaikulu, kuti idzakhala nthawi yomaliza, kuti mukufunika kuti muchepetse nkhawa, kuti ndi zachilendo, komanso kukambirana kulikonse kapena kulingalira. Mukalembanso script yanu, mudzamanga chitetezo chamthupi.
5) Fufutani ma memes ndi malamulo omwe mukuganiza kuti muli nawo kuno ndi kwina. Ngati mumakonda kuwerengera masiku ndi mizere popanda kuyang'ana chithunzi chachikulu, simudzasiya chizolowezicho. Mwachionekere mudzamva kuti ndinu wolakwa ndipo mudzasangalala ndikubwereza zomwezo ndikukhumudwa. Ngati muli ndi malingaliro odzikuza oganiza kuti kudzikhululukira nokha ndi njira yaulere yopita ku fap (yofanana ndi Mkatolika woulula kwa wansembe kenako nkuchita tchimo lomwelo), muli panjira yolakwika. Musayang'ane pa "kulakwitsa". Tsiku lina, mukangoyenda panjira yoyenera, mudzamasulidwa ndipo simudzadandaula ndi mawu otere. Mudzakhala moyo ndipo mudzakhala opitirira muyeso wa malingaliro awa. Dziwani kuti iyi ndi njira yopitilira. Mutha kuchira kwathunthu pogwiritsa ntchito mfundo.
6) Kodi tanthauzo la moyo ndi chiyani? Zizolowezi zabwino zimaphatikizapo kukhala waluso, kaya kulemba, kupanga mapulogalamu, kujambula, kusintha, kuimba, kuvina, kupanga china chilichonse. Zizolowezi zabwino zimaphatikizapo kuthandiza ena, kuphunzitsa ena, ndi kukhala chitsanzo chabwino. Khalani ndi zosangalatsa zenizeni. Pangani malo abwino. Khalani ndi zochita za tsiku ndi tsiku zopindulitsa. Phunzirani nthawi zonse. Ena a inu mumaganiza kuti ndinu odziwa zonse. Ndipotu tili ndi mwayi wodziwa 1% ya chidziwitso chonse. Nthawi zonse phunzirani zinthu zatsopano, phunzirani mitu yomwe mukufuna ndikuphunzira yatsopano. Khalani ndi maganizo otseguka, ngati siponji. Kutsatira chilakolako chanu chapadera. Pakali pano kutengera nthawi yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito, komanso kuganizira kwambiri zamaganizo, PMO ndiye chilakolako chanu. Ngati mwagwa pamlingo wanga, kukhala wokonda kugonana ndiye chilakolako chanu. Mukudziwa kuti pali china chake kunja uko! Nthawi yoti musinthe!
7) Khalani auzimu. Mwina ndinu ozindikira kale. Mwina mukutsutsana ndi chipembedzo chogwirizana, koma ngakhale sayansi singayankhe mafunso akuluakulu okhudza chiyambi cha moyo, chilengedwe, ndi chidziwitso mokhutiritsa. Pitani ku mitu yomwe bungweli latsutsa kuti mumve kuti pali china chake chachikulu kuposa inu. Siyani kukhulupirira kuti anthu ali pamwamba pa unyolo wa chakudya ndipo amadziwa chilichonse. Zimatsogolera ku kudzilambira nokha ndi kudzimvera chisoni. Zimatsogolera ku kukana makhalidwe abwino, ndipo mukakhala opanda makhalidwe abwino mutha kuchita zinthu zambiri zopanda pake. Pangani dongosolo lalikulu la chikhulupiriro lomwe limakubweretsani pafupi ndi kuthekera kwanu konse monga munthu, osati kudzikhutiritsa kotsika kwambiri. Cholinga chachikulu, osati chotsika.
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