Ndine wolunjika, koma ndimakopeka ndi transgender kapena zolaula za gay (kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe amakopeka ndi zolaula). Kwagwanji?

HOCD

ZINDIKIRANI: Tsambali lili ndi malipoti ambiri odziona okha ochokera kwa anthu (ena mwa iwo ndi olondola kwambiri pandale kuposa ena), omwe adatsimikiza kuti zokonda zawo zolaula zidakhudza zokonda zawo zogonana atasiya zolaula ndipo adawona kuti zokonda zawo zikubwerera. Malipoti odziona okha awa atengedwa kuchokera ku ma forum obwezeretsa zolaula. YBOP imawafotokoza momwe alili, ndipo malingaliro/kulankhula kwa olemba awo sikuti kukuwonetsa zomwe zili patsamba lino. Ngati mukukhutira ndi zokonda zanu zogonana, kapena mukumva kuti zokonda zanu zogonana zakhazikika, musawerengenso kwina. Tsambali ndi la anthu omwe amakhulupirira kuti kukwera kwawo kwa zolaula ku mitundu yatsopano kungakhale kubisa zokonda zawo zoyambirira kapena zachibadwa zogonana. Limafotokoza za HOCD.

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NGATI MUKATI NDI OCD PLEASE DZIWANI:

  • Ngati muli ndi vuto lodziletsa kwambiri (OCD) tikukulimbikitsani kuti mufunsane ndi mlangizi kapena dokotala yemwe ali mwapadera ku OCD. Ena omwe ali ndi HOCD apindula kwambiri ndi mankhwala komanso mankhwala oyenerera.
  • Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lodzimvera chisoni kwambiri kapena OCD amakonda kupeŵa maliseche angadwale kwambiri. Ngakhale zosakhalitsa kupewa kudziletsa sikungakhale kwa inu.
  • YBOP imasonyeza kuti anthu omwe ali ndi OCD amawerengera ma HOCD ma akaunti omwe ali pansipa ndipo atenge kuchokera kwa iwo zomwe zikukuthandizani. Palibe njira imodzi.

MAU OYAMBA

Zambiri mwazimenezi zikuwonekera kwa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto logonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (HOCD). Izi zati, zambiri zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito zingagwiritsidwe ntchito kwa anthu omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zolaula kapena oberekera. Zinthu zofunikira:

Adapereka kuchipatala chathu patatha mwezi umodzi atayambitsidwa ndi aripiprazole [dopamine agonist] mu njira zake zamankhwala zodandaula zakugonana komwe kumapangitsa kuti azigonana kangapo ndi mnzake komanso kuseweretsa maliseche tsiku lomwelo komanso malingaliro atsopano ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso malingaliro ofanana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi. Pankagwiritsidwanso ntchito zolaula pa intaneti. … Wodwalayo adanenetsa ndipo anali wotsimikiza kuti aripiprazole ndiye chifukwa chogonana. Pambuyo masiku anayi kapena asanu ndi limodzi atayimitsa aripiprazole mchitidwe wogonana udayamba kuchepa, kupumula kwathunthu patatha pafupifupi milungu iwiri. Wodwalayo amatsatiridwa pafupipafupi ndipo amakhala bwino popanda zovuta zilizonse zogonana.

[Chokopa amuna achibadwidwe omwe ali ndi mabere ndi mbolo] “amaonedwa kuti ndi njira yachilendo yogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha m'malo moyang'ana anthu.

Nkhani yaikulu ikuyamba pansi pa gulu lotsatira la maulalo. Gawo loyamba lili ndi nkhani zopambana (kuyambiranso maakaunti) a amuna omwe ali ndi HOCD yoyambitsidwa ndi zolaula kapena fetish yoyambitsidwa ndi zolaula. (Gawo lomaliza patsamba lino ndi upangiri ndi chidziwitso kuchokera kwa anyamata omwe akuchira.) Ngati mukufuna kuchepetsa nkhawa yanu ndikukhala ndi chiyembekezo, ndikupangira kuti muwerenge zolemba zathu za blog zomwe zalembedwa pambuyo pa maakaunti obwezeretsanso, chifukwa zimayankha mafunso ambiri omwe munthu angakhale nawo. Kapena mwina yambani ndi gawo la akatswiri, monga nkhaniyi - Kodi Ndine Gay? Matenda Okhudzana ndi Kugonana Amatenga Mitundu Yambiri . Ichi ndi chidule cha izi:

Malamulo a HOCD

Moni! Dzina langa ndine Mark, ndipo ndine mwamuna wogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha yemwe ali ndi vuto la obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Ndikulemba izi kuti ndithandize anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe akuyembekeza kugwiritsa ntchito nkhaniyi kuti amvetse mantha awo okhudza kukhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (omwe amadziwikanso kuti gay OCD kapena HOCD ). Musadandaule, bwenzi langa: Ngati mukuyesera kumvetsetsa nokha kapena munthu wapafupi nanu yemwe ali ndi HOCD, mukuwerenga nkhani yoyenera.

  • Muzilamulira chimodzi: Ngati mukunena kuti ndinu ogonana, ndiye kuti muli. Nthawi.
  • Lamulo lachiwiri: Palibe malamulo ena.

Zikomo chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito nthawi yowerenga ndi kumvera malamulo. Ndine mphunzitsi m'moyo wanga weniweni, ndipo nthawi zonse ndimalemba malamulowo.

Tsopano kuti tikubwera pa izi kuchokera kumalingaliro ofanana, chonde ndikhale ndi ine pamene ndikuyenda kudutsa mu HOCD.

Anthu ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula mopitirira muyeso nthawi zambiri amafotokoza kuwonjezeka kwa kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zawo zomwe zimatenga nthawi yambiri akuonera kapena kufunafuna mitundu yatsopano ya zolaula. Mitundu yatsopano yomwe imayambitsa mantha, kudabwitsa, kuphwanya ziyembekezo kapena ngakhale nkhawa imatha kugwira ntchito yowonjezera chilakolako chogonana, ndipo mwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula omwe mayankho awo ku zolimbikitsa akuchepa chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito mopitirira muyeso, izi ndizofala kwambiri. Norman Doidge MD analemba za izi m'buku lake lakuti The Brain That Changes Itself :

Mliri wamakono wa zolaula umapereka chiwonetsero chazithunzi zakuti zokonda zakugonana zitha kupezeka. Zithunzi zolaula, zomwe zimatulutsidwa ndi intaneti yothamanga kwambiri, zimakwaniritsa chilichonse chofunikira kuti munthu asinthe mitsempha yake…. Ojambula zolaula akadzitama kuti akukankhira envelopu poyambitsa mitu yatsopano, yovuta, zomwe samanena ndikuti ayenera, chifukwa makasitomala awo akupanga kulolerana ndi zomwe zili.

Kugonana kwa anthu ndi "koyenera" kwambiri kuposa momwe akatswiri adazindikira . Kafukufuku wa 2016 adapeza kuti theka la ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti adafika pa zinthu zomwe kale zidazipeza "zosasangalatsa kapena zonyansa." ( Zochita zogonana pa intaneti: Kafukufuku wofufuza za machitidwe ovuta komanso osavuta ogwiritsira ntchito mwa amuna) . Chidule:

Anthu makumi asanu ndi anayi mphambu asanu ndi anayi aliwonse amatchulidwa nthawi zina pofunafuna kugonana kapena kuchita nawo ma OSA [zolaula] zomwe sizinali zosangalatsa kwa iwo kapena kuti iwo amaona kuti zonyansa.

Kafukufukuyu waku Belgian adapezanso zovuta pakuwona zolaula pa intaneti zomwe zimalumikizidwa ndi kuchepa kwa ntchito ya erectile ndikuchepetsa kukhutira kwakugonana. Komabe ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula anali ndi zilakolako zazikulu (OSA = zogonana pa intaneti, zomwe zinali zolaula kwa maphunziro a 99%). Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, 20.3% ya omwe atenga nawo mbali adati zomwe zimawachititsa kuti azigwiritsa ntchito zolaula "ndikupitiliza kukondana ndi wokondedwa wanga."

Maphunziro ena angapo, pogwiritsa ntchito njira zosiyanasiyana ndi kuwunika, apereka lipoti la Escalation (ndi Habituation) mwa Ogwiritsa Ntchito Zolaula . Mwachitsanzo, kafukufukuyu wa 2017 adapanga ndikuyesa mafunso ovuta okhudza kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula omwe adapangidwa motsatira mafunso okhudzana ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Kukula kwa Mavuto Ogwiritsa Ntchito Zolaula Zovuta (PPCS) . Mosiyana ndi mayeso am'mbuyomu okhudzana ndi kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, mafunso 18 awa adayesa kulekerera (kuwonjezeka kwa kugwiritsa ntchito) ndi kusiya, kupeza zonse ziwiri, kuthetsa mkangano wokhudza kusiya ndi kukwera kwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pafupipafupi. Mafunso awiri omwe adagwiritsa ntchito poyesa kukwera kwa kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula:

  • Pang'ono ndi pang'ono ndinkaona zolaula "zoopsa" chifukwa zithunzi zolaula zomwe ndinkaonera poyamba sizinali zosangalatsa
  • Ndinkaona kuti ndikusowa zolaula kuti ndikwanitse zokhumba zanga

Kuphatikiza apo, kafukufuku wa 2016 uyu akukayikitsa lingaliro lakuti zokonda zogonana ndizokhazikika pankhani ya zolaula za pa intaneti (zowonera) masiku ano ( Sexually Explicit Media Use by Sexual Identity: A Comparative Analysis of Gay, Bisexual, and Heterosexual Men in the United States ). Chidule cha kafukufukuyu:

Zomwe apezazi zikuwonetsanso kuti amuna ambiri amawona zinthu zolaula (SEM) zosagwirizana ndi kudziwika kwawo. Sizinali zachilendo kuti amuna omwe amadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha anene kuti akuwona SEM yokhala ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (20.7%) komanso amuna omwe amadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kuti afotokozere zowonera amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ku SEM (55.0%).

Kafukufukuyu, wotengedwa pamodzi ndi maphunziro ena patsamba lino , akutsutsa meme yomwe anthu ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano " amapeza kugonana kwawo kwenikweni " pofufuza malo ochezera, kenako n’kumatsatira mtundu umodzi wokha wa zolaula kwa nthawi yonse yotsalayo.

Nkhani zobwerezabwereza za anthu omwe ali ndi HOCD kapena zolaula zomwe zinapangitsa kuti mwanayo asamangidwe:

ZOYENERA: Anthu omwe ali ndi OCD ali ndi mwayi wochepetsa zolaula ndi zolaula, osayesa kuthetsa maliseche. YBOP ikukuwonetsani kuti muwerenge maakaunti otsatirawa obwezeretsanso ndikuwachotsera zomwe zikukuthandizani. Palibe njira imodzi.

Mauthenga a blog pa fetishes okhudzana ndi zolaula ndi HOCD (zochokera kuyambira kale kwambiri):

Zida za akatswiri:

Zokambirana za YBOP zomwe zimalongosola momwe munthu amapezera zolaula zomwe zimayambitsa zolaula komanso zolaula zimapangitsa ED

Wailesi ya Gary imawonetsa kuthana ndi HOCD kapena ziboda zopangira zolaula:

Nkhani za atolankhani:

Sayansi yokhudzana ndi zolaula-zinachititsa SOCD

Malangizo pa zithandizo:

ZOYENERA: Sitife madokotala, ndipo muyenera kufufuza chidziwitso ichi ndi dokotala musanayese chimodzi mwazinthu izi. Koma apa pali ndemanga kuchokera kwa anyamata awiri omwe adalimbana ndi HOCD:

Kulakalaka zinthu zopitirira muyeso kapena zobweretsa nkhawa kumatha kukulirakulira poyamba chifukwa cha zotsatira za kusiya . Onani ulusi wa Reddit uwu.

Munthu woyamba :

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Mnyamata wachiwiri:

Ndichiwiri kuti inositol ifunanso kuonjezera N Acetyl Cysteine ​​kapena NAC monga chithandizo chothandizira kwambiri chomwe chimapangitsa kuti NAC iwonongeke. Makamaka pokhudzana ndi kusinkhasinkha ndi mankhwala.

Zowonjezera mauthenga kwa OCD ambiri

ZOCHITIKA:

Kodi mukulimbana ndi maganizo ngati awa?

Ndinkangoganiza kuti ndikusintha gay. HOCD yanga inali yamphamvu kwambiri panthawiyo, ndimaganiza zonyamuka pamalo okwera kwambiri. Ndinkavutika maganizo kwambiri. Ndinkadziwa kuti ndimakonda atsikana ndipo sindingakonde bwenzi lina, koma bwanji ndinali ndi ED? Chifukwa chiyani ndimafunikira zinthu zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kuti zindigwetsere? Tsopano popeza ndimvetsetsa chifukwa chomwe ndimavutikira, ndachira kwambiri. Ndikuyang'ana chibwenzi, pomwe ndikubwezeretsanso nthawi yomweyo. Ndili womasuka kwambiri kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake, ndi chiyani.

Kuchokera ku kafukufuku wa nofap, n'zoonekeratu kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ambiri amayamba kugwiritsa ntchito mitundu ya zolaula zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi kugonana kwawo kwachibadwa. Pafupifupi 60% ya mamembala a nofap omwe adafunsidwa adati zomwe amakonda zakhala zikuchulukirachulukira kapena zosasinthika. Pafupifupi theka la iwo adasokonezeka ndi kusinthaku, theka lina - osati kwenikweni. Kuphatikiza apo, ofufuza atafunsa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ngati kugwiritsa ntchito kwawo zolaula kwakula kukhala zinthu zomwe kale zinali "zosasangalatsa kapena zonyansa," theka la iwo adati zidakula. Ndipo ofufuza a ku Cambridge University ayamba kuwonetsa kuti zolaula za pa intaneti zimapangitsa ogwiritsa ntchito kuzolowera mwachangu kuposa zowongolera, komanso kuti azilabadira kwambiri zatsopano.

Zikuwoneka kuti kuletsa chidwi cha anthu omwe amalandira mphotho ndiko komwe kwachititsa kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ambiri ayambe kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi zomwe amakonda poyamba kapena zomwe amakonda. HOCD ikhoza kukhala njira yosokoneza kwambiri ya zomwe anyamata amanena nthawi zonse - kukwera kwa mitundu yatsopano . Mantha, nkhawa, kapena kudabwa zonse zimakweza dopamine ndi adrenaline (norepinephrine), zomwe zingakulitse chilakolako cha kugonana. Izi ndi zomwe ubongo wopanda chidwi umafuna. Ndipo ngati ubongo wanu ukufuna kwambiri kuti musangalale (chifukwa simungathe kufika pamitundu yakale), mutha kuchita zinthu monga momwe mlendoyu adachitira:

Kwa gawo langa sindinawopenso "kutembenuka kukhala amuna okhaokha" popeza ndili ndi WAY kuyamikira kwambiri mawonekedwe achikazi mumitundu yake yonse yowala. KOMA ndakhala ndikulakalaka zogonana ndi amuna ena ndipo ndidachitapo izi. Chinthu ndichakuti, thupi lamwamuna silimandichitira chilichonse kuti ndiyatseke, koma gawo "loletsedwa" limapangitsa kuti kulakalaka kwanga kwa dopamine kumangosewerera ndi lingalirolo.

Mfundo yofunikira pakumvetsetsa momwe timamangirira, kapena kulumikizanso waya, ubongo wathu ndi, "ma neuron omwe amayatsa moto pamodzi." Ndiye kuti, ngati zinthu ziwiri zichitika nthawi imodzi, ubongo wathu nthawi zambiri umawalumikiza pogwiritsa ntchito kulumikizana kwenikweni kwa ma neural. Zochitika zomwe zimakhudzana kwambiri, kapena momwe zimabwerezedwera, kulumikizana kwamphamvu kumakhala kolimba. Magulu amitsempha yamitsempha yopanga machitidwe kapena ntchito nthawi zina amatchedwa "mapu aubongo."

Kubereka ndiye chinthu chofunika kwambiri m'majini athu, ndipo kukakamiza kugonana kumabweretsa dopamine yambiri, yomwe imathandiza kulimbitsa kukumbukira ndi kuphunzira. Orgasm ndi chinthu chokoma kwambiri chomwe ubongo wathu umachigwirizanitsa mosavuta (ndipo chimadzutsa) ndi zochitika ndi zochitika zina. Monga momwe katswiri wa zamaganizo Norman Doidge adafotokozera mu The Brain That Changes Itself :

Amuna omwe anali pamakompyuta awo omwe amayang'ana zolaula anali ngati makoswe omwe anali m khola la NIH, akukakamiza bar kuti apeze dopamine kapena yofanana nayo. Ngakhale samadziwa, adakopeka ndikuchita nawo zolaula zomwe zimakwaniritsa zofunikira zonse pakusintha mapu aubongo. … Nthawi iliyonse akamadzimva kuti ali ndi chilakolako chogonana ndipo amakhala ndi vuto lokonda kuseweretsa maliseche, "spritz of dopamine," mphotho ya mphotho, amalumikizitsa kulumikizana komwe kumapangidwa muubongo mkati mwazigawozo. [Kuchokera pamutu wakuti “Kupeza Zokonda ndi Kukonda.”]

Izi sizongopeka chabe chifukwa kafukufuku waposachedwa wa nyama akuwonetsa kuti kuchuluka kwa dopamine (dopamine agonist) kumatha kusintha zomwe amuna amakonda pankhani yogonana. Norman Doidge adalangiza amuna ambiri omwe anali ndi zokonda zogonana zomwe sizinagwirizane ndi kugonana kwawo kwachibadwa:

Zomwe zilipo [odwala] zomwe zinawoneka zosangalatsa zinkasintha pamene Mawebusaiti adayambitsa malemba ndi malemba omwe anasintha ubongo wawo popanda kuzindikira. Chifukwa chakuti pulasitiki ndi yopikisana, ubongo umapangidwira zithunzi zatsopano, zosangalatsa zinawonjezeka chifukwa cha zomwe zinkakopeka kale. (p.109)

Mwanjira ina, zikuwoneka ngati amuna ambiri tsopano akukumana ndi zolaula zomwe zimapangitsa zolaula. Kodi nzodabwitsa? Makolo athu sanataye maola ambiri akujambulitsa zithunzithunzi za umuna.

Komabe, HOCD si kungoyamba kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zatsopano, kapena kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi zomwe mumakonda. M'malo mwake ndi vuto lodziwika bwino lomwe lingakhale loopsa. Kuchokera ku Pure OCD: kudzuka kopusa, The Guardian, nkhani yabwino kwambiri yolembedwa ndi mkazi yemwe ali ndi SOCD:

Chizindikiro chofala cha kukakamira kuchita zinthu mopitirira muyeso kumatchedwa OCD (HOCD), yotchedwanso gay OCD kapena OCD ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Izi zimachitika ngati mantha komanso chidwi chokhala gay - nthawi zambiri munthu amene amamukhulupirira kuti ndi wowongoka amakayikira zachiwerewerezo ndikuyamba kuganizira za kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Pano pali chinthu chimodzi chomwe mlangizi akukumbutsani mukangoyamba kulandira chithandizo cha HOCD: ngati mukukhulupirira kuti ndinu owongoka, ndiye kuti muli.

Nthawi zomwe munthu wowongoka "amapeza kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kudzera mu magawo a HOCD ndizocheperako kotero kuti sangakhale ocheperako. Pafupifupi palibe. Ambiri mwa iwo omwe "amatembenukira" ku kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amachita izi kwakanthawi akayamba kumvetsetsa kuti kutengeka kwawo sikunali kokhudzana ndi kugonana kwawo, koma za mantha ena ndi nkhawa zomwe mwina sizimakhudzana ndi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Zikuwoneka ngati pali mitundu iwiri ya HOCD:

  1. OCD + mantha (kapena chochitika) = HOCD
  2. Zaka zolaula zogwiritsa ntchito + zovuta zowonjezera kugonana / zolaula / zolaula = HOCD zokhudzana ndi zolaula

Zochitika zosayembekezereka m'moyo, monga malingaliro osaganizira a anzanu pa nthawi zovuta, zingachititse anthu ena kuyambitsa kukayikira za kugonana kwawo (HOCD).

Komabe, lero chomwe chikuyambitsa HOCD ndi kusangalala kwambiri, komwe kumasiya ubongo ukuchita zinthu zosasangalatsa tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo motero umafuna kukhudzika. Izi zikuchitikanso kwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula omwe sapeza HOCD. Onani Kafukufuku wogwirizanitsa kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kapena chizolowezi chogonana ndi zovuta zogonana, kuchepa kwa chilakolako chogonana, komanso kuchepa kwa chikhutiro chogonana ndi ubale.

Kuonera zolaula pa intaneti kumapangitsa kuti munthu azigwiritsa ntchito mopitirira muyeso nthawi zonse. Poyerekeza ndi zolaula zakale, zimakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri moti, mwa ogwiritsa ntchito ena, zimapangitsa kuti ubongo wake usinthe chifukwa cha chizolowezi . Nzosadabwitsa. Kupatulapo kusangalala ndi kugonana kosalekeza, zolaula za pa intaneti masiku ano zimayendetsa dongosolo la mphotho la ubongo pazinthu zonse zodziwika bwino, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti kukumbukira kukhale kosavuta:

Komanso, n'zotheka kuti anthu omwe ali ndi HOCD angakhale ndi ubongo womwe umakhala wochepa kwambiri pazifukwa zina. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa ku China , anthu omwe ali ndi zizolowezi za OCD asanagwiritse ntchito intaneti amakhala pachiwopsezo chachikulu cha chizolowezi.

Mulimonsemo, ubongo wa munthu wokonda zolaula ukhoza kulephera kusangalala ngakhale utakhala wotanganidwa kwambiri posankha zizindikiro . Nayi munthu amene akufotokoza za kupita patsogolo kofala, komwe nthawi zambiri kumanenedwa ndi anthu omwe amalowa mu HOCD yokhudzana ndi zolaula:

29 y / o ndi zaka 17 za MO (zolimbitsa thupi ndi malingaliro) ndi zaka 12 zoseweretsa maliseche, zomwe zikuwonjezeka mpaka zolaula / zolaula. Ndinayamba kusiya kukonda zogonana kwenikweni. Zolimbikitsa ndikumasulidwa ku zolaula zidakhala zamphamvu kuposa zogonana. Porn zimapereka mitundu yopanda malire. Nditha kusankha zomwe ndikufuna kuwona panthawiyi. Kuthamangitsidwa kwanga kochedwa panthawi yogonana kunakhala koipa kwambiri kotero kuti nthawi zina sindinkatha kutulutsa chilakolako. Izi zidapha chikhumbo changa chomaliza chogonana.

Chikhalidwe chogonana chachikhalidwe

Pomwe chiwerengerochi chikulowetseratu, sitejiyi imayikidwa pa HOCD yokhudzana ndi zolaula. Zolaula zosagwirizanitsa zimaphwanya zoyembekeza, zimatulutsa dopamine kwambiri ndi norepinephrine kusiyana ndi zolaula zam'mbuyomu, ndipo zimapereka mphoto yowonjezera yomwe imayatsa mphoto zowonjezera (addicted). Wogwiritsa ntchito angayambe kukayikira chifukwa chake angayambe kuchita zachiwerewere ndi zochitika zogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha koma osakopeka ndi anthu ogonana nawo omwe adamuukitsa kale.

Komabe, ubongo wake umayamba kulumikiza momwe amayankhira kugonana ndi bukuli, zomwe zimamulimbikitsa—monga momwe zimakhalira ndi chilakolako chogonana. Monga tafotokozera mu positi yapitayi , kugonana kumatha kukhazikika pa chilichonse, ngakhale fungo la imfa, kotero sizosadabwitsa kuti ambiri mwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano amanena kuti zolaula zawo zimasinthasintha paliponse pamene chisangalalo chawo chikuchepa.

Tsopano, wogwiritsa ntchito wathu angaone kuti akhoza kufika pachimake pa mtundu wake waposachedwa (ndipo motero wolimbikitsa kwambiri). Ngati ndi womwe amaona kuti sukugwirizana ndi zomwe amakonda pankhani yogonana, kugwedezeka kwake kumakhala kwakukulu ... ndipo kumatulutsanso mankhwala ena olimbikitsa/oyambitsa nkhawa. Kusangalala kwake kumawonjezeka, mwa zina, chifukwa cha nkhawa yake. Anyamata awa akufotokoza zomwe adakumana nazo:

Munthu woyamba: Choopsa ndichakuti ndakhala ndikuona akazi ngati okongola kwambiri, komanso amuna kapena lingaliro la amuna osagonana nawo. Monga mwamuna wogonana ndi amuna okhaokha yemwe wakhala akuchita chibwenzi ndi amuna ena kuyambira ali kusukulu ya sekondale, izi ndi zachilendo. Ngakhale ndikaona akazi "oyipa" akuyenda mumsewu, sindingathe kuletsa koma kuganiza momwe zingakhalire kugonana nawo mwachipongwe nthawi yomweyo. Kodi zidzatha? Kodi n'zotheka kusintha?

Munthu wachiwiri: Masiku awiri oyambirira ndinali ndi nkhawa kwambiri, pafupifupi ndimafuna kudzipha chifukwa sindinakopeke ndi mkazi aliyense. Maganizo amenewa amandipangitsa kuganiza kuti ndine mwamuna kapena mkazi, kundipangitsa kufunsa zomwe ndimachita, zomwe ndimanena, kundidwalitsa. Sindingathe kudya. Ndimaganiza malingaliro olowerera ... kundipangitsa kumva ngati ndine mwamuna kapena mkazi, pamene ndikudziwa kuti sindili.

Kufunitsitsa kwa ogwiritsa ntchito kumvetsetsa ngati chilakolako chawo chogonana chasintha mwadzidzidzi kungayambitse miyambo yokhazikika, yokakamiza komanso yotsimikizira ena. Monga momwe zilili ndi mitundu ina ya OCD (kuphatikiza HOCD yosagwirizana ndi zolaula), kuyesa ndi kufunafuna chitsimikizo kumapereka mpumulo wakanthawi. "Mayeso" aliwonse amalimbitsa chilakolako chosafunikira - kaya ndi mpumulo wopindulitsa, kapena kupsinjika maganizo ngati mayeso alephera. Mwanjira imeneyi, mayeso amalimbitsa zomwe zimayambitsa mavuto.

Kodi othandizira ndiotani?

Kumbukirani kuti zizolowezi za khalidwe ndi zilakolako zimayenderana ndi mphotho. Kuchokera ku chithandizo cha mankhwala osokoneza bongo timadziwa kuti zizolowezizo zimachira pang'onopang'ono chifukwa mphothozo sizikupezekanso chifukwa chosiya kumwa. Pang'onopang'ono, ubongo umafooketsa njira zogwirizana nazo.

Katswiri wa zamaganizo angathandize bwino poyesa bwino mphotho zomwe zili kumbuyo kwa HOCD ya kasitomala winawake . Ngati mphotho yake yolimbikitsa makamaka ndi mpumulo kuchokera ku "kuyesa" kapena kulengeza mobwerezabwereza kuti zomwe akuchita zasintha (kuti apeze mpumulo wakanthawi wa chitsimikizo), ndiye kuti kupewa kudziwitsidwa ndi kuyankha (palibe kuyezanso kapena kulengeza chifukwa cha nkhawa) kungathandize.

Pankhani ya HOCD yokhudzana ndi zolaula, mphotho zomwe zimapezeka pakukhudzidwa zimatha kukhala gawo la mkango pazovuta za kasitomala. Pakhoza kukhala mphotho ziwiri zosokoneza mu kusakanikirana: mantha ndi chilakolako chogonana.

Opani monga mphotho

Kuvutika maganizo sikungamveke ngati kopindulitsa koma mantha amachititsa kuti munthu alandire mphoto ndipo nkhawa zimatha kuyambitsa chilakolako chogonana . Taganizirani mafilimu ochititsa mantha komanso mafilimu owopsa. Kwa ubongo wofuna kukhudzidwa ndi zinthu (chifukwa cha kusintha kwa ubongo komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha kulimbikira kwambiri/kuledzera), kuchita zinthu mopitirira muyeso kungaoneke ngati kochititsa chidwi kwambiri. Kumawonjezera dopamine ndi norepinephrine (mtundu wa adrenaline). Monga momwe munthu wina wokonda zolaula za transsexual anafotokozera:

Ndabwereranso ku zolaula za akazi okhaokha tsopano , ndinapeza kuti zolaula za akazi okhaokha zimandisangalatsa kwambiri poyamba, koma sizinalinso kapu yanga. Nditasiya kuopa zomwe anthu angaganize, ndinataya chidwi chomwe chinkandipatsa ndipo chinakhala chosasangalatsa.

Nditayamba kupeza zolaula zachiwerewere zinali zatsopano komanso zosangalatsa, koma tsopano ndikufuna kukhala mkazi. Mantha ndi omwe adandichititsa chidwi changa, koma mantha atangotha ​​kukopa kunachoka. Siziwoneka bwino kuwona mkazi yemwe ali ndi Dick. Sizonyansa koma sizabwino.

Koma pali zambiri zomwe zikuchitika pamlingo wa zamoyo. Cortisol ya neurochemical yokhudzana ndi nkhawa imathanso kukulitsa zotsatira zabwino poyambitsa kutulutsidwa kwa dopamine . Pomaliza, kusintha kwa ubongo kungapangitse munthu kukhala wokhudzidwa kwambiri ndi zizindikiro zopsinjika. Kafukufuku akutsimikizira kuti kupsinjika kwambiri ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo zonse zimawonjezera mphamvu ya njira zokhudzana ndi chizolowezi cha ubongo. Ofufuza amakhulupirira kuti cortisol imagwira ntchito yofunika kwambiri pa matenda okhudzana ndi mphotho.

Vutoli likufanana ndi la BDSM, pomwe ululu wakuthupi umakulitsa chilakolako cha kugonana cha munthu chifukwa cha zotsatira zake pa ubongo. Mwa anthu omwe ali ndi HOCD, kudzuka ndi mantha zimafika pamlingo womwewo. Mfundo yofunika: Ngakhale kusasangalala kwambiri m'maganizo kapena mwakuthupi, kudzuka kwambiri kungapangitse kuti khalidwe likhale lovuta kwambiri kulisiya (kuledzera). Nkhawa ndi nkhawa, ngakhale nthawi zina zimamveka ngati kudzuka muubongo komwe kumafuna kudzuka.

Nkhawa yanga imamasuliridwa molakwika ngati "malingaliro akuya" kwa mnyamatayo yemwe ndimalankhula naye chifukwa nkhawa NDI mtundu wadzutsa.

Ubongo wa munthu amene ali ndi HOCD waphunzira kupeza gawo la mphotho yake kuchokera ku mavuto ake. Choyipa kwambiri n'chakuti, munthu amene akuvutika akayesa kusiya zolaula, nkhawa yake imawonjezeka kwa nthawi yayitali. Kusiya kusuta kumabweretsa nkhawa mwa anthu onse omwe akuchira, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu azilakalaka kwambiri zinthu zina kupatulapo nkhawa za HOCD. Ambiri pamapeto pake amapeza kuti "kuyang'ana" ndiye vuto lenileni:

Ndinkakonda kupita ku Google HOCD tsiku lililonse, koma zimadzetsa chisokonezo chachikulu ndikuyenera kusiya. Osayang'ana matanthauzo aliwonse okhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena kukhulupirira zomwe mumawerenga zokhudzana ndi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndinachita zonse zomwe simukuyenera kuchita. Pakapita nthawi, mutha kuwerenga nkhani zomwe zikubwera ndikuzindikira kuti simunali inu. Simunafikebe komabe. Muli komwe ndidakhala miyezi 6 yapitayo kapena apo. Inde, zimatenga nthawi yayitali kuti muthetse, sindingakunamizeni.

Kwa odwala HOCD, kuwonjezeka kumeneku kwa nkhawa kumayambitsa mantha aakulu (mantha okhudza momwe zinthu zilili) ndi "kuyang'ana modzidzimutsa," nthawi zambiri kumawapangitsa kubwerera ku chizolowezi. Zoonadi, ena amanena kuti mantha awo a HOCD anali ochepa mpaka atasiya zolaula, ndipo nkhawa yowonjezera yosiya zolaula inawakhudza. Pamene ubongo woledzera umayang'ana "njira" yamphamvu kwambiri yomwe ungaganizire: mantha + kuyang'ana + chilakolako chogonana ndi zinthu zokhudzana ndi HOCD, malingaliro owongoka amawoneka kuti atha.

Kuukitsa kugonana monga mphoto

Kuledzera pa zolaula pa intaneti ndichizolowezi chothandizira. Kudzutsa kugonana ndi mphotho yamphamvu kwambiri mwachilengedwe yomwe ubongo ungatulutse. Komabe kukondweretsedwa ndi zachilendo zanthawi zonse zolaula (chochitika chilichonse chimapereka kugunda kwamankhwala am'magazi) zimatha kupereka mphotho yayikulu modabwitsa. Kugonana, kapenanso kutulutsa zolaula, kumatha kukhala kovuta kwambiri ngati zizolowezi zolaula zikupitilira ndikuyankha zisangalalo za tsiku ndi tsiku zikuchepa. Ogwiritsa ntchito ena amangokhalira kulumikizidwa ndi ma neurochemical buzz kuyambira kusintha kwa zolaula kwa maola ambiri, mwadala, kapena kupewa, pachimake.

Ubongo unasintha n’kuganiza kuti gwero la chilakolako chachikulu cha kugonana ndi mwayi wopeza umuna. Ngati wina adzidzutsa ndi chinthu chomwe chimatulutsa dopamine yambiri ndi norepinephrine, ubongo umangochitcha kuti "chamtengo wapatali." Sizikukhudza ngati sichikugwirizana ndi kugonana kwake kwachibadwa—chifukwa ubongo umayesa mphamvu zake malinga ndi kuchuluka kwa mphamvu zomwe zimayendetsedwa ndi mphotho , osati momwe zimakhalira. (Zimachitika kuti mu ubongo womwe umayankha bwino ku chisangalalo, zolimbikitsa zoyenera zomwe munthu ali nazo nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa malingaliro okhutiritsa kwambiri .)

Nzosadabwitsa kuti njira zodziwira zizindikiro zogonana mwamphamvu muubongo zimasiyana ndi zizindikiro zosalimbikitsa kwenikweni (ngakhale zogonana). Tingathe kumasula mfundo yomaliza mosavuta, koma osati yoyamba. Izi zawonetsedwa mu kafukufuku, monga momwe James G. Pfaus et al adanenera:

Lalumière ndi Quinsey (1998) adanenanso kuti amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakumana ndi chilakolako chachikulu cha kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha pachithunzi cha mkazi wokongola pang'ono, wamaliseche pang'ono yemwe adaphatikizidwa ndi kanema wowonetsa kugonana kosangalatsa kwambiri . Gulu lolamulira lomwe lidalandira mwayi wopeza chithunzicho lokha (popanda kanemayo) linasonyeza chizolowezi [m'malo mwake]. (kugogomezera kwina)

Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, zokhudzana ndi zolaula za anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la HOCD zokhudzana ndi zolaula ndizolimba kwambiri chifukwa zimakulitsa mphamvu ya mitsempha ya mantha.

Kuchepetsa mankhwalawa kungabwerere ngati vuto la zolaula lilipo

Kwa omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti pogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala wamba a HOCD, kuwonekera kwa amuna okhaokha ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sikutanthauza komwe amachokera ku HOCD-komwe sikanthu kapena kugonana ndi anthu, koma ma pixels. Komabe ngati atayesa kuwonetsa zolaula pa zolaula, akuchita zomwe amakonda. Munthu sangathe kuyambitsa chizolowezi chozolowera pomupatsa zomwe adalumikizidwa nazo!

Ichi ndichifukwa chake mankhwala opatsirana ndi zolaula atha kukhala olakwika kwa anyamata omwe akuyesera kumasula HOCD yokhudzana ndi zolaula. Zili ngati kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso pamalingaliro akuti azayamba kunyong'onyeka ndikumwa, kapena munthu wotchova juga amatha kubetcha mpaka atazolowera. Pogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kupitiriza kugwiritsira ntchito kumangowonjezera ubongo muubongo. Chithandizo chowonekera chitha kupereka uthenga wosabereka kwa wodwala HOCD wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula m'malo molimbikitsa chikhalidwe chothandiza (chizolowezi).

Ndiye amayamba kuti? Anthu oledzera amafunika kuchotsa kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kuposa zonse. Pamene ubongo wawo umabwereranso anthu ambiri amaona kuti kusokoneza kugonana kumataya mphamvu.

Ngati zolaula zimakonda kugwiritsa ntchito HOCD kuyesera kugwiritsa ntchito njira zina zokhudzana ndi zochiritsira m'malo mopewa kuzilimbitsa
zizolowezi zosokoneza bongo. Uwu ndi Mgwirizano wa 22. Wosuta (ndipo mwina womuthandizira) atha kuganiza molakwika kuti kuyankha kwake kolimbikira, mwamphamvu pamavuto si HOCD, koma "umboni" woti malingaliro ake ogonana asintha modabwitsa.

Mfundo ndi yakuti chizolowezichi chimabweretsa chopinga pa chithandizo chodziwika bwino cha OCD Exposure & Response Prevention. Ngakhale munthu wokonda zolaula atasiya kufunafuna mphotho ya mpumulo (kuchokera ku mayeso kapena kusanthula), kuwonetsa zolaula "kumamupatsabe mphotho" mwa kuyambitsa njira zake zoledzera.

Chani amachita Thandizeni?

Sitili akatswiri ochiritsa matenda. Komabe, tawerenga malipoti a anthu ena omwe kale anali kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti omwe amadzitcha kuti akuvutika/kuchira ku HOCD ( chitsanzo cha lipoti lawo ). Tidzafotokoza mwachidule zomwe adakumana nazo ngati zitakhala zothandiza.

Anyamata amanena kuti kusiya mphotho ya zolaula pa intaneti ndi kusiya kwakanthawi mphotho ya zochita zogonana (kupatula kugonana ndi mnzanu womasuka komanso wachikondi) zonsezi zimathandiza kuthetsa HOCD yawo. Pamene akusiya kulimbikitsa mphotho yawo yayikulu (kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula), ubongo wawo pang'onopang'ono umayang'ana mozungulira, ndikuyang'ana, mphotho zina zogonana. Izi zitha kutenga miyezi ingapo. Poganizira zomwe anyamatawa adakumana nazo, akatswiri azachipatala angafune kupempha makasitomala kuti asiye kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kwa miyezi ingapo asanayambe kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala owonetsa (ngati alipo).

Poyamba, anyamata sangayankhe bwino kwa okondedwa awo, ngakhale kuti chikondi chomasuka chimatonthoza (mwina chifukwa chimatulutsa oxytocin). Komanso, mpaka nthawi yoyipa kwambiri yosiya kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo itatha, nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi kukwera kwakukulu kwa HOCD. Nkhawa yomwe imabwera chifukwa chosiya kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena kupsinjika maganizo kwina ingakupangitseni "kuyesa" nokha poyang'ana zithunzi zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mukhale ndi nkhawa. Kuyezetsa kumangowonjezera vutoli.

Awo akuchira akuti ngati atha kuvomereza malingaliro osokonekera a HOCD popanda kupsinjika, amapewa kulimbitsa mantha amitsempha. Kuphatikiza apo, zimawawona kukhala zothandiza kuphunzira kukhala moyo wosatsimikizika pazakugonana kwawo ndikupewa kuyesedwa konse ndi zoyesayesa kuti "mupeze chowonadi." Mwanjira imeneyi amaletsanso kulimbikitsidwa kopatsa mpumulo kwakanthawi komanso "kutsimikizika."

Mwa kuyankhula kwina, wodwala HOCD ayenera kugwira ntchito yosiya kusiya zizolowezi zitatu zabwino: kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, kufunafuna mpumulo ndi kuvutika maganizo.

Malipoti a munthu m'modzi

Lipoti la mwamunayo ndilopatsa chidwi chifukwa adayamba pofooketsa mphotho ya zolaula, koma adapeza kuti sanachite nawo mphotho ya mantha ndi mpumulo.

Tsopano ndili ndi miyezi itatu yopanda zolaula, koma ndinali nditangoyang'anitsitsa matabwa osiyanasiyana a HOCD. Ndinkakhala maola ambiri tsiku lililonse pamasamba amenewo, nthawi zina ndimawayang'ana maulendo angapo paola: kuntchito, pomwe ndimayendetsa galimoto, pabedi usiku, ndi zina zambiri. Ndi zina zotero. Ubongo wanga unkalandira mphotho ndikawerenga china chomwe chimanditsimikizira, ndipo chimatha kutentha ndikumangotuluka ndikawerenga china chomwe chimandipatsa nkhawa.

Ndidakulitsanso kuwona kwanga kuma board ena amauthenga, kuphatikiza ma board a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Izi zimangopititsa patsogolo kukula. Sindinkagona tulo chifukwa cha nkhawa zanga zonse, ndipo sindinapezekepo m'moyo wanga. Ndinali m'matabwa awa kapena ndikudandaula ndi zomwe ndinawerenga pa iwo. Nthawi zonse. Ubwenzi wanga unali pamavuto. Nthawi zina, ndekha usiku, ndimapita pama binges a maola 2-3 a HOCD ndikuyang'ana pa bolodi la intaneti, kenako ndikumva kuwawa pambuyo pake.

Ndinaganiza zosiya. Wokondedwa wanga akuyenera kukhala ndi munthu yemwe alipo, osasokonezedwa kwathunthu. Kuyambira pamenepo, ndangokhala ndi gawo limodzi la mphindi 15, kuyang'ana mayankho. Ndakhala ndikulimbana ndi mayesero, koma zotsatira zake ndikuti ndimamva bwino kwambiri.

Ndizodabwitsa kwambiri. HOCD yanga yatsika kwambiri tsopano popeza sindikuwonetsa ubongo wanga nthawi zonse "ZIMENE ZIMENEZI ZIMENE ZILI ZOFUNIKA KWAMBIRI" popita pamatabwa ndikuwunika ndikuwatsimikizira. Ndinali ndisanawerenge buku kwa miyezi, koma tsopano ndili pa lachiwiri kuyambira pomwe ndinasiya matabwa. Nthawi yanga yopuma usiku tsopano ndimathera ndi chibwenzi changa kapena kuwerenga pamoto. Ndikugona bwino kwambiri.

Inde, ndimakhala ndikomwe ndimakhala nawo nthawi zina ndikawona mnyamata wokongola. Ndipo kuchokera pakuwunika ndimaganizo ake. Koma ziyenera kukhala zocheperako, ndipo malingaliro amenewo amafulumira kwambiri.

Tsopano ndikulingalira kuti HOCD yanga iyenera kuti inali chifukwa chakuti pamene ndinatsiriza pa PMO pambuyo pa zaka ndi zaka zapitazi, ndataya chidwi kwambiri ndi amai enieni. Pokhapokha amayi ndi abambo anayamba kuyang'ana chimodzimodzi kwa ine, ndipo BAM amadandaula za kugonana kwazimayi.

Njira yothandizira ya Schwartz yosawonekera

Pali njira yochiritsira matenda a OCD yomwe siilimbikitsa kukhudzana ndi anthu ena. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Jeffrey Schwartz ndiye adapanga njira imeneyi. ( Werengani kufotokozera komwe kwatengedwa kuchokera mu buku la Doidge lakuti The Brain That Changes Itself .)

Schwartz amaphunzitsa odwala ake momwe neuroplasticity imagwirira ntchito kuti amvetsetse kuti chilakolako chawo chimachokera ku ubongo wosafunikira komanso wogwira ntchito mopitirira muyeso (monga chizolowezi). Kenako akufotokoza kuti mawaya a ubongo amatha kusinthidwa ndi khama lodziwa bwino.

Mwanjira zina, ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi chithandizo chamankhwala. M'malo moyesera kukhala ndi chizolowezi chowonekera, wina amayesa kugwiranso ntchito ubongo mwa kusunthira magiya pomwe chithunzi chofananira chimayamba. Schwartz akuwonetsa kuti asinthireko zinthu zomwe zidasankhidwa kale.

Cholinga sikuti tipewe kusapeza chifukwa chofunafuna mpumulo, koma kuti titsegule njira zosagwirizana zaubongo m'malo mwa zovuta ndiye kuti ubongo umatha kuchoka ku "mphotho" zake zakale, ndipo mwina mpaka kumalumikizitsa nkhawa ndi ntchito yopindulitsa. Mulimonsemo, kuvomereza malingaliro osakhazikika osachitapo kanthu pamaganizidwe kumathandiza kwambiri. Anati m'modzi:

Chinthu chimodzi chomwe ndimachita chomwe chimandigwirira ntchito ndikuvomereza kwathunthu kuti ndili ndi lingaliro losafunikira. Ndimachita zonse zomwe ndingathe kuti ndipumule ndikunyalanyaza lingalirolo, ndikuyambiranso ntchito kapena kungopuma ndikukhala munthawi yomwe ndili. Izi sizigwira ntchito ngati ndingayesetse kuyang'ana china chake. Ingopumulani, pozindikira kuti lingaliro lilipo ndipo lingalirani (momasuka) pantchito yanu. Pambuyo pake ndimazindikira kuti sindimaganizira lingalirolo ndipo ndimayang'ana kwambiri ntchito yanga. Zachidziwikire, lingaliro limabweranso panthawiyi chifukwa ndikukumbukira kuti ndinali nalo.

Chinthu chotsatira chomwe ndimachita ndikudziuza ndekha, "ntchito yabwino" ndikubwereza pamwambapa. Onaninso. Gawaninso. Kukonzanso. zomwe zalembedwa mu nkhani ya OCD ya Dr. Schwartz. Ndipo inde, sizimveka ngati zingagwire ntchito mpaka nditaziyesa.

Mukufunikira kudzipangitsa nokha ngati mwana wamng'ono. Nthawi zonse mukaiwala lingaliro, ziribe kanthu kwa nthawi yaitali bwanji, muyamikire komanso muzidzidalira pambuyo. Khalani okoma kwa inueni. Chiwawa kwa iwo eni, kwa thupi kumakhala chiwawa chakunja, ndipo mosiyana. Khalani okoma, pirira ndi wekha. Dzilimbikitseni kuti mukhale osangalala ngakhale mutakhala kuti mukumasula. Zilizonse zomwe mukuganiza kuti ndizofunikira sizingakhale zofunikira monga momwe safunira kuchita!

Ngati mutagwera munjira yomwe "mayeso" atsopano amangokupangitsani kuda nkhawa kwambiri, ubongo wanu umagwiritsa ntchito mantha anu ngati chiwerewere. Poterepa, mutha kupeza njira ya Schwartz yothetsera OCD njira yothandiza kwambiri. Wodwala wina wa HOCD adati:

Ndachitapo chithandizo cha HOCD yanga, ndipo pakadali pano ndikugwiritsa ntchito njira ya Schwartz . Malinga ndi maganizo anga, exposure imagwira ntchito bwino pamene zinthu zolemetsa ndi zokakamiza zili zofooka, pamene mavuto a HOCD ndi funso lomwe lili kumbuyo kwa maganizo a munthu.

Njira ya Schwartz ndiyabwino m'malingaliro mwanga kwa munthu kumapeto kwa HOCD. Zimatengera kulanga kuti tithetse zisokonekere ndi nkhawa kuti musadzilimbikitse. Njira ya Schwartz ndi njira yovuta kwambiri kuyiyambitsa, koma munthu akapambana pakulekerera, zimakhala zosavuta, chifukwa amatha kudutsa tsikulo osatengeka ... mpaka lingaliro lokopa limawagundanso.

Tsopano, ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pamachitidwe a Schwartz kuti ayambirepo. Mmodzi ayenera kupita ku zochitika / malingaliro / kuwonera mosiyana nthawi yomweyo. Chifukwa munthu akangofufuza m'maganizo mwake amakhala sitima yomwe yathawa chifukwa cha nkhawa. Ndiye zilekeni! Mwakutero, munthuyo ayenera kupeza njira yatsopano yopezera mphoto. Kwa ine, mphotho ndikuchotsa nkhawa bola ngati ndinyalanyaza malingaliro.

Chithandizo chakuwonetsera panthawiyi, pomwe nkhawa yanga ikuchulukirachulukira, ndichopanda pake. Imangodyetsa OCD yanga. Chithandizo chakuwonetsera chimagwira bwino ntchito ngati munthuyo amatha kuzindikira kulingalira komanso kupanda nzeru, kuzindikira kuti mantha awo alibe nzeru. Pomwe kulingalira kumalowedwa m'malo ndi zopusitsa nkhawa, chithandizo chamankhwala cha IMO chimadyetsa OCD. Lingaliro langa lokha.

Mnyamata uyu akulumpha milomo yake:

Ndimawona kuti kuluma kwamilomo pakati mkalasi kumagwira ntchito bwino kwambiri. Sindinkaganiza zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha tsiku lonse kupatula m'mawa uno ndinali ndi lingaliro laling'ono kwambiri. Koma sindikudandaula za izi chifukwa anali 1 pamaola 24 apitawa. Zitenga nthawi kuti chizolowezi ichi chichitike koma pali chikwangwani choti ndatsala pang'ono kufika. Sindikulakalaka kubwerera ku zolaula zolaula, zomwe zimandithandiza kwambiri.

Kuphatikiza apo, katswiri wa HOCD Fred Penzel amaletsanso chithandizo cha anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la zolaula , ngakhale kuti amalimbikitsa chithandizo cha Exposure & Response Prevention m'matenda akale a HOCD.

Tikukhulupirira kuti ofufuza posachedwapa adzadziwa njira zomwe zimagwira ntchito bwino kwa odwala a HOCD. Ambiri mwa omwe akhudzidwawo akufuna kuthetsa nkhawa zawo. Zoonadi, mwa onse omwe akuchira omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zolaula omwe amachezera tsamba lathu , anyamata a HOCD amavutika kwambiri ndipo amabwereranso mosavuta.

Pakalipano, ambiri amakayikira kufunafuna chithandizo kuti mantha awonekere kuti odwala adzawauza kuti ali amuna (kapena olunjika) pamene akudziwa kuti sali.

Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la HOCD okhudzana ndi zolaula nthawi zambiri sadziwa momwe angabwezeretsere intaneti chifukwa chithandizo chokhazikika sichigwira ntchito, ndipo mayankho odalirika kwambiri amamveka ngati otsutsana ndi zomwe zikuchitika (amafunika kusiya mpumulo , kusanthula, komanso chilakolako chogonana kwakanthawi). Ambiri sangamvetse popanda thandizo la akatswiri. Kuti apite patsogolo, angafunike kupeza katswiri wodziwa bwino za chizolowezi komanso udindo wodziletsa pakuchotsa ubongo ku "mphoto" zosafunikira.

MAPETO A NKHANI

Maganizo Okhudza Kugonana Kwachiwerewere

Ngakhale kuti ndi zachilendo, chilakolako cha zolaula zogonana ndi anthu ogonana okhaokha n'chofala mwa amuna wamba. Nayi chidule cha nkhani yokhudza buku laposachedwa lonena za zolaula :

Olembawo akuti, "ngati mumagawira masamba omwe ali pa Alexa Adult List mayina awo, ndiye kuti masamba a atsikana a T-atsikana ndi achinayi otchuka kwambiri
gulu la masamba akuluakulu. ” Komanso, "'shemales' ndiye kusaka kwachisanu ndi chimodzi kotchuka kwambiri pa Dogpile, kotchuka kwambiri kuposa 'mabout,' 'threesomes,' ndi 'sex sex.'” Ndiye ndani akusaka? Ogas ndi Gaddam akugwira mawu a Housekeeper, omwe amagwiritsa ntchito masamba angapo azolaula:

"Omvera anga akulu, komanso owonera zolaula zambiri zachimuna, ndi owongoka. Ndi momwe zakhalira. Ndikunena kuti alendo onse obwera kudzaona malo ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ali owongoka. ”

Onaninso sayansi yatsopano yachilendo kumbuyo kwa "A Biliyoni Yoyipa Maganizo".

Ndiye kodi chidwi chazithunzi zolaula chimachokera kuti? Amuna achigololo nthawi zambiri samafuna kuziwona. Transsexual si "chiwerewere." Sipezeka m'chilengedwe, motero anthu sakanasintha kuti afune kuwona. Sichinthu chomwe ogwiritsa ntchito ambiri amapita kukafunafuna… pokhapokha atakhala kuti atengeredwa ndi opanga zolaula.

Zolaula zachiwerewere ndi… ndi njira yophatikizira zikhalidwe zogonana zomwe sizingathe kuphatikizidwa. Ndi uthenga wamphamvu mwachindunji ku limbic system yaubongo. Zimaphatikizira zomwe amaonera zomwe amakonda: mabere, chilili mbolo, kutulutsa mbolo, BJ, maliseche, ndi zina zambiri.

Ubongo wa limbic, womwe sungaganizire komanso wosadziwa kuti zinthu zoterezi kulibe m'chilengedwe, umangoti, "Oooh! Oooh! Zomwe timakonda kwambiri pakugonana! Izi ndizowonjezera! ” Pamwamba pa izo, monga zolaula zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kapena zolaula zogonana zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndizodabwitsa komanso zosangalatsa. Ndipo, * cha-ching! * Opanga zolaula amatenga ndalama zotsatsa kuchokera kumaulendo anu.

Ndizomveka kuti zokumana nazo zolimba mtima komanso zatsopano "zimangokhala" m'maganizo mwanu ndipo pambuyo pake zimapitiliza kuwononga mitundu yonse yazosangalatsa zamankhwala "KODI IZI!" mauthenga - makamaka ngati kuyankha kwanu kosangalatsa kuli pansipa (mwina chifukwa chochulukirapo). Chinsinsi chenicheni ndi chakuti ngati zomwe takambiranazi zikukwaniritsadi… kapena zimangokusiyani wofuna zambiri.

Nachi chokumana nacho china chotsegula maso:

Ndili ndi zolaula, ndinkangokhalira kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Zinayambitsa funso lalikulu ponena za kugonana kwanga pamene ndinabatizidwa m'maganizo oterowo. Chabwino, ndinaganiza kuti ndikuyendetse limodzi kuti ndiwone.

Osati chinthu changa! Sindingathe kupitako ngakhale kumuwona / kuyankhula "naye" kwa mphindi zopitilira pang'ono ndikumaliza mwaulemu madzulo. Lankhulani za kuphulika kwanu, LOL. Chifukwa chake gawolo lakhazikika.

Mnyamata wina akufotokoza momwe chisokonezo chake chinayambira:

Zolakwika zanga zinayamba kuipiraipira, poyamba ndinkangokonda vanila, koma posakhalitsa, sizinali zokwanira nditafika zaka 20, ndinayamba kuonera zinthu zonyansa kwambiri, hentai, ukapolo, kukodza, kugonana ndi amuna, kudziletsa maganizo, kukana kugonana ndi chilakolako cha kugonana komanso kukhala ndi malingaliro akuti ndimafuna akazi ambiri omwe alibe chilakolako china m'moyo kupatula kundikhutiritsa. Pamapeto pake zinafika poti ndimayang'ana mkazi wonyansa akusangalala ndipo ndinaona mbolo ya mwamunayo ngati chinthu chosangalatsa…. Ndinamva ngati ndikufunanso zimenezo, ndipo ndinayamba kulakalaka kukhala ndi mwamuna. Zaka 29 - Ndisanayambe nofap ndimaganiza kuti ndine wokonda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, osatinso

Ndemanga yochokera kwa wopanga TV pansi pa ndemanga iyi ya filimu yaku UK ya Porn On The Brain

Stuart Bull - 01 Okutobala 2013

Zaka zitatu zapitazo ine ndinali gulu la akatswiri a pa TV omwe ankayang'ana pa nkhani zambiri zokhudzana ndi zolaula za pa intaneti pa pulogalamu yomwe siinatulukepo. Wopanga wamkulu anali ndi umboni wa sayansi womwe umagwiritsidwa ntchito (womwe umayenera kukhala wamsana wa pulogalamuyo) unalibe mphamvu mokwanira.

Pa kafukufuku amene ndayankhula ndi anthu angapo omwe ali ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi zolaula, amawerengera zikwi zikwi za ndemanga zochokera kwa amuna omwe amatsutsa zolaula ndikuyankhula ndi asayansi. Kafukufuku wochuluka wa sayansi ali akadakali wamng'ono koma palibe kukayika m'maganizo anga kuti kupitiriza kuonera zolaula kungakhudze kwambiri akulu ndi ana ena.

Chinthu chokhudzidwa kwambiri chomwe ndidakumana nacho chinali amuna achikulire & achichepere omwe adayamba kuwonera zolaula (ngati zilipo) pafupipafupi ndipo kwa zaka zingapo adayamba kupita kuzithunzi zowopsa kwambiri pomwe adayamba kukhumudwa ndi zolaula zomwe ndinayang'ana 'kukonza' kwatsopano.

Anthu omwe amaoneka ngati abwinobwino amakhala ndi nkhawa kuti akhoza kukanganidwa ndi zolaula, sanakhalenso ndi chilakolako chofuna kukhala ndi chiyanjano choyenera ndi mkazi monga zolaula zomwe zidakhala m'malo mwawo, amuna omwe adagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe adakanidwa kwambiri zolaula zogonana amuna ndi akazi omwe adzipeza okha akuwona zolaula za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna omwe amadera nkhawa za momwe amamvera chifukwa cha ana chifukwa mzere pakati pa zomwe adazipeza zokongola kapena zomwe amapeza zamasewera zikuyamba kusokonezeka.

99% ya anthu awa anali akulu ndipo anali ndi nthawi yopanga chikhalidwe chogonana choyenera ndi maubwenzi asanayambe nkhani zawo. Izi zikutanthawuza, monga momwe katswiri wina wa sayansi ya ubongo amathandizira, ndi chithandizo choyenera ubongo wawo ukhoza kubwezeretsedwa ku chikhalidwe chawo chogonana, ngakhale zithunzi zomwe adaziwona silingaiwale konse.

Kwa mwana wazaka 10-14, wopanda chidziwitso chakugonana, palibe batani lokonzanso. Titha kukhala ndi mibadwo yamtsogolo ya anyamata omwe amatsata akazi ndipo amakhala ndi malingaliro osagwirizana kwenikweni pankhani zogonana ndipo nthawi zina amuna omwe ubongo wawo ungalumikizidwenso ndi mafano owopsa mpaka kutha kukhala chiopsezo kwa azimayi ndi ana owazungulira. . Chifukwa chake sitiyenera kuyika mitu yathu mumchenga ndikudikirira umboni wowona wasayansi. Tiyenera kuchitapo kanthu tsopano.

Upangiri & Kuzindikira Kuchokera Kubwezeretsa Anyamata

Amamusi amuthandiza munthu uyu:

Ndinapeza nofap inathandiza OCD wanga kwambiri monga momwe amachitira zinthu zatsopano monga kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi tsiku ndi tsiku. Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe sindimamva zikukambidwa pamisonkhano ndi mankhwala kapena chithandizo. Kwa ine, kuchuluka kwa inositol chowonjezera komwe kumayambitsanso ma dopamine receptors kuphatikiza ndi valerian ndi NAC kwandichepetsa. Koma zimanditengera kuyesetsa kwanga kuti ndisapereke mayeso okakamiza [zolaula] komanso zolaula.

ZOYENERA: Ma ARV amathandiza odwala ena OCD, koma osati ena molingana ndi Dr. Gottman:

Mnyamata wina anali kumva filosofi pamene iye anayika zidutswazo pamodzi:

(Tsiku 13) Ndine wosasunthika - kotero palibe kuuma, ndipo sindifuna akazi. Nthawi ina ndinkasala ndili ku koleji. Zinatha masabata atatu. Koma ndinabwereranso chifukwa ndimaganiza kuti ndikusandulika amuna okhaokha - popeza sindinkagonana ndi atsikana omwe amadutsa. Ndinaganiza, "bwanji sindikufuna kuwamenya?" Ndinayamba kuda nkhawa. Ndinazindikiranso kuti ndinalibe libido. Ndipo ndidakhala ndi vuto lalitali ndi HOCD, lomwe tsopano likuzimiririka momwe sindikuganizira. Ndizosangalatsa momwe malingaliro athu amagwirira ntchito, zabwino ndi zoyipa.

Posakhalitsa zimaonekeratu kuti HOCD si kukana :

Kumbukirani chinthu chimodzi, sikungakane! ICHI chinali chinthu chovuta kwambiri kuti ndimvetse. Ngati mumakonda atsikana, mwakhala ndi atsikana, ndipo mumangoganiza za atsikana. Zikhala choncho nthawi zonse. Tsopano ndichifukwa chake OCD ALI WOCHITA. Ndinu ubongo uli pamalo odabwitsa ndipo zizindikilo zanu sizikuwombera moyenera. Muyenera kuvomereza kuti mutha kukhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Izi zikumveka ngati zamisala, ndikudziwa, koma ayi. Mukadikirira kuti muchitepo kanthu kena za izo zimafika poipa kwambiri. Ndikhulupirireni. Nyamula bukulo ndikufotokozera wodwalayo zomwe zikuchitika.

Akakuwuzani kuti mwina ndinu gay, dzifunseni ngati ndizo zomwe mukufuna. Ngati sichoncho, pezani wothandizira yemwe amadziwa za OCD. Komanso musapeze wothandizira yemwe amakulimbikitsani nthawi zonse. Izi sizothandizanso. Komwe ndili pano, sikunapite 100% koma ndiyabwino kwambiri. Ndikhoza kuganizira kwambiri za moyo.

Fotokozerani wamankhwala wanu zomwe zikuchitika. Akakuwuzani kuti mwina ndinu gay, dzifunseni ngati ndizo zomwe mukufuna. Ngati sichoncho, pezani wothandizira yemwe amadziwa za OCD. Komanso musapeze wothandizira yemwe amakulimbikitsani nthawi zonse. Izi sizothandizanso. Komwe ndili pano, sikunapite 100% koma ndiyabwino kwambiri. Ndikhoza kuganizira kwambiri za moyo.

HOCD sikunayankhidwe kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha:

Kwakhala kanthawi kuchokera pamene ndinapanga ndondomeko yanga yomaliza. Mkhalidwe ukutsatira:

HOCD yapita kwanthawi yayitali tsopano, zikuwonekeratu kuti sichinali gawo la "kutuluka", inali chabe matenda amisala omwe amayamba chifukwa chosiya zolaula. Sindikulemba china chilichonse chokhudza izi, chifukwa moona mtima sindifuna ngakhale kuganiza za gawo la moyo wanga lomwe nditha kulifotokoza ngati gehena, ndipo sindingakhale ndikukokomeza.

Zosintha zabwerera ku 100% (kupatula masiku angapo nditaonera zolaula) ... Ndikukumbukira nthawi zomwe ndimagunda zolaula, panalibe chilichonse padziko lapansi chomwe chingandilimbikitse.

Nayi zokambirana pakati pa anyamata ena:

" Ine ndi mnzanga tinali kukambirana za kusokonezeka kwa chilakolako chogonana. Iye anati, 'Ndakhala ndikuvutika kupeza yankho. Ndikapita pa intaneti ndimaona chinthu chomwe chimandipangitsa kuganiza kuti ndine mwamuna kapena mkazi; kenako ndimaona chinthu chomwe chimandipangitsa kuganiza kuti ndine mwamuna kapena mkazi; koma kenako ndimaona china chomwe chimandipangitsa kuganiza kuti ndine mwamuna kapena mkazi. Ndafika poganiza kuti ndine mwamuna kapena mkazi wogonana!'"

[Munthu wina] Kenako ndinayamba kuganiza kuti sizokhudza kulunjika koma magwiridwe antchito. Pomaliza, ndinayamba kufufuza zinthu, kenako mwamwayi ndinafika pano.

[Mnyamata wina] Zili ngati opanga akudziwa zomwe akuchita pofuna kukopa anyamata kuti azionera zolaula zogonana ndi anthu ogonana okhaokha. Ndinawerenga kwinakwake kuti munthu amene ali ndi vuto la PMO amangoyamba kuonera zolaula za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Tsopano sindinafike pa siteji imeneyo, koma nditapita kutchuthi ndinayesa imodzi mwa malo ochitira nthabwala amenewo. Chithunzi chogonana ndi anthu ogonana okhaokha chinawonekera (chinsalucho chinkayang'ana njira zosasinthika mphindi/masekondi angapo) ndipo ngakhale kuti sindinamvepo kuti "Ndikufuna kukhala kumeneko", chinayamba kudzutsa chidwi ... mwanjira yachilendo komanso yodabwitsa.

Panali kukwiya, kukwiya, nkhope ya mkazi, kupsompsonana, kukwinya, ntchito zopusa. Zinali ngati chithunzi chachilendo cha zizindikiro zodziyimira pawokha zomwe sizinkamveka bwino kwa ine chifukwa sindimakonda zimenezo. Koma panali mgwirizano wofooka pakati pa zizindikiro zonse zofunika zomwe zinkandipangitsa kukhala ndi chilakolako. Ndikuganiza kuti kugwirizana kumeneku kunali kundipangitsa kuganizira kwambiri (za kugonana) kuti ndiyesere kuzithetsa mosazindikira, kotero maganizo anga anali kuyamba kusangalala kwambiri popanda ine kuzindikira. Sindinawonenso zinthuzi, koma n'zodabwitsa momwe zinthuzi zingakukhudzireni. Tsopano ndikudziwa anthu ena, mwachitsanzo, amafika pochita zachiwerewere ndi nyama, koma ndithudi sayenda akuganiza kuti "Wow onani mabere a ng'ombe imeneyo! "..eti?" Mwachidule, PMO wopitirira muyeso ndi vuto lenileni.

Zithunzi zolaula zambiri ndizongopeka zomwe "zimapanga" zokonda, osati zokopa zazomwe zilipo kale zogonana. Mnyamata wina anati:

Ndakhala ndikulimbana ndi HOCD kuyambira ndili ndi zaka 15. Izi zidachitika nditangoyang'ana pee / kutambasula zolaula kenako ndikuwerenga nkhani yonena kuti mwana uyu anali wotchuka pagulu lachiwerewere. Zinakhala zovuta kuyambira pamenepo kupita patsogolo ... makamaka nditayamba kuwona zolaula. Ndine wotsimikiza kuti sindikanapanga HOCD ngati sikunali zolaula pa intaneti. Ndikuganiza kuti ziwirizi ndizogwirizana.

Nayi malangizo ochokera kwa amene akulimbana ndi nkhawa iyi:

HOCD yanga yakhala ikuyendetsa ntchito zokhudzana ndi zolaula. Ankawatsatira chitsanzo chophweka:

1. Onani zithunzi zolaula / chinachake chokweza

2. HOCD ikuyamba, imandipangitsa kuyamba kuyamba kudandaula

3. HOCD imakula kwambiri, imayamba kundipangitsa ine kukayikira kugonana kwanga

4. HOCD imanditsimikizira kuti nditsimikizire ndekha kuti sindine gay mwa kuwona zolaula

5. Ndikumaliza ku zolaula, HOCD imatha ndipo imamva ngati chithunzithunzi chogwera.

Ndinatsatira izi:

– Kusadziwa: Musafufuze chilichonse pa HOCD. Musaphunzire za izi. Musaphunzire milandu ina. SIYANI. Ndikudziwa kuti akatswiri ena amalimbikitsa kutsutsa HOCD. Mwina ndi chinthu chabwino kuchita, koma mukakhala ndi chilakolako cha zolaula chomwe chili ndi HOCD, kodi tinganene kuti ndi chizindikiro china, kapena gawo lofunika la chizolowezicho, simungatsutse malingalirowo chifukwa amawaipitsa, ndipo pamapeto pake mumabwereranso ku zolaula. Kunena zoona, simudzakhala ndi mwayi wopambana izi mukakhala okonda zolaula. Kwa inu, chifukwa mudayamba kuchita zolaula za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha [kapena zilizonse], "ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" amalumikizidwa ndi kugwiritsa ntchito kwanu zolaula, kotero "kuvomereza" kukwera kwa kuchuluka kwa zolaula monga momwe akatswiri ambiri amanenera mwina si lingaliro labwino! Osachepera mpaka mutayamba kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, ndipo panthawiyo HOCD idzakhala itazimiririka kwambiri.

- Kugawa nthawi: Phunzirani nthawi yomwe mungakhale ndi nkhawa kwambiri ndi HOCD, kwa ine inali nthawi yamadzulo (chifukwa nthawi imeneyo ndinkachita zolaula kwa maola 5, mwangozi? Ndikukayikira.). Panthawi imeneyo, onetsetsani kuti mwakonzekera zinazake. Khalani pansi mukulankhula ndi wachibale wanu kutali ndi kompyuta, kapena kuyimbira foni mnzanu kapena wachibale, pitani kokayenda/kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kwa nthawi yayitali, ndi zina zotero.

– Kukwera ndi kukwera: Ngati mukuyamba kukwera ndi kukwera, muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito njira zina zodzitetezera nthawi yomweyo. “OCCUPY MODE” ndiye njira yanga yayikulu yodzitetezera. Ndimalemba m'malembo akuluakulu chifukwa ndikakwera ndi kukwera, ndimanena kuti “OCCUPY MODE” m'mutu mwanga ndipo ndimaganiza za chikwangwani chachikulu cha neon cholembedwa. Kenako ndimachita china chake - CHILICHONSE - chomwe chimafuna mphamvu zakuthupi ndi zamaganizo. Monga kuchita ma sit-up pamene mukuthetsa mavuto a masamu, ngakhale kuwerengera pamene mukunyamula zolemera kungagwire ntchito. Lowani mu OCCUPY MODE kwa mphindi pafupifupi khumi ndi zisanu. Kumbuyo kwa mutu wanu, ganizirani chikwangwani cha “OCCUPY MODE” ndikuchita chilichonse chomwe muyenera kuchita. Patapita kanthawi, kukwera ndi kukwera kudzatha.

Kupewa zolaula zogonana zathetsa chikoka changa. Monga zenizeni, sindimamvanso kalikonse. Ndimakumbukira "momwe ndimamverera" momwe ndimamvera, koma kulibenso. Ziri zovuta kukhulupirira kuti zaka ziwiri zapitazo, ndinafikira pomwe chinthu chachikulu chomwe chidandichititsa kuti ndikhale ndi zolaula, koma tsopano ndizovuta kufotokoza momwe kusinthaku kwachitikira. Kudzutsa akazi enieni kwakula kufika pamlingo womwe ndayiwala chifukwa cha zaka zolaula.

Ndapeza zotchinga za HOCD pafupifupi masabata a 4 kwa ine. Kutha kwa sabata 2 / kuyamba kwa sabata 3 kumakhala kovuta kwambiri nthawi zonse. Ndine 110% wotsimikiza kuti HOCD + Zolaula ndizofanana. Mukamayang'ana zolaula, HOCD siyolimba chifukwa kukopa zolaula sikulimba, ndipo pakapita nthawi kumatha konse.

Mwa njira, iyi si njira imodzi yokhayo. Si zachilendo kuti amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha azichita zolaula molunjika kapena ngakhale amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Ndawawonapo pa intaneti yonse pamawebusayiti osiyanasiyana okhudzana ndi zolaula. Ndikuganiza kuti mwina ndizoyipa kwambiri kuposa momwe timakhalira. Kwa ife ndi nkhawa yaying'ono, yotikwiyitsa yomwe imatipangitsa kukayikira zomwe timagonana. Kwa mwamuna wamasiye, yemwe sanakondepo akazi, yemwe wabisa malingaliro ake enieni pagulu, kenako adalimba mtima kuti apeze kuti atha kukopeka ndi akazi pambuyo pake (!!!). Izi ziyenera kukhala zoyipa kwambiri.

Koma chowonadi ndichakuti, anyamata omwe akufunsidwawo sakuwongoka. Samakopeka ndi akazi. Iwo ali mu bwato lomwelo monga ife, koma motsutsana.

Pang'onopang'ono machiritso

Ndinayenera kuthana ndi HOCD ndipo ndikuchitabe nawo pang'ono. Ndi chinthu chomwe mumadziwa sichiri chenicheni koma cholimbikitsa kuchokera muubongo wanu chifukwa chazinthu zina. Momwe ndaphunzirira kuthana nawo mwina ndikunyalanyaza malingaliro, osawakumbukira kapena kuyesa kupenda ndikudzipangira ndikudziuza nokha kuti ndinu owongoka, ingowalolani abwere azipita. Zili ngati mutakhala ndi malingaliro oti mumangobaya wina kumaso, simukanachita izi mongololeza malingaliro kuti adutse.

Njira ina ndikungoseka. Nenani kuti muli ndi bwenzi lanu ndipo mwachisawawa mumaganizira zompsompsona kapena china chake, ingonena mumtima mwanu, "O amuna ndine wokonda amuna okhaokha ndikufuna kupsompsona mnzanga". Moona mtima, HOCD ndichinthu chovuta chomwe ndidakumana nacho ndikupangitsa kuti ndiyang'ane mkati kwambiri. Ndikudziwa kuti ndalunjika; Kuyambira pomwe ndidayamba zonse zomwe ndimaganiza za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndikutsimikiza kuti zinali zolaula zomwe zidandigwira. Pambuyo poyambiranso ndikupita HOCD sizimandikhudza konse, ndipo ndikakhala womasuka masiku sindimakumbukira kuti ndili nawo.

Chiyeso:

Ndidamwa kwambiri usiku umodzi ndikukhala ndi lingaliro m'mutu mwanga kuti ndiyenera kuyesa kusinthana kuti ndidziwe zowona zanga zogonana / zokopa. Ndikadali oledzera, ndidayankhula ndi m'modzi pa intaneti ndikukumana. Ndinadzuka pang'ono ndikaganiza zolaula, koma zomwe sizinachitike sizinamveke bwino ndipo ndinakhumudwa. Sindingathe kuchita chilichonse ndipo ndimayenera kusiya.

Izi zitachitika, ndinali pafupi ndi atsikana angapo omwe anali mwa ine. Ndidadzuka ndipo ndidakondwera ndikumangocheza / kucheza nawo. Zinamveka bwino. Chifukwa chake, ngakhale sindinkafunika kulimbikitsidwa, ndikuganiza kuti zikutsimikiziranso kuti kukopeka ndizomwe zimachokera ku zolaula ndipo sikumachita bwino kwenikweni pamoyo. Ndikanadziwa izi kuyambira nthawi yomaliza yomwe ndinasiya zolaula ndikusiya kukopeka ndi chilichonse chokhudzana ndi zolaula.

Mwamuna wina anafotokoza njira yake:

Pamene mukupenga ndi malingaliro ovuta, pezani chinachake choti muchite chomwe chidzatsogolera maganizo abwino. Kuyenda mu chilengedwe, kapena chithunzi, kapena chinachake, mwinamwake. Poyamba zimamveka ngati sizikugwira ntchito kapena zimangokulepheretsani kuganiza, koma zikugwira ntchito. Mudzawona patapita nthawi, mukuuza ubongo wanu kulingalira kapena kuchita chinthu china pamene maganizowa akuwuka ndipo ADZAKUMWA posachedwa.

Ganizirani izi motere. Malingaliro ndi mtundu wa mphamvu ya astral / etheric. Chifukwa amapangidwa ndi mphamvu chilichonse chomwe mungachite poyesera kulimbana nawo kapena kuwasintha amangolumikizana nawo mwamphamvu ndikuwapangitsa kukhala olimba. Ngakhale kudana kwanu ndi iwo kumawalimbikitsa. Osadana ndi zolaula [komanso osayesa], izi zimapangitsa kuti zibwererenso zovuta zomwe mungakhale nazo.

General OCD:

Kuyambira pomwe ndinayamba zolaula, ndakhala ndikuwona kuti ndili ndi zizindikilo zochepa za OCD. Sizinali zovuta, koma ngati zinthu sizinali motsatira dongosolo mchipinda changa, zidandivuta kuti ndizilingalira ntchito yanga. Tsopano, zili ngati asowa kwathunthu. Ndikadali munthu wokhazikika, koma ndizotsika kwambiri pamndandanda wazomwe ndizofunika. Ndidzachotsa zinthu zofunika, ndisanayambe kukonza zoyipa zanga.

Mnyamata wina:

Inde… ngakhale siyinasiye OCD, chizolowezi changa choluma misomali chatha. Ndinkakonda kuwatafuna, ndipo nthawi zonse amangokhala zonyansa kumapeto kwa zala zanga.

Mnyamata wina:

N'chimodzimodzinso ndi mnzanga, ndikakhala kuti sindikuwona zolaula ndipo sindimangobwereka kapena zina zimachoka. Ndikuwona kulumikizana ndi PMOing ndi OCD. Zinachokera ku chizolowezi cha PMO kwa ine.

Malangizo othandiza othandiza:

Ndimaliza izi ndikulemba mndandanda wa njira zothandizira inu omwe akukhudzidwa ndi izi:

  1. Ngati mwayang'ana zolaula za Shemale / zolaula / zolaula zivomerezeni. Izi zikuwoneka ngati zovuta kundidalira, koma mukadzatero, ndizosavuta kuwona ngati mumakondadi kapena ayi. Mwinamwake munali ndi chidwi? Kapena adachitiridwa nkhanza ndi anyamata kapena atsikana, kapena mungokhala ndi malingaliro otseguka ndipo mukufuna kuti mufufuze, koma muyenera kuvomereza zomwe mwachita, ngakhale zitakhala zosemphana ndi inu nokha.
  2. Palibe munthu, osati katswiri wa zamaganizo, osati bwenzi, osati webusaitiyi, angakuuzeni yemwe inu muli. Izi ndi zofunika kuti mumvetse bwino. Ubongo wanu umapangitsa zinthu kuti zikuwopsyezeni, kukuyesani kuti musachite chilichonse m'moyo wanu. Dziwani kuti izi ndizo nkhawa komanso osati zomveka.
  3. MUSAMAMVELE munthu amene akunena kuti muyenera kupita kukayesa zinthu zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Izi zitha kukhala zotsutsana koma sindisamala. Ngati mwakhala mukuwongola moyo wanu wonse, mudzakhala owongoka nthawi zonse. Palibe chifukwa chodutsira vuto lazachidziwikire. Zingokulepheretsani, komanso chimodzimodzi ndi anthu omwe ndi achiwerewere, omwe akufuna kuyesa kuwongoka. Mutha kudana ndi anzanu ndipo si za munthu amene ali wowongoka kapena wogonana.
  4. Lekani kufunafuna mayankho pa intaneti. Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani? Osapita kuma foramu, osayang'ana HOCD, osafunsa aliyense amene amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena wowongoka. Siyani izo zokha. Mumangowonjezera izi mwa kufunafuna mayankho. Khulupirirani ine, ndinkachita mantha kuti ndisintha kwamuyaya. Ndinali wamantha kuti, "OMG IYENDA KUKHALA GAY." Ndiye tsiku lina, ndinasiya kupereka. Ndinasiya kuwerenga, ndinasiya kuganizira za izi ndikuganiza, zokopa zanga kwa akazi zidabweranso kwathunthu ndipo ndidakwanitsa kuzindikira izi. Zomwe zimandibweretsa kumapeto.
  5. Nkhawa ndi nyama. Ikhoza, komabe imawongoleredwa. Zidzakupangitsani kukhulupirira zinthu zomwe sizili zoona, koma muyenera kuzindikira kuti zonsezi zimakhudzidwa ndi inu. Inu ndi amene mumayambitsa. Zochitika zitha kukupangitsani kutuluka kwambiri koma ndiye kuti mukuwongolera. Ndiloleni ndingonena kwa inu monga chonchi: Kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kwatha, kubwerera momwe ndimaganizira. Inde, pali opotoza mgulu lililonse la anthu, sizitanthauza kuti aliyense ndi wopotoza. Ndimakopeka kwambiri ndi akazi ndipo ndakhalapo. Tsopano chatsalira ndi chiyani? Zolaula zanga. Ichi ndiye chinthu chomaliza chatsalira. Malangizo anga kwa aliyense amene akumana ndi izi, siyani zolaula. Zimathandiza. Osakhulupirira zomwe katswiri wina wanena zakugonana, dzikhulupirireni. Izi zikupangitsa olamulira mulimonse zomwe zimachitika NJIRA nthawi zambiri pa reddit. Khalani kutali ndi reddit inunso. Dzipatseni mwayi woganiza ndikuchira. Ndizotheka anyamata. Palibe amene angandiuze kuti ndinali gay pakadali pano chifukwa ndimaseka bulu wanga. Ngati zili choncho, izi zidandipangitsa kukhala wamphamvu kwambiri kuposa kale. Dziwani kuti OCD ndi matenda ena okhudzana ndi nkhawa ndi othandiza kwambiri kuposa china chilichonse.

Zowonjezera zambiri ndi iwo amene (kapena anali) HOCD:

Ichi ndichifukwa chake nkhani ngati izi zimandikhumudwitsa.

Chifukwa chakuti wina, yemwe patapita zaka amamuwona kuti ndi wachiwerewere amayenera kutsimikizira aliyense kuti HOCD kulibe, anthu amayenera kuyambiranso zolaula, omwe ali ndi HOCD.

Osadandaula syndaren, mnzake wa HOCD pano. Ndakhala ndikuvutika ndi OCD kwazaka zambiri, ndipo zawonekera m'njira zambiri komanso kunja kwa mawonekedwe a HOCD. Pafupifupi chaka chapitacho, ndinali wosokonezeka kwambiri ndipo ndinali wamantha komanso wokhumudwa kwambiri chifukwa ndinali wotsimikiza kuti zolaula za gay zimandipangitsa kukhala wogonana. Ndipo tsopano popeza ndayamba ulendo wanga wosiya zolaula, ndasiya kutaya zolaula. Sizindisangalatsanso zogonana ndipo, sindinakhalepo ndi lingaliro loti ndizogonana kuyambira chaka chimenecho. Tsopano ndiuzeni OP, ndimakhala bwanji ngati amuna ogonana amuna okhaokha?

Zomwe ndikukumana nazo, pali kusiyana pakati pa anthu omwe amadziwa kuti ndi achiwerewere chifukwa adziwa kuyambira ali achinyamata, ndipo amabisala kumbuyo kwa HOCD, ndi anthu omwe amadziwa kuti ali owongoka, amasokonezeka ndi kuonera zolaula ndikudandaula usiku ndi usana kuti zenizeni zawo ndi bodza. Zomwe sizowoneka kuti siziri.

Gary Wilson adakupatsani zambiri koma zikuwoneka kuti simukuyankha ku OP. Ndingatenge upangiri wina kwa iye popeza amadziwa zinthu zake, mumangotenga malingaliro osaganizira bwino. Chifukwa choti mwachita zachiwerewere (ndikutsimikiza kuti mwadziwa izi, ngakhale gawo la HOCD), sizitanthauza kuti HOCD kulibe.

Ndakhala mu NIGHTMARE yoyera chifukwa cha HOCD, ndipo ena ambiri akhala. Ndakhala ndikuthandizira izi, ndipo ndine umboni wotsimikizira kuti zilipo, ndikuti ndizotheka kukhala ndi zolaula zosasintha popanda kufanana ndi chifuniro chenicheni ndi chilengedwe kutero pamoyo weniweni. Chonde osandiuza zomwe ndili ndi OP, anthu samachita nazo chidwi.

Adokotala anga amakhulupirira kuti chizolowezi changa chokonda zolaula chinali ndi mphamvu pa kukula kwa OCD.

Chifukwa chake ndakhala ndikulimbana ndi zolaula kuyambira ndili ndi zaka 18. Zidakhala zovuta kwambiri m'miyezi yapitayi ya 18. Ndinayamba kumva zachilendo nditatha kuseweretsa maliseche ndipo ndimakhala ndi chifunga chaubongo kwakanthawi pambuyo pake. Zinandipangitsanso kuseweretsa maliseche pazinthu zomwe zimasemphana ndi chikhalidwe changa (palibe choletsedwa) chomwe ndimatha kudziyimira ndekha ndikumwa.

Komabe, pamapeto pake ndinayamba kuseweretsa maliseche kwa maola 2-3 nthawi imodzi ndipo ngakhale nditasamukira kumalo atsopano ndi chibwenzi changa sindinathe kuthandizira, ndikumuyembekezera kuti apite kuntchito kuti ndikaponyedwe miyala ndikuseweretsa maliseche kwa maola ambiri kumapeto. Pambuyo pake zonse zidafika pachimake pomwe ubongo wanga udasokonekera. Zoyipa zonse zomwe ndinasiya kuseweretsa maliseche zomwe sindinagwirizane nazo zinali kulira m'mutu mwanga ndikufunsa kuti ndalakwa.

Potsiriza ndidapeza chitsimikiziro kuchokera kwa wondithandizira. Sindinakhulupirire kuti ndinali ndi chizolowezi choledzeretsa, koma nditabwerezabwereza kangapo ndikumva kuwawa kwambiri komwe kumapangitsa malingalirowo, komabe ndidabwereranso kuzinthu zomwe ndimakonda, ndidavomereza kuti sanali ine kungokhala mnyamata yemwe ankakonda zolaula ndipo amayenera kuchita zinthu zomwe amakonda pamoyo wake. Pomwe ndidabwereranso komaliza zidanditengera masiku atatu kuti ndiyambe kuwonera zolaula za vanila, kuti ndilowe nawo limodzi mwazinthu zachilendo zosemphana zomwe mumachita maliseche ndi anthu ena, ndipo ndimachita maliseche ndi anthu ena kuti ndiziwonetsa zolaula. Kugonana komwe sindinaganizeko konse ngati gawo lachiwerewere masiku atatu asanachitike.

Zinanditengera kugwa pansi kuti ndizindikire momwe kuledzera kwanga kwandionongera. Ndikulingalira chifukwa chomwe ndikulembera izi ndi za wina aliyense amene akukumana ndi malingaliro ang'onoang'ono ndikudzifunsa ngati ndi chinthu chachikulu kapena ayi. Osapanga kulakwitsa komweko komwe ndidapanga. Vomerezani vutoli mwachangu momwe mungathere.

Mapiko a Porn kwa maola 4-6 masiku angapo apitawo. Kuwonjezera apo, zinaonekeratu kuti zolaula sizigwirizana ndi kugonana kwanga. Atatha maola 30 + m'masiku ochepa a 5 akuwonera zolaula, zolaula zagonana zinayamba kukhala zosautsa! Ndinayamba kufunafuna zinthu zina zonyansa komanso zochititsa mantha.

Ndili ndi HOCD, ngakhale siyotchuka monga momwe idaliri pomwe ndidayamba kuchita zolaula miyezi ingapo yapitayo ndipo sikundipundula kapena kundilamuliranso. Nthawi zina ndimamverera ngati kuti ndimagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kapena mwina nditha kukhala ndi zifukwa zina zolakwika kapena momwe ndimamvera. Ndinkakonda kuonera zolaula, ndipo pomwe sindinawonepo zolaula za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndawonapo zithunzi ndi zithunzi zosafufuza. Komanso, anzanga amalankhula ndikuchita ngati amuna kapena akazi okhaokha nthawi iliyonse yomwe timacheza, ndipo sindimakonda / zimandipangitsa kukhala wosasangalala.

Ndikudziwa kuti ndikukula ndakhala ndikukopeka ndi atsikana. Ndimakonda kukhala pafupi nawo, momwe amamvera, kumangonyamula mtsikana mmanja mwanga. Gahena ndinayamba kuwonera zolaula kuti ndione atsikana ... eya ndikudziwa kuti zomwe ndimamva komanso momwe ndimakondera ndi amuna kapena akazi anzanga sizomwe ndimakonda, zomwe zimandisangalatsa, zomwe ndimakonda tsiku lililonse.

Ndi mantha komanso nkhawa za OCD zomwe zimandipangitsa kukayikira ndekha, mozungulira. Kukhala chomwe sindine. Koma monga ndanenera sindinamvepo kwakanthawi ndipo nkhawa sizimayenderana ndi malingalirowo.

Ndikuganiza kuti zonsezi zikukhudzana ndi njira zomwe ubongo umapangidwira kuyambira zaka zolaula komanso kuzunza. Zaka 9ish zanga. Kuchokera pazomwe ndikumvetsetsa, nthawi iliyonse yomwe ndakhala ndikupita ku MF komwe ubongo wanga wapanga, kenako ndikulimbitsa njirayo, ndikupanga zinthuzo, ngati zokongola, zamaliseche zogonana nthawi yabwino ndipo ubongo wanu ungathe sindinena kusiyana. Mwabwezeretsanso ubongo wanu kukhala chinthu chatsopano. Nthawi zina kumalo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi ndimawona mnyamata wokongola kapena wamisala ndipo zimandipatsa chidwi ndipo ndimakakamizidwa kuti ndiyang'ane. Ndikuganiza kuti tsopano ndikudziwa momwe amayi amamvera akamanena kuti waukitsidwa koma osati m'njira yogonana, ngati ndizomveka.

Zinkadandaula ndikundiwopseza koma pano sindimalola kuti zindivutitse nthawi zambiri.

Zinachitika pamene ndinali kuonera masewera a basketball, ndinaganiza kuti “wosewera uyu ndi munthu wokongola” ndipo mwadzidzidzi maganizo a HOCD anatuluka (Kodi ndine gay, WTF, hell break lose). Sindinathe kuiwala, ndipo usiku umenewo ndinakhala ndi mantha oyamba komanso okhawo m'moyo wanga. Ndinadziyesa ndekha, ndinaonera zolaula za gay koma ndinanyansidwa. Zinanditengera nthawi (miyezi ingapo) kuti ndiphunzire za vutoli komanso momwe ndingaligonjetsere. Ndinavomereza maganizo a gay chifukwa simungasankhe zogonana ndipo ndinasiya kukonda kwambiri.

Posakhalitsa ndinakumana ndikukondana ndi msungwana m'modzi wamkulu, ndinayamba kugonana ndipo pambuyo pake HOCD ndi mbiri yakale kwa ine. Ine sindine wachiwerewere, sindinayambe ndakhalapo, koma palibe cholakwika ndi kukhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, palibe amene amakukakamizani kuti muchite chilichonse, ngati zingakusangalatseni ndiye chitani, ngati sichoncho osaganizira kwambiri! Anthufe timatha kuzindikira kukongola, mosasamala kanthu za mtundu wake.

Ndinkayamba kutembenuka ndi chilichonse chokhalira chachikazi pamene ndinali 13, koma izi zinasintha pamene ndinayang'ana zolaula zambiri. Ndinayamba kudera nkhaŵa zokhudzana ndi kugonana chifukwa ndinadziŵa kuti ndine wolunjika chifukwa cha mbiri yakale, koma panthawi yomweyi sindinathe kuyankha mwakuthupi. Nthawi zina ndikakhala womasuka kapena woledzera, ndimayankha momwe ndinachitira ndili wamng'ono. Zinasokoneza kwambiri chifukwa sindinayambe kugonana kapena kugonana.

Sindikanaganiza kuti izi zimachitika chifukwa cha zolaula/kuchepa kwa dopamine ngati sindinapeze tsamba lino, zikomo kwambiri! [Kuyambiranso kwanga] kwathetsa kukayikira kulikonse chifukwa tsopano chilakolako changa cha kugonana chafika povuta kwambiri. Ngakhale akazi omwe sindimawayang'ana nthawi zambiri, ndikanatha kugonana nawo. Ndimakonda kwambiri akazi, ndipo akazi amayankha zambiri.

Mwamuna wazaka 28.

Masiku 90, masiku 86 palibe orgasm. Zowonongeka kawiri, mwachidule ankawona zolaula kawiri (zosagwirizana ndi kukongoletsa). Kusokonezeka maganizo pakati pa anthu, HOCD, ndi kupanikizika kwambiri. Kudzidalira, mphamvu, maubwenzi olimbitsa, komanso kukondana ndi atsikana. AMA.

Mkazi apa! Cholemba choyamba… Kuyesera kuthana ndi vutoli lisanapwetekenso.

Ndakhala ndikulumikizana chaka chino, zomwe sindingathe kumaliza nawo, koma tsopano ndimawona wina pafupipafupi kwa miyezi ingapo yapitayo. Tinagonana kangapo kasanu ndi kamodzi ndipo sindinakwanitse kukhala pachiwonetsero. Ndi wokongola, wokwanira, wabwino pabedi. Timagwiritsa ntchito lube, ngakhale kugwiritsa ntchito chilimbikitso chowonjezera. I. Ndingathe. Ayi. Malizitsani. Sindinakhalepo pachiwerewere kwazaka zopitilira. Zakhala zomvetsa chisoni. Akachoka panyumba yanga atagonana, ndimayang'ana zolaula kuti ndikwaniritse ndekha. Zimakhala zomvetsa chisoni mukamvetsetsa momveka bwino zonse zitatha.

Zolaula zandipangitsa chidwi m'maganizo mwanga zomwe zandikweza. Osati kuti kugonana ndi cholakwika, koma sindine wachinyamata. Sindikufuna kucheza ndi mtsikana kapena kucheza naye. Sindinayambe ndasandulika ndi mtsikana pamasom'pamaso (kupatula kuwona kukopa, koma osatsegulidwa mwakuthupi). Koma ndimayamba zolaula kuposa chilichonse. Zandibwezeretsanso kwathunthu. Pali akazi ena omwe adakumana ndi izi? Sindinakhalepo ndi chidwi chowonera zolaula za MM kapena MMF, koma posachedwa ndadzipeza ndikutembenuka. Zikungokula pang'ono, kwa ine, osachepera.

Sindinakhale ndikulimbana ndi HOCD kwakanthawi, ndipo ndikumayambiriro kwambiri kuti ndinene kuti "ndachiritsidwa", koma malowa akuwoneka kuti akundithandiza pang'ono:

Ndidasanthula HOCD m'mbuyomu ndikupeza anthu ena atalemba za izi, koma maakaunti awo samawoneka ngati othandiza. Zinali zolimbikitsa kuti sindinali ndekha amene ndimavutika nazo, koma sizinapangitse kuti ziwopsezozo zikhale zochepa.

Pazifukwa zilizonse, masamba awiriwa adandithandizira. Popeza ndidawawerenga, ndinalibe malingaliro a HOCD, ngakhale ndimakhala ndi nkhawa ndikaganiza ndekha "Oo, sindikuganiziranso malingaliro a HOCD." Sekani

Tsamba lachiwiri limalimbikitsa kuti p / m / o azisalanso, chifukwa chake ndikutsimikiza kuti HOCD idzatsirizika kwathunthu. Njira zodziwikiratu komanso kuwonekera bwino ndimomwe amathandizidwira ndimatenda osokoneza bongo. Izi ndizosiyana, Pokhapokha musadziwonetsere zolaula (duh). Ndikuganiza kuti zimafooka mpaka kuzimiririka.

(Chaka chotsatira, kupita kumsonkhano wina) ndinali ndi HOCD yayikulu. Zapita tsopano, komabe. "Amayi ndi achigololo, amuna samveka." Monga wanena, kuti, mzanga, ndiye MFUNDO YOFUNIKA pazonsezi. Amuna sakanakhala omveka ngati munali amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Mukufuna kukumbatirana nawo pa sofa, kusisita matupi awo ndikuyenda nawo mwachikondi, NGATI mukanakhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Kodi mukuganiza kuti anthu omwe amapita kukagona ndi nyama amadandaula kuti mwachikondi amakonda mbuzi? Kodi mukuganiza kuti ali ndi nkhawa kuti tsopano chifukwa chakulira pachimake zonse zomwe angachite ndi deti kapena mbuzi kapena china chake? Zachidziwikire satero, ndipo kuchuluka kwakukwera uku (chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula) sikuli kosiyana.

Kuyambira kuyambira NoFap ndachoka ku bi mpaka pomwe. Porn zimatha kusintha ubongo wanu.

(Pofotokoza za kuchira pa Tsiku 23) Ndinalinso ndi maloto amisala. Zina zolaula. Koma sindimadzutsidwa ndi izi. Kotero tsopano ndi zolaula zomwe sizikutsogoleranso ma hetero anga, ndikuyenera kuzizindikira m'moyo weniweni. Ndine wotsimikiza kuti ndikudziwa chomwe chiri, koma ubongo wanga ukusanja zopanda pake.

Ngati winawake adafunapo golide (tidachita izi pamalo omwe ndimayendera golide pakati pa dzikolo chilimwe chatha), mukudziwa kuti muyenera kuchotsa dothi komanso zopanda pake komanso miyala yabodza kuti mupeze kachidutswa zagolide. Ndi momwe ubongo wanga umamvera pakalipano. Zimasefa kwathunthu izi, ndipo njirayi imatha kukhala yoyipa nthawi zina.

Izi ndi zomwe zidandigwirira ntchito: Ndikulingalira zochitika zina zosatheka (monga kupha amayi anga kapena kuthamangira mumsewu waukulu wamagalimoto ambiri) ndikuzindikira kuti * iwo * alibe kuthekera kodzetsa nkhawa. Mwanjira imeneyi, ndinadziwonetsa ndekha kuti malingaliro okhudza HOCD analibenso. Yesani. Ganizirani zodzipha ndikuthawa pakati pamsewu. Tengani miniti ndikulingalira mwatsatanetsatane. Inu basi munali nalo lingaliro limenelo. (Monga momwe mumaganizira za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.) Mukuyenda mozungulira ngati mantha kuti mudzipha nokha kuyambira pano? Ayi. Simungatero. Simungaganizirenso zochitikazo. Ngakhale mutatero, mumaseka. Lingaliro lomweli apa.

Zoonadi, kuthetsa HOCD ndi kuphunzira kusasamala. Nthawi iliyonse ikayamba kukwiya, ndimaganiza kuti ndi galu wamng'ono wokhumudwitsa. Mwina ngati shih tzu, akuisiya. Mukaipatsa chisamaliro chochulukirapo, imayamwa kwambiri. Pang'onopang'ono, imachepa mpaka kukhala kosavuta kuinyalanyaza kwathunthu. Yanga nthawi zambiri imakhala pansi pa ulamuliro tsopano, koma libido flatline ingandisokoneze kwambiri. Ndi combination yomaliza. Ndikuganiza kuti ndikangobwezeretsa libido yanga ndikupanga ubale wabwino wogonana ndi akazi, ndiye kuti idzachotsedwadi.

[Age 22] Ndikungofuna kunena momwe zosangalatsa zanga zolaula zasinthira zaka zingapo zapitazi. Choyamba chinali chofewa kwambiri. Kenaka zithunzi zolaula zinkandichitira ine, ndipo zaka zingapo zapitazo ndinayamba kugonana ndi zithunzi zolaula, ndipo patapita nthawi ndinazindikila kuti ndinatembenuzidwa ndi izi. Kenaka zinaipiraipira, nthawi zina ndimakonda kuseweretsa maliseche pa zolaula. Zinandithandizira koma zitatha kumva zolakwika.

Ndikudziwa kuti sindili wolunjika, ndikamacheza, amuna ndiye chinthu chomaliza m'maganizo mwanga. Ndimakopeka kwambiri ndi atsikana okongola, ndimawawona kuchokera mtunda wamakilomita kutali, chifukwa zolaula izi zasokoneza zokonda zanga kwambiri. Ndipo ndinali wosokonezeka ngati ndinali ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma tsopano ndikuyang'ana mmbuyo ndikuzindikira kuti sindine amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndikuti ubongo wanga udakumananso ndi zolaula. Kenaka koyambirira kwa chaka chino ndinali ndi vuto la erectile. Mtsikanayo anali wokongola modabwitsa ndipo anali wokhutira nazo. Komabe sizinagwire ntchito! Ndipo miyezi ingapo yapitayo zidachitikanso, kupatula kuti mtsikanayo anali wokongola kwambiri.

Kotero ndinazindikira kuti chinachake chiyenera kukhala cholakwika kwambiri.

[Mwezi umodzi kuti ndiyambirenso] Ndinakumana ndi zozizwitsa usiku watha, ndinali pa phwando ndipo ndinapanga ndi mtsikana kumapeto (sanali wokongola kwambiri) ndipo ndinali ndi erection yayikulu nthawi yomweyo. Ndipo ndimakhala ngati, "Oo mulungu wanga," ndipo zidamveka bwino.

Ndimagwira ntchito yokonza mapulogalamu, kuthera maola ambiri pamaso pa kompyuta yanga. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kuli kosavuta kuti ndizichita maliseche zolaula ... koma tsopano ndakhala ndikuchita izi ndikuyesedwa kuti ndisiye makompyuta onse pamodzi. Facebook, BBC News, maimelo ndi zinthu zonse zomwe zimawononga nthawi yanga. Ndikungofuna ndikumane ndi atsikana!

Chifukwa chiyani ndakhala zaka 4 zomaliza zamoyo wanga kuseweretsa maliseche ndikuwononga nthawi yanga pakompyuta? Tsopano ndikuyang'ana kukumana ndi atsikana okongola, kusewera masewera omwe ndimawakonda ndikukhala athanzi.

HOCD ndi BITCH. Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti zomwe mukumva zikukhudzana ndi nkhawa osati malingaliro azakugonana. Ndakhala ndikukumana ndi vutoli panthawi yapansi ndipo ndikudziwa kuti sindine gay. Chofunika ndichakuti, ngati malingaliro a HOCD anyansa kwa inu ndipo amakupangitsani kuti mukhale ndi nkhawa… ndiabodza ndipo mukuwongoka.

Chodetsa nkhaŵa ndi nkhawa zingayambitse malingaliro anu. Zinanditengera nthawi kuti ndizindikire kuti pamene ndinakumana ndi HOCD, zowawa zinapangidwa ndi mantha, osati kukhalapo kwa wina.

Mukuyenera kungozisiya. Ndizokhudzana ndi nkhawa.

Mukamakhala bwino mukamanyalanyaza ndikuchita bizinesi yanu, mupeza kuti Mudzaiwala za izo. Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti ndi OCD - monga momwe mukuyimira m'mphepete mwa thanthwe ndipo malingaliro anu akuti lumpha.

Mukudziwa kuti simukufuna koma simutha kuganiza za izi. Dzidalireni nokha ndikupirira. Ine ndi inu tonse tikudziwa kuti simukufuna kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzanu monganso momwe mungafune kudumpha kuphompho!

Mwamwayi sindinatengereko zolaula zolaula kapena sindikudziwa komwe ndikadakhala pano. Zinali ngati OCD pomwe ena amapita pa TV, ndipo ubongo wanga umakhala ngati, "Popeza simungathe kuzipeza kwa atsikana, onetsetsani." Zachidziwikire kuti sindinadzutsidwe ndi thupi lamwamuna koma nkhawa yomwe idapangitsa kuti ndikhale ndi malingaliro osokoneza bongo m'mutu mwanga motero zidandipangitsa kuti ndikhale ndi vuto lalikulu la HOCD, lomwe zolaula zanga-zidapangitsa kuti ndisakwanitse kuchita bwino kwambiri. Inali nthawi yoyipa kwa ine, koma ndidapeza tsamba ili, ndinasiya kuvomereza malingalirowo, ndinasiya kuonera zolaula, ndipo zidazi zidasowa.

Ndinkadziona ngati ndine mwamuna kapena mkazi, koma pamene ndinkaonera kwambiri ndinayamba kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zamitundu yonse, kuphatikizapo zolaula za akazi kapena amuna. Choncho muyenera kukhala oyera kwa kanthawi kuti mumvetse bwino "zomwe muli". Permalink

Osadyetsa OCD yanu. Ngati mukuyesera kudzitsimikizira nokha chowonadi pofufuza kapena malingaliro a anthu ena, mukusewera masewera a OCD. Ndiomwe mumati ndinu, nthawi. Ngati china chake chimakunyansani, zilibe kanthu kuti chimadzutsa kapena ayi, sichomwe mukukhulupirira. Ndikunena kuti muiwale za kufunsa ndikuchotsani malingaliro anu kwathunthu.

Ngati mukukhala ndi malingaliro osangalatsa ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndipo HOCD ikukumana ndi mutu wake woyipa, ndikunena kuti panthawiyi siyani kulingalira zonse pamodzi ndikuziyika mpaka malingaliro abwinobwino abwere. Simuyenera kuchita kumenyana ndi OCD kuti mupambane, zonse zomwe muyenera kuchita ndikudziwa kuti ndi wabodza.

Pamene ndinayamba kudandaula za HOCD, zinkawoneka ngati nkhawa yaikulu inkawoneka ngati ndinayambanso kugonana, pamene sindinadzutse mthupi, makamaka mosiyana. Ndakhala ndikunyalanyaza mfundo zanga kuti ndiwone ndikuyang'ana kawiri, zomwe poyamba zinayambitsa nkhawa, koma tsopano ndikuyamba kudandaula pang'ono patsiku.

Kwa zaka zopitilira 6 ndidayenda mosiyanasiyana ndikuwona zolaula zosiyanasiyana, ndidayamba kukhala ngati wopenga ndikuchita zachiwerewere… Mpaka pomwe ndidayamba kuwakonda (makamaka ma shemales aku Asia) ndipo ndidaganiziranso zopita ku Thailand kapena Japan kukumana ndi lol. Sindinayambe ndakhalapo ndi chiyanjano ndi shemales ngakhale… Koma chikhumbo changa kwa iwo chinawonjezeka mofulumira… Ndipo ndimamva kuti ndimagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Lang'anani… Pambuyo pa miyezi itatu kapena inayi ya nofap sindimatha kuiwala za shemales ndi machitidwe ena aliwonse ogonana. Ndipo tsopano ... Pambuyo pa miyezi isanu ndi itatu zolaula .. Sindikuganiza za ma shemales .. Heck Ndikuganiza kuti ubongo wanga udadziyambiranso mpaka kukonda atsikana azaka zanga (3 mpaka 4).

Malangizo anga kwa anthu ena kunjaku: Ngakhale zinthu zikayamba kusokonekera ndipo malingaliro anu akukutsimikizirani kuti mukukhala amuna kapena akazi anzanu, ndizolakwika. Ndinali ndi nthawi zomwe sindinakhulupirire njira iyi yoyambiranso ndipo ndinali ndikulakalaka kudzipha, koma zimagwira ntchito moona mtima. Mukapereka nthawi, osati maola kapena masiku angapo, pakapita nthawi yayitali mudzakhala bwino, mukamapita nthawi yayitali mumadziona kuti mukubwerera ku umunthu wanu wakale. Mupeza bwino, ndi nthawi chabe. Ngakhale mutayambiranso ndipo mumayamba kukhumudwa, muyenera kupeza mphamvu yakulowetsayo kuti ikudutseni mumdima ndikukukumbutsani kuti zonse ndi nkhani yobwereranso.

Ndimalimbikitsa kwambiri kusinkhasinkha kuti anthu abwezeretsedwe ndi HOCD. Pitani ku malo osinkhasinkha akuderako ndipo muzichita madzulo kapena kubwerera. Ndibwino kuti muwone maganizo anu popanda kuwayankha.

Ndinali ndi kachilombo ka HIV pamene ndimayang'ana zolaula, ndimayang'anitsitsa zolaula komanso zachiwerewere komanso zolaula. Koma tsopano ndilibe mavuto ndi ED ndipo ndili ndi ubale wabwino ndi chibwenzi changa. http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=5914.msg91811#msg91811

Kuonera zolaula nthawi zonse sikunachitenso. Ndinayang'ana akazi osiyanasiyana, malo osiyanasiyana, mabowo osiyanasiyana, sizinali zokwanira. Winawake anandinyoza potumiza kanema wa zolaula za amuna, ndipo zimenezo zinatheka. Mkazi amene sanali mkazi weniweni, lingalirolo linandipangitsa kuganiza. Chizolowezichi chinandigwira kwa zaka zambiri (mwina zisanu kapena zisanu ndi chimodzi). Sichinathe chifukwa ndinkasangalala kusaka akazi omwe amawoneka ngati atsikana, kaya ndi amuna kapena ayi. Ndinkadziwa kuti zinkandipweteka kugonana, koma ndinapitiriza. Ndinaganiza ngati ndine mwamuna kapena mkazi, koma sindinakopeke ndi amuna monga momwe ndimakondera akazi. Akazi ndi okongola kwambiri padziko lapansi ndipo ndinkawasowa.

Pambuyo pa miyezi itatu ya nofap, ngati mtsikana angayang'ane kumene ndikuwonekera nthawi zonse. Osati zokhazo, amamva ngati maginito kwa ine. Ndimakopeka kwambiri ndi akazi ndipo ndikufuna kuyanjana nawo ndikuwakhudza. Ndikawona akazi pamaso pa nofap, ndimayenda ndikuganiza, "Sindikusamala za inu, tsalani". Lero ndilosiyana kotheratu, ndimakopeka ndi azimayi ambiri m'njira yachikale. Ndimakonda kwambiri. Zilibe zolaula kwa ine.

hocd: wakupha kwambiri wa libido.

Ndazindikira chifukwa chomwe ndikusowa libido. Zomwe zimakhudza kwambiri zolaula ndi imfa ya chilakolako chogonana. Chodabwitsa ndichakuti ndakhala ndikusowa libido yanga pazaka khumi zapitazi, kuyambira zaka 13. Ndidakonda zolaula kwa miyezi 3 yokha, mpaka nditasiya kuzizira. Chifukwa chiyani, ndiye kuti libido yanga yakhalapo kwa zaka khumi nditasiya zolaula? Lingaliro langa linali maliseche chabe. Ndimaganiza kuti chizolowezi chodziseweretsa maliseche chalepheretsa malingaliro anga kupeza zina zonse zomwe amafunikira, potero ndimagwiritsa ntchito ubongo wanga mopitilira muyeso. Koma posachedwa ndazindikira kuti kusowa kwanga chilakolako chogonana kumachokera ku vuto lalikulu kwambiri.

Wowona, wakupha mwakachetechete wa libido yanga ndi nkhawa yomwe idachokera ku hocd. Kulakalaka kugonana komwe kumachokera ku hocd kumabweretsa nkhawa, ndipo ndikumva nkhawa kumeneku komwe kumatsitsa libido. Chifukwa cha izi ndi chosavuta. Chikhumbo chakugonana ndikudzuka kumalumikizidwa ndi kupumula. Kuda nkhawa kumatsutsana kotheratu ndi chilakolako chogonana. Libido imakhudzidwa ndi dongosolo lamanjenje lomvera. Mukakhala ndi nkhawa m'maganizo ndi m'thupi lanu, imayambitsa matenda amanjenje, motero imasokoneza libido.

Nditangowerenga izi koyamba masiku angapo apitawo, zinali ngati mababu akuwala m'mutu mwanga. Inali mphindi yabwino kwambiri ya "AHA". Zaka zambiri zakulakalaka zogonana zomwe sizinasonyeze malingaliro anga enieni ogonana zidabweretsa lingaliro labodza lodzuka. Kudzutsa kwabodza kudalidi "kudodometsa" komwe kumachitika chifukwa chakugwiritsa ntchito kwathu kukukwera kukhala mitundu yatsopano yomwe siyimasokoneza komwe tikukhala. Koma "kudabwitsika" uku kudabweretsa nkhawa, zambiri zomwe sindinazizindikire zachikumbumtima. Ngakhale sindinadziwe panthawiyo, ichi ndiye chomwe chimandipangitsa kuti ndisakhale ndi libido.

Kuyambira pomwe ndidapeza izi, zasintha kwambiri kwa ine. Kusadziwa zenizeni zomwe zandichitikira kwakhala gwero lalikulu lazokhumudwitsa komanso nkhawa. Koma tsopano ndazindikira chifukwa chake ndakhudzidwa momwe ndakhalira. Ndipo tsopano popeza ndapeza chidutswa chosowacho, ndimamva kukhala wamtendere kwambiri ndikudzidalira. Kupsinjika kwanga kwatha, ndine wokondwa, womasuka, komanso wodekha tsopano kuposa kale.

Ngakhale zidapanga kusiyana pathupi langa. Ndili ndi nkhawa mumkhosi mwanga / kumtunda kwakumbuyo. Ndikulingalira kuti ndi msana wanga wapamwamba. Dera ili limamverera ngati katundu wachotsedwa, ndipo limakhala lolimbikitsa… ngati momwe mumamvera mukangotuluka kumene kusamba kotentha. Sindikudziwa ngati awa ndi malingaliro anga chabe, koma ndikumvadi kusiyana.

Ndiyenera kusamala kuti ndisasokoneze izi ndikumangokhalira kukhumudwa zomwe zimachitika atapanga zisankho zosintha moyo wawo. Koma patha masiku angapo tsopano, ndipo ndikusangalalabe ndi bata lamkati lomwe sindinakhale nalo kuyambira ndili mwana. Izi zonse zimangokhala chifukwa chodziwa zomwe zinali zovuta kwa ine. Ndachotsa mistique komanso osadziwika za matenda anga. Chifukwa chake zandipatsa chiyembekezo. Zomwe zidandipangitsanso kuti ndizindikire momwe ndakhala ndikumva chisoni kwambiri ndakhala moyo kwazaka zambiri tsopano.

Ngati muli ndi hocd, kapena mtundu wina uliwonse wokonda zachiwerewere kapena nkhawa, izi zikuyenera kukhala cholinga chanu chachikulu. Ngati mungapeze njira yothanirana ndi nkhawa yanu, muyenera kutero kuti mupezenso bwino. Kupewa nkhawa ndikofunikira monga kupewa PMO.

Kodi ndine gay .. ?? Zokwanira ndi zokwanira

Lembani kuchokera: wilder pa May 31, 2014, 03: 51: 04 AM

"Mwinanso mumangokhala ndi nkhawa chifukwa inunso, monga ena ambiri, munakulira m'banja momwe kukopeka ndi akazi ndiye njira yokhayo yabwino."

Sindikudziwa ngati ndilo vuto, ngakhale ndikuganiza kuti zingawonjezere nkhawa. Malo omwe ndimakhala komanso makolo anga sanakhalepo ndi vuto lokhala amuna okhaokha, ndipo inenso sindinakhalepo. Nthawi zonse ndimangodziwa kuti sindine.

Mpaka nthawi zonse PMO'ing adadza kwa ine ndipo ndinayamba kukayikira: HOCD. Ngakhale osawopa kuti malo anu akukutsutsani .. ndizowopsa kumva ngati ena omwe simunawakayikirepo m'moyo wanu angotembenuka.

OCD yomwe imayambitsa PMO yanga siimakhudzanso kugonana kwanga kokha. Lingaliro langa ndilakuti nkhawa imeneyi yomwe imabwera chifukwa cha OCD* imakhazikika pa chilichonse chomwe mumachidziwa nacho . Mwachitsanzo, ndili ndi chizindikiritso champhamvu pantchito yanga. Ndimadziona ngati munthu wolimbikira ntchito. OCD inandipangitsa kukayikira ngati ndimakondanso ntchito yanga, monga momwe inandipangitsa kukayikira ngati ndimakonda akazi. Ndimadziona ngati munthu wokhulupirika ndipo amalakalaka ubale wokhazikika. Koma OCD yanga inandipangitsa kukhulupirira kuti sindinkakonda chibwenzi changa panthawiyo.. ngakhale panalibe chifukwa chokhulupirira zimenezo. Tsopano munganene kuti: Mwina mwangotaya chikondi. Ndikudziwa momwe zimamvekera, komabe. Ndipo izi sizinamveke choncho. (Ndingapitirize ndi zizindikiritso zina zingapo zamphamvu zomwe ndili nazo, zomwe OCD anayesa kuchita nazo)

Ndikadakhala kuti ndimaganiza kuti ndine mwamuna kapena mkazi, sindikanakhala ndi vuto kuuza makolo anga ndikuyamwa tambala lonse lapansi. Ndikadakhala kuti ndimaganiza kuti ntchito yanga sinali ntchito yomwe ndimakonda.. Ndikanasiya. Koma ndimadziwa kuti sindimamva choncho. Chinachake chinkafuna kundisokoneza mutu, pomenyana ndi zizindikiritso zomwe ndimaziona kuti ndi zofunika kwambiri. (Tsopano pali china chake choti chinenedwe chokhudza kukhala ndi zizindikiritso zamphamvu za maudindo ndi zinthu zakuthupi, koma zimenezo ndi zokambirana zosiyana kwambiri)

OCD akaonekera nkhope yake yoipa, chomwe chimachita ndi chakuti imakupangitsani kukayikira za zizindikiritso zimenezo kapena zinthu zomwe nthawi zambiri mumaziona ngati zosafunikira (monga kugonana kwanu ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha). Yankho lachibadwa ndi kuyesa izi. Anthu ambiri amachita zimenezo, ndipo inenso ndinatero. Timayamba kuganizira nthawi zonse ngati timasangalala ndi ntchito yathu, kapena timakondadi chibwenzi chathu, kapena tikukopekabe ndi akazi. Tikayamba kuyesa 'kukangana' ndikutsimikizira malingaliro olakwika omwe OCD imatibweretsera: OCD imayamba kukangana.

Nthawi yotsatira mukawona mtsikana, mumakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri kwakuti mwina simungaganize zokopeka. Simumva kalikonse, chifukwa chake mumayambiranso kukayikira .. "O, mnyamatayo, sindinamvepo kuti * zing * nditawona msungwana wokongola uja .. INE ndine mwamuna weniweni?". Mnyamata akangodutsa ndipo ukuganiza kuti ndiwokongola .. nkhawa zako zimayambanso: "Shit, mnyamatayo anali wotentha .. Ndikumva m'thupi langa."

Vuto ndiloti nthawi zonse mumayamba kuyang'ana atsikana kuti akudziwitseni kuti mudakali hetero, ndikuyamba kuyang'ana anyamata kuti mudzitsimikizire kuti simuli achiwerewere. Mkazi aliyense yemwe simumamupeza wokongola amakudetsani nkhawa, ndipo amuna onse omwe mumawona kuti ndi okongola (zomwe sizisonyeza kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha) amakudetsani nkhawa chimodzimodzi. Zoyipa zomwezo: Nthawi iliyonse ukawona mtsikana yemwe amakukopa, m'malo mongoganiza kuti "Hei, mtsikana ameneyu amawoneka bwino". Mukuganiza: "Yesu .. mwina sindine gay!". Nthawi zonse mukawona munthu woyipa mumaganiza kuti "Tsopano sindimakopeka ndi MUNTHU ameneyo! Kodi ndingayamwe bere wake? Ayi, ayi. ”

MUKUFUNA nthawi zonse kuti mutsimikizire kuti simuli achiwerewere komanso amakopeka ndi akazi. Chifukwa chake mwachiwonekere SIMUNGATHE kumasuka ndikungokopeka ndi akazi. Mumakhala ndi malingaliro olakwika. Ikuwonongerani tsiku lanu lonse. Ingoganizirani kuyenda mozungulira ntchito yanu tsiku lonse mukuganiza kuti "Kodi ndikusangalala ndi ntchitoyi? Kodi ntchito imeneyi ndimaikonda? ”. Mwayi wake: simusangalala ndi ntchito yanu.

Izi ndizo malingaliro anga okhudza HOCD ndi PMO okhudzana ndi OCD, ndikuyembekeza kuti amathandiza. Amanditsimikizira ndikakhala ndikukayikakayika ngakhale kuti zikhoza kukhala zovuta kwa ine nthawi zina. (Ndikamangobwereranso, btw.)

OP. Lekani kuyang'ana pa craigslist, lekani kuyang'ana pa OKCupid, muyime kuyang'ana pa malo ochezera, malonda a masewera achiwerewere, malonda a chirichonse. Nthawi zonse mumayesa kuyimitsa kwanu, kuti muwone ngati anyamata ndi abambo angakulimbikitseni. Kodi mukuganiza kuti izi ndi zabwino kuposa kuyang'ana zolaula? Kuwukitsidwa kulipobe. Dopamine akadali pomwepo. Kusangalatsa, chisangalalo .. chiripobe!

Ndikukuwonetsani kuti mulowetse pulogalamu ya ColdTurkey ndikuyika mu craigslist ndi malo aliwonse omwe amakupangitsani kukayikira za kugonana kwanu. ZINTHU ZONSE ZA FUCKING ZIMENE ZAKUTHANDIZANI KUTI MUDZAKHALA WANU NDI WOTSATIRA.
Tsopano. Pitani kokayenda. Yendani, mupeze mpweya wabwino. Kambiranani ndi anyamata. (Osati mwanjira imeneyo.) Pitani mukamwe madzi (pitani mowa mowa, mozama).

Yesani kuona ngati kukhala kutali ndi mawebusaiti onse kumakuthandizani. Kumbukirani: Kuyezetsa ngati mutakopeka ndi amayi poyang'ana pa malonda osokoneza bongo kuli kovuta kwambiri. Perekani maganizo anu osachepera 30 masiku a 60 kuti apumule ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti muwona kusiyana.

Simuli achiwerewere. Simukonda ziweto.

* Ndimagwiritsa ntchito OCD posowa mawu abwinoko pano. Sindikukhulupirira kuti ndili ndi OCD yathunthu. Chokhacho chokhudzana ndi PMO.

Chisokonezo changa cha hocd chatha. Ndinazindikira sabata imodzi nditayamba nofap kuti malingaliro anga a hocd anali kutha. Ichi chinali chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe sindinasiye nofap kuyambira pamenepo. Tsopano ndili ndi masiku 6 kuchokera masiku 90, ndipo sindisiya ngakhale ndikafika pamlingo umenewo. Ndipitiliza. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa kwenikweni zikusintha moyo wanga. Momwe ndimaonera: Tsopano popeza ndili ndi mphamvu zambiri pa kugonana kwanga, ndidzagonjetsa zizolowezi zanga zazing'ono. Pamapeto pake, tonse tikubwerera kunyumba. Zabwino zonse mwamuna ndipo dziwani kuti hocd IDZATHA. Nofap ndi chinthu china. Ndikusintha moyo ndithu. http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2uw8q3/do_you_have_any_questions_…