"Zithunzi zolaula pa intaneti sizingayambitse mavuto kwa ogwiritsa ntchito chifukwa zolaula zakhala zikuchitika kwamuyaya. Ngati sichidatipweteketse ife ndiye, sichingatipwetekenso ife tsopano. ”
Zikumveka zomveka koma, zedi, kulingalira uku kuli kolakwika. Nthaŵi zasintha-ndipo mwakhala ndi zolaula ndi momwe zithunzi zolaula zimaperekedwera ku ubongo wathu. Kusuntha zolaula, mauthenga a smartphone komanso tsopano zolaula zonsezi zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kuwonjezera ubongo.
Munthu wina wodziwika bwino pa Reddit anafunsa kuti , “ Kodi ndife m’badwo woyamba kudziseweretsa maliseche pogwiritsa ntchito dzanja lamanzere chifukwa chakuti manja athu akumanja akuonera zolaula? ” Inde, m’badwo wonse ukuyamba “kuseweretsa maliseche mopanda nzeru” monga momwe munthu wina ananenera.
Kalekale, kuseweretsa maliseche kumafuna malingaliro ambiri. Zinali zoyeserera zenizeni: "Choyamba ndichita izi ... kenako…." Osatinso.
“Ndine m'badwo womaliza kuyamba kuseweretsa maliseche asanakhale ndi intaneti. Sindingathe kukhala ndi mwayi wowonera zofananira zilizonse zomwe zingachitike musanakhale ndi chidwi chofuna kuzisokoneza. Ndili mwana, tonse tinkafunitsitsa kuti tione ma boobs, koma mwayi umangobwera kamodzi kapena kawiri nthawi zopambana pachaka [kudzera m'ndandanda]. Ndimadzifunsa mozama momwe matipi-tap amakhudza mibadwo yamtsogolo. ”
Kodi kusinthaku kumatanthauza chiyani? Zolaula za pa intaneti zimagwiritsa ntchito masewera apakanema ofanana kwambiri ndi kugonana kwenikweni. Zimaphatikiza chibadwa chanu choyamba—ndi mphotho yayikulu yachilengedwe (kugonana)—ndi kufalitsa kwatsopano komanso kodabwitsa kwa “World of Warcraft” komwe kumasintha nthawi zonse. Dzanja lanu lamanzere likugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu ndi liwiro kuposa kugonana. Dzanja lanu lamanja likudina "munjira yosakira," pamene maso anu akuthamanga kuchokera pazenera lina kupita ku lina ndipo kulira kumadzaza makutu anu. Palibe chifukwa choganizira.
Zolaula, ndi momwe zimaperekedwera ku ubongo wathu, zasintha. Onani Zolaula Kale ndi Tsopano: Takulandirani ku Maphunziro a Ubongo (2011).
Tsoka, ubongo wathu sunasinthe, ndipo izi zitha kubweretsa mavuto osayembekezereka:
“Ndakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwazaka zambiri. Ndimangokonda kuwonera anthu akugonana. Vuto langa lidakulirakulira pafupifupi miyezi 18 yapitayo pomwe ndidakhala ndi intaneti yothamanga kwambiri. Mwadzidzidzi, ndinangoonera zithunzi pa intaneti, ndikuwonera makanema ndi makanema pa intaneti nthawi yomweyo. Sindinaganizirepo kwenikweni, koma nditayang'ana pafupifupi tsiku ndi tsiku — nthawi zina ngakhale ndikuluma kwa maola ochuluka ndikuwonera makanema olaula - ndinayamba kuzindikira kusintha kwa moyo wanga wogonana ndi mkazi wanga. Ndinali ndisanakhalepo ndi mavuto a ED konse. Koma tsopano, nthawi zonse ine ndi mkazi wanga tikayamba kugonana, sindingathe kukonzekera. Nthawi zina ndimapeza imodzi, koma imayamba kufewa msanga. Kugonana sikungakhaleko konse kwa ife. ”
Mnyamata wina:
“Pali kusiyana pakati pa zolaula zapaintaneti lero ndi zomwe zidachitika zaka makumi angapo zapitazo. Tsopano, mutha kupita kumawebusayiti osiyanasiyana ndikupeza zolaula zambiri zaulere kuposa momwe mungawonere ngati mutasiya ntchito ndikudzipereka kwa inu-zonse ndi mitundu yamoyo. Muthanso kusankha fetish yemwe mumakonda, chilichonse chomwe mungakonde kwambiri, ndipo ingowonerani kanema pambuyo pake. Ngati kulimba kwache kwa masekondi ochepa, kapena mungatopetsedwe ndikuwonanso matupi omwewo kwa mphindi ziwiri molunjika, mutha kudumphira pagulu latsopano ndikupanga zinthu zatsopano. Ikhoza kuwononga kwambiri kuyamika kwanu chinthu chenicheni kuposa kale lonse. ”
Ndithu. Zolaula za pa intaneti zimangogwiritsa ntchito zinthu zambiri osati chilakolako chogonana chokha. Zimakakamiza ogwiritsa ntchito kupitirira chilakolako chawo chachibadwa: Ogwiritsa ntchito amatha kuonera zolaula m'mawindo angapo, kusaka kosatha, kuwona zinthu zatsopano nthawi zonse, kupita patsogolo mwachangu kuzinthu zomwe amapeza kwambiri, kusinthana ndi macheza amoyo ogonana, kuyambitsa ma neuron awo agalasi ndi kanema kapena cam-2-cam, kapena kukwera mpaka ku mitundu yoopsa komanso zinthu zomwe zimapangitsa nkhawa. Zonse ndi zaulere, zosavuta kuzipeza kudzera pa foni yam'manja, zimapezeka mkati mwa masekondi, maola 24 patsiku, masiku 7 pa sabata, ndipo zitha kuwonedwa pa msinkhu uliwonse. Masiku ano, zimakulitsidwa ndi zenizeni zenizeni komanso zoseweretsa zogonana zomwe zimatsanzira kukhudzana kwakuthupi.
Sungani mu ubongo
Kodi n’chiyani chimayambitsa chizolowezi cha “kugonana” chosakhala chachibadwachi? Dopamine . Ndi mankhwala akuluakulu a mitsempha omwe amachititsa khalidwe lofunafuna mphotho. Magazi a dopamine ndi omwe amayesa kudziwa (ndi kukumbukira) kufunika kwa zomwe takumana nazo. N’zosadabwitsa kuti chilakolako chogonana chimakweza dopamine kwambiri kuposa mphotho zina zachilengedwe.
Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti dopamine ndi "buzz," "shuga wambiri," kapena chilakolako chofuna kufika pachimake. Kwenikweni, imakula chifukwa cha zinthu zomwe zimafunika kuti munthu akhale ndi moyo. Ndi chilimbikitso . Imatiuza zomwe tiyenera kuchita kapena kupewa komanso komwe tiyenera kuika chidwi chathu. Komanso, imatiuza zomwe tiyenera kukumbukira , mwa kuthandiza kusintha ubongo wathu.
Zolaula za pa intaneti zimangobweretsa dopamine yambiri pa zinthu zonse "zofunika" zomwe tidasintha kuti tiziyang'ana:
- Mantha: kudabwa, mantha, zonyansa
- Chilendo: chakudya chatsopano, zowonongeka, okwatirana atsopano
- kufunafuna ndikufufuza: kufufuza madera, zakudya kapena mwayi wokhala nawo
- chirichonse zomwe zimaphwanya ziyembekezo: bonanzas osadziwika kapena kuopsa
Mawu, zithunzi ndi makanema okopa chidwi akhalapo kwa nthawi yayitali. Momwemonso kuchulukira kwa mitsempha kuchokera kwa anzawo atsopano. Komabe, zachilendo za Playboy zomwe zimachitika kamodzi pamwezi zimatha mukangotsegula masamba. Kodi wina anganene kuti Playboy kapena makanema osavuta "odabwitsa" kapena "opanga nkhawa?" Kodi chilichonse mwa izi chingaphwanye ziyembekezo za mnyamata wodziwa bwino makompyuta wazaka zoposa 12? Palibe chomwe chingafanane ndi "kufufuza ndi kufunafuna" kwa munthu wofufuza pa Google wokhala ndi ma tabu angapo.
(Dinani kuti mukulitse chithunzi)
Mawu akuti “Kusiyanasiyana ndi zokometsera za moyo” amachokera ku ndakatulo ya William Cowper (1785) yonena za mnyamata amene anali pachibwenzi ndi mtsikana wina sabata iliyonse. Koma intaneti imapangitsa kuti pakhale msuzi wa Tabasco womwe sumatha m'njira ya dopamine spikes . Kusaka kwanga pa Google kwa "zolaula" kwangopeza masamba pafupifupi 1.3 biliyoni (ndi "Zolaula za Akhungu" m'gulu langa la khumi lapamwamba). Kulimbikitsana kosalekeza kungasokoneze momwe timaganizira , ngakhale popanda zithunzi zolaula. Ndipotu, kafukufuku waposachedwapa wasonyeza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti mokakamiza (masewera apakanema) kumayambitsa kusintha kwa ubongo komwe kumakhudzana ndi chizolowezi.
“Kunali kuyipa kwambiri. Ndinkatenga mwana wankhuku kunyumba ndipo nthawi zina sindinkatha kukweza d * ck yanga chifukwa zolaula zinali zitasinthiratu ubongo wanga ndikuti zikhale ndi atsikana a 5-6 nthawi imodzi. Mtsikana wina, ngakhale anali pamasom'pamaso, sanali kuchita zachinyengozo. ”
Mu 2007, ofufuza a Kinsey anali oyamba kunena za zolaula zomwe zimayambitsa vuto la erectile dysfunction (PIED) komanso zolaula zomwe zimayambitsa chilakolako chochepa cha kugonana. Hafu ya anthu omwe adatengedwa kuchokera ku malo ogulitsira mowa ndi m'mabafa, komwe zithunzi zolaula zinali "ponseponse," sanathe kupeza chilakolako mu labu chifukwa cha zolaula za pavidiyo. Polankhula ndi anthuwa, ofufuza adapeza kuti kuwonetsa kwambiri makanema olaula kumawoneka kuti kumachepetsa chidwi komanso kufunikira kwakukulu kwa zinthu zoledzeretsa, zapadera kapena "zopanda pake" kuti zidzutse. Ofufuzawo adasintha kafukufuku wawo kuti aphatikizepo makanema osiyanasiyana ndikulola kusankha okha. Gawo limodzi mwa magawo anayi a ziwalo zoberekera za omwe adatenga nawo mbali sizinayankhe bwino . Kuyambira pamenepo, umboni wawonjezeka kuti zolaula za pa intaneti zitha kukhala chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa matenda ogonana.
N’chifukwa chiyani kulimbikitsira dopamine nthawi zonse kumakhala kovuta kwambiri? Monga momwe katswiri wa za ubongo David Linden akufotokozera, kusuta kumakopa anthu ambiri kuposa heroin, ngakhale kuti heroin imapangitsa kuti munthu ayambe kusuta kwambiri. Chifukwa chiyani? Ndi nkhani yophunzitsa ubongo. Kusuta kulikonse kwa ndudu 20 pa paketi iliyonse kumaphunzitsa wosuta kuti ndudu ndi zabwino. Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, kodi munthu angayambe kusuta kangati? Kusuta fodya wamba ndi “ kuphunzira zinthu zoyambitsa matenda .”
Pankhani ya zolaula za pa intaneti, ganizirani za zinthu zatsopano zomwe zimachitika nthawi zonse, zithunzi zodabwitsa kapena zochititsa nkhawa, ndi kudina kofunafuna chithunzi chabwino ngati kupumira, ndi kufika pachimake ngati chinthu champhamvu . Zonsezi zimaphunzitsa ubongo. Komabe, nthawi zonse timamva kuchokera kwa anyamata omwe ali ndi ED yoyambitsidwa ndi zolaula, omwe amasiya kudziseweretsa maliseche kuti ayesere kuchira m'malo mosiya zolaula za pa intaneti. Mwachibadwa amadziwa komwe dopamine drip ili:
"Ndimaganiza kuti zolaula ndizomwe zimayambitsa matenda osokoneza bongo, osati maliseche. Chodabwitsa chomwe ndikupeza pazoyesera zanga ndikuti popanda zolaula pa intaneti, sindimamva ngati kuseweretsa maliseche. Ngakhale ndimayesa, sindimadzutsidwa mokwanira kuti ndizichita maliseche. Maganizo anga saganiziranso, ngati kale pamene ndinali mwana ndisanapite pa Intaneti. ”
Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwamasiku ano kuli kokhudza kugunda kwa dopamine kuposa pachimake
Dopamine imayambitsa zonse kukondweretsa, koma kusinthika kosasinthika kowonongeka ndi chizoloŵezi chokhalira ndi mphamvu yophunzitsa malingaliro kwambiri kuposa momwe amachitira mchitidwe wodzitama nthawi zina. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake kusuta pa Intaneti kumayambitsa zowononga kwambiri mu ubongo wina.
Mwatsoka, kuchuluka kwa dopamine sikungafanane ndi kukhutitsidwa . Uthenga wake nthawi zonse ndi wakuti, "Kukhutitsidwa kuli pafupi, choncho pitirizani !" Kafukufuku wokhudza zizolowezi zokhudzana ndi zakudya, kutchova juga ndi masewera apakanema pa intaneti akuwonetsa kuti dopamine yochuluka imalepheretsa kusangalala kwa ubongo. Izi zikusonyeza kuti njira zoledzera zikulowa. Ubongo wosakhazikika umabweretsa chilakolako chofuna zambiri; ngakhale kujambula bwino sikungakukhutiritseni. Zolaula za masiku ano sizimangokwaniritsa zosowa zanu zokha; zimasokoneza.
Kuonera dzuwa likulowa, kugwira mphaka, ndi kuonera gulu lomwe mumakonda si zofanana ndi zosangalatsa zambiri . Ndi zosangalatsa zachizolowezi, mumalandira zizindikiro za dopamine kenako ubongo wanu umabwerera ku homeostasis. Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, zochita zina zimatha kusokoneza dopamine kwa nthawi yayitali.
Zoonadi, mu 2011 madokotala a American Society of Addiction Medicine adatulutsa chikalata chonena kuti kugonana, chakudya ndi kutchova juga ndi zinthu zomwe zingachititse kuti munthu azichita zinthu mopitirira muyeso. Sizikutsimikizira kuti zizolowezi zonse—kaya mowa, heroin kapena kugonana—ndizofanana kwenikweni. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Philip Zimbardo, nayenso, wanena za kuopsa kwa “chizolowezi chofuna kusangalala ndi chilakolako cha kugonana.” (TED imalankhula za The Demise of Guys? )
Ngakhale anyamata akuchenjezana za zolaula za pa intaneti. Akuzindikiranso kuti zolaula zimayambitsa kufalikira kwa kugonana ndipo zimapangitsa kuti anthu azikonda kugonana molakwika :
"Zithunzi zolaula kwa maola 4-6 masiku angapo apitawa. Mbali yabwino, zinawonekeratu kuti zolaula zomwe zimachitika amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sizigwirizana ndi kugonana kwanga. Pambuyo poyang'ana maola 30+ m'masiku 5 apitawa, zolaula zomwe zimachitika amuna kapena akazi okhaokha zimayamba kukhala zosasangalatsa! Ndinayamba kufunafuna zinthu zina, zonyansa kwambiri komanso zodabwitsa. ”
Makhalidwe a zolaula pa intaneti amakhudza ubongo m'njira zapadera . Kuwonjezera pa kusonkhezera kosalekeza, palibe malire a kumwa—mosiyana ndi kudya kapena mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Kuwonjezeka kwa chilakolako nthawi zonse n'kotheka chifukwa njira zachilengedwe zokhutitsira ubongo sizimayamba pokhapokha ngati chimodzi chafika pachimake—zomwe sizingakhale kwa maola ambiri. Ngakhale zili choncho, ogwiritsa ntchito amatha kudina chinthu china chodabwitsa kuti adzukenso. Ndipo zolaula pa intaneti sizidzayambitsa njira yachilengedwe yopewera chilakolako cha ubongo ("Sindingathe kulekerera kuluma/kumwa/kupumira kwina!"). Ndani sangalole kuyang'ana chithunzi china chogonana? Kubereka ndiye chinthu chofunika kwambiri m'majini athu.
Dziwani zizindikiro za kuchuluka
Chikhulupiriro chakuti "kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula sikungayambitse vuto lililonse" chinayamba mu nthawi ya Playboy ya mwezi uliwonse . Kaya mungakonde kapena ayi, zolaula za pa intaneti ndizosiyana ndi zolaula zakale monga momwe "Polemon-Go" imasiyanirana ndi tic-tac-toe. Malipoti odzidziwitsa okha amatsimikizira izi. M'malo mongokhala "zolaula chabe," kuonera zolaula pa intaneti ndi chinthu chatsopano, chomwe chisinthiko sichinakonzekeretse ubongo wa anthu ambiri.
Makolo anu analibe intaneti kapena malo osungira zinthu zolaula. Ngati anadziseweretsa maliseche, chilakolako chabwinobwino cha kugonana ndi malingaliro awoawo zinathandiza. Ngati chilakolako chanu chogonana chikuchepa, kapena mukufuna zolaula kuti zifike pachimake, ndiye kuti, kwenikweni, mukulamulira njira zachilengedwe za ubongo wanu zolakalaka, ndikuika pachiwopsezo cha chizolowezi. Yembekezerani mpaka ubongo wanu ubwerere ku chidziwitso chabwinobwino . Kusiya kungakhale kovuta, koma malangizo ndi chithandizo zilipo.
Ubongo wanu sunasinthe kuti ugwire ntchito masiku ano yokhudza kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Sizimangowona makanema okha; zimazindikira mwayi wopanda malire wopezera umuna , ndipo zimagwiritsa ntchito "chikwapu" chake cha dopamine kuti zitsimikizire kuti mwapatsa umuna wambiri momwe mungathere—mosasamala kanthu za mtengo wake. M'malo moyamba ndikukhala ndi moyo, owonera masiku ano nthawi zambiri amapitirizabe kukhala maso—osadziwa kuti akhoza kukhala pachiwopsezo cha chizolowezi kapena mavuto a magwiridwe antchito . Monga momwe Eliezer Yudkowsky adalembera kale,
"Ngati anthu ali ndi ufulu kuyesedwa - ndipo ndiye ufulu wakudzisankhira, msika udzayankha mwa kupereka mayesero omwe angagulitsidwe. Kulimbikitsana pamsika sikungapitirire pomwe chimfine chimayamba kuwononga ndalama kwa wogula. ”
Dziwani zizindikiro zomwe zimasonyeza kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula mopitirira muyeso . ( Werengani malipoti a ena . ) Simungatsatire zomwe anzanu akuchita, kapena ngakhale upangiri wa akatswiri azachiwerewere kapena madokotala . Tsatirani zomwe mwawona.
"Kubwerera tsiku loyimba, ndimatha kutsitsa zithunzi zina (zolaula zosavutikira) chifukwa cha intaneti yoyipa / yocheperako komanso osadziwa komwe ndingapeze zibwibwi. Koma tsopano ndikuthamanga kwambiri, ngakhale mafoni am'manja, zandipangitsa kuti ndizipitiliza kuwonera zochulukirapo komanso zowoneka bwino. Nthawi zina zimangokhala tsiku lathunthu kufunafuna wangwiro kuti amalize. Sichimakhutitsa konse. "Kusowa zambiri" ubongo umanena nthawi zonse… bodza lotere. "
"Monga munthu yemwe adakhala ndi vuto losokoneza bongo ndipo pano akulimbana ndi vuto lokonda zolaula, nditha kunena kuti zolaula ndizowona. Popeza ndidayamba zolaula pa intaneti ndidakali mwana komanso kulumikizana ndi azimayi pa intaneti kusukulu yasekondale, ndidakhala ndi zizolowezi zoyipa zomwe zimapangitsa moyo wanga kukhala wabwino. Ndi heroin, ndikakhala ndi ndalama ndimatha kupitiliza kupita kusukulu ndikukhala ndi zibwenzi; ngakhale pamene ndinali kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo ambirimbiri, ndinali ndi moyo wabwino. Tsopano, ndikadziona kuti ndili pamalo abwino, nthawi zambiri ndimapezeka kuti ndikuwononga chibwenzi cha nthawi yayitali chifukwa cha zochitika zachiwerewere. ”
Ndipotu, timamva kuchokera kwa anyamata nthawi zonse amene akuvutika ndi zizindikiro zoopsa za kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula pa Intaneti, komabe amayesetsa kusiya kugonana pofuna kuthetsa mavuto awo kusiyana ndi kusiya kuonera zolaula pa intaneti.
”Ndikungolankhula kuchokera pazomwe ndakumana nazo, ndimaganiza kuti zolaula ndizomwe zimayambitsa matenda osokoneza bongo, osati kuseweretsa maliseche. Chodabwitsa chomwe ndikupeza pazoyesera zanga ndikuti popanda zolaula pa intaneti, sindimamva ngati kuseweretsa maliseche ngakhale nditayesa, sindinadzutse mokwanira kuti ndizichita maliseche. Maganizo anga saganiziranso, monga momwe ndinkakhalira ndili mwana masiku asanafike zolaula. ”
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Nazi zizindikiro zina zomwe zazindikira:
Ndinayamba kuchita zolaula zolaula kwambiri, ndipo ngakhale apo sindinali kupeza mpumulo waukulu, ngakhale nditatha maola ambiri patsiku.
Kwa ine, zakhala zochepa zolimbikitsa (sindikusamala), kutopa nthawi zonse, ubongo wa ubongo, kuvutika kuganizira, nkhawa za anthu, kukhumudwa, ndi zina zambiri. ), koma sindinathe kuyikapo chala changa (kapena sindinkafuna).
Pamwamba pa zolaula zanga, kugonana kunasiya kukondwera. Imeneyi inali njira yodzipangira yekha mankhwala.
Ndinayamba kuyang'ana zolaula pa 11-12 ndikutaya unamwali wanga wazaka 22. Msungwanayo adandikakamiza kuti ndibwere. Mbolo yanga inali itachita dzanzi kwathunthu kumaliseche. Ndikanakhala wolimba panthawi yamasewera, koma sindinkagonana kwakanthawi kopitilira pang'ono.
Pamene ndinali mwana ndimakumbukira kukhala wokondana kwambiri. Zonsezi zinasintha pamene ndinali pafupi ndi 14. Ndimatha masabata ndi madzulo ndikuonera zolaula.
Ndimapeza kuti sindimayang'anira kwakanthawi, sindiyenera kukodza pafupipafupi. Zinafika poipa kwambiri panthawi yogwiritsa ntchito kwambiri; Ndimagwiritsa ntchito chimbudzi kwambiri! Komanso, ndimakhala ndi nkhawa kuti anzanga amalankhula za ine kumbuyo kwanga, chifukwa chake malingaliro anga pazomwe anthu amalankhula / kuganiza amasokonekera ndikamamenya.
Pambuyo pazakagwiritsidwe, zaka zambiri zomwe zidayamba kuwonekera ndili ndi zaka 25 zinali: mutu wodabwitsa, mawu osaya kwambiri komanso omangika, ndimatha kuwuma m'maso mwanga ndikumva kuwuma pankhope. Kutacha, ndimamva kumverera kosasangalatsa mthupi langa lonse. Sindikanatha kuyang'ana kwambiri pamaphunziro anga kwa nthawi yayitali kuposa mphindi 40 ndisanakhale ndi malingaliro omwewo mthupi langa, zomwe zidandipangitsa kugona. Ndinali wamisala. Kenako ndimaganiza kuti ndili ndi matenda a shuga (shuga wotsika magazi), masomphenya oyipa (ndinayesa masomphenya anga omwe anali abwino). Ndinkaganiza kuti ndili ndi ADD kapena ADHD, chifukwa ndimatha kukhala wopupuluma nthawi ndi nthawi. Kuphatikiza pa izi, ndimadzimva wosatetezeka pamisonkhano ndipo sindimadzimva kukhala wotetezeka ndikakhala pakati pa anthu wamba.
Ndimamva ngati mwana nthawi zina. Wopupuluma, wosakhazikika ndi zina zotero. Ndimamva ngakhale momwe chidwi changa chogonana chidatsikira pa zero. Koma sindinachitepo chilichonse pa izi! Pomaliza, nditatha pafupifupi milungu iwiri wopanda zolaula kapena maliseche ndinamva bwino. Zizindikiro zonse zomwe zatchulidwa pamwambapa zidachoka ndipo ndimakhala wodekha komanso womasuka kucheza ndi anthu. Kulankhula kwanga kunali kolimba, kokhazikika komanso modekha. Ndinaseka ndikumwetulira ndi nkhope yanga yonse. Ndinali wokongola ndipo ndimatha kukopana. Kumverera kwa kusowa kwa chilakolako chogonana kunali kutatha ndipo ndinazindikira kuti anthu akuyandikira ndikuwayankha bwino. Ndinayamba kulumikizana bwino ndi anzanga, abale, ogwira nawo ntchito komanso atsikana.
Ndidakhala ndi nkhawa yanthawi yayitali, kukhumudwa, kusowa koyendetsa, kutopa thupi, kutopa m'maganizo, sindinkagwira ntchito, sindimatha kupita kumaofesi aku yunivesite osachita mantha kufa ndi anthu, ndimadzimva ndikuzungulira azimayi kuyambira ang'ono mpaka achikulire etc.
Mtima wanga umatsika nditamenya; Ndimakwiya msanga ndi anthu. Zimandipatsa malingaliro amodzi omwe ndimaganizira za zolaula. Zimasokoneza tulo tanga; ndikamagona ndimakhala ndi zolaula pamutu panga. Ndizokwiyitsa kudzipeza ndekha ndikuchita zomwezo mobwerezabwereza.
Kwa ambiri a ife (ndekha ndikuphatikizira), ED ndiye woyamba kukhala konkriti / chodzidzimutsa chomwe chimatigwedeza, ndikutipangitsa kuzindikira kuti china chake sichili bwino.
Ndinkakonda kwambiri pamene ndinali 16-17. Nthawi yanga yolaula inayamba pakati pa 18. Ndinayamba kukhala mnyamata wonyezimira, ndikugwiritsa ntchito caffeine ngati wonyenga. Sindinkadzimva chisoni chilichonse.
Muubwana wanga, ndimakonda kulowa mchipinda ndipo anthu amandiona ndikumakopeka ndi ine ndikufuna kulankhula nane. Ndikamayenda mumsewu ndimakhala ndi chidaliro komanso mphamvu, ndipo atsikana amandizindikira ndikundivomereza. Zaka zikamadutsa, kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumakulirakulira ndipo mphamvuzo zidapita pang'onopang'ono. Moyo wanga pachikhalidwe unasokonekera. Nthawi zonse ndimanena kuti ndi ukalamba, koma ndinali kulakwitsa. Ndili wokonzeka kumva kuti ndazindikira wolakwayo. Ndikutha kumva kuti mphamvu ibwerera tsopano.
Kumbukirani, makolo anu analibe zolaula pa intaneti kapena malo okumbukira zolaula. Ngati ankadziseweretsa maliseche, chinali chifukwa chilakolako ndi malingaliro awo okha ndi omwe adagwira ntchitoyo. Ngati chilakolako chanu chogonana chikuchepa, kapena mukufuna zolaula kuti zifike pachimake, ndiye kuti, kwenikweni, mukulamulira njira zachilengedwe za ubongo wanu zokhutitsa. Ndipo ngati simungathe kufika pachimake popanda zolaula, dikirani mpaka ubongo wanu ubwerere ku chidziwitso chabwinobwino. Izi zitha kukhala zovuta pamene ubongo wanu ukubwerera ku chikhalidwe chabwinobwino, koma malangizo ndi chithandizo zimapezeka patsamba zambiri.