Pamene ikukulamulirani m'malo molamulira
Disembala 14, 2012 Wolemba Robert Taibbi, LCSW
Porn zikukhala vuto lalikulu komanso lalikulu kwambiri. Akuti anthu a ku America a 20-30 (makamaka amuna) amawonera zolaula tsiku ndi tsiku. Kukonzekera kokhala ndi zolaula kumachititsa achinyamata ambiri (inde, amuna kachiwiri) kuti apeze Viagra kuti athetse vuto la erectile chifukwa cha kusintha kwa ubongo wawo. Zosokoneza kwambiri ndi zomwe zimakhudza ana (ena monga achinyamata monga 10) omwe amawonera zolaula ndikupanga kusintha kwakukulu mu ubongo wawo chifukwa cha msinkhu wawo komanso chifukwa zolaula zimabwera asanakhale ndi chiyanjano chenicheni ndi munthu wina.
Pomaliza pali zizolowezi zolaula zomwe sizikungosokoneza kugonana kwa anthu awiri komanso momwe zimakhudzira maganizo. Ndipo monga mowa kapena mankhwala osokoneza bongo , pali kusiyana pakati pa kudalira ndi kuledzera.
Kugonjera ndi kukoka, kukhumba - kuyang'ana zakumwa zakumwa kuti muwonetsetse kuti simudzathamanga ndi Lachinayi kapena kuyembekezera 4 pm madzulo. Ndiledzera mankhwalawa ndi bwana wa inu. Inu mumamanga kuzungulira izo, simungathe kuziletsa, kudumpha sizomwe mungathe, ngakhale kuganiza popanda kuchita kumapangitsa mantha.
Porn ndizamphamvu kwambiri chifukwa cha intaneti. Monga momwe heroin akuledzera kapena kuledzeretsa kwauchidakwa kumawonjezereka, chomwechonso chimakhudzanso anthu amene amakopeka ndi zolaula. Pomwe paliponse kapena mwatsoka pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana yamtundu ndi malo, okonzeka kudzaza zatsopano zomwe mukufuna - simukutha.
Ndipo potsiriza tili ndi oxytocin . Ichi ndi chomwe chimathetsa chizolowezi cha amuna. Oxytocin ndi mankhwala omwe amathandiza makolo atsopano kugwirizana ndi makanda awo, amachititsa kuti maanja omwe amakondana azigwirizana. Tsiku lililonse, kuchuluka kwa oxytocin m'thupi la mkazi kumatha kukhala kokwera nthawi 10 kuposa kwa mwamuna. Chifukwa cha zimenezi sizitenga nthawi yambiri (amatsuka mbale mosayembekezereka, amamubweretsera maluwa) kuti amve kuti ali ogwirizana. Kodi n'chiyani chimawonjezera oxytocin kwa amuna? Munaganiza - kugonana , makamaka kufika pachimake . Amuna akamaonera zolaula nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi kufika pachimake (chifukwa cha ma neuron omwe amawonetsa momwe malo olankhulirana amagwirira ntchito) zomwe zimawonjezera oxytocin yawo kenako amalumikizana ndi zolaula. (Kuti mudziwe zambiri za zolaula ndi ubongo onani Oct '12 Men's Health)
Pamene zonsezi zimapangidwanso, palinso kachidutswa ka maganizo. Monga mavuto ena, zolaula ndizovuta kuthetsa mavuto ena. Kodi mavutowa ndi ati? Ena ayenera kukayikira:
Kupsinjika maganizo . Kupsinjika maganizo kukasefukira, n'kosavuta kusamukira kumadera oletsedwa kwambiri omwe tingawanyalanyaze masana. Ndi kupsinjika maganizo, chitetezo chathu chachilengedwe chimapita. Kwa ena ndi zolaula, kwa ena chakumwa china kapena chodyera, kapena kugula nsapato pa intaneti. Sankhani poizoni wanu.
Kutopa. Kutopa nthawi zambiri kumachokera ku magwero awiri - kudzaza moyo wanu ndi zinthu zambiri zomwe muyenera kuchita osati zomwe mukufuna, komanso kusowa kwa chilimbikitso. Ndikutanthauza kuchita zomwe muyenera kuchita osati zomwe mukufuna zomwe zimagwira moyo wanu ndi chilakolako chanu. Ngati mukuchita chizolowezi chokazinga ma hamburger ku McD's mwina ndi ntchito yomwe muyenera kuchita - osati chilimbikitso chanu - ndipo mutha kutopa msanga. Mutha kukhala osatopa kwambiri ngati pali chilimbikitso - mnzanu wantchito woti mulankhule naye za kumapeto kwa sabata kapena zochita za anthu omwe ali pafupi nanu panthawi yothamanga nkhomaliro. Tengani zinthu kwa mnzanu wantchito kapena kuthamangira nkhomaliro ndipo mungatope. Zolaula zimapangitsa kuti musangalale kwambiri mukakhala kuti simukukhutira komanso simukusangalala.
Kukwiya. Kukwiya kumasakanikirana bwino ndi zomwe muyenera kuchita. Ngati mukuchita zomwe muyenera kuchita kwambiri chifukwa wina (kapena mawu otsutsa m'mutu mwanu) akunena zimenezo, n'zosavuta kuti mkwiyo ukhazikike. Zikakula mokwanira, chizolowezi chimakhala kuchita zinthu chifukwa choti mukuyenera. Choncho mumabisala pa intaneti nthawi ya 4 koloko masana chifukwa mwatopa mwakuthupi komanso mwatopa ndi zomwe mwachita tsiku lonse. Mubisala pa intaneti nthawi ya 11 koloko masana chifukwa mumamva kuti mkazi wanu wakhala akukuvutitsani kuyambira mutabwerera kunyumba, ndipo mumamva kuti mukuyenera, chifukwa, mwanjira ina yachilendo, ndikubwezera (ngakhale izi zili m'maganizo mwanu ndipo sakudziwa zomwe mukuganiza).
Kugonana. Kapena kusowa. Mungaganize kuti izi ziyenera kukhala pamwamba pa mndandanda, koma nthawi zambiri sizimakhala choncho. Koma mwachionekere zilipo. Ngati mukumva kuti mukumanidwa zinthu zogonana, simukugwirizana ndi anzanu, simukusangalala ndi kugonana, zolaula pa intaneti zikuwoneka ngati njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli - pafupi ndi zenizeni momwe mungathere popanda zenizeni.
Vuto kachiwiri ndi zina mwa izi zingakhale zovuta ndipo mutakhala wodalira zolaula kuti muwachitire, mumayamba kugwira ntchito, ubongo umatha, ndipo muli panjira yowonongeka.
Njira yotulukira? Monga machitidwe ambiri omwe angakhale osokoneza bongo, muyenera kuthana ndi zinthu ziwirizi nthawi imodzi. Mwamakhalidwe muyenera kusiya njira imeneyi. Chomwe chimalimbikitsidwa kwa iwo omwe ali ndi vuto la ED si Viagra koma kudziletsa - osagwiritsa ntchito zolaula, osagwiritsa ntchito maliseche (chifukwa mumabwerezanso mosavuta maloto a pa intaneti mukamaseweretsa maliseche) kwa miyezi 6 kapena kuposerapo (mutha kupeza mawebusayiti omwe anthu amafunitsitsa kukambirana za izi) kuti akuthandizeni kuswa chizolowezi ndikubwezeretsa ubongo wanu.
Enanso ndikuthetsa vutoli. Ngati mukuchita zomwe muyenera koma osati zomwe mukufuna, pezani njira zowonjezera zofuna zanu m'moyo wanu. Ngati mukufuna kukondoweza, pezani malo ogulitsira ena kuti mukwaniritse 4 koloko masana ndikukoka pa kompyuta yanu. Ngati kupsinjika, kuchepa. Ngati mumakwiyira ena - abwana anu, mnzanu - yesani kudziwa zomwe mukufuna kuti asinthe ndikulankhula - akusowa magawo ovuta, amafunikira nthawi kuti musinthe mukamabwera kunyumba. Ngati ndi zokhudza kugonana, chitaninso chimodzimodzi - dziwani zomwe mukufuna ndikulankhula.
Simuyenera kuchita bwino, ingochita zosiyana. Kuwerengera masitepe a ana, ingoyambani. Mukapitilizabe kuchita zomwezo mudzamvanso chimodzimodzi.
Pomaliza, ndikuzindikira kuti zonsezi ndi zophweka kunena, koma nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kuchita. Chotsani chithandizo - kuchokera kwa mnzanu, bwenzi, akatswiri. Pezani thandizo kuti musinthe zomwe mukuchita kuti muthe kusintha zomwe mukuchita.
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Ndemanga: Robert Taibbi, ndi wothandizira odziwika bwino, wolemba, komanso wolemba mabuku opangira aphungu ndi oyang'anira awo. Mu positi iyi ya PT amafotokozera za ED, ndipo akuwonetsa kuti 6 mwezi wopanda zolaula & maliseche angafunike.