Zolemba zawo zogonana zangokhala nkhani ya winawake kotero kuti sangathe kudzipangira zopeka. ”
Adatumizidwa mu September 13, 2017 Gina Rushton Wolemba nkhani wa BuzzFeed, Australia (kulumikiza ku nkhani yapachiyambi)
Dominic * anali ndi zaka 12 pamene anayamba kuonera zolaula pa Intaneti ndi kuseweretsa maliseche.
"Mpaka miyezi iwiri yapitayo ndimasanthula zolaula pafupifupi maola awiri patsiku," wazaka 28 wazaka zakumadzulo kwa Sydney adauza BuzzFeed News.
"Ndinawonapo zinthu zolimba kwambiri kuposa malingaliro abwinobwino a munthu aliyense.
"Mwina ndinkachita maliseche ndi chilichonse chomwe sichinali chokhudza kugwiririra kapena zachiwerewere."
Malinga ndi kuyerekezera kwa Dominic, anali atawonera zolaula zoposa 6,000 maola asanakumane pachiwonetsero chake chogonana ali ndi zaka zoyambirira za 20.
"Ndinazindikira kuti linali vuto nditayamba kugonana ndi mtsikana wamaloto anga ndipo sindimatha kuchita bwino momwe ndimayenera."
Iye anali ndi vuto kuti adzuke ndi kukonzedwa msanga.
"Ndi manyazi komanso kusokonezeka kwambiri ndidachita kafukufuku ndikupeza ena omwe akukumana ndi mavuto omwewo," adatero.
Dominic amalumikizana ndi anyamata ena ku Reddit omwe "amalimbikitsana wina ndi mnzake" kuti apewe kuseweretsa maliseche.
"Ndayesetsa mwakhama kuti ndisiye kuonera zolaula limodzi kwa miyezi iwiri tsopano," adatero.
Chomwe chimatchedwa kuti "kusokonekera kwa erectile kopangitsa zolaula" ndikulephera kupeza kapena kupititsa patsogolo nthawi yogonana chifukwa chowonera zolaula.
Phunziro lachi Victor laposachedwapa la 15 kwa zaka za 29 zakale zapezeka pafupifupi 70% ya amuna omwe adafunsidwa adawonerera zolaula kwa nthawi yoyamba ali ndi zaka 13 kapena achinyamata (84%) ndi anyamata a 19% ankaonera zolaula tsiku lililonse kapena mlungu uliwonse.
"Chifukwa chake azaka zapakati pa 11 ndi 17 akuwonera pafupifupi maola awiri kapena anayi pa sabata ndipo ngati ali ndi vuto logonana koyamba ali ndi zaka 17, ali ndi digiri ya bachelors zolaula asadakhale nawo woyamba zogonana, ”mlangizi wa maubwenzi ku Sydney komanso wothandizira zachiwerewere Alinda Small adauza BuzzFeed News.
"Ndimachita zolaula ndi anyamata omwe sangathe kuchoka panyumba chifukwa amatha maola asanu kapena asanu ndi limodzi patsiku akuwonerera, nthawi zina atatsegula zowonekera ziwiri kapena zitatu."
"Ndili ndi makasitomala ambiri azaka zoyambirira za 20 omwe amandiimbira foni kuti ali ndi vuto la erectile ndipo limakhudzana ndi zolaula."
Panali njira ziwiri zikuluzikulu zomwe zolaula zitha kusokoneza kukhudzana kwa kugonana kwamunthu m'banja lawo, Small adati.
"Atha kukhala ndi zibwenzi ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo koma zikafika polowera amasiya kukomoka chifukwa zolaula zimawonetsa chiyembekezo chosatheka chokhala ndi erection yayikulu ndikusunga kwanthawi yayitali," adatero. .
"Amuna amanyalanyaza kwambiri."
Nkhani ina yokhudzana ndi zizolowezi zolaula inali yopanga "njira yodziseweretsa maliseche".
"Ngati unazolowera kukoka kwambiri mbolo yako palibe nyini kapena ngakhale chotulukira zomwe zingayambitsenso kukangana kotereku."
Small atafunsa makasitomala ake "malingaliro anu akugonana ndi otani?" adati nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi chete.
"Mibadwo yapitayi akadayang'ana Playboy ndikupanga nkhani zawo koma amuna, makamaka, sangathenso kutero," adatero.
"Akamaonera zolaula zambiri, amayamba kunena za anthu ena kuti asadziwonerere."
Small anapempha makasitomala ena kuti achite maliseche ndi chithunzi mmalo mwake, koma kudziletsa kwathunthu kunali "kwachisoni komanso kosafunikira" chifukwa chake kunali kwabwino kuseweretsa maliseche mozungulira masiku atatu aliwonse.
Zithunzi zimasokoneza zomwe amayi akuyembekezera amaika paokha, Small adati.
"Chizoloŵezi chawo ndikuyang'ana zithunzi zopanda tsitsi lapa pubic ndi ma labias abwino ndipo tsopano amafunsa zolimba komanso mwachangu chifukwa amaganiza kuti izi ndi zachilendo."
* Angus poyamba ankasewera zolaula pa Intaneti ali ndi zaka 13.
"Ndili ndi chizolowezi chomwa chizolowezi chomwa mowa mwauchidakwa ndimakhala ndi magawo azisangalalo (PMO) tsiku lililonse mpaka zinayi," wazaka 27 adauza BuzzFeed News.
Anazindikira kuti chikondi chake chinasintha pa zaka khumi zotsatira.
Iye adayankhula kuti: "Zinayambira bwino, vanilla hetero ndi msungwana," adatero.
"Potsirizira pake zinasintha kukhala [maulamuliro aakazi], zolaula zolaula ndi zolaula."
Atayamba kugonana pa 16, Angus anakumana ndi zovuta.
"Sindinasangalalepo ndi kugonana pamene ndinali kuseweretsa maliseche chifukwa kugonana m'moyo weniweni sikuli kovuta monga zolaula," adatero.
"Zili ngati kupita kuchokera kumalo osungira madzi kupita kumalo osambira."
Atawerenga kafukufuku wochepa pa Intaneti, Angus anaganiza ali ndi zaka 25 kuti zolaula zake zimamukhudza "maganizo ndi kugonana".
Angus sanayang'ane zolaula m'masiku akale a 20.
"Ndapita masiku a 170 kumayambiriro kwa chaka chino, koma ndinabwereranso."
"Zolaula zimamwa mowa kwambiri ndipo ndakhala ndikulephera kusiya."
"Zimenezi zidzamveka ngati zopusa koma ndikupangira kusuta fodya chifukwa chogonana ndi zolaula."
Kuyambira pamene adayamba kuseweretsa maliseche popanda zolaula, Angus adazindikira kuti zomwe akuchitazo ndi "zowonjezereka komanso zowonjezereka".
"Kukhudza ndikuwona mkazi weniweni ndikosangalatsa kwa ine tsopano popeza ndasiya."
Tanya Koens, yemwe amagwira ntchito zachipatala, adanena kuti adawona odwala omwe ali ndi matenda osiyanasiyana okhudzana ndi kugonana omwe amayamba chifukwa chogonana ndi zolaula.
"Chifukwa zolaula zimapezeka mosavuta amuna awa amapita pachimbudzi cha kalulu pomwe amayang'ana izi ndi izi ndi izi ndipo amatha kukhala nthawi yayitali ali okwiya ndipo zimatenga nthawi yayitali kuti achoke," Koens adauza BuzzFeed News.
Ananenanso za odwala omwe anali ndi "chizolowezi chodziseweretsa maliseche" chomwe sichingafanane ndi "munthu wofewa, wofunda, squidgy": "Mutha kuzilowetsa m'mutu mukamayesa ndi bwenzi lanu."
"Kwenikweni, ndimawapangitsa kuseweretsa maliseche ataimirira ndipo mphindi iliyonse akuyang'ana zolaula kwa masekondi a 10 amayenera kuyang'ana kutali ndikuganiza za thupi lawo osati chinsalu," adatero.
"Ndi njira yofanizira yomwe imachotsa anthu kumutu kwawo ndikulowa mthupi lawo komwe ndimomwe zimakhala zosangalatsa."
Nthawi zina a Koens amapempha makasitomala kuti "azichita maliseche ndi dzanja lawo lina" komanso amachita "kupuma ndi mayendedwe" kutengera mfundo za tantric.
Zithunzi zolaula zokhudzana ndi "zachiwerewere zowopsa" zinali zopotoza kumvetsetsa kwa amuna za "momwe matupi azimayi amagwirira ntchito".
"Anthu akuganiza kuti akuyenera kuzichita ngati nyenyezi zolaula ndipo ndi njira yotsimikizika kuti asagonane bwino," adatero.
"Ndizogonana kwambiri ndipo sizabwino kapena zomwe zingapangitse abwenzi awo kukhala achidwi kwa miyezi yopitilira itatu."
Omwe azimayi omwe amagonana nawo nthawi zambiri amatenga zolakwika zakugonana ndipo amasiyidwa akumva "osakondedwa komanso osatetezeka", a Koens adatero.
Koma zolaula sizinalowe m'malo mochita zachiwerewere, adati: "Amunawa samayerekezera bwenzi lawo ndi zithunzi za azimayi zolaula sikulowa m'malo kapena kuyerekezera moyo wawo wogonana."
Anthu ena "samapeza njira yobwerera kwa wokondedwa wawo" chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula nthawi zonse, a Dan Auerbach, psychotherapist komanso mlangizi wamaubwenzi ku Associated Counsellors ndi Psychologists a Sydney adauza BuzzFeed News
"Mphamvu zakugonana zidatengedwa kwina ndipo chinyengo chankhanza chimakhala chosadziwika kuti azikhala kutali ndi anzawo kapena kugonana kumakhala kosavuta ndipo izi zimakhala zachizolowezi," adatero.
"Zizolowezi zolaula zimafanana kwambiri ndi kutchova juga chifukwa uli ndi vuto lopanda malire komanso zolimbikitsa zosiyanasiyana zomwe umatha kuwona nkhope, mapokoso, mawonekedwe, mitundu, makulidwe ndi zida zamtundu wa juga zimamangidwa kuti zikupatse mphotho zochulukirapo zomwe umayembekezera ndi kufunafuna kunja. ”
"Koma zolaula, monga chiwerewere chomwe chimayambitsidwa ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo, zitha kutipatsa mwayi mwachangu ndikuchotsa zokhumudwitsa zambiri koma monga zinthu zonse zomwe zimakondweretsa pang'ono pang'ono timazisilira ndipo zimawononga msuzi."
* Mayina a amuna omwe anafunsidwa m'nkhaniyi asinthidwa kuti athetse mavuto awo.
Gina Rushton ndi wotsutsa nkhani za BuzzFeed News ndipo ali ku Sydney.
Gina Rushton [imelo ndiotetezedwa].
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