Pamene ikukulamulirani m'malo molamulira
Disembala 14, 2012 Wolemba Robert Taibbi, LCSW
Porn zikukhala vuto lalikulu komanso lalikulu kwambiri. Akuti anthu a ku America a 20-30 (makamaka amuna) amawonera zolaula tsiku ndi tsiku. Kukonzekera kokhala ndi zolaula kumachititsa achinyamata ambiri (inde, amuna kachiwiri) kuti apeze Viagra kuti athetse vuto la erectile chifukwa cha kusintha kwa ubongo wawo. Zosokoneza kwambiri ndi zomwe zimakhudza ana (ena monga achinyamata monga 10) omwe amawonera zolaula ndikupanga kusintha kwakukulu mu ubongo wawo chifukwa cha msinkhu wawo komanso chifukwa zolaula zimabwera asanakhale ndi chiyanjano chenicheni ndi munthu wina.
Pamapeto pake pali zizoloŵezi zolaula zomwe sizikusokoneza chiyanjano cha kugonana koma ndikuwoneka kuti ndizomwe zimagwirizana. Ndipo monga mowa kapena mankhwala, pali mzere wabwino apa pakati pa kudalira ndi kuledzera.
Kugonjera ndi kukoka, kukhumba - kuyang'ana zakumwa zakumwa kuti muwonetsetse kuti simudzathamanga ndi Lachinayi kapena kuyembekezera 4 pm madzulo. Ndiledzera mankhwalawa ndi bwana wa inu. Inu mumamanga kuzungulira izo, simungathe kuziletsa, kudumpha sizomwe mungathe, ngakhale kuganiza popanda kuchita kumapangitsa mantha.
Porn ndizamphamvu kwambiri chifukwa cha intaneti. Monga momwe heroin akuledzera kapena kuledzeretsa kwauchidakwa kumawonjezereka, chomwechonso chimakhudzanso anthu amene amakopeka ndi zolaula. Pomwe paliponse kapena mwatsoka pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana yamtundu ndi malo, okonzeka kudzaza zatsopano zomwe mukufuna - simukutha.
Ndipo potsiriza ife tiri oxytocin pamene. Izi ndi zomwe zimapangitsa anthu kukhala oledzera. Oxytocin ndi mankhwala omwe amathandiza atsopano makolo mgwirizano kwa ana awo, amachititsa maanja omwe amakondana kuti azigwirizana. Pa tsiku lirilonse, mpweya wa oxytocin wa amayi ukhoza kukhala wofanana kwambiri ndi nthawi 10 kuposa ya munthu. Ndipotu sizitenga zambiri (amatsuka mbale mosayembekezereka, kumabweretsa maluwa) kuti amve kuti akugwirizanitsa. Nchiyani chimapangitsa oxytocin kwa amuna? Mukuganiza kuti - kugonana, makamaka orgasm. Monga amuna amawonera zolaula amakhala ndi ziphuphu (chifukwa chowonetsa neurons ndi interactive chikhalidwe a zolaula) zomwe zimawonjezera oxytocin ndipo amalumikizana ndi zolaula. (Mwachidule cha zolaula ndi ubongo onani Oct '12 Men's Health)
Pamene zonsezi zimapangidwanso, palinso kachidutswa ka maganizo. Monga mavuto ena, zolaula ndizovuta kuthetsa mavuto ena. Kodi mavutowa ndi ati? Ena ayenera kukayikira:
kupanikizika. Pamene kupsinjika maganizo kudutsa m'mabanki ake, n'zosavuta kusamukira kumalo ena oletsedwa omwe tinganyalanyaze panthawi yamasana. Ndikumapanikizika kumakhala kutetezeka kwathupi. Kwa ena ndi za zolaula, ena amamwa mowa kapena mgwirizano, kapena kugula pa Intaneti pa nsapato. Sankhani poizoni wanu.
Chibwibwi. Chizoloŵezi kawirikawiri chimabwera kuchokera kuzinthu za 2 - kudzazidwa ndi moyo wanu ndi "zofunikira" zambiri m'malo mofuna, komanso kusowa chidwi. Ndizoyenera kuti ndichite zomwe mukuyenera kuchita m'malo mofuna zomwe zimatenga moyo wanu ndi chilakolako chanu. Ngati mukudutsa ma hamburgers ozizira pa McD's mwina ayenera - ntchito, osati chilakolako chanu - ndipo mukhoza kutopa nthawi yomweyo. Mwina simungakhale wotopetsa ngati mukulimbikitsana - mnzanu wa kuntchito kuti mukambirane za kumapeto kwake kwa sabata kapena ntchito ya anthu okuzungulirani pakadutsa masana. Mutengereni kuntchito kapena kufulumira chakudya cham'mawa ndipo mutengeke. Porn zimakulimbikitsani kwambiri mukamakhala osakhutira komanso osakhudzidwa.
Chifundo. Mkwiyo umasakaniza bwino ndi zoyenera. Ngati mukuchita zomwe mumayenera kuchita chifukwa wina (kapena mawu ovuta pamutu panu) akunena choncho, ndi zophweka kuti mkwiyo ukwaniritsidwe. Ukadzala mokwanira, chizoloŵezi ndicho kuchita chifukwa uli woyenerera. Kotero mumagwedeza pa Intaneti pa ntchito yanu pa 4 pm chifukwa muli otopa mwakuthupi ndikutengeka ndi zomwe mwachita tsiku lonse. Mumagwiritsa ntchito Intaneti pa 11 masana chifukwa mumamva kuti mkazi wanu akukuvutitsani kuyambira pamene muli kunyumba, ndipo mumamva kuti mukuyenera, chifukwa ndi njira ina yodabwitsa, kubwereranso kwa iye (ngakhale ziri zonse mmaganizo mwanu alibe chidziwitso chomwe mukuganiza).
Kugonana. Kapena kusowa. Mungaganize kuti izi ziyenera kukhala pamwamba pa mndandanda, koma nthawi zambiri siziri. Koma mwachiwonekere chiri pamenepo. Ngati mukumva kuti mulibe chiwerewere, osatayika, osowa pogonana, zolaula pa intaneti zikuwoneka ngati njira yothetsera vuto - monga pafupi ndi zenizeni monga momwe mungapeze popanda chenicheni.
Vuto kachiwiri ndi zina mwa izi zingakhale zovuta ndipo mutakhala wodalira zolaula kuti muwachitire, mumayamba kugwira ntchito, ubongo umatha, ndipo muli panjira yowonongeka.
Njira yotuluka? Mofanana ndi zizoloŵezi zambiri zomwe zingakhale zowononga muyenera kuthana ndi zinthu za 2 panthawi yomweyo. Makhalidwe muyenera kuswa chitsanzo. Zomwe zimalimbikitsidwa kwa omwe akulandira ED sizowonjezera Viagra koma ozizira ozizira - kudziletsa - osayera, osasangalatsa (chifukwa mumakonda kugwiritsa ntchito Intaneti malingaliro pokhala ndi maliseche) kwa miyezi ya 6 kapena kutalika (mungapeze mawebusaiti omwe anthu akufuna kukamba za izi) kuthandiza kuthana ndi kusintha kwa ubongo wanu.
Enanso ndikuthetsa vutoli. Ngati mukuchita zomwe muyenera koma osati zomwe mukufuna, pezani njira zowonjezera zofuna zanu m'moyo wanu. Ngati mukufuna kukondoweza, pezani malo ogulitsira ena kuti mukwaniritse 4 koloko masana ndikukoka pa kompyuta yanu. Ngati kupsinjika, kuchepa. Ngati mumakwiyira ena - abwana anu, mnzanu - yesani kudziwa zomwe mukufuna kuti asinthe ndikulankhula - akusowa magawo ovuta, amafunikira nthawi kuti musinthe mukamabwera kunyumba. Ngati ndi zokhudza kugonana, chitaninso chimodzimodzi - dziwani zomwe mukufuna ndikulankhula.
Simuyenera kuchita bwino, ingochita zosiyana. Kuwerengera masitepe a ana, ingoyambani. Mukapitilizabe kuchita zomwezo mudzamvanso chimodzimodzi.
Pomaliza, ndikuzindikira kuti zonsezi ndi zophweka kunena, koma nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kuchita. Chotsani chithandizo - kuchokera kwa mnzanu, bwenzi, akatswiri. Pezani thandizo kuti musinthe zomwe mukuchita kuti muthe kusintha zomwe mukuchita.
Mwina ndi nthawi yokoka pulagi.
KULUMIKIZANA NDI NKHANI - Kulipirira kwambiri?
Ndemanga: Robert Taibbi, ndi wothandizira odziwika bwino, wolemba, komanso wolemba mabuku opangira aphungu ndi oyang'anira awo. Mu positi iyi ya PT amafotokozera za ED, ndipo akuwonetsa kuti 6 mwezi wopanda zolaula & maliseche angafunike.
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