"Zithunzi zolaula pa intaneti sizingayambitse mavuto kwa ogwiritsa ntchito chifukwa zolaula zakhala zikuchitika kwamuyaya. Ngati sichidatipweteketse ife ndiye, sichingatipwetekenso ife tsopano. ”
Zikumveka zomveka koma, zedi, kulingalira uku kuli kolakwika. Nthaŵi zasintha-ndipo mwakhala ndi zolaula ndi momwe zithunzi zolaula zimaperekedwera ku ubongo wathu. Kusuntha zolaula, mauthenga a smartphone komanso tsopano zolaula zonsezi zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kuwonjezera ubongo.
Chojambula cha Reddit kamodzi anafunsidwa, "Kodi ndife mbadwo woyamba wochita maliseche pamanja chifukwa manja athu akumanja akuwonerera zolaula?”Inde, m'badwo wonse ukukhala" ambi-wackstrous "monga momwe gulu linanenera.
Kalekale, kuseweretsa maliseche kumafuna malingaliro ambiri. Zinali zoyeserera zenizeni: "Choyamba ndichita izi ... kenako…." Osatinso.
“Ndine m'badwo womaliza kuyamba kuseweretsa maliseche asanakhale ndi intaneti. Sindingathe kukhala ndi mwayi wowonera zofananira zilizonse zomwe zingachitike musanakhale ndi chidwi chofuna kuzisokoneza. Ndili mwana, tonse tinkafunitsitsa kuti tione ma boobs, koma mwayi umangobwera kamodzi kapena kawiri nthawi zopambana pachaka [kudzera m'ndandanda]. Ndimadzifunsa mozama momwe matipi-tap amakhudza mibadwo yamtsogolo. ”
Kusintha uku kumatanthauza chiyani? Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa Intaneti zofanana kwambiri zogonana kwambiri kuposa kugonana kwenikweni. Zimaphatikizira gawo lanu loyamba la majini - komanso mphotho yayikulu kwambiri (yakugonana) - ndikutulutsa kosasintha, kosadabwitsa komanso kodabwitsa kwa "World of Warcraft." Dzanja lanu lamanzere likupanikiza kwambiri komanso kuthamanga kuposa kugonana. Dzanja lanu lamanja likudina mu "njira zosakira," pomwe maso anu amatuluka kuchokera pawindo limodzi kupita kwinanso ndikulira m'makutu anu. Palibe nyimbo zongoyerekeza zomwe zikufunika.
Zolaula, ndi momwe zidaperekedwa kwa ubongo wathu, zasintha. Onani Zomwe Zilipo Pakadali pano: Mwalandiridwa ku Brain Training (2011).
Tsoka, ubongo wathu sunasinthe, ndipo izi zitha kubweretsa mavuto osayembekezereka:
“Ndakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwazaka zambiri. Ndimangokonda kuwonera anthu akugonana. Vuto langa lidakulirakulira pafupifupi miyezi 18 yapitayo pomwe ndidakhala ndi intaneti yothamanga kwambiri. Mwadzidzidzi, ndinangoonera zithunzi pa intaneti, ndikuwonera makanema ndi makanema pa intaneti nthawi yomweyo. Sindinaganizirepo kwenikweni, koma nditayang'ana pafupifupi tsiku ndi tsiku — nthawi zina ngakhale ndikuluma kwa maola ochuluka ndikuwonera makanema olaula - ndinayamba kuzindikira kusintha kwa moyo wanga wogonana ndi mkazi wanga. Ndinali ndisanakhalepo ndi mavuto a ED konse. Koma tsopano, nthawi zonse ine ndi mkazi wanga tikayamba kugonana, sindingathe kukonzekera. Nthawi zina ndimapeza imodzi, koma imayamba kufewa msanga. Kugonana sikungakhaleko konse kwa ife. ”
Mnyamata wina:
“Pali kusiyana pakati pa zolaula zapaintaneti lero ndi zomwe zidachitika zaka makumi angapo zapitazo. Tsopano, mutha kupita kumawebusayiti osiyanasiyana ndikupeza zolaula zambiri zaulere kuposa momwe mungawonere ngati mutasiya ntchito ndikudzipereka kwa inu-zonse ndi mitundu yamoyo. Muthanso kusankha fetish yemwe mumakonda, chilichonse chomwe mungakonde kwambiri, ndipo ingowonerani kanema pambuyo pake. Ngati kulimba kwache kwa masekondi ochepa, kapena mungatopetsedwe ndikuwonanso matupi omwewo kwa mphindi ziwiri molunjika, mutha kudumphira pagulu latsopano ndikupanga zinthu zatsopano. Ikhoza kuwononga kwambiri kuyamika kwanu chinthu chenicheni kuposa kale lonse. ”
Ndendende. Kuonera zolaula pa Intaneti kumagwiritsa ntchito zambiri osati kungofuna kugonana. Icho chimatsogolera ogwiritsa ntchito kupitirira libido yawo yachilengedwe: Ogwiritsa ntchito amatha kuwonera zolaula m'mawindo angapo, amafufuza mosalekeza, amawoneka achilendo, akuthamangira kuzinthu zomwe zimawotcha kwambiri, amasinthana kuti azicheza, aziwotcha magalasi awo ndi makanema kapena cam-2-cam, kapena kukulira pamitundu yoipa kwambiri komanso zinthu zomwe zimabweretsa nkhawa. Zonse ndi zaulere, zosavuta kuzipeza kudzera pa foni yam'manja, zimapezeka mkati mwamasekondi, maola 24 patsiku, masiku 7 pa sabata, ndipo mutha kuziwona zaka zilizonse. Masiku ano, zimalimbikitsidwa ndi zenizeni komanso zoseweretsa zakugonana zomwe zimafanana ndi kukhudzana.
Sungani mu ubongo
Nchiyani chimayambitsa chisokonezo chachilendo ichi? Dopamine. Ndiwo mankhwala oyambira am'magazi omwe amachititsa kusaka-mphotho. Mulingo wa Dopamine ndiye barometer yomwe timasankha (ndikukumbukira) kufunikira kwa chidziwitso chilichonse. Ndizosadabwitsa kuti zoyambitsa zogonana zimakweza dopamine kuposa mphotho zina zachilengedwe.
Anthu ambiri amaganiza za dopamine ngati "buzz," "shuga wokwera," kapena kuyendetsa kumaliseche. M'malo mwake, imadumpha poyankha zokopa zomwe zimakhudzana ndi zosowa zakupulumuka. Ndi zolimbikitsa. Limatiuza zoyenera kuyandikira kapena kupeŵa ndi malo oti tiike chidwi chathu. Komanso, amatiuza zomwe muyenera kukumbukira, pothandiza kuthandizira ubongo wathu.
Zolaula za pa Intaneti zimangochitika zokha zokhala ndi dopamine onse za "zopatsa chidwi" zomwe tidasintha kuti tiziyembekezera:
- Mantha: kudabwa, mantha, zonyansa
- Chilendo: chakudya chatsopano, zowonongeka, okwatirana atsopano
- kufunafuna ndikufufuza: kufufuza madera, zakudya kapena mwayi wokhala nawo
- chirichonse zomwe zimaphwanya ziyembekezo: bonanzas osadziwika kapena kuopsa
Mawu, mafilimu ndi mavidiyo okondweretsa akhalapo nthawi yaitali. N'chimodzimodzinso ndi Kuthamanga kwa khunyu kumachokera kwa omvera okwatirana. Komabe zachilendo za kamodzi-mwezi Playboy imatuluka mwamsanga mutangotembenuza masambawo. Kodi wina angayitane Playboy kapena makanema oseketsa "ochititsa mantha" kapena "opanga nkhawa?" Kodi zitha kuphwanya ziyembekezo za mwana wodziwa kuwerenga makompyuta wazaka zopitilira 12? Sichiyerekeza ndi "kusaka ndi kufunafuna" kwamitundu ingapo ya Google prowl.
(Dinani kuti mukulitse chithunzi)
Mawu oti "Zosiyanasiyana ndi zonunkhira za moyo" amachokera mu ndakatulo ya William Cowper (1785) yonena za mnyamata yemwe adakwatirana ndi mtsikana wina sabata iliyonse. Koma intaneti imapangitsa kutsika kwa msuzi wa Tabasco wosatha mwa mawonekedwe a matepi a dopamine. Kusaka kwanga kwa "zolaula" pa Google kungopeza pafupifupi 1.3 biliyoni masamba (omwe ali ndi "Zolaula kwa Akhungu" mgulu langa khumi). Kukondoweza nthawi zonse kumatha kusokoneza momwe ife tikuganizira, ngakhale popanda zithunzi zolaula. Ndipotu, kafukufuku waposachedwapa wasonyeza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito Intaneti mosavuta (kujambula zithunzi) kumayambitsa ubongo wokhudzana ndi mowa umasintha.
“Kunali kuyipa kwambiri. Ndinkatenga mwana wankhuku kunyumba ndipo nthawi zina sindinkatha kukweza d * ck yanga chifukwa zolaula zinali zitasinthiratu ubongo wanga ndikuti zikhale ndi atsikana a 5-6 nthawi imodzi. Mtsikana wina, ngakhale anali pamasom'pamaso, sanali kuchita zachinyengozo. ”
Mu 2007, Ofufuza Kinsey anali oyamba kufotokozera zolaula-zomwe zimayambitsa erectile-dysfunction (PIED) komanso zolaula zomwe zimapangitsa kuti libido ikhale yotsika kwambiri. Hafu ya maphunziro omwe adalembedwa m'mabala ndi malo osambiramo, pomwe makanema olaula anali "ponseponse," sanathe kuchita zofananira ndi labu poyankha zolaula pavidiyo. Pokambirana ndi nkhanizo, ofufuza anapeza kuti kutchuka kwambiri zolaula makanema akuwoneka kuti adadzetsa chidwi chochepa komanso kufunika kowonjezera zinthu zowopsa, zapadera kapena za "kinky" kuti zizidzutsidwa. Ofufuzawa adasinthiranso kafukufuku wawo kuti akhale ndi tinthu tosiyanasiyana ndikuloleza kusankha kosankha. Gawo limodzi mwa magawo anayi a ziwalo zoberekera sizinayankhe bwinobwino. Kuyambira pamenepo, umboni wabwera Zithunzi zolaula pa intaneti zingawathandize kuwonjezeka mofulumira mu machitidwe osagonana.
Nchifukwa chiyani nthawi zonse kulimbikitsidwa kwa dopamine kumakhala kovuta? Monga katswiri wa sayansi David Linden akufotokozera, ogwiritsa ntchito osuta ochulukirapo kuposa heroin, ngakhale heroin imaphulitsa kwambiri. Chifukwa chiyani? Ndi funso lakuphunzitsidwa ubongo. Kusuta kulikonse pa ndudu 20 pa paketi iliyonse kumaphunzitsa omwe amasuta kuti ndudu zimapindulitsa. Mosiyana ndi izi, kangati pomwe wina angawombere? Kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa ndi "maphunziro ovuta. "
Pankhani ya zolaula za pa intaneti, taganizirani za zachizoloŵezi zatsopano, zochititsa mantha kapena zochititsa mantha, ndi zovuta pofufuza kuwombera mwangwiro monga kunjenjemera, ndi ziphuphu monga chinachake champhamvu. Onse amaphunzitsa ubongo. Komabe, timamva kuchokera kwa anyamata nthawi zonse ndi ED, omwe amachititsa kuti adziwe zolaula. Iwo mwachidziwitso amadziwa kumene dopamine akudontha ndi:
"Ndimaganiza kuti zolaula ndizomwe zimayambitsa matenda osokoneza bongo, osati maliseche. Chodabwitsa chomwe ndikupeza pazoyesera zanga ndikuti popanda zolaula pa intaneti, sindimamva ngati kuseweretsa maliseche. Ngakhale ndimayesa, sindimadzutsidwa mokwanira kuti ndizichita maliseche. Maganizo anga saganiziranso, ngati kale pamene ndinali mwana ndisanapite pa Intaneti. ”
Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwamasiku ano kuli kokhudza kugunda kwa dopamine kuposa pachimake
Dopamine imayambitsa zonse kukondweretsa, koma kusinthika kosasinthika kowonongeka ndi chizoloŵezi chokhalira ndi mphamvu yophunzitsa malingaliro kwambiri kuposa momwe amachitira mchitidwe wodzitama nthawi zina. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake kusuta pa Intaneti kumayambitsa zowononga kwambiri mu ubongo wina.
Zachisoni, kuchuluka kwa dopamine sikokwanira. Uthengawu umakhala kuti, "Kukhutira kuli pafupi pomwepo, ndiye pitiliranibe! ” Kafukufuku wamakhalidwe pazakudya, kutchova juga komanso makanema apaintaneti akuwonetsa kuti dopamine yochuluka kwambiri sungani yankho la chisangalalo za ubongo. Izi zikuwonetsa kuti zizolowezi zosokoneza bongo zikulowerera. Ubongo wofooka umatsogolera kukulakalaka zambiri; ngakhale kuwombera koyenera sikungakhutiritse. Zolaula zamasiku ano sizimakwaniritsa zosowa zanu zokha; zimawasokoneza.
Kuwona kutuluka kwa dzuwa, kudula mphaka, ndi kuyang'ana gulu lanu lokonda sizili zofanana ndi zosangalatsa zambiri. Ndi zokondweretsa, mumalandira chizindikiro cha dopamine ndipo ubongo wanu umabwerera kunyumbaostasis. Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, ntchito zina zimatha kuchepetsa dopamine nthawi yaitali.
Inde, mu 2011 madokotala a zachipatala a American Society of Addiction Medicine adalemba pofotokoza zakugonana, chakudya ndi kutchova juga ngati zinthu zomwe zingakhale zosokoneza bongo. Amasiya kukayikira kuti zizolowezi zonse-kaya ndi mowa, heroin kapena kugonana-ndizofanana. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Philip Zimbardo, nayenso, wanena za kuopsa kwa "kuledzera". (Nkhani ya TED Kodi Kudandaula kwa Anyamata?)
Ngakhale anyamata akuchenjezana za zolaula pa intaneti. Iwo akudziwanso kuti zolaula zimayambitsa kuchulukana ndi kulenga zolaula zonyansa:
"Zithunzi zolaula kwa maola 4-6 masiku angapo apitawa. Mbali yabwino, zinawonekeratu kuti zolaula zomwe zimachitika amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sizigwirizana ndi kugonana kwanga. Pambuyo poyang'ana maola 30+ m'masiku 5 apitawa, zolaula zomwe zimachitika amuna kapena akazi okhaokha zimayamba kukhala zosasangalatsa! Ndinayamba kufunafuna zinthu zina, zonyansa kwambiri komanso zodabwitsa. ”
Zithunzi zolaula pa Intaneti zimakhudza ubongo m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Kuphatikiza pakulimbikitsa nthawi zonse, palibenso malire obwera chifukwa chomwa mowa mosiyana ndi kudya kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Kuchulukana kumatheka nthawi zonse chifukwa njira zachilengedwe zokhutitsira ubongo sizimangopita pokhapokha chimodzimodzi - chomwe sichingakhale kwa maola ambiri. Ngakhale apo, ogwiritsa ntchito amatha kudina china chowopsa kuti adzutsenso. Komanso zolaula pa intaneti sizingayambitse ubongo kuti usokonezeke ("Sindingalolere kuluma / kumwa / kufinya!"). Ndani sangapirire kuyang'ana chithunzi china cholaula? Kubereka ndizofunikira kwambiri pamtundu wathu.
Dziwani zizindikiro za kuchuluka
Chikhulupiriro chakuti "kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula sikungapweteke" kunayamba m'nyengo ya mwezi uliwonse Playboy. Ngati mumakonda kapena ayi, zolaula pa intaneti ndizosiyana ndi zochitika zakale monga "Polemon-Go" ndizochokera ku tic-tac-toe. Kudzipereka kwanu onetsani izi. M'malo mokhala "zolaula," kutsatsa zolaula pa intaneti ndichinthu chatsopano, chomwe chisinthiko sichinakonzekeretse ubongo wambiri.
Makolo anu analibe intaneti kapena zokumbukira zolaula zopeka. Ngati achita maliseche, libido yabwinobwino ndi malingaliro awo atenga ntchitoyo. Ngati kugonana kwanu kukucheperachepera, kapena mukufunikira zolaula mpaka pachimake, ndiye kuti mukuwongolera njira zakubadwa zakubvutika kwanu, ndikuyika pachiwopsezo kuledzera. Dikirani mpaka ubongo wanu ubwerere chidziwitso chachibadwa. Kutaya kungakhale kovuta, koma malangizo ndi chithandizo alipo.
Ubongo wanu sunasinthe kuti mukwaniritse zochitika zamasiku ano. Sikuti amangowona makanema; chimazindikira Mipata yosatha ya umuna, ndipo idzagwiritsa ntchito “chikwapu” chake cha dopamine kutsimikizira kuti mukuthira manyowa ochuluka momwe zingathere — mulimonse momwe zingakulipirireni. M'malo mopitilira ndi kupitiriza ndi moyo, owonera masiku ano nthawi zambiri amapitilizabe malinga ngati atha kukhala tcheru — osadziwa kuti atha kukhala pachiwopsezo cha kuledzera kapena mavuto ntchito. Monga Eliezer Yudkowsky analemba kale,
"Ngati anthu ali ndi ufulu kuyesedwa - ndipo ndiye ufulu wakudzisankhira, msika udzayankha mwa kupereka mayesero omwe angagulitsidwe. Kulimbikitsana pamsika sikungapitirire pomwe chimfine chimayamba kuwononga ndalama kwa wogula. ”
Phunzirani zizindikiro zomwe zimasonyeza kusagwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwambiri. (Werengani malipoti a ena.) Simungathe kutsatira zomwe anzanu akuchita, kapena ngakhale ndi upangiri wa okonda kugonana kapena madokotala. Pitani ndi zomwe inu zindikirani.
"Kubwerera tsiku loyimba, ndimatha kutsitsa zithunzi zina (zolaula zosavutikira) chifukwa cha intaneti yoyipa / yocheperako komanso osadziwa komwe ndingapeze zibwibwi. Koma tsopano ndikuthamanga kwambiri, ngakhale mafoni am'manja, zandipangitsa kuti ndizipitiliza kuwonera zochulukirapo komanso zowoneka bwino. Nthawi zina zimangokhala tsiku lathunthu kufunafuna wangwiro kuti amalize. Sichimakhutitsa konse. "Kusowa zambiri" ubongo umanena nthawi zonse… bodza lotere. "
"Monga munthu yemwe adakhala ndi vuto losokoneza bongo ndipo pano akulimbana ndi vuto lokonda zolaula, nditha kunena kuti zolaula ndizowona. Popeza ndidayamba zolaula pa intaneti ndidakali mwana komanso kulumikizana ndi azimayi pa intaneti kusukulu yasekondale, ndidakhala ndi zizolowezi zoyipa zomwe zimapangitsa moyo wanga kukhala wabwino. Ndi heroin, ndikakhala ndi ndalama ndimatha kupitiliza kupita kusukulu ndikukhala ndi zibwenzi; ngakhale pamene ndinali kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo ambirimbiri, ndinali ndi moyo wabwino. Tsopano, ndikadziona kuti ndili pamalo abwino, nthawi zambiri ndimapezeka kuti ndikuwononga chibwenzi cha nthawi yayitali chifukwa cha zochitika zachiwerewere. ”
Ndipotu, timamva kuchokera kwa anyamata nthawi zonse amene akuvutika ndi zizindikiro zoopsa za kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula pa Intaneti, komabe amayesetsa kusiya kugonana pofuna kuthetsa mavuto awo kusiyana ndi kusiya kuonera zolaula pa intaneti.
”Ndikungolankhula kuchokera pazomwe ndakumana nazo, ndimaganiza kuti zolaula ndizomwe zimayambitsa matenda osokoneza bongo, osati kuseweretsa maliseche. Chodabwitsa chomwe ndikupeza pazoyesera zanga ndikuti popanda zolaula pa intaneti, sindimamva ngati kuseweretsa maliseche ngakhale nditayesa, sindinadzutse mokwanira kuti ndizichita maliseche. Maganizo anga saganiziranso, monga momwe ndinkakhalira ndili mwana masiku asanafike zolaula. ”
Pazofufuza za ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula onani -
- Studies kugwirizanitsa ntchito zolaula kapena zolaula / kugonana ndi zovuta zogonana, zochepa kugwirizanitsa ubongo ku zokhuza kugonana, ndi kuchepetsa kukhutitsidwa kwa kugonana
- Maphunziro a Ubongo pa Ogwiritsa Ntchito Zolaula
Izi zikusonyeza kuti intaneti ndi zochititsa chidwi
- (L) Dopamine Akukupangitsani Kukhala Osokonezeka Kuti Mudziwe Chidziwitso (2009)
- (L) Kodi Webusaiti Yotitengera Ife Mad? (2012)
- (L) Kodi intaneti ikuwongolera ngati fodya? (2012)
- (L) Kodi moyo pa intaneti umakupatsani 'ubweya wa popcorn'? (2011)
- (L) Wired High: Kodi Addictive Internet Gwiritsani Ntchito Kukonzanso Ubongo? (2011)
- (L) Timakhala osokonezeka, makamaka kwenikweni, ku chidziwitso (2012): John Coates, Cambridge wodwala sayansi ya zamoyo
- (L) Kusokonezeka Kwambiri pa Intaneti: Kodi Tiyenera Kuliyika mu DSM? (2011)
Nazi zizindikiro zina zomwe zazindikira:
Ndinayamba kuchita zolaula zolaula kwambiri, ndipo ngakhale apo sindinali kupeza mpumulo waukulu, ngakhale nditatha maola ambiri patsiku.
Kwa ine, zakhala zochepa zolimbikitsa (sindikusamala), kutopa nthawi zonse, ubongo wa ubongo, kuvutika kuganizira, nkhawa za anthu, kukhumudwa, ndi zina zambiri. ), koma sindinathe kuyikapo chala changa (kapena sindinkafuna).
Pamwamba pa zolaula zanga, kugonana kunasiya kukondwera. Imeneyi inali njira yodzipangira yekha mankhwala.
Ndinayamba kuyang'ana zolaula pa 11-12 ndikutaya unamwali wanga wazaka 22. Msungwanayo adandikakamiza kuti ndibwere. Mbolo yanga inali itachita dzanzi kwathunthu kumaliseche. Ndikanakhala wolimba panthawi yamasewera, koma sindinkagonana kwakanthawi kopitilira pang'ono.
Pamene ndinali mwana ndimakumbukira kukhala wokondana kwambiri. Zonsezi zinasintha pamene ndinali pafupi ndi 14. Ndimatha masabata ndi madzulo ndikuonera zolaula.
Ndimapeza kuti sindimayang'anira kwakanthawi, sindiyenera kukodza pafupipafupi. Zinafika poipa kwambiri panthawi yogwiritsa ntchito kwambiri; Ndimagwiritsa ntchito chimbudzi kwambiri! Komanso, ndimakhala ndi nkhawa kuti anzanga amalankhula za ine kumbuyo kwanga, chifukwa chake malingaliro anga pazomwe anthu amalankhula / kuganiza amasokonekera ndikamamenya.
Pambuyo pazakagwiritsidwe, zaka zambiri zomwe zidayamba kuwonekera ndili ndi zaka 25 zinali: mutu wodabwitsa, mawu osaya kwambiri komanso omangika, ndimatha kuwuma m'maso mwanga ndikumva kuwuma pankhope. Kutacha, ndimamva kumverera kosasangalatsa mthupi langa lonse. Sindikanatha kuyang'ana kwambiri pamaphunziro anga kwa nthawi yayitali kuposa mphindi 40 ndisanakhale ndi malingaliro omwewo mthupi langa, zomwe zidandipangitsa kugona. Ndinali wamisala. Kenako ndimaganiza kuti ndili ndi matenda a shuga (shuga wotsika magazi), masomphenya oyipa (ndinayesa masomphenya anga omwe anali abwino). Ndinkaganiza kuti ndili ndi ADD kapena ADHD, chifukwa ndimatha kukhala wopupuluma nthawi ndi nthawi. Kuphatikiza pa izi, ndimadzimva wosatetezeka pamisonkhano ndipo sindimadzimva kukhala wotetezeka ndikakhala pakati pa anthu wamba.
Ndimamva ngati mwana nthawi zina. Wopupuluma, wosakhazikika ndi zina zotero. Ndimamva ngakhale momwe chidwi changa chogonana chidatsikira pa zero. Koma sindinachitepo chilichonse pa izi! Pomaliza, nditatha pafupifupi milungu iwiri wopanda zolaula kapena maliseche ndinamva bwino. Zizindikiro zonse zomwe zatchulidwa pamwambapa zidachoka ndipo ndimakhala wodekha komanso womasuka kucheza ndi anthu. Kulankhula kwanga kunali kolimba, kokhazikika komanso modekha. Ndinaseka ndikumwetulira ndi nkhope yanga yonse. Ndinali wokongola ndipo ndimatha kukopana. Kumverera kwa kusowa kwa chilakolako chogonana kunali kutatha ndipo ndinazindikira kuti anthu akuyandikira ndikuwayankha bwino. Ndinayamba kulumikizana bwino ndi anzanga, abale, ogwira nawo ntchito komanso atsikana.
Ndidakhala ndi nkhawa yanthawi yayitali, kukhumudwa, kusowa koyendetsa, kutopa thupi, kutopa m'maganizo, sindinkagwira ntchito, sindimatha kupita kumaofesi aku yunivesite osachita mantha kufa ndi anthu, ndimadzimva ndikuzungulira azimayi kuyambira ang'ono mpaka achikulire etc.
Mtima wanga umatsika nditamenya; Ndimakwiya msanga ndi anthu. Zimandipatsa malingaliro amodzi omwe ndimaganizira za zolaula. Zimasokoneza tulo tanga; ndikamagona ndimakhala ndi zolaula pamutu panga. Ndizokwiyitsa kudzipeza ndekha ndikuchita zomwezo mobwerezabwereza.
Kwa ambiri a ife (ndekha ndikuphatikizira), ED ndiye woyamba kukhala konkriti / chodzidzimutsa chomwe chimatigwedeza, ndikutipangitsa kuzindikira kuti china chake sichili bwino.
Ndinkakonda kwambiri pamene ndinali 16-17. Nthawi yanga yolaula inayamba pakati pa 18. Ndinayamba kukhala mnyamata wonyezimira, ndikugwiritsa ntchito caffeine ngati wonyenga. Sindinkadzimva chisoni chilichonse.
Muubwana wanga, ndimakonda kulowa mchipinda ndipo anthu amandiona ndikumakopeka ndi ine ndikufuna kulankhula nane. Ndikamayenda mumsewu ndimakhala ndi chidaliro komanso mphamvu, ndipo atsikana amandizindikira ndikundivomereza. Zaka zikamadutsa, kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumakulirakulira ndipo mphamvuzo zidapita pang'onopang'ono. Moyo wanga pachikhalidwe unasokonekera. Nthawi zonse ndimanena kuti ndi ukalamba, koma ndinali kulakwitsa. Ndili wokonzeka kumva kuti ndazindikira wolakwayo. Ndikutha kumva kuti mphamvu ibwerera tsopano.
Kumbukirani, makolo anu analibe zolaula pa intaneti kapena malingaliro okumbukira zolaula. Ngati amiseweretsa maliseche, chinali chifukwa chokhumba komanso malingaliro awo okhawo adagwira ntchitoyi. Ngati kugonana kwanu kukucheperachepera, kapena mukufuna zolaula mpaka pachimake, ndiye kuti mukuwongolera njira zakubadwa zaubongo wanu. Ndipo ngati simungathe kufika pachimake popanda zolaula, dikirani mpaka ubongo wanu ubwerere kuzolowera. Izi zitha kukhala zovuta pomwe ubongo wanu ukubwerera mwakale, koma maupangiri ndi chithandizo amapezeka ku mawebusaiti ambiri.
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