Ndine wolunjika, koma ndimakopeka ndi transgender kapena zolaula za gay (kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe amakopeka ndi zolaula). Kwagwanji?

HOCD

ZINDIKIRANI: Tsambali lili ndi malipoti ambiri omwe anthu (ena mwa iwo ndi olondola pankhani zandale kuposa ena), omwe adazindikira kuti zolaula zawo zidakhudza zomwe amakonda atasiya zolaula ndikuwona kuti zomwe amakonda sizikubweranso. Malipotiwa amachokera ku malo ochezera zolaula. YBOP imawatchula bwino kwambiri momwe aliri, ndipo malingaliro / kutaya mtima kwa olemba awo sizikuwonetsa zomwe zili patsamba lino. Ngati mukukhutira ndi zokonda zanu zakugonana, kapena mukumva kuti zokonda zanu zakugonana, musapite patali. Tsambali ndi la anthu omwe amakhulupirira kuti kuchuluka kwawo kokhudzana ndi zolaula kumitundu yatsopano kumatha kubisa zomwe amakonda kale kapena zachiwerewere. Imakambirana za HOCD.

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NGATI MUKATI NDI OCD PLEASE DZIWANI:

  • Ngati muli ndi vuto lodziletsa kwambiri (OCD) tikukulimbikitsani kuti mufunsane ndi mlangizi kapena dokotala yemwe ali mwapadera ku OCD. Ena omwe ali ndi HOCD apindula kwambiri ndi mankhwala komanso mankhwala oyenerera.
  • Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lodzimvera chisoni kwambiri kapena OCD amakonda kupeŵa maliseche angadwale kwambiri. Ngakhale zosakhalitsa kupewa kudziletsa sikungakhale kwa inu.
  • YBOP imasonyeza kuti anthu omwe ali ndi OCD amawerengera ma HOCD ma akaunti omwe ali pansipa ndipo atenge kuchokera kwa iwo zomwe zikukuthandizani. Palibe njira imodzi.

MAU OYAMBA

Zambiri mwazimenezi zikuwonekera kwa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto logonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (HOCD). Izi zati, zambiri zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito zingagwiritsidwe ntchito kwa anthu omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zolaula kapena oberekera. Zinthu zofunikira:

Adapereka kuchipatala chathu patatha mwezi umodzi atayambitsidwa ndi aripiprazole [dopamine agonist] mu njira zake zamankhwala zodandaula zakugonana komwe kumapangitsa kuti azigonana kangapo ndi mnzake komanso kuseweretsa maliseche tsiku lomwelo komanso malingaliro atsopano ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso malingaliro ofanana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi. Pankagwiritsidwanso ntchito zolaula pa intaneti. … Wodwalayo adanenetsa ndipo anali wotsimikiza kuti aripiprazole ndiye chifukwa chogonana. Pambuyo masiku anayi kapena asanu ndi limodzi atayimitsa aripiprazole mchitidwe wogonana udayamba kuchepa, kupumula kwathunthu patatha pafupifupi milungu iwiri. Wodwalayo amatsatiridwa pafupipafupi ndipo amakhala bwino popanda zovuta zilizonse zogonana.

[Chokopa amuna achibadwidwe omwe ali ndi mabere ndi mbolo] “amaonedwa kuti ndi njira yachilendo yogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha m'malo moyang'ana anthu.

The nkhani yaikulu imayamba pansipa gulu la maulalo. Gawo loyamba lili ndi nkhani zopambana (zobwezeretsanso maakaunti) za amuna omwe ali ndi HOCD yolaula kapena zolaula. (Gawo lomaliza kwambiri patsamba lino ndi upangiri komanso zidziwitso kuchokera kwa anyamata omwe akubwezeretsa.) Ngati mukufuna kuchepetsa nkhawa zanu ndikukhala ndi chiyembekezo, ndikulangizani kuti muwerenge zolemba zathu zamabulogu zomwe zalembedwa pambuyo pobwezeretsanso maakaunti, pomwe akuyankha mafunso ambiri omwe munthu angakhale nawo . Kapena mwina yambani ndi gawo la akatswiri, monga nkhaniyi - Kodi ndine Gay? Kusokonezeka kwa Chisokonezo Kumakhala ndi Mitundu Yambiri. Izi ndizomwe zimachokera:

Malamulo a HOCD

Moni kumeneko! Dzina langa ndi Mark, ndipo ine ndine mwamuna wamwamuna matenda osokoneza maganizo (OCD). Ndikulemba kuti phindu la anthu ogonana ndi amuna omwe akuyembekeza kugwiritsa ntchito nkhaniyi kumvetsetsa mantha awo pokhala achiwerewere (amadziwikanso kuti Owowona achiwerewere kapena HOCD). Palibe nkhawa, bwenzi langa: Ngati mukuyesera kumvetsetsa nokha kapena munthu wina yemwe ali pafupi ndi inu amene ali ndi HOCD, mukuwerenga nkhani yoyenera.

  • Muzilamulira chimodzi: Ngati mukunena kuti ndinu ogonana, ndiye kuti muli. Nthawi.
  • Lamulo lachiwiri: Palibe malamulo ena.

Zikomo chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito nthawi yowerenga ndi kumvera malamulo. Ndine mphunzitsi m'moyo wanga weniweni, ndipo nthawi zonse ndimalemba malamulowo.

Tsopano kuti tikubwera pa izi kuchokera kumalingaliro ofanana, chonde ndikhale ndi ine pamene ndikuyenda kudutsa mu HOCD.

Ogwiritsa ntchito zithunzi zolaula nthawi zambiri amalongosola kuti akugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zomwe zimakhala ngati nthawi yambiri yoonera kapena kufunafuna zolaula zatsopano. Mitundu yatsopano yomwe imabweretsa mantha, kudabwa, kuphwanya ziyembekezo kapena ngakhale nkhawa zingathe kuonjezera kuukitsa kugonana, ndipo mu ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula omwe akulakwitsa chifukwa cha kugwedezeka, chodabwitsa ichi chikufala kwambiri.Norman Doidge MD analemba za izi mu bukhu Ubongo Womwe Umasintha:

Mliri wamakono wa zolaula umapereka chiwonetsero chazithunzi zakuti zokonda zakugonana zitha kupezeka. Zithunzi zolaula, zomwe zimatulutsidwa ndi intaneti yothamanga kwambiri, zimakwaniritsa chilichonse chofunikira kuti munthu asinthe mitsempha yake…. Ojambula zolaula akadzitama kuti akukankhira envelopu poyambitsa mitu yatsopano, yovuta, zomwe samanena ndikuti ayenera, chifukwa makasitomala awo akupanga kulolerana ndi zomwe zili.

Kugonana kwa munthu ndi "kutha kwambiri" kuposa momwe akatswiri azindikira. A phunziro 2016 anapeza zimenezo theka a ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti adachulukirachulukira kuzinthu zomwe kale adazipeza "zosasangalatsa kapena zonyansa."Zochitika zogonana pa Intaneti: Kufufuza zofufuza za zovuta ndi zosakhala zovuta pogwiritsa ntchito mwachitsanzo mwa amuna). Chidule:

Anthu makumi asanu ndi anayi mphambu asanu ndi anayi aliwonse amatchulidwa nthawi zina pofunafuna kugonana kapena kuchita nawo ma OSA [zolaula] zomwe sizinali zosangalatsa kwa iwo kapena kuti iwo amaona kuti zonyansa.

Kafukufukuyu waku Belgian adapezanso zovuta pakuwona zolaula pa intaneti zomwe zimalumikizidwa ndi kuchepa kwa ntchito ya erectile ndikuchepetsa kukhutira kwakugonana. Komabe ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula anali ndi zilakolako zazikulu (OSA = zogonana pa intaneti, zomwe zinali zolaula kwa maphunziro a 99%). Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, 20.3% ya omwe atenga nawo mbali adati zomwe zimawachititsa kuti azigwiritsa ntchito zolaula "ndikupitiliza kukondana ndi wokondedwa wanga."

Maphunziro angapo, pogwiritsa ntchito njira zosiyanasiyana ndi mayesero awonetsa Escalation (ndi Habituation) mu Porn Users. Mwachitsanzo, phunziroli la 2017 linayesedwa ndipo linayesedwa ndi zolaula zovuta zogwiritsa ntchito mafunso omwe adasankhidwa pambuyo pa mafunso osokoneza bongo Kukula kwa Zosokoneza Zolaula Kugwiritsa Ntchito Pulogalamu (PPCS). Mosiyana ndi mayeso am'mbuyomu okonda zolaula, mafunso amafunso a 18 adayesa kulolerana (kuchuluka kwa magwiritsidwe ntchito) ndikuchotsa, kupeza zonse ziwiri, kuthetsa mkangano wokhudza kusiya & kuchuluka kwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Mafunso awiri omwe amagwiritsira ntchito kutsimikizira kuchuluka kwa zolaula:

  • Pang'ono ndi pang'ono ndinkaona zolaula "zoopsa" chifukwa zithunzi zolaula zomwe ndinkaonera poyamba sizinali zosangalatsa
  • Ndinkaona kuti ndikusowa zolaula kuti ndikwanitse zokhumba zanga

Kuphatikiza apo, kafukufukuyu wa 2016 amatithandizanso kukayikira lingaliro loti zokonda zogonana ndizokhazikika pokhudzana ndi zolaula za pa intaneti zomwe zikuchitika masiku ano (Mafilimu Owonetsa Zogonana Amagwiritsidwa Ntchito ndi Kugonana: Kuyerekezera Kufananirana kwa Amuna Amuna, Amuna Kapena Amuna Kapena Amuna Kapena Akazi Amuna Kapena Akazi Amuna Kapena Akazi Amuna Kapena Akazi Amuna Kapena Akazi Amuna Kapena Akazi Amuna Kapena Akazi Amodzi). Chidule cha phunziro ili:

Zomwe apezazi zikuwonetsanso kuti amuna ambiri amawona zinthu zolaula (SEM) zosagwirizana ndi kudziwika kwawo. Sizinali zachilendo kuti amuna omwe amadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha anene kuti akuwona SEM yokhala ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (20.7%) komanso amuna omwe amadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kuti afotokozere zowonera amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ku SEM (55.0%).

Phunziro ili, lotsatiridwa ndi maphunziro ena pa tsamba lino, amatsimikizira kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano pamapeto pake "apeze kugonana kwawo kwenikweni”Pogwiritsa ntchito mawebusayiti, kenako ndikutsatira mtundu umodzi wokha wa zolaula kwa nthawi yonseyi.

Nkhani zobwerezabwereza za anthu omwe ali ndi HOCD kapena zolaula zomwe zinapangitsa kuti mwanayo asamangidwe:

ZOYENERA: Anthu omwe ali ndi OCD ali ndi mwayi wochepetsa zolaula ndi zolaula, osayesa kuthetsa maliseche. YBOP ikukuwonetsani kuti muwerenge maakaunti otsatirawa obwezeretsanso ndikuwachotsera zomwe zikukuthandizani. Palibe njira imodzi.

Mauthenga a blog pa fetishes okhudzana ndi zolaula ndi HOCD (zochokera kuyambira kale kwambiri):

Zida za akatswiri:

Zokambirana za YBOP zomwe zimalongosola momwe munthu amapezera zolaula zomwe zimayambitsa zolaula komanso zolaula zimapangitsa ED

Wailesi ya Gary imawonetsa kuthana ndi HOCD kapena ziboda zopangira zolaula:

Nkhani za atolankhani:

Sayansi yokhudzana ndi zolaula-zinachititsa SOCD

Malangizo pa zithandizo:

ZOYENERA: Sitife madokotala, ndipo muyenera kufufuza chidziwitso ichi ndi dokotala musanayese chimodzi mwazinthu izi. Koma apa pali ndemanga kuchokera kwa anyamata awiri omwe adalimbana ndi HOCD:

Kulakalaka zakuthupi zoopsa kapena zopanikizika kungapitirire kuwonjezereka poyamba chifukwa cha zotsatira za kuchotsa. Onani izi Reddit ulusi.

Mnyamata woyamba:

Ndina… ndinayamba kumwa inositol ndipo… NDIKUMANYANITSITSE ndikuthandiza ZOTI ZABWINO. Sindikudziwa ngati sikuti ndi placebo kokha, koma padutsa mwezi umodzi tsopano ndipo ndikumva bwino. Pali masiku omwe ndilibe lingaliro limodzi lokhazikika, kwenikweni, limodzi lokhalitsa. Muyenera kuwona anyamata.

Mnyamata wachiwiri:

Ndichiwiri kuti inositol ifunanso kuonjezera N Acetyl Cysteine ​​kapena NAC monga chithandizo chothandizira kwambiri chomwe chimapangitsa kuti NAC iwonongeke. Makamaka pokhudzana ndi kusinkhasinkha ndi mankhwala.

Zowonjezera mauthenga kwa OCD ambiri

ZOCHITIKA:

Kodi mukulimbana ndi maganizo ngati awa?

Ndinkangoganiza kuti ndikusintha gay. HOCD yanga inali yamphamvu kwambiri panthawiyo, ndimaganiza zonyamuka pamalo okwera kwambiri. Ndinkavutika maganizo kwambiri. Ndinkadziwa kuti ndimakonda atsikana ndipo sindingakonde bwenzi lina, koma bwanji ndinali ndi ED? Chifukwa chiyani ndimafunikira zinthu zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kuti zindigwetsere? Tsopano popeza ndimvetsetsa chifukwa chomwe ndimavutikira, ndachira kwambiri. Ndikuyang'ana chibwenzi, pomwe ndikubwezeretsanso nthawi yomweyo. Ndili womasuka kwambiri kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake, ndi chiyani.

Zikuwonekeratu kuchokera kufukufuku wa nofap kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ambiri amakula ndikuwona zolaula zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi chikhalidwe chawo chogonana. Pafupifupi 60% ya nofap Mamembala omwe adafunsidwa adati zokonda zawo zachulukirachulukira. Pafupifupi theka la iwo adasokonezeka ndikusintha uku, theka lina - osati kwambiri. Komanso, liti ochita kafukufuku anamaliza kufunsa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ngati ntchito yawo yolaula itakula kwa zinthu zomwe kale zinali “zosasangalatsa kapena zonyansa,” theka a iwo anati iwo anali nawo. Ndipo Ofufuza za University of Cambridge ayamba kusonyeza kuti zolaula za pa intaneti zimayambitsa ogwiritsa ntchito mofulumira kuposa maulamuliro, ndi kukhala omvera kwambiri zachilendo.

Zikuwoneka choncho kusokoneza madera ozungulira mphoto ili kumbuyo kwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula omwe akuchuluka zolaula zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi zomwe amakonda kapena zomwe amakonda. HOCD ikhoza kukhala njira yosokoneza kwambiri yomwe anyamata amafotokoza nthawi zonse - kuchuluka kwa mitundu yatsopano. Mantha, nkhawa, kapena mantha zimakweza dopamine ndi adrenaline (norepinephrine), yomwe imatha kukulitsa chisangalalo chogonana. Izi ndizo zomwe ubongo umakhumba. Ndipo ngati ubongo wanu umakhala wofunitsitsa kuti mukondweretse (chifukwa simungathe kufika pachimake pamitundu yoyambirira), mutha kuyeserera, monga mlendo uyu adachita:

Kwa gawo langa sindinawopenso "kutembenuka kukhala amuna okhaokha" popeza ndili ndi WAY kuyamikira kwambiri mawonekedwe achikazi mumitundu yake yonse yowala. KOMA ndakhala ndikulakalaka zogonana ndi amuna ena ndipo ndidachitapo izi. Chinthu ndichakuti, thupi lamwamuna silimandichitira chilichonse kuti ndiyatseke, koma gawo "loletsedwa" limapangitsa kuti kulakalaka kwanga kwa dopamine kumangosewerera ndi lingalirolo.

Mfundo yofunikira pakumvetsetsa momwe timamangirira, kapena kulumikizanso waya, ubongo wathu ndi, "ma neuron omwe amayatsa moto pamodzi." Ndiye kuti, ngati zinthu ziwiri zichitika nthawi imodzi, ubongo wathu nthawi zambiri umawalumikiza pogwiritsa ntchito kulumikizana kwenikweni kwa ma neural. Zochitika zomwe zimakhudzana kwambiri, kapena momwe zimabwerezedwera, kulumikizana kwamphamvu kumakhala kolimba. Magulu amitsempha yamitsempha yopanga machitidwe kapena ntchito nthawi zina amatchedwa "mapu aubongo."

Kubereka ndizofunikira kwambiri pamatenda athu, ndipo kukondoweza kwa kugonana kumatulutsa milingo yathu yayikulu kwambiri ya dopamine, yomwe imathandizira kulimbitsa kukumbukira ndi kuphunzira. Orgasm ndi kuphulika kwa mitsempha yokoma kwambiri kotero kuti ubongo wathu umatha mosavuta (ndikudzutsa) ku zochitika ndi zochitika zina. Monga katswiri wamankhwala Norman Doidge adalongosola Ubongo Womwe Umasintha:

Amuna omwe anali pamakompyuta awo omwe amayang'ana zolaula anali ngati makoswe omwe anali m khola la NIH, akukakamiza bar kuti apeze dopamine kapena yofanana nayo. Ngakhale samadziwa, adakopeka ndikuchita nawo zolaula zomwe zimakwaniritsa zofunikira zonse pakusintha mapu aubongo. … Nthawi iliyonse akamadzimva kuti ali ndi chilakolako chogonana ndipo amakhala ndi vuto lokonda kuseweretsa maliseche, "spritz of dopamine," mphotho ya mphotho, amalumikizitsa kulumikizana komwe kumapangidwa muubongo mkati mwazigawozo. [Kuchokera pamutu wakuti “Kupeza Zokonda ndi Kukonda.”]

Izi siziri zongopeka zenizeni monga kafukufuku waposachedwapa wa zinyama amasonyeza kuti ma dopamine apamwamba (a dopamine agonist) angathe kusintha zosankha za kugonana mwa amuna. Norman Doidge analangiza amuna ambiri omwe anali ndi zolaula zogonana zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi zachiwerewere zawo:

Zomwe zilipo [odwala] zomwe zinawoneka zosangalatsa zinkasintha pamene Mawebusaiti adayambitsa malemba ndi malemba omwe anasintha ubongo wawo popanda kuzindikira. Chifukwa chakuti pulasitiki ndi yopikisana, ubongo umapangidwira zithunzi zatsopano, zosangalatsa zinawonjezeka chifukwa cha zomwe zinkakopeka kale. (p.109)

Mwanjira ina, zikuwoneka ngati amuna ambiri tsopano akukumana ndi zolaula zomwe zimapangitsa zolaula. Kodi nzodabwitsa? Makolo athu sanataye maola ambiri akujambulitsa zithunzithunzi za umuna.

Komabe, HOCD sikuti imangotengera zolaula zatsopano, kapena kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi zomwe mumakonda. M'malo mwake ndi vuto lomwe lingakhale gehena wamoyo. Kuchokera OCD Yoyera: kutuluka mwanyenga, The Guardian, Nkhani yabwino ya mkazi ndi SOCD:

Chizindikiro chofala cha kukakamira kuchita zinthu mopitirira muyeso kumatchedwa OCD (HOCD), yotchedwanso gay OCD kapena OCD ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Izi zimachitika ngati mantha komanso chidwi chokhala gay - nthawi zambiri munthu amene amamukhulupirira kuti ndi wowongoka amakayikira zachiwerewerezo ndikuyamba kuganizira za kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Pano pali chinthu chimodzi chomwe mlangizi akukumbutsani mukangoyamba kulandira chithandizo cha HOCD: ngati mukukhulupirira kuti ndinu owongoka, ndiye kuti muli.

Nthawi zomwe munthu wowongoka "amapeza kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kudzera mu magawo a HOCD ndizocheperako kotero kuti sangakhale ocheperako. Pafupifupi palibe. Ambiri mwa iwo omwe "amatembenukira" ku kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amachita izi kwakanthawi akayamba kumvetsetsa kuti kutengeka kwawo sikunali kokhudzana ndi kugonana kwawo, koma za mantha ena ndi nkhawa zomwe mwina sizimakhudzana ndi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Zikuwoneka ngati zilipo mitundu iwiri ya HOCD:

  1. OCD + mantha (kapena chochitika) = HOCD
  2. Zaka zolaula zogwiritsa ntchito + zovuta zowonjezera kugonana / zolaula / zolaula = HOCD zokhudzana ndi zolaula

Zochitika zosayembekezereka m'moyo, monga malingaliro osaganizira a anzanu pa nthawi zovuta, zingachititse anthu ena kuyambitsa kukayikira za kugonana kwawo (HOCD).

Komabe, masiku ano chidwi cha HOCD ndichokokomeza kwakanthawi, komwe kumapangitsa ubongo kukhala wopanda chidwi ndi zosangalatsa za tsiku ndi tsiku motero kufunitsitsa kumva. Mpaka pano izi zikuchitikanso kwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula omwe samapanga HOCD. Mwawona Kafukufuku wolumikiza kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kapena zolaula / zokhudzana ndi kugonana

Kutsitsira zolaula pa intaneti kumapangitsa kuti kuwonongekeratu kosavuta kuzikhala kosavuta. Poyerekeza ndi zochitika zakale ndizo zolimbikitsa kwambiri kuti, mwa ogwiritsa ntchito ena, imapanga ubongo wokhudzana ndi mowa umasintha. Palibe zodabwitsa. Kupatula kusiyiranaku, zolaula zamasiku ano pa intaneti zimathandizira mphotho yaubongo pazinthu zonse zomwe zimapangitsa chidwi, kukulitsa kukumbukira kukumbukira (kulumikizana):

Komanso, ndizotheka kuti iwo omwe amapanga HOCD atha kukhala ndi ubongo womwe makamaka ndi pulasitiki pazifukwa zina. Malinga ndi a Kuphunzira China, omwe ali ndi ma OCD asanadziwonekere pa Intaneti amakhala ndi chiopsezo chowonjezereka.

Mulimonsemo, ubongo wa zolaula ukhoza kukula zopanda pake zokondweretsa ngakhale momwe izo zimakhalira hyper-yogwira ntchito kusankha cues. Pano pali bambo yemwe akufotokozera zochitika wamba, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimanenedwa ndi iwo omwe amalowa mu HOCD yokhudzana ndi zolaula:

29 y / o ndi zaka 17 za MO (zolimbitsa thupi ndi malingaliro) ndi zaka 12 zoseweretsa maliseche, zomwe zikuwonjezeka mpaka zolaula / zolaula. Ndinayamba kusiya kukonda zogonana kwenikweni. Zolimbikitsa ndikumasulidwa ku zolaula zidakhala zamphamvu kuposa zogonana. Porn zimapereka mitundu yopanda malire. Nditha kusankha zomwe ndikufuna kuwona panthawiyi. Kuthamangitsidwa kwanga kochedwa panthawi yogonana kunakhala koipa kwambiri kotero kuti nthawi zina sindinkatha kutulutsa chilakolako. Izi zidapha chikhumbo changa chomaliza chogonana.

Chikhalidwe chogonana chachikhalidwe

Pomwe chiwerengerochi chikulowetseratu, sitejiyi imayikidwa pa HOCD yokhudzana ndi zolaula. Zolaula zosagwirizanitsa zimaphwanya zoyembekeza, zimatulutsa dopamine kwambiri ndi norepinephrine kusiyana ndi zolaula zam'mbuyomu, ndipo zimapereka mphoto yowonjezera yomwe imayatsa mphoto zowonjezera (addicted). Wogwiritsa ntchito angayambe kukayikira chifukwa chake angayambe kuchita zachiwerewere ndi zochitika zogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha koma osakopeka ndi anthu ogonana nawo omwe adamuukitsa kale.

Ubongo wake, umayamba kumangoyamba kugonana ndi nkhaniyi, yomwe imalimbikitsa anthu kuti azichita zachiwerewere. Monga tafotokozera mu posachedwa positi, zachiwerewere zitha kukhazikitsidwa pachilichonse, ngakhale kununkhira kwaimfa, motero sizosadabwitsa kuti ambiri ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano akuti zolaula zimakonda kwambiri kumalo onse pomwe malingaliro awo akusangalala.

Tsopano, wosuta wathu angapeze kuti angathe okha pachimake pamtundu wake waposachedwa (ndipo chifukwa chake ndi wolimbikitsa kwambiri). Ngati ndi imodzi yomwe amawona kuti ndi yosagwirizana ndi zomwe amakonda zogonana, chiwopsezo chake chimakhala chachikulu… ndipo chimatulutsa mankhwala am'magazi amomwe amachititsa chidwi / nkhawa. Kudzuka kwake kumakulitsidwa, mwa zina, ndi kupsinjika kwake. Amuna awa amafotokoza zomwe akumana nazo:

Mnyamata woyamba: Chowopsa ndichakuti ndakhala ndikuwona azimayi ngati openga, komanso amuna kapena lingaliro la amuna okongola. Monga mwamuna wamwamuna yemwe amagonana ndi amuna ena kuyambira kusekondale, izi ndizachilendo. Ngakhale ndikawona azimayi "oyipa" akuyenda mumsewu, sindingadziwe momwe zingakhalire kugona nawo nthawi yomweyo. Ima? Kodi ndizotheka kusintha?

Mnyamata wachiwiri: Masiku awiri oyambirira ndinali ndi nkhawa yayikulu, pafupifupi ndikufuna kudzipha chifukwa sindinakopeke ndi mkazi aliyense. Malingaliro awa amandipangitsa kuganiza kuti ndimagonana, zimandipangitsa kufunsa zomwe ndimachita, zomwe ndinena, ndikudwala. Sindingadye. Ndikuganiza zoganiza ... zomwe zimandipangitsa kumva ngati kuti ndine gay, pomwe ndikudziwa kuti sindine.

Kufunafuna kwa ogwiritsa ntchito kuti amvetsetse ngati malingaliro awo ogonana asintha mwadzidzidzi kumatha kubweretsa kuyesedwa kosalekeza, kokakamiza komanso miyambo ina yotsimikizira. Monga mitundu ina ya OCD (kuphatikiza HOCD yosagwirizana ndi zolaula), kuyesa ndi kusaka chitsimikiziro kumapereka mpumulo wakanthawi. "Mayeso" aliwonse amalimbikitsa kudzutsa kosafunikira - mwina ndi mpumulo wopindulitsa, kapena kukulitsa nkhawa ngati mayeso alephera. Mwanjira iyi, mayesero amalimbitsa zovuta zomwe zimayambitsa.

Kodi othandizira ndiotani?

Kumbukirani kuti zizoloŵezi za khalidwe ndi makakamizo zimayendera mphotho. Timadziwa kuchokera ku mankhwala osokoneza bongo omwe zakumwa zoledzeretsa pang'onopang'ono zimachiritsa pamene mphoto izi sizidzakhalanso chifukwa chodziletsa. Pang'onopang'ono, ubongo umafooketsa njira zogwirizana.

Wothandizira akhoza kuthandiza kwambiri kuwunika molondola mphotho za HOCD ya kasitomala wina. Ngati mphotho yake yolimbikitsira makamaka mpumulo ku "kuyesa" kapena kulengeza mobwerezabwereza komwe akukonda kwasintha (kuti apeze mpumulo kwakanthawi kotsimikizika), ndiye kuti kuwonetseredwa ndi kupewa mayankho (osayesedwanso kapena kulengezedwa ndi nkhawa) kumatha kuchita zachinyengo.

Pankhani ya HOCD yokhudzana ndi zolaula, mphotho zomwe zimapezeka pakukhudzidwa zimatha kukhala gawo la mkango pazovuta za kasitomala. Pakhoza kukhala mphotho ziwiri zosokoneza mu kusakanikirana: mantha ndi chilakolako chogonana.

Opani monga mphotho

Kusokonezeka sikungakhale kosangalatsa koma mantha amawathandiza mpata woyang'anira mphoto ndi nkhaŵa ikhoza kudzutsa kugonana. Ganizirani zojambula zowonongeka ndi zoopsya mafilimu. Kwa ubongo wovuta kwambiri chifukwa cha ubongo (chifukwa cha ubongo umasinthidwa ndi kukhumudwa kosaneneka / kusokoneza bongo), kuchitidwa mantha chifukwa cha mantha kungalembetse ngati chofunika kwambiri. Amagwiritsa ntchito dopamine ndi norepinephrine (mawonekedwe a adrenaline). Mnyamata wina yemwe ankachita zolaula zolaula anafotokoza kuti:

Ndabwerera ku zolaula zachiwerewere tsopano, Ndinapeza zolaula zowonongeka ndikuyamba kukondweretsa, koma sikuti ndimayikiranso tiyi. Nditaima ndikuopa zomwe anthu angaganize, kutaya kumeneku kunandipatsa ndipo kunasangalatsa.

Nditayamba kupeza zolaula zachiwerewere zinali zatsopano komanso zosangalatsa, koma tsopano ndikufuna kukhala mkazi. Mantha ndi omwe adandichititsa chidwi changa, koma mantha atangotha ​​kukopa kunachoka. Siziwoneka bwino kuwona mkazi yemwe ali ndi Dick. Sizonyansa koma sizabwino.

Koma pali zambiri zomwe zikuchitika pamlingo wachilengedwe. Kupsinjika kwa neurochemical cortisol amathanso kukulitsa zotsatira zabwino ndi zomwe zimayambitsa kutulutsa dopamine. Potsirizira pake, kusintha kwa ubongo kungapangitse munthu kuti asamvetsetse zovutazo. Kafukufuku amatsimikizira kuti kupsinjika kwakukulu ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo onse yonjezerani mphamvu zowonjezera za ubongo. Ochita kafukufuku amakhulupirira kuti cortisol amathandiza kwambiri mphoto zokhudzana ndi khalidwe labwino.

Vutoli likufanana ndi BDSM, pomwe kupweteka kwakuthupi kumakulitsa chizolowezi cha munthu chokhudzana ndi kugonana. Mwa odwala HOCD, kudzuka ndi mantha zimakwaniritsa chimodzimodzi. Mfundo yofunika: Ngakhale kusasangalala kwakathupi kapena kwakuthupi, kudzuka kwakukulu kumatha kupanga zovuta kwambiri kuti zisiye (zosokoneza). Kuda nkhawa ndi nkhawa, ngakhale nthawi zina akumva monga kukwezeka mu ubongo mwachangu pofuna kukondweretsa.

Nkhawa yanga imamasuliridwa molakwika ngati "malingaliro akuya" kwa mnyamatayo yemwe ndimalankhula naye chifukwa nkhawa NDI mtundu wadzutsa.

Ubongo wa wodwala HOCD waphunzira kupeza gawo limodzi la mphotho yake pamavuto ake. Choyipa chachikulu nchakuti, wodwalayo akafuna kusiya zolaula, nkhawa yake imakulirakulira kwakanthawi. Kuchotsa kumabweretsa nkhawa mkati onse Kubwezeretsa osokoneza bongo, kukulitsa kulakalaka kwamphamvu pakulimbikitsanso kwina kupatula zovuta za HOCD. Ambiri amadzazindikira kuti "kufufuza" ndiye vuto lenileni:

Ndinkakonda kupita ku Google HOCD tsiku lililonse, koma zimadzetsa chisokonezo chachikulu ndikuyenera kusiya. Osayang'ana matanthauzo aliwonse okhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena kukhulupirira zomwe mumawerenga zokhudzana ndi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndinachita zonse zomwe simukuyenera kuchita. Pakapita nthawi, mutha kuwerenga nkhani zomwe zikubwera ndikuzindikira kuti simunali inu. Simunafikebe komabe. Muli komwe ndidakhala miyezi 6 yapitayo kapena apo. Inde, zimatenga nthawi yayitali kuti muthetse, sindingakunamizeni.

Kwa omwe ali ndi vuto la HOCD kuwonjezeka kwachidziwikire kwa nkhawa kumapangitsa kuti pakhale ma spikes (mantha pazoyang'ana) komanso "kuwunika" mwachangu, nthawi zambiri kumawabwezeretsa ku chizolowezi. Zowonadi, ena akuti mantha awo a HOCD anali ochepa mpaka atasiya zolaula, ndi nkhawa yowonjezera ya zolaula kuchotsa amenye iwo. Pamene ubongo wokonda bongo umangoyang'ana "kukonza" mwamphamvu kwambiri komwe ungaganizire: kuwopa + kuwunika + kukakamiza kugonana pazomwe zimakhudzana ndi HOCD, malingaliro owongoka amawoneka ngati akusowa.

Kuukitsa kugonana monga mphoto

Kuledzera pa zolaula pa intaneti ndichizolowezi chothandizira. Kudzutsa kugonana ndi mphotho yamphamvu kwambiri mwachilengedwe yomwe ubongo ungatulutse. Komabe kukondweretsedwa ndi zachilendo zanthawi zonse zolaula (chochitika chilichonse chimapereka kugunda kwamankhwala am'magazi) zimatha kupereka mphotho yayikulu modabwitsa. Kugonana, kapenanso kutulutsa zolaula, kumatha kukhala kovuta kwambiri ngati zizolowezi zolaula zikupitilira ndikuyankha zisangalalo za tsiku ndi tsiku zikuchepa. Ogwiritsa ntchito ena amangokhalira kulumikizidwa ndi ma neurochemical buzz kuyambira kusintha kwa zolaula kwa maola ambiri, mwadala, kapena kupewa, pachimake.

Ubongo unasinthika ndikuganiza kuti gwero lazodzutsa chilakolako chogonana ndilo mwayi wokhala ndi umuna. Ngati wina adzidzimutsa ndi china chake chomwe chimatulutsa dopamine yochuluka kwambiri ndi norepinephrine, ubongo umangozikweza ngati "wofunika." Zilibe kanthu ngati sizikugwirizana ndi chibadwa chake chogonana - chifukwa ubongo umayeza kulimba mtima malinga ndi magawo a mphotho oyendetsa polojekiti, osati chikhalidwe. (Zimangochitika kuti muubongo womwe umayankha mwachizolowezi kusangalala, zoyambitsa zomwe munthu amayang'ana nthawi zambiri zimatulutsa zokhutiritsa kwambiri malingaliro.)

N'zosadabwitsa kuti, kuwalimbikitsa njira za ubongo chifukwa zovuta zogonana ndizosiyana ndi zochepa zolimbikitsa (ngakhale kugonana). Tikhoza kumasula mwachidule, koma osati kale. Izi zawonetsedwa mufukufuku, monga momwe tafotokozera James G. Pfaus et al:

Lalumière ndi Quinsey (1998) inanena kuti anthu ambiri amayamba kukondana ndi amuna omwe amachitira amuna kapena akazi okhaokha pachithunzi cha chithunzi cha mkazi wokongola kwambiri, wokhala wamasiye inapangidwira ndi vidiyo yomwe ikuwonetsa kugwirizana kwakukulu kwa kugonana. Gulu lolamulira limene linalandira mwayi wopita ku chithunzicho (popanda vidiyo) inasonyeza habituation [m'malo]. (kugogomezedwa kwina)

Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, zokhudzana ndi zolaula za anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la HOCD zokhudzana ndi zolaula ndizolimba kwambiri chifukwa zimakulitsa mphamvu ya mitsempha ya mantha.

Kuchepetsa mankhwalawa kungabwerere ngati vuto la zolaula lilipo

Kwa omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti pogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala wamba a HOCD, kuwonekera kwa amuna okhaokha ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sikutanthauza komwe amachokera ku HOCD-komwe sikanthu kapena kugonana ndi anthu, koma ma pixels. Komabe ngati atayesa kuwonetsa zolaula pa zolaula, akuchita zomwe amakonda. Munthu sangathe kuyambitsa chizolowezi chozolowera pomupatsa zomwe adalumikizidwa nazo!

Ichi ndichifukwa chake mankhwala opatsirana ndi zolaula atha kukhala olakwika kwa anyamata omwe akuyesera kumasula HOCD yokhudzana ndi zolaula. Zili ngati kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso pamalingaliro akuti azayamba kunyong'onyeka ndikumwa, kapena munthu wotchova juga amatha kubetcha mpaka atazolowera. Pogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kupitiriza kugwiritsira ntchito kumangowonjezera ubongo muubongo. Chithandizo chowonekera chitha kupereka uthenga wosabereka kwa wodwala HOCD wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula m'malo molimbikitsa chikhalidwe chothandiza (chizolowezi).

Ndiye amayamba kuti? Anthu oledzera amafunika kuchotsa kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kuposa zonse. Pamene ubongo wawo umabwereranso anthu ambiri amaona kuti kusokoneza kugonana kumataya mphamvu.

Ngati zolaula zimakonda kugwiritsa ntchito HOCD kuyesera kugwiritsa ntchito njira zina zokhudzana ndi zochiritsira m'malo mopewa kuzilimbitsa
zizolowezi zosokoneza bongo. Uwu ndi Mgwirizano wa 22. Wosuta (ndipo mwina womuthandizira) atha kuganiza molakwika kuti kuyankha kwake kolimbikira, mwamphamvu pamavuto si HOCD, koma "umboni" woti malingaliro ake ogonana asintha modabwitsa.

Chowonadi ndichakuti kuledzera kumalepheretsa OCD Kudziwonetsera & Kuteteza Koyankha. Ngakhale munthu wokonda zolaula atasiya kufunafuna mphotho ya mpumulo (kuchokera pakuyesa kapena kusanthula), kuwonetsa zolaula kumamupindulitsabe pomupatsa kuwonetsa njira zowonongeka.

Chani amachita Thandizeni?

Ife sitiri olemba. Komabe, tawerenga zozizwitsa ndi anthu ambiri omwe kale ankagwiritsa ntchito zithunzi zolaula omwe amadzitcha kuti akuvutika / kubwezeretsedwa kuchokera ku HOCD (chitsanzo chodziyesa yekha). Tifupikitsa zomwe adakumana nazo ngati zingathandize.

Anyamata akusimba kuti kusiya mphotho ya zolaula pa intaneti ndi kusiya kwakanthawi mphotho yakugonana (kupatula kupumula, okondana okondana) onse amathandizira kuthetsa HOCD yawo. Akasiya kuwonjezera mphotho yawo yayikulu (kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula), ubongo wawo pang'onopang'ono umayang'ana, ndikupangira waya, mphotho zina zakugonana. Izi zitha kutenga miyezi. Malingana ndi zomwe anyamatawa adakumana nazo, othandizira angafune kupempha makasitomala kuti achoke pa zolaula pa intaneti kwa miyezi ingapo asanayambe kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwalawa (ngati zingachitike).

Poyamba, anyamata sangayankhe mwachiyanjano kwa okondedwa, ngakhale kuti chikondi chimakhala bwino zolimbikitsa (mwina chifukwa imatulutsa oxytocin). Ndiponso, mpaka kuwonongedwa koyipa kwadongosolo, iwo amakhalanso ndi ma spikes ovuta kwambiri a HOCD. Nkhawa yotulutsa achire kapena kupsinjika kwina kumatha kukukakamizani kuti "mudziyese" poyang'ana zithunzi zomwe zimabweretsa nkhawa. Kuyesedwa kumangolimbikitsa izi.

Awo akuchira akuti ngati atha kuvomereza malingaliro osokonekera a HOCD popanda kupsinjika, amapewa kulimbitsa mantha amitsempha. Kuphatikiza apo, zimawawona kukhala zothandiza kuphunzira kukhala moyo wosatsimikizika pazakugonana kwawo ndikupewa kuyesedwa konse ndi zoyesayesa kuti "mupeze chowonadi." Mwanjira imeneyi amaletsanso kulimbikitsidwa kopatsa mpumulo kwakanthawi komanso "kutsimikizika."

M'mawu ena, odwala HOCD ayenera kugwira ntchito kuti asiye atatu Zizolowezi zopindulitsa: Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, kufunafuna mpumulo komanso kuvutika.

Malipoti a munthu m'modzi

Lipoti la mwamunayo ndilopatsa chidwi chifukwa adayamba pofooketsa mphotho ya zolaula, koma adapeza kuti sanachite nawo mphotho ya mantha ndi mpumulo.

Tsopano ndili ndi miyezi itatu yopanda zolaula, koma ndinali nditangoyang'anitsitsa matabwa osiyanasiyana a HOCD. Ndinkakhala maola ambiri tsiku lililonse pamasamba amenewo, nthawi zina ndimawayang'ana maulendo angapo paola: kuntchito, pomwe ndimayendetsa galimoto, pabedi usiku, ndi zina zambiri. Ndi zina zotero. Ubongo wanga unkalandira mphotho ndikawerenga china chomwe chimanditsimikizira, ndipo chimatha kutentha ndikumangotuluka ndikawerenga china chomwe chimandipatsa nkhawa.

Ndidakulitsanso kuwona kwanga kuma board ena amauthenga, kuphatikiza ma board a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Izi zimangopititsa patsogolo kukula. Sindinkagona tulo chifukwa cha nkhawa zanga zonse, ndipo sindinapezekepo m'moyo wanga. Ndinali m'matabwa awa kapena ndikudandaula ndi zomwe ndinawerenga pa iwo. Nthawi zonse. Ubwenzi wanga unali pamavuto. Nthawi zina, ndekha usiku, ndimapita pama binges a maola 2-3 a HOCD ndikuyang'ana pa bolodi la intaneti, kenako ndikumva kuwawa pambuyo pake.

Ndinaganiza zosiya. Wokondedwa wanga akuyenera kukhala ndi munthu yemwe alipo, osasokonezedwa kwathunthu. Kuyambira pamenepo, ndangokhala ndi gawo limodzi la mphindi 15, kuyang'ana mayankho. Ndakhala ndikulimbana ndi mayesero, koma zotsatira zake ndikuti ndimamva bwino kwambiri.

Ndizodabwitsa kwambiri. HOCD yanga yatsika kwambiri tsopano popeza sindikuwonetsa ubongo wanga nthawi zonse "ZIMENE ZIMENEZI ZIMENE ZILI ZOFUNIKA KWAMBIRI" popita pamatabwa ndikuwunika ndikuwatsimikizira. Ndinali ndisanawerenge buku kwa miyezi, koma tsopano ndili pa lachiwiri kuyambira pomwe ndinasiya matabwa. Nthawi yanga yopuma usiku tsopano ndimathera ndi chibwenzi changa kapena kuwerenga pamoto. Ndikugona bwino kwambiri.

Inde, ndimakhala ndikomwe ndimakhala nawo nthawi zina ndikawona mnyamata wokongola. Ndipo kuchokera pakuwunika ndimaganizo ake. Koma ziyenera kukhala zocheperako, ndipo malingaliro amenewo amafulumira kwambiri.

Tsopano ndikulingalira kuti HOCD yanga iyenera kuti inali chifukwa chakuti pamene ndinatsiriza pa PMO pambuyo pa zaka ndi zaka zapitazi, ndataya chidwi kwambiri ndi amai enieni. Pokhapokha amayi ndi abambo anayamba kuyang'ana chimodzimodzi kwa ine, ndipo BAM amadandaula za kugonana kwazimayi.

Njira yothandizira ya Schwartz yosawonekera

Pali njira yothandizira yochizira OCD yomwe siyimalimbikitsa kuwonekera. Psychiatrist Jeffrey Schwartz adapanga izi. (Werengani ndemanga wotengedwa kuchokera ku Doidge Ubongo Womwe Umasintha.)

Schwartz amaphunzitsa odwala ake momwe neuroplasticity amagwirira ntchito Chifukwa chake amadziwa kuti kukakamizidwa kwawo kumachokera ku ubongo wosafunikira, wogwira ntchito mopitilira muyeso (osati mosiyana ndi bongo). Kenako amafotokoza kuti zingwe zamaubongo zimatha kusinthidwa ndikulimbikira.

Mwanjira zina, ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi chithandizo chamankhwala. M'malo moyesera kukhala ndi chizolowezi chowonekera, wina amayesa kugwiranso ntchito ubongo mwa kusunthira magiya pomwe chithunzi chofananira chimayamba. Schwartz akuwonetsa kuti asinthireko zinthu zomwe zidasankhidwa kale.

Cholinga sikuti tipewe kusapeza chifukwa chofunafuna mpumulo, koma kuti titsegule njira zosagwirizana zaubongo m'malo mwa zovuta ndiye kuti ubongo umatha kuchoka ku "mphotho" zake zakale, ndipo mwina mpaka kumalumikizitsa nkhawa ndi ntchito yopindulitsa. Mulimonsemo, kuvomereza malingaliro osakhazikika osachitapo kanthu pamaganizidwe kumathandiza kwambiri. Anati m'modzi:

Chinthu chimodzi chomwe ndimachita chomwe chimandigwirira ntchito ndikuvomereza kwathunthu kuti ndili ndi lingaliro losafunikira. Ndimachita zonse zomwe ndingathe kuti ndipumule ndikunyalanyaza lingalirolo, ndikuyambiranso ntchito kapena kungopuma ndikukhala munthawi yomwe ndili. Izi sizigwira ntchito ngati ndingayesetse kuyang'ana china chake. Ingopumulani, pozindikira kuti lingaliro lilipo ndipo lingalirani (momasuka) pantchito yanu. Pambuyo pake ndimazindikira kuti sindimaganizira lingalirolo ndipo ndimayang'ana kwambiri ntchito yanga. Zachidziwikire, lingaliro limabweranso panthawiyi chifukwa ndikukumbukira kuti ndinali nalo.

Chinthu chotsatira chomwe ndimachita ndikudziuza ndekha, "ntchito yabwino" ndikubwereza pamwambapa. Onaninso. Gawaninso. Kukonzanso. zomwe zalembedwa mu nkhani ya OCD ya Dr. Schwartz. Ndipo inde, sizimveka ngati zingagwire ntchito mpaka nditaziyesa.

Mukufunikira kudzipangitsa nokha ngati mwana wamng'ono. Nthawi zonse mukaiwala lingaliro, ziribe kanthu kwa nthawi yaitali bwanji, muyamikire komanso muzidzidalira pambuyo. Khalani okoma kwa inueni. Chiwawa kwa iwo eni, kwa thupi kumakhala chiwawa chakunja, ndipo mosiyana. Khalani okoma, pirira ndi wekha. Dzilimbikitseni kuti mukhale osangalala ngakhale mutakhala kuti mukumasula. Zilizonse zomwe mukuganiza kuti ndizofunikira sizingakhale zofunikira monga momwe safunira kuchita!

Ngati mutagwera munjira yomwe "mayeso" atsopano amangokupangitsani kuda nkhawa kwambiri, ubongo wanu umagwiritsa ntchito mantha anu ngati chiwerewere. Poterepa, mutha kupeza njira ya Schwartz yothetsera OCD njira yothandiza kwambiri. Wodwala wina wa HOCD adati:

Ndachita mankhwala othandizira kwa HOCD wanga, ndipo ine ndikugwiritsa ntchito Schwartz njira. Kuwonetsa malingaliro anga kumagwira ntchito bwino kwambiri pamene zovuta ndi zokakamiza zili zofooka, ndiye kuti nkhani za HOCD zimangokhala funso kumbuyo kwa malingaliro amunthu.

Njira ya Schwartz ndiyabwino m'malingaliro mwanga kwa munthu kumapeto kwa HOCD. Zimatengera kulanga kuti tithetse zisokonekere ndi nkhawa kuti musadzilimbikitse. Njira ya Schwartz ndi njira yovuta kwambiri kuyiyambitsa, koma munthu akapambana pakulekerera, zimakhala zosavuta, chifukwa amatha kudutsa tsikulo osatengeka ... mpaka lingaliro lokopa limawagundanso.

Tsopano, ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pamachitidwe a Schwartz kuti ayambirepo. Mmodzi ayenera kupita ku zochitika / malingaliro / kuwonera mosiyana nthawi yomweyo. Chifukwa munthu akangofufuza m'maganizo mwake amakhala sitima yomwe yathawa chifukwa cha nkhawa. Ndiye zilekeni! Mwakutero, munthuyo ayenera kupeza njira yatsopano yopezera mphoto. Kwa ine, mphotho ndikuchotsa nkhawa bola ngati ndinyalanyaza malingaliro.

Chithandizo chakuwonetsera panthawiyi, pomwe nkhawa yanga ikuchulukirachulukira, ndichopanda pake. Imangodyetsa OCD yanga. Chithandizo chakuwonetsera chimagwira bwino ntchito ngati munthuyo amatha kuzindikira kulingalira komanso kupanda nzeru, kuzindikira kuti mantha awo alibe nzeru. Pomwe kulingalira kumalowedwa m'malo ndi zopusitsa nkhawa, chithandizo chamankhwala cha IMO chimadyetsa OCD. Lingaliro langa lokha.

Mnyamata uyu akulumpha milomo yake:

Ndimawona kuti kuluma kwamilomo pakati mkalasi kumagwira ntchito bwino kwambiri. Sindinkaganiza zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha tsiku lonse kupatula m'mawa uno ndinali ndi lingaliro laling'ono kwambiri. Koma sindikudandaula za izi chifukwa anali 1 pamaola 24 apitawa. Zitenga nthawi kuti chizolowezi ichi chichitike koma pali chikwangwani choti ndatsala pang'ono kufika. Sindikulakalaka kubwerera ku zolaula zolaula, zomwe zimandithandiza kwambiri.

Monga mbali, katswiri wa HOCD Fred Penzel akudodometsanso mankhwala othandizira olaula, ngakhale kuti amalimbikitsa chithandizo cha Exposure & Response Prevention in the classic HOCD.

Tikukhulupirira kuti posachedwapa ochita kafukufuku amadziwa kuti zigawo ziti zimagwira bwino ntchito zomwe odwala HOCD amapeza. Ambiri mwa omwe akukhudzidwawo akufunitsitsa kuthetsa nkhawa zawo. Ndipotu, anthu amene amaonera zolaula amene amachezera malo athu, anyamata a HOCD amavutika kwambiri ndi kubwerera m'mbuyo mosavuta.

Pakalipano, ambiri amakayikira kufunafuna chithandizo kuti mantha awonekere kuti odwala adzawauza kuti ali amuna (kapena olunjika) pamene akudziwa kuti sali.

Odwala a HOCD okhudzana ndi zolaula samadziwa momwe angagwiritsire ntchito mankhwalawa chifukwa mankhwalawa sagwira ntchito, ndipo mayankho olonjeza kwambiri amamva kukhala osagwirizana (ayenera kuyenda kutali kuchokera ku mpumulo, kuchokera ku kusanthula, komanso kuchokera pakukondweretsedwa kwakanthawi). Ambiri sangadziwe popanda kuthandizidwa ndi akatswiri. Kuti apite patsogolo, angafunike kupeza wodziwa bwino zauchidakwa komanso gawo lodziletsa posachotsa ubongo ku "mphotho" zosafunikira.

MAPETO A NKHANI

Maganizo Okhudza Kugonana Kwachiwerewere

Zachilendo monga zilili, kukonda zolaula zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumakhala kofala mwa amuna owongoka. Nayi chidule cha fayilo ya Nkhani ikukamba za buku laposachedwapa lonena za zolaula:

Olembawo akuti, "ngati mumagawira masamba omwe ali pa Alexa Adult List mayina awo, ndiye kuti masamba a atsikana a T-atsikana ndi achinayi otchuka kwambiri
gulu la masamba akuluakulu. ” Komanso, "'shemales' ndiye kusaka kwachisanu ndi chimodzi kotchuka kwambiri pa Dogpile, kotchuka kwambiri kuposa 'mabout,' 'threesomes,' ndi 'sex sex.'” Ndiye ndani akusaka? Ogas ndi Gaddam akugwira mawu a Housekeeper, omwe amagwiritsa ntchito masamba angapo azolaula:

"Omvera anga akulu, komanso owonera zolaula zambiri zachimuna, ndi owongoka. Ndi momwe zakhalira. Ndikunena kuti alendo onse obwera kudzaona malo ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ali owongoka. ”

Onaninso Sayansi yatsopano yachilendo kumbuyo kwa "Biliyoni Amaganizo Oipa".

Ndiye kodi chidwi chazithunzi zolaula chimachokera kuti? Amuna achigololo nthawi zambiri samafuna kuziwona. Transsexual si "chiwerewere." Sipezeka m'chilengedwe, motero anthu sakanasintha kuti afune kuwona. Sichinthu chomwe ogwiritsa ntchito ambiri amapita kukafunafuna… pokhapokha atakhala kuti atengeredwa ndi opanga zolaula.

Zolaula zachiwerewere ndi… ndi njira yophatikizira zikhalidwe zogonana zomwe sizingathe kuphatikizidwa. Ndi uthenga wamphamvu mwachindunji ku limbic system yaubongo. Zimaphatikizira zomwe amaonera zomwe amakonda: mabere, chilili mbolo, kutulutsa mbolo, BJ, maliseche, ndi zina zambiri.

Ubongo wa limbic, womwe sungaganizire komanso wosadziwa kuti zinthu zoterezi kulibe m'chilengedwe, umangoti, "Oooh! Oooh! Zomwe timakonda kwambiri pakugonana! Izi ndizowonjezera! ” Pamwamba pa izo, monga zolaula zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kapena zolaula zogonana zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndizodabwitsa komanso zosangalatsa. Ndipo, * cha-ching! * Opanga zolaula amatenga ndalama zotsatsa kuchokera kumaulendo anu.

Ndizomveka kuti zokumana nazo zolimba mtima komanso zatsopano "zimangokhala" m'maganizo mwanu ndipo pambuyo pake zimapitiliza kuwononga mitundu yonse yazosangalatsa zamankhwala "KODI IZI!" mauthenga - makamaka ngati kuyankha kwanu kosangalatsa kuli pansipa (mwina chifukwa chochulukirapo). Chinsinsi chenicheni ndi chakuti ngati zomwe takambiranazi zikukwaniritsadi… kapena zimangokusiyani wofuna zambiri.

Nachi chokumana nacho china chotsegula maso:

Ndili ndi zolaula, ndinkangokhalira kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Zinayambitsa funso lalikulu ponena za kugonana kwanga pamene ndinabatizidwa m'maganizo oterowo. Chabwino, ndinaganiza kuti ndikuyendetse limodzi kuti ndiwone.

Osati chinthu changa! Sindingathe kupitako ngakhale kumuwona / kuyankhula "naye" kwa mphindi zopitilira pang'ono ndikumaliza mwaulemu madzulo. Lankhulani za kuphulika kwanu, LOL. Chifukwa chake gawolo lakhazikika.

Mnyamata wina akufotokoza momwe chisokonezo chake chinayambira:

Zolakwika zanga zidakulirakulirabe, poyamba ndimangokhala vanila, koma posakhalitsa, sizinali zokwanira ndi 20s anga oyambilira, ndidayamba kuwonera feteleza wowonjezera, hentai, ukapolo, kutsekula, ma shemales, kudziletsa kwamaganizidwe, ndikukhala ndi malingaliro oti ndimafuna azimayi azimayi mazana ambiri omwe analibe chikhumbo china m'moyo kuposa kundisangalatsa. Pamapeto pake zinafika poti ndimayang'ana mkazi wachisangalalo mu chisangalalo ndipo ndinawona kuti mbolo ya mwamunayo imakhala ngati yobweretsa chisangalalo…. Ndimamva ngati ndikufunanso izi, ndipo ndidayamba kuganiza zokhala ndimnyamata. Zaka 29 - Ndisanayambe nofap ndimaganiza kuti ndimagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha

Ndemanga ya wolemba TV pansi ndemanga iyi ya zolemba za UK za Porn On The Brain

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Zaka zitatu zapitazo ine ndinali gulu la akatswiri a pa TV omwe ankayang'ana pa nkhani zambiri zokhudzana ndi zolaula za pa intaneti pa pulogalamu yomwe siinatulukepo. Wopanga wamkulu anali ndi umboni wa sayansi womwe umagwiritsidwa ntchito (womwe umayenera kukhala wamsana wa pulogalamuyo) unalibe mphamvu mokwanira.

Pa kafukufuku amene ndayankhula ndi anthu angapo omwe ali ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi zolaula, amawerengera zikwi zikwi za ndemanga zochokera kwa amuna omwe amatsutsa zolaula ndikuyankhula ndi asayansi. Kafukufuku wochuluka wa sayansi ali akadakali wamng'ono koma palibe kukayika m'maganizo anga kuti kupitiriza kuonera zolaula kungakhudze kwambiri akulu ndi ana ena.

Chinthu chokhudzidwa kwambiri chomwe ndidakumana nacho chinali amuna achikulire & achichepere omwe adayamba kuwonera zolaula (ngati zilipo) pafupipafupi ndipo kwa zaka zingapo adayamba kupita kuzithunzi zowopsa kwambiri pomwe adayamba kukhumudwa ndi zolaula zomwe ndinayang'ana 'kukonza' kwatsopano.

Anthu omwe amaoneka ngati abwinobwino amakhala ndi nkhawa kuti akhoza kukanganidwa ndi zolaula, sanakhalenso ndi chilakolako chofuna kukhala ndi chiyanjano choyenera ndi mkazi monga zolaula zomwe zidakhala m'malo mwawo, amuna omwe adagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe adakanidwa kwambiri zolaula zogonana amuna ndi akazi omwe adzipeza okha akuwona zolaula za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna omwe amadera nkhawa za momwe amamvera chifukwa cha ana chifukwa mzere pakati pa zomwe adazipeza zokongola kapena zomwe amapeza zamasewera zikuyamba kusokonezeka.

99% ya anthu awa anali akulu ndipo anali ndi nthawi yopanga chikhalidwe chogonana choyenera ndi maubwenzi asanayambe nkhani zawo. Izi zikutanthawuza, monga momwe katswiri wina wa sayansi ya ubongo amathandizira, ndi chithandizo choyenera ubongo wawo ukhoza kubwezeretsedwa ku chikhalidwe chawo chogonana, ngakhale zithunzi zomwe adaziwona silingaiwale konse.

Kwa mwana wazaka 10-14, wopanda chidziwitso chakugonana, palibe batani lokonzanso. Titha kukhala ndi mibadwo yamtsogolo ya anyamata omwe amatsata akazi ndipo amakhala ndi malingaliro osagwirizana kwenikweni pankhani zogonana ndipo nthawi zina amuna omwe ubongo wawo ungalumikizidwenso ndi mafano owopsa mpaka kutha kukhala chiopsezo kwa azimayi ndi ana owazungulira. . Chifukwa chake sitiyenera kuyika mitu yathu mumchenga ndikudikirira umboni wowona wasayansi. Tiyenera kuchitapo kanthu tsopano.

Upangiri & Kuzindikira Kuchokera Kubwezeretsa Anyamata

Amamusi amuthandiza munthu uyu:

Ndinapeza nofap inathandiza OCD wanga kwambiri monga momwe amachitira zinthu zatsopano monga kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi tsiku ndi tsiku. Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe sindimamva zikukambidwa pamisonkhano ndi mankhwala kapena chithandizo. Kwa ine, kuchuluka kwa inositol chowonjezera komwe kumayambitsanso ma dopamine receptors kuphatikiza ndi valerian ndi NAC kwandichepetsa. Koma zimanditengera kuyesetsa kwanga kuti ndisapereke mayeso okakamiza [zolaula] komanso zolaula.

ZOYENERA: Ma ARV amathandiza odwala ena OCD, koma osati ena molingana ndi Dr. Gottman:

Mnyamata wina anali kumva filosofi pamene iye anayika zidutswazo pamodzi:

(Tsiku 13) Ndine wosasunthika - kotero palibe kuuma, ndipo sindifuna akazi. Nthawi ina ndinkasala ndili ku koleji. Zinatha masabata atatu. Koma ndinabwereranso chifukwa ndimaganiza kuti ndikusandulika amuna okhaokha - popeza sindinkagonana ndi atsikana omwe amadutsa. Ndinaganiza, "bwanji sindikufuna kuwamenya?" Ndinayamba kuda nkhawa. Ndinazindikiranso kuti ndinalibe libido. Ndipo ndidakhala ndi vuto lalitali ndi HOCD, lomwe tsopano likuzimiririka momwe sindikuganizira. Ndizosangalatsa momwe malingaliro athu amagwirira ntchito, zabwino ndi zoyipa.

Posakhalitsa amaonekera bwino kuti HOCD ndi osati kukana:

Kumbukirani chinthu chimodzi, sikungakane! ICHI chinali chinthu chovuta kwambiri kuti ndimvetse. Ngati mumakonda atsikana, mwakhala ndi atsikana, ndipo mumangoganiza za atsikana. Zikhala choncho nthawi zonse. Tsopano ndichifukwa chake OCD ALI WOCHITA. Ndinu ubongo uli pamalo odabwitsa ndipo zizindikilo zanu sizikuwombera moyenera. Muyenera kuvomereza kuti mutha kukhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Izi zikumveka ngati zamisala, ndikudziwa, koma ayi. Mukadikirira kuti muchitepo kanthu kena za izo zimafika poipa kwambiri. Ndikhulupirireni. Nyamula bukulo ndikufotokozera wodwalayo zomwe zikuchitika.

Akakuwuzani kuti mwina ndinu gay, dzifunseni ngati ndizo zomwe mukufuna. Ngati sichoncho, pezani wothandizira yemwe amadziwa za OCD. Komanso musapeze wothandizira yemwe amakulimbikitsani nthawi zonse. Izi sizothandizanso. Komwe ndili pano, sikunapite 100% koma ndiyabwino kwambiri. Ndikhoza kuganizira kwambiri za moyo.

Fotokozerani wamankhwala wanu zomwe zikuchitika. Akakuwuzani kuti mwina ndinu gay, dzifunseni ngati ndizo zomwe mukufuna. Ngati sichoncho, pezani wothandizira yemwe amadziwa za OCD. Komanso musapeze wothandizira yemwe amakulimbikitsani nthawi zonse. Izi sizothandizanso. Komwe ndili pano, sikunapite 100% koma ndiyabwino kwambiri. Ndikhoza kuganizira kwambiri za moyo.

HOCD sikunayankhidwe kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha:

Kwakhala kanthawi kuchokera pamene ndinapanga ndondomeko yanga yomaliza. Mkhalidwe ukutsatira:

HOCD yapita kwanthawi yayitali tsopano, zikuwonekeratu kuti sichinali gawo la "kutuluka", inali chabe matenda amisala omwe amayamba chifukwa chosiya zolaula. Sindikulemba china chilichonse chokhudza izi, chifukwa moona mtima sindifuna ngakhale kuganiza za gawo la moyo wanga lomwe nditha kulifotokoza ngati gehena, ndipo sindingakhale ndikukokomeza.

Zosintha zabwerera ku 100% (kupatula masiku angapo nditaonera zolaula) ... Ndikukumbukira nthawi zomwe ndimagunda zolaula, panalibe chilichonse padziko lapansi chomwe chingandilimbikitse.

Nayi zokambirana pakati pa anyamata ena:

"Mnzanga ndi ine timalankhula zakusokonezana kwakugonana. Iye adati, 'Ndakhala ndikulephera kuzizindikira. Ndimapita pa intaneti ndipo ndimawona china chake chomwe chimandipangitsa kuganiza kuti si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha; ndiye ndikuwona china chake chomwe chimandipangitsa kuganiza kuti ndine ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha; koma kenako ndikuwona china chake chomwe chimandipangitsa kuganiza kuti ndimagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndazindikira kuti ndimagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzanga! '”

[Mnyamata wina] Kenako ndidayamba kuganiza kuti sizokhudza chikhalidwe koma magwiridwe antchito. Pomaliza, ndidayamba kufufuza zinthu, kenako mwamwayi ndidathera pano.

[Mnyamata wina] Zili ngati kuti opanga amadziwa zomwe akuchita kuti anyamata azichita zolaula. Ndinawerenga kwinakwake kuti mnyamata yemwe ali ndi vuto la PMO amangoyang'ana zolaula. Tsopano sindinafike pamalopo, koma kamodzi pa tchuthi ndinayesa amodzi amisasa yabodza. Chiwonetsero chazogonana chinafika (zowonekera pazenera mphindi zingapo zilizonse mphindi zochepa) ndipo ngakhale sindinakhalepo ndi "Ndikufuna ndikhale ndikumverera", zinali kuyamba kukweza… m'njira yachilendo, chidwi.

Panali ac * ck, ena t! Ts, nkhope ya mkazi, kupsompsona, w * nking, bl * w ntchito. Zinali ngati gulu lachilendo lazinthu zodziyimira palokha zomwe zimangoyenda mozungulira zomwe sizinamveke kwathunthu kwa ine chifukwa sindine wotere. Koma panali kulumikizana kofooka pakati pazinthu zonse zofunikira zomwe zimadzetsa chidwi. Ndikuganiza kuti mayanjanowo anali kupangitsa malingaliro anga kuganizira kwambiri (za kugonana) kuti ayesetse kuzigwiritsa ntchito mosazindikira, kotero malingaliro anga anali kukwera mwatsopano popanda ine kuzindikira. Sindinawonenso zinthuzo, koma ndizodabwitsa momwe zinthuzi zingakukhudzireni. Tsopano ndidziwa anthu ena, mwachitsanzo, amafika mpaka pakugonana ndi nyama, koma sichoncho yendani uku mukuganiza "Wow fufuzani mawere pa ng'ombe ija!".. Kodi amatero?" Mwachidule, PMO wochuluka ndi mindf * ck.

Zithunzi zolaula zambiri ndizongopeka zomwe "zimapanga" zokonda, osati zokopa zazomwe zilipo kale zogonana. Mnyamata wina anati:

Ndakhala ndikulimbana ndi HOCD kuyambira ndili ndi zaka 15. Izi zidachitika nditangoyang'ana pee / kutambasula zolaula kenako ndikuwerenga nkhani yonena kuti mwana uyu anali wotchuka pagulu lachiwerewere. Zinakhala zovuta kuyambira pamenepo kupita patsogolo ... makamaka nditayamba kuwona zolaula. Ndine wotsimikiza kuti sindikanapanga HOCD ngati sikunali zolaula pa intaneti. Ndikuganiza kuti ziwirizi ndizogwirizana.

Nayi malangizo ochokera kwa amene akulimbana ndi nkhawa iyi:

HOCD yanga yakhala ikuyendetsa ntchito zokhudzana ndi zolaula. Ankawatsatira chitsanzo chophweka:

1. Onani zithunzi zolaula / chinachake chokweza

2. HOCD ikuyamba, imandipangitsa kuyamba kuyamba kudandaula

3. HOCD imakula kwambiri, imayamba kundipangitsa ine kukayikira kugonana kwanga

4. HOCD imanditsimikizira kuti nditsimikizire ndekha kuti sindine gay mwa kuwona zolaula

5. Ndikumaliza ku zolaula, HOCD imatha ndipo imamva ngati chithunzithunzi chogwera.

Ndinatsatira izi:

- Kusazindikira: Osasanthula chilichonse pa HOCD. Osaphunzira za izi. Osaphunzira milandu ina. ZISIRE NOKHA. Ndikudziwa kuti othandizira ena amatsutsa HOCD. Ichi mwina ndi chinthu chabwino kuchita, koma mukakhala osokoneza bongo omwe ali ndi HOCD monga, tinganene kuti ndi chizindikiritso chake, kapena gawo limodzi la zosokoneza bongo, SINGATHE "kutsutsa malingaliro" chifukwa zimawapangitsa kukhala oipitsitsa, ndipo pamapeto pake mumayambiranso zolaula. Kunena zowona mtima, simudzakhala ndi mwayi wokhala nawo paka-gehena pomenya izi mukamakonda zolaula. Kwa inu, chifukwa munayamba kukonda zolaula [zolaula zilizonse], "gay" imalumikizidwa ndi zolaula zanu, chifukwa chake "kukumbatirana" ndi ma spike monga momwe othandizira ambiri amati mwina si lingaliro labwino! Mpaka pomwe mutasankha zolaula, pomwepo HOCD idzakhala itatha kwambiri.

- Kugawa nthawi: Phunzirani pamene mumakhala ndi nkhawa za HOCD, kwa ine zinali madzulo (chifukwa ndipamene ndimakonda kumwa zolaula za ola la 5, mwangozi? Ndikukayika.). Munthawi imeneyi, onetsetsani kuti mwakonzeratu zina. Khalani pokambirana ndi wachibale wanu kutali ndi kompyuta, kapena itanani mnzanu kapena wachibale, pitani koyenda / kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndi zina zambiri.

- Kuthamanga: Ngati mukuyamba kutsinya, muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito njira zachitetezo mwachangu. "OCCUPY MODE" ndiye chitetezo changa chachikulu. Ndidayiyika mitu yayikulu chifukwa ndikamayang'ana, ndimati "OCCUPY MODE" m'mutu mwanga ndikulingalira chikwangwani chachikulu cha neon chomwe chidalembedwa. Kenako ndimachita china chilichonse - CHIMODZI - chomwe chimafunikira mphamvu yakuthupi ndi yamaganizidwe. Monga kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikuthana ndi masamu, ngakhale kuwerengera mukakweza zolemera kungagwire ntchito. Lowetsani OCCUPY MODE kwa mphindi khumi ndi zisanu. Kumbuyo kwa mutu wanu, ganizirani chikwangwani cha "OCCUPY MODE" ndikuchita chilichonse chomwe muyenera kuchita. Patapita kanthawi, kukwerako kudzatha.

Kupewa zolaula zogonana zathetsa chikoka changa. Monga zenizeni, sindimamvanso kalikonse. Ndimakumbukira "momwe ndimamverera" momwe ndimamvera, koma kulibenso. Ziri zovuta kukhulupirira kuti zaka ziwiri zapitazo, ndinafikira pomwe chinthu chachikulu chomwe chidandichititsa kuti ndikhale ndi zolaula, koma tsopano ndizovuta kufotokoza momwe kusinthaku kwachitikira. Kudzutsa akazi enieni kwakula kufika pamlingo womwe ndayiwala chifukwa cha zaka zolaula.

Ndapeza zotchinga za HOCD pafupifupi masabata a 4 kwa ine. Kutha kwa sabata 2 / kuyamba kwa sabata 3 kumakhala kovuta kwambiri nthawi zonse. Ndine 110% wotsimikiza kuti HOCD + Zolaula ndizofanana. Mukamayang'ana zolaula, HOCD siyolimba chifukwa kukopa zolaula sikulimba, ndipo pakapita nthawi kumatha konse.

Mwa njira, iyi si njira imodzi yokhayo. Si zachilendo kuti amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha azichita zolaula molunjika kapena ngakhale amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Ndawawonapo pa intaneti yonse pamawebusayiti osiyanasiyana okhudzana ndi zolaula. Ndikuganiza kuti mwina ndizoyipa kwambiri kuposa momwe timakhalira. Kwa ife ndi nkhawa yaying'ono, yotikwiyitsa yomwe imatipangitsa kukayikira zomwe timagonana. Kwa mwamuna wamasiye, yemwe sanakondepo akazi, yemwe wabisa malingaliro ake enieni pagulu, kenako adalimba mtima kuti apeze kuti atha kukopeka ndi akazi pambuyo pake (!!!). Izi ziyenera kukhala zoyipa kwambiri.

Koma chowonadi ndichakuti, anyamata omwe akufunsidwawo sakuwongoka. Samakopeka ndi akazi. Iwo ali mu bwato lomwelo monga ife, koma motsutsana.

Pang'onopang'ono machiritso

Ndinayenera kuthana ndi HOCD ndipo ndikuchitabe nawo pang'ono. Ndi chinthu chomwe mumadziwa sichiri chenicheni koma cholimbikitsa kuchokera muubongo wanu chifukwa chazinthu zina. Momwe ndaphunzirira kuthana nawo mwina ndikunyalanyaza malingaliro, osawakumbukira kapena kuyesa kupenda ndikudzipangira ndikudziuza nokha kuti ndinu owongoka, ingowalolani abwere azipita. Zili ngati mutakhala ndi malingaliro oti mumangobaya wina kumaso, simukanachita izi mongololeza malingaliro kuti adutse.

Njira ina ndikungoseka. Nenani kuti muli ndi bwenzi lanu ndipo mwachisawawa mumaganizira zompsompsona kapena china chake, ingonena mumtima mwanu, "O amuna ndine wokonda amuna okhaokha ndikufuna kupsompsona mnzanga". Moona mtima, HOCD ndichinthu chovuta chomwe ndidakumana nacho ndikupangitsa kuti ndiyang'ane mkati kwambiri. Ndikudziwa kuti ndalunjika; Kuyambira pomwe ndidayamba zonse zomwe ndimaganiza za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndikutsimikiza kuti zinali zolaula zomwe zidandigwira. Pambuyo poyambiranso ndikupita HOCD sizimandikhudza konse, ndipo ndikakhala womasuka masiku sindimakumbukira kuti ndili nawo.

Chiyeso:

Ndidamwa kwambiri usiku umodzi ndikukhala ndi lingaliro m'mutu mwanga kuti ndiyenera kuyesa kusinthana kuti ndidziwe zowona zanga zogonana / zokopa. Ndikadali oledzera, ndidayankhula ndi m'modzi pa intaneti ndikukumana. Ndinadzuka pang'ono ndikaganiza zolaula, koma zomwe sizinachitike sizinamveke bwino ndipo ndinakhumudwa. Sindingathe kuchita chilichonse ndipo ndimayenera kusiya.

Izi zitachitika, ndinali pafupi ndi atsikana angapo omwe anali mwa ine. Ndidadzuka ndipo ndidakondwera ndikumangocheza / kucheza nawo. Zinamveka bwino. Chifukwa chake, ngakhale sindinkafunika kulimbikitsidwa, ndikuganiza kuti zikutsimikiziranso kuti kukopeka ndizomwe zimachokera ku zolaula ndipo sikumachita bwino kwenikweni pamoyo. Ndikanadziwa izi kuyambira nthawi yomaliza yomwe ndinasiya zolaula ndikusiya kukopeka ndi chilichonse chokhudzana ndi zolaula.

Mwamuna wina anafotokoza njira yake:

Pamene mukupenga ndi malingaliro ovuta, pezani chinachake choti muchite chomwe chidzatsogolera maganizo abwino. Kuyenda mu chilengedwe, kapena chithunzi, kapena chinachake, mwinamwake. Poyamba zimamveka ngati sizikugwira ntchito kapena zimangokulepheretsani kuganiza, koma zikugwira ntchito. Mudzawona patapita nthawi, mukuuza ubongo wanu kulingalira kapena kuchita chinthu china pamene maganizowa akuwuka ndipo ADZAKUMWA posachedwa.

Ganizirani izi motere. Malingaliro ndi mtundu wa mphamvu ya astral / etheric. Chifukwa amapangidwa ndi mphamvu chilichonse chomwe mungachite poyesera kulimbana nawo kapena kuwasintha amangolumikizana nawo mwamphamvu ndikuwapangitsa kukhala olimba. Ngakhale kudana kwanu ndi iwo kumawalimbikitsa. Osadana ndi zolaula [komanso osayesa], izi zimapangitsa kuti zibwererenso zovuta zomwe mungakhale nazo.

General OCD:

Kuyambira pomwe ndinayamba zolaula, ndakhala ndikuwona kuti ndili ndi zizindikilo zochepa za OCD. Sizinali zovuta, koma ngati zinthu sizinali motsatira dongosolo mchipinda changa, zidandivuta kuti ndizilingalira ntchito yanga. Tsopano, zili ngati asowa kwathunthu. Ndikadali munthu wokhazikika, koma ndizotsika kwambiri pamndandanda wazomwe ndizofunika. Ndidzachotsa zinthu zofunika, ndisanayambe kukonza zoyipa zanga.

Mnyamata wina:

Inde… ngakhale siyinasiye OCD, chizolowezi changa choluma misomali chatha. Ndinkakonda kuwatafuna, ndipo nthawi zonse amangokhala zonyansa kumapeto kwa zala zanga.

Mnyamata wina:

N'chimodzimodzinso ndi mnzanga, ndikakhala kuti sindikuwona zolaula ndipo sindimangobwereka kapena zina zimachoka. Ndikuwona kulumikizana ndi PMOing ndi OCD. Zinachokera ku chizolowezi cha PMO kwa ine.

Malangizo othandiza othandiza:

Ndimaliza izi ndikulemba mndandanda wa njira zothandizira inu omwe akukhudzidwa ndi izi:

  1. Ngati mwayang'ana zolaula za Shemale / zolaula / zolaula zivomerezeni. Izi zikuwoneka ngati zovuta kundidalira, koma mukadzatero, ndizosavuta kuwona ngati mumakondadi kapena ayi. Mwinamwake munali ndi chidwi? Kapena adachitiridwa nkhanza ndi anyamata kapena atsikana, kapena mungokhala ndi malingaliro otseguka ndipo mukufuna kuti mufufuze, koma muyenera kuvomereza zomwe mwachita, ngakhale zitakhala zosemphana ndi inu nokha.
  2. Palibe munthu, osati katswiri wa zamaganizo, osati bwenzi, osati webusaitiyi, angakuuzeni yemwe inu muli. Izi ndi zofunika kuti mumvetse bwino. Ubongo wanu umapangitsa zinthu kuti zikuwopsyezeni, kukuyesani kuti musachite chilichonse m'moyo wanu. Dziwani kuti izi ndizo nkhawa komanso osati zomveka.
  3. MUSAMAMVELE munthu amene akunena kuti muyenera kupita kukayesa zinthu zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Izi zitha kukhala zotsutsana koma sindisamala. Ngati mwakhala mukuwongola moyo wanu wonse, mudzakhala owongoka nthawi zonse. Palibe chifukwa chodutsira vuto lazachidziwikire. Zingokulepheretsani, komanso chimodzimodzi ndi anthu omwe ndi achiwerewere, omwe akufuna kuyesa kuwongoka. Mutha kudana ndi anzanu ndipo si za munthu amene ali wowongoka kapena wogonana.
  4. Lekani kufunafuna mayankho pa intaneti. Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani? Osapita kuma foramu, osayang'ana HOCD, osafunsa aliyense amene amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena wowongoka. Siyani izo zokha. Mumangowonjezera izi mwa kufunafuna mayankho. Khulupirirani ine, ndinkachita mantha kuti ndisintha kwamuyaya. Ndinali wamantha kuti, "OMG IYENDA KUKHALA GAY." Ndiye tsiku lina, ndinasiya kupereka. Ndinasiya kuwerenga, ndinasiya kuganizira za izi ndikuganiza, zokopa zanga kwa akazi zidabweranso kwathunthu ndipo ndidakwanitsa kuzindikira izi. Zomwe zimandibweretsa kumapeto.
  5. Nkhawa ndi nyama. Ikhoza, komabe imawongoleredwa. Zidzakupangitsani kukhulupirira zinthu zomwe sizili zoona, koma muyenera kuzindikira kuti zonsezi zimakhudzidwa ndi inu. Inu ndi amene mumayambitsa. Zochitika zitha kukupangitsani kutuluka kwambiri koma ndiye kuti mukuwongolera. Ndiloleni ndingonena kwa inu monga chonchi: Kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kwatha, kubwerera momwe ndimaganizira. Inde, pali opotoza mgulu lililonse la anthu, sizitanthauza kuti aliyense ndi wopotoza. Ndimakopeka kwambiri ndi akazi ndipo ndakhalapo. Tsopano chatsalira ndi chiyani? Zolaula zanga. Ichi ndiye chinthu chomaliza chatsalira. Malangizo anga kwa aliyense amene akumana ndi izi, siyani zolaula. Zimathandiza. Osakhulupirira zomwe katswiri wina wanena zakugonana, dzikhulupirireni. Izi zikupangitsa olamulira mulimonse zomwe zimachitika NJIRA nthawi zambiri pa reddit. Khalani kutali ndi reddit inunso. Dzipatseni mwayi woganiza ndikuchira. Ndizotheka anyamata. Palibe amene angandiuze kuti ndinali gay pakadali pano chifukwa ndimaseka bulu wanga. Ngati zili choncho, izi zidandipangitsa kukhala wamphamvu kwambiri kuposa kale. Dziwani kuti OCD ndi matenda ena okhudzana ndi nkhawa ndi othandiza kwambiri kuposa china chilichonse.

Zowonjezera zambiri ndi iwo amene (kapena anali) HOCD:

Ichi ndi chifukwa chake ulusi ngati izi zimandipweteka.

Chifukwa chakuti wina, yemwe patapita zaka amamuwona kuti ndi wachiwerewere amayenera kutsimikizira aliyense kuti HOCD kulibe, anthu amayenera kuyambiranso zolaula, omwe ali ndi HOCD.

Osadandaula syndaren, mnzake wa HOCD pano. Ndakhala ndikuvutika ndi OCD kwazaka zambiri, ndipo zawonekera m'njira zambiri komanso kunja kwa mawonekedwe a HOCD. Pafupifupi chaka chapitacho, ndinali wosokonezeka kwambiri ndipo ndinali wamantha komanso wokhumudwa kwambiri chifukwa ndinali wotsimikiza kuti zolaula za gay zimandipangitsa kukhala wogonana. Ndipo tsopano popeza ndayamba ulendo wanga wosiya zolaula, ndasiya kutaya zolaula. Sizindisangalatsanso zogonana ndipo, sindinakhalepo ndi lingaliro loti ndizogonana kuyambira chaka chimenecho. Tsopano ndiuzeni OP, ndimakhala bwanji ngati amuna ogonana amuna okhaokha?

Zomwe ndikukumana nazo, pali kusiyana pakati pa anthu omwe amadziwa kuti ndi achiwerewere chifukwa adziwa kuyambira ali achinyamata, ndipo amabisala kumbuyo kwa HOCD, ndi anthu omwe amadziwa kuti ali owongoka, amasokonezeka ndi kuonera zolaula ndikudandaula usiku ndi usana kuti zenizeni zawo ndi bodza. Zomwe sizowoneka kuti siziri.

Gary Wilson adakupatsani zambiri koma zikuwoneka kuti simukuyankha ku OP. Ndingatenge upangiri wina kwa iye popeza amadziwa zinthu zake, mumangotenga malingaliro osaganizira bwino. Chifukwa choti mwachita zachiwerewere (ndikutsimikiza kuti mwadziwa izi, ngakhale gawo la HOCD), sizitanthauza kuti HOCD kulibe.

Ndakhala mu NIGHTMARE yoyera chifukwa cha HOCD, ndipo ena ambiri akhala. Ndakhala ndikuthandizira izi, ndipo ndine umboni wotsimikizira kuti zilipo, ndikuti ndizotheka kukhala ndi zolaula zosasintha popanda kufanana ndi chifuniro chenicheni ndi chilengedwe kutero pamoyo weniweni. Chonde osandiuza zomwe ndili ndi OP, anthu samachita nazo chidwi.

Adokotala anga amakhulupirira kuti chizolowezi changa chokonda zolaula chinali ndi mphamvu pa kukula kwa OCD.

Chifukwa chake ndakhala ndikulimbana ndi zolaula kuyambira ndili ndi zaka 18. Zidakhala zovuta kwambiri m'miyezi yapitayi ya 18. Ndinayamba kumva zachilendo nditatha kuseweretsa maliseche ndipo ndimakhala ndi chifunga chaubongo kwakanthawi pambuyo pake. Zinandipangitsanso kuseweretsa maliseche pazinthu zomwe zimasemphana ndi chikhalidwe changa (palibe choletsedwa) chomwe ndimatha kudziyimira ndekha ndikumwa.

Komabe, pamapeto pake ndinayamba kuseweretsa maliseche kwa maola 2-3 nthawi imodzi ndipo ngakhale nditasamukira kumalo atsopano ndi chibwenzi changa sindinathe kuthandizira, ndikumuyembekezera kuti apite kuntchito kuti ndikaponyedwe miyala ndikuseweretsa maliseche kwa maola ambiri kumapeto. Pambuyo pake zonse zidafika pachimake pomwe ubongo wanga udasokonekera. Zoyipa zonse zomwe ndinasiya kuseweretsa maliseche zomwe sindinagwirizane nazo zinali kulira m'mutu mwanga ndikufunsa kuti ndalakwa.

Potsiriza ndidapeza chitsimikiziro kuchokera kwa wondithandizira. Sindinakhulupirire kuti ndinali ndi chizolowezi choledzeretsa, koma nditabwerezabwereza kangapo ndikumva kuwawa kwambiri komwe kumapangitsa malingalirowo, komabe ndidabwereranso kuzinthu zomwe ndimakonda, ndidavomereza kuti sanali ine kungokhala mnyamata yemwe ankakonda zolaula ndipo amayenera kuchita zinthu zomwe amakonda pamoyo wake. Pomwe ndidabwereranso komaliza zidanditengera masiku atatu kuti ndiyambe kuwonera zolaula za vanila, kuti ndilowe nawo limodzi mwazinthu zachilendo zosemphana zomwe mumachita maliseche ndi anthu ena, ndipo ndimachita maliseche ndi anthu ena kuti ndiziwonetsa zolaula. Kugonana komwe sindinaganizeko konse ngati gawo lachiwerewere masiku atatu asanachitike.

Zinanditengera kugwa pansi kuti ndizindikire momwe kuledzera kwanga kwandionongera. Ndikulingalira chifukwa chomwe ndikulembera izi ndi za wina aliyense amene akukumana ndi malingaliro ang'onoang'ono ndikudzifunsa ngati ndi chinthu chachikulu kapena ayi. Osapanga kulakwitsa komweko komwe ndidapanga. Vomerezani vutoli mwachangu momwe mungathere.

Mapiko a Porn kwa maola 4-6 masiku angapo apitawo. Kuwonjezera apo, zinaonekeratu kuti zolaula sizigwirizana ndi kugonana kwanga. Atatha maola 30 + m'masiku ochepa a 5 akuwonera zolaula, zolaula zagonana zinayamba kukhala zosautsa! Ndinayamba kufunafuna zinthu zina zonyansa komanso zochititsa mantha.

Ndili ndi HOCD, ngakhale siyotchuka monga momwe idaliri pomwe ndidayamba kuchita zolaula miyezi ingapo yapitayo ndipo sikundipundula kapena kundilamuliranso. Nthawi zina ndimamverera ngati kuti ndimagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kapena mwina nditha kukhala ndi zifukwa zina zolakwika kapena momwe ndimamvera. Ndinkakonda kuonera zolaula, ndipo pomwe sindinawonepo zolaula za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndawonapo zithunzi ndi zithunzi zosafufuza. Komanso, anzanga amalankhula ndikuchita ngati amuna kapena akazi okhaokha nthawi iliyonse yomwe timacheza, ndipo sindimakonda / zimandipangitsa kukhala wosasangalala.

Ndikudziwa kuti ndikukula ndakhala ndikukopeka ndi atsikana. Ndimakonda kukhala pafupi nawo, momwe amamvera, kumangonyamula mtsikana mmanja mwanga. Gahena ndinayamba kuwonera zolaula kuti ndione atsikana ... eya ndikudziwa kuti zomwe ndimamva komanso momwe ndimakondera ndi amuna kapena akazi anzanga sizomwe ndimakonda, zomwe zimandisangalatsa, zomwe ndimakonda tsiku lililonse.

Ndi mantha komanso nkhawa za OCD zomwe zimandipangitsa kukayikira ndekha, mozungulira. Kukhala chomwe sindine. Koma monga ndanenera sindinamvepo kwakanthawi ndipo nkhawa sizimayenderana ndi malingalirowo.

Ndikuganiza kuti zonsezi zikukhudzana ndi njira zomwe ubongo umapangidwira kuyambira zaka zolaula komanso kuzunza. Zaka 9ish zanga. Kuchokera pazomwe ndikumvetsetsa, nthawi iliyonse yomwe ndakhala ndikupita ku MF komwe ubongo wanga wapanga, kenako ndikulimbitsa njirayo, ndikupanga zinthuzo, ngati zokongola, zamaliseche zogonana nthawi yabwino ndipo ubongo wanu ungathe sindinena kusiyana. Mwabwezeretsanso ubongo wanu kukhala chinthu chatsopano. Nthawi zina kumalo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi ndimawona mnyamata wokongola kapena wamisala ndipo zimandipatsa chidwi ndipo ndimakakamizidwa kuti ndiyang'ane. Ndikuganiza kuti tsopano ndikudziwa momwe amayi amamvera akamanena kuti waukitsidwa koma osati m'njira yogonana, ngati ndizomveka.

Zinkadandaula ndikundiwopseza koma pano sindimalola kuti zindivutitse nthawi zambiri.

Izi zidachitika ndikuwonera masewera ena a basketball, ndimaganiza kuti "wosewera uyu ndi m'modzi wowoneka bwino" ndipo mwadzidzidzi malingaliro a HOCD adatulukira (Kodi ndine gay, WTF, gehena lotayirira). Sindingathe kuyiwala, ndipo usiku womwewo ndidakhala ndikuwopsa koyamba mmoyo wanga. Ndinadziyesera ndekha, ndinkaonera zolaula koma ndinkanyansidwa. Zinanditengera kanthawi (miyezi ingapo) koyamba kuti ndidziwe zamatendawa komanso momwe angawathetsere. "Ndidavomereza" malingaliro ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha chifukwa chomwe simufuna kusankha zogonana komanso Ndasiya kuyang'ana.

Posakhalitsa ndinakumana ndikukondana ndi msungwana m'modzi wamkulu, ndinayamba kugonana ndipo pambuyo pake HOCD ndi mbiri yakale kwa ine. Ine sindine wachiwerewere, sindinayambe ndakhalapo, koma palibe cholakwika ndi kukhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, palibe amene amakukakamizani kuti muchite chilichonse, ngati zingakusangalatseni ndiye chitani, ngati sichoncho osaganizira kwambiri! Anthufe timatha kuzindikira kukongola, mosasamala kanthu za mtundu wake.

Ndinkayamba kutembenuka ndi chilichonse chokhalira chachikazi pamene ndinali 13, koma izi zinasintha pamene ndinayang'ana zolaula zambiri. Ndinayamba kudera nkhaŵa zokhudzana ndi kugonana chifukwa ndinadziŵa kuti ndine wolunjika chifukwa cha mbiri yakale, koma panthawi yomweyi sindinathe kuyankha mwakuthupi. Nthawi zina ndikakhala womasuka kapena woledzera, ndimayankha momwe ndinachitira ndili wamng'ono. Zinasokoneza kwambiri chifukwa sindinayambe kugonana kapena kugonana.

Sindingaganize kuti zolaula / kuchepa kwa chidwi cha dopamine ndikadapanda kukhumudwa patsamba lino, zikomo kwambiri! [Kubwezeretsanso kwanga] kwathetseratu kukayika kulikonse chifukwa tsopano libido yanga ili pafupi kwambiri kuthana nayo. Ngakhale amayi omwe sindimayang'ana, ndimatha kugona nawo. Omvera kwambiri kwa akazi, ndikuyankha ena by akazi.

Wakale wa 28 wamwamuna.

Masiku 90, masiku 86 palibe orgasm. Zowonongeka kawiri, mwachidule ankawona zolaula kawiri (zosagwirizana ndi kukongoletsa). Kusokonezeka maganizo pakati pa anthu, HOCD, ndi kupanikizika kwambiri. Kudzidalira, mphamvu, maubwenzi olimbitsa, komanso kukondana ndi atsikana. AMA.

Mkazi apa! Cholemba choyamba… Kuyesera kuthana ndi vutoli lisanapwetekenso.

Ndakhala ndikulumikizana chaka chino, zomwe sindingathe kumaliza nawo, koma tsopano ndimawona wina pafupipafupi kwa miyezi ingapo yapitayo. Tinagonana kangapo kasanu ndi kamodzi ndipo sindinakwanitse kukhala pachiwonetsero. Ndi wokongola, wokwanira, wabwino pabedi. Timagwiritsa ntchito lube, ngakhale kugwiritsa ntchito chilimbikitso chowonjezera. I. Ndingathe. Ayi. Malizitsani. Sindinakhalepo pachiwerewere kwazaka zopitilira. Zakhala zomvetsa chisoni. Akachoka panyumba yanga atagonana, ndimayang'ana zolaula kuti ndikwaniritse ndekha. Zimakhala zomvetsa chisoni mukamvetsetsa momveka bwino zonse zitatha.

Zolaula zandipangitsa chidwi m'maganizo mwanga zomwe zandikweza. Osati kuti kugonana ndi cholakwika, koma sindine wachinyamata. Sindikufuna kucheza ndi mtsikana kapena kucheza naye. Sindinayambe ndasandulika ndi mtsikana pamasom'pamaso (kupatula kuwona kukopa, koma osatsegulidwa mwakuthupi). Koma ndimayamba zolaula kuposa chilichonse. Zandibwezeretsanso kwathunthu. Pali akazi ena omwe adakumana ndi izi? Sindinakhalepo ndi chidwi chowonera zolaula za MM kapena MMF, koma posachedwa ndadzipeza ndikutembenuka. Zikungokula pang'ono, kwa ine, osachepera.

Sindinakhale ndikulimbana ndi HOCD kwakanthawi, ndipo ndikumayambiriro kwambiri kuti ndinene kuti "ndachiritsidwa", koma malowa akuwoneka kuti akundithandiza pang'ono:

Ndidasanthula HOCD m'mbuyomu ndikupeza anthu ena atalemba za izi, koma maakaunti awo samawoneka ngati othandiza. Zinali zolimbikitsa kuti sindinali ndekha amene ndimavutika nazo, koma sizinapangitse kuti ziwopsezozo zikhale zochepa.

Pazifukwa zilizonse, masamba awiriwa adandithandizira. Popeza ndidawawerenga, ndinalibe malingaliro a HOCD, ngakhale ndimakhala ndi nkhawa ndikaganiza ndekha "Oo, sindikuganiziranso malingaliro a HOCD." Sekani

Tsamba lachiwiri limalimbikitsa kuti p / m / o azisalanso, chifukwa chake ndikutsimikiza kuti HOCD idzatsirizika kwathunthu. Njira zodziwikiratu komanso kuwonekera bwino ndimomwe amathandizidwira ndimatenda osokoneza bongo. Izi ndizosiyana, Pokhapokha musadziwonetsere zolaula (duh). Ndikuganiza kuti zimafooka mpaka kuzimiririka.

(Chaka chotsatira, kupita kumsonkhano wina) ndinali ndi HOCD yayikulu. Zapita tsopano, komabe. "Amayi ndi achigololo, amuna samveka." Monga wanena, kuti, mzanga, ndiye MFUNDO YOFUNIKA pazonsezi. Amuna sakanakhala omveka ngati munali amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Mukufuna kukumbatirana nawo pa sofa, kusisita matupi awo ndikuyenda nawo mwachikondi, NGATI mukanakhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Kodi mukuganiza kuti anthu omwe amapita kukagona ndi nyama amadandaula kuti mwachikondi amakonda mbuzi? Kodi mukuganiza kuti ali ndi nkhawa kuti tsopano chifukwa chakulira pachimake zonse zomwe angachite ndi deti kapena mbuzi kapena china chake? Zachidziwikire satero, ndipo kuchuluka kwakukwera uku (chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula) sikuli kosiyana.

Kuyambira kuyambira NoFap ndachoka ku bi mpaka pomwe. Porn zimatha kusintha ubongo wanu.

(Pofotokoza za kuchira pa Tsiku 23) Ndinalinso ndi maloto amisala. Zina zolaula. Koma sindimadzutsidwa ndi izi. Kotero tsopano ndi zolaula zomwe sizikutsogoleranso ma hetero anga, ndikuyenera kuzizindikira m'moyo weniweni. Ndine wotsimikiza kuti ndikudziwa chomwe chiri, koma ubongo wanga ukusanja zopanda pake.

Ngati winawake adafunapo golide (tidachita izi pamalo omwe ndimayendera golide pakati pa dzikolo chilimwe chatha), mukudziwa kuti muyenera kuchotsa dothi komanso zopanda pake komanso miyala yabodza kuti mupeze kachidutswa zagolide. Ndi momwe ubongo wanga umamvera pakalipano. Zimasefa kwathunthu izi, ndipo njirayi imatha kukhala yoyipa nthawi zina.

Izi ndi zomwe zidandigwirira ntchito: Ndikulingalira zochitika zina zosatheka (monga kupha amayi anga kapena kuthamangira mumsewu waukulu wamagalimoto ambiri) ndikuzindikira kuti * iwo * alibe kuthekera kodzetsa nkhawa. Mwanjira imeneyi, ndinadziwonetsa ndekha kuti malingaliro okhudza HOCD analibenso. Yesani. Ganizirani zodzipha ndikuthawa pakati pamsewu. Tengani miniti ndikulingalira mwatsatanetsatane. Inu basi munali nalo lingaliro limenelo. (Monga momwe mumaganizira za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.) Mukuyenda mozungulira ngati mantha kuti mudzipha nokha kuyambira pano? Ayi. Simungatero. Simungaganizirenso zochitikazo. Ngakhale mutatero, mumaseka. Lingaliro lomweli apa.

Zowonadi, kupitilira HOCD ndikuphunzira kusasamala. Nthawi iliyonse ikayamba kutuluka, ndimayilingalira ngati galu wokhumudwitsa. Mwinanso ngati shih tzu, ikutha. Mukamapereka chidwi kwambiri, chimakulirakulira. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono, imachepetsa ndikuchepa mpaka kuzinyalanyaza kwathunthu. Zanga nthawi zambiri zimayang'aniridwa tsopano, koma libido flatline atha kusokoneza ndi ine. Ndicho combo chomaliza. Ndikuganiza ndikadzabwezeretsa libido yanga ndikumanga ubale wabwino ndi akazi, ndiye kuti zichotsedwa.

[Age 22] Ndikungofuna kunena momwe zosangalatsa zanga zolaula zasinthira zaka zingapo zapitazi. Choyamba chinali chofewa kwambiri. Kenaka zithunzi zolaula zinkandichitira ine, ndipo zaka zingapo zapitazo ndinayamba kugonana ndi zithunzi zolaula, ndipo patapita nthawi ndinazindikila kuti ndinatembenuzidwa ndi izi. Kenaka zinaipiraipira, nthawi zina ndimakonda kuseweretsa maliseche pa zolaula. Zinandithandizira koma zitatha kumva zolakwika.

Ndikudziwa kuti sindili wolunjika, ndikamacheza, amuna ndiye chinthu chomaliza m'maganizo mwanga. Ndimakopeka kwambiri ndi atsikana okongola, ndimawawona kuchokera mtunda wamakilomita kutali, chifukwa zolaula izi zasokoneza zokonda zanga kwambiri. Ndipo ndinali wosokonezeka ngati ndinali ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma tsopano ndikuyang'ana mmbuyo ndikuzindikira kuti sindine amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndikuti ubongo wanga udakumananso ndi zolaula. Kenaka koyambirira kwa chaka chino ndinali ndi vuto la erectile. Mtsikanayo anali wokongola modabwitsa ndipo anali wokhutira nazo. Komabe sizinagwire ntchito! Ndipo miyezi ingapo yapitayo zidachitikanso, kupatula kuti mtsikanayo anali wokongola kwambiri.

Kotero ndinazindikira kuti chinachake chiyenera kukhala cholakwika kwambiri.

[Mwezi umodzi kuti ndiyambirenso] Ndinakumana ndi zozizwitsa usiku watha, ndinali pa phwando ndipo ndinapanga ndi mtsikana kumapeto (sanali wokongola kwambiri) ndipo ndinali ndi erection yayikulu nthawi yomweyo. Ndipo ndimakhala ngati, "Oo mulungu wanga," ndipo zidamveka bwino.

Ndimagwira ntchito yokonza mapulogalamu, kuthera maola ambiri pamaso pa kompyuta yanga. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kuli kosavuta kuti ndizichita maliseche zolaula ... koma tsopano ndakhala ndikuchita izi ndikuyesedwa kuti ndisiye makompyuta onse pamodzi. Facebook, BBC News, maimelo ndi zinthu zonse zomwe zimawononga nthawi yanga. Ndikungofuna ndikumane ndi atsikana!

Chifukwa chiyani ndakhala zaka 4 zomaliza zamoyo wanga kuseweretsa maliseche ndikuwononga nthawi yanga pakompyuta? Tsopano ndikuyang'ana kukumana ndi atsikana okongola, kusewera masewera omwe ndimawakonda ndikukhala athanzi.

HOCD ndi BITCH. Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti zomwe mukumva zikukhudzana ndi nkhawa osati malingaliro azakugonana. Ndakhala ndikukumana ndi vutoli panthawi yapansi ndipo ndikudziwa kuti sindine gay. Chofunika ndichakuti, ngati malingaliro a HOCD anyansa kwa inu ndipo amakupangitsani kuti mukhale ndi nkhawa… ndiabodza ndipo mukuwongoka.

Chodetsa nkhaŵa ndi nkhawa zingayambitse malingaliro anu. Zinanditengera nthawi kuti ndizindikire kuti pamene ndinakumana ndi HOCD, zowawa zinapangidwa ndi mantha, osati kukhalapo kwa wina.

Mukuyenera kungozisiya. Ndizokhudzana ndi nkhawa.

Mukamakhala bwino mukamanyalanyaza ndikuchita bizinesi yanu, mupeza kuti Mudzaiwala za izo. Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti ndi OCD - monga momwe mukuyimira m'mphepete mwa thanthwe ndipo malingaliro anu akuti lumpha.

Mukudziwa kuti simukufuna koma simutha kuganiza za izi. Dzidalireni nokha ndikupirira. Ine ndi inu tonse tikudziwa kuti simukufuna kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzanu monganso momwe mungafune kudumpha kuphompho!

Mwamwayi sindinatengereko zolaula zolaula kapena sindikudziwa komwe ndikadakhala pano. Zinali ngati OCD pomwe ena amapita pa TV, ndipo ubongo wanga umakhala ngati, "Popeza simungathe kuzipeza kwa atsikana, onetsetsani." Zachidziwikire kuti sindinadzutsidwe ndi thupi lamwamuna koma nkhawa yomwe idapangitsa kuti ndikhale ndi malingaliro osokoneza bongo m'mutu mwanga motero zidandipangitsa kuti ndikhale ndi vuto lalikulu la HOCD, lomwe zolaula zanga-zidapangitsa kuti ndisakwanitse kuchita bwino kwambiri. Inali nthawi yoyipa kwa ine, koma ndidapeza tsamba ili, ndinasiya kuvomereza malingalirowo, ndinasiya kuonera zolaula, ndipo zidazi zidasowa.

Poyamba ndinkadziona kuti ndine gay, koma momwe ndimayang'anirako ndimakulirakulira zolaula zamtundu uliwonse, kuphatikizapo zolaula. Chifukwa chake muyenera kukhala oyera kwa kanthawi kuti muwone bwino zomwe muli. Permalink

Osadyetsa OCD yanu. Ngati mukuyesera kudzitsimikizira nokha chowonadi pofufuza kapena malingaliro a anthu ena, mukusewera masewera a OCD. Ndiomwe mumati ndinu, nthawi. Ngati china chake chimakunyansani, zilibe kanthu kuti chimadzutsa kapena ayi, sichomwe mukukhulupirira. Ndikunena kuti muiwale za kufunsa ndikuchotsani malingaliro anu kwathunthu.

Ngati mukukhala ndi malingaliro osangalatsa ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndipo HOCD ikukumana ndi mutu wake woyipa, ndikunena kuti panthawiyi siyani kulingalira zonse pamodzi ndikuziyika mpaka malingaliro abwinobwino abwere. Simuyenera kuchita kumenyana ndi OCD kuti mupambane, zonse zomwe muyenera kuchita ndikudziwa kuti ndi wabodza.

Pamene ndinayamba kudandaula za HOCD, zinkawoneka ngati nkhawa yaikulu inkawoneka ngati ndinayambanso kugonana, pamene sindinadzutse mthupi, makamaka mosiyana. Ndakhala ndikunyalanyaza mfundo zanga kuti ndiwone ndikuyang'ana kawiri, zomwe poyamba zinayambitsa nkhawa, koma tsopano ndikuyamba kudandaula pang'ono patsiku.

Kwa zaka zopitilira 6 ndidayenda mosiyanasiyana ndikuwona zolaula zosiyanasiyana, ndidayamba kukhala ngati wopenga ndikuchita zachiwerewere… Mpaka pomwe ndidayamba kuwakonda (makamaka ma shemales aku Asia) ndipo ndidaganiziranso zopita ku Thailand kapena Japan kukumana ndi lol. Sindinayambe ndakhalapo ndi chiyanjano ndi shemales ngakhale… Koma chikhumbo changa kwa iwo chinawonjezeka mofulumira… Ndipo ndimamva kuti ndimagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Lang'anani… Pambuyo pa miyezi itatu kapena inayi ya nofap sindimatha kuiwala za shemales ndi machitidwe ena aliwonse ogonana. Ndipo tsopano ... Pambuyo pa miyezi isanu ndi itatu zolaula .. Sindikuganiza za ma shemales .. Heck Ndikuganiza kuti ubongo wanga udadziyambiranso mpaka kukonda atsikana azaka zanga (3 mpaka 4).

Malangizo anga kwa anthu ena kunjaku: Ngakhale zinthu zikayamba kusokonekera ndipo malingaliro anu akukutsimikizirani kuti mukukhala amuna kapena akazi anzanu, ndizolakwika. Ndinali ndi nthawi zomwe sindinakhulupirire njira iyi yoyambiranso ndipo ndinali ndikulakalaka kudzipha, koma zimagwira ntchito moona mtima. Mukapereka nthawi, osati maola kapena masiku angapo, pakapita nthawi yayitali mudzakhala bwino, mukamapita nthawi yayitali mumadziona kuti mukubwerera ku umunthu wanu wakale. Mupeza bwino, ndi nthawi chabe. Ngakhale mutayambiranso ndipo mumayamba kukhumudwa, muyenera kupeza mphamvu yakulowetsayo kuti ikudutseni mumdima ndikukukumbutsani kuti zonse ndi nkhani yobwereranso.

Ndimalimbikitsa kwambiri kusinkhasinkha kuti anthu abwezeretsedwe ndi HOCD. Pitani ku malo osinkhasinkha akuderako ndipo muzichita madzulo kapena kubwerera. Ndibwino kuti muwone maganizo anu popanda kuwayankha.

Ndinali ndi kachilombo ka HIV pamene ndimayang'ana zolaula, ndimayang'anitsitsa zolaula komanso zachiwerewere komanso zolaula. Koma tsopano ndilibe mavuto ndi ED ndipo ndili ndi ubale wabwino ndi chibwenzi changa. http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=5914.msg91811#msg91811

Zithunzi zolaula sizinachitikenso. Ndinayang'ana mwa azimayi osiyanasiyana osiyanasiyana, maudindo osiyanasiyana, mabowo osiyanasiyana, sizimakwaniranso. Winawake adandizunza potumiza kanema wazolaula, ndipo zidatero. Mkazi yemwe sanali mkazi weniweni, lingalirolo linanditembenuzira. Mwana uyu adandigwira zaka zambiri (mwina zisanu kapena zisanu ndi chimodzi). Sizinapite patali chifukwa ndimakondwera ndikusaka ma shemales omwe amawoneka ngati atsikana, ali ndi maliseche achimuna kapena opanda. Ndinadziwa kuti zimandipweteka, koma ndinangopitilira. Ndinkasinkhasinkha ngati ndimagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma sindimakopeka ndi amuna monga momwe ndimakondera akazi. Akazi ndiwo chinthu chokongola kwambiri padziko lapansi ndipo ndikusowa.

Pambuyo pa miyezi itatu ya nofap, ngati mtsikana angayang'ane kumene ndikuwonekera nthawi zonse. Osati zokhazo, amamva ngati maginito kwa ine. Ndimakopeka kwambiri ndi akazi ndipo ndikufuna kuyanjana nawo ndikuwakhudza. Ndikawona akazi pamaso pa nofap, ndimayenda ndikuganiza, "Sindikusamala za inu, tsalani". Lero ndilosiyana kotheratu, ndimakopeka ndi azimayi ambiri m'njira yachikale. Ndimakonda kwambiri. Zilibe zolaula kwa ine.

hocd: wakupha kwambiri wa libido.

Ndazindikira chifukwa chomwe ndikusowa libido. Zomwe zimakhudza kwambiri zolaula ndi imfa ya chilakolako chogonana. Chodabwitsa ndichakuti ndakhala ndikusowa libido yanga pazaka khumi zapitazi, kuyambira zaka 13. Ndidakonda zolaula kwa miyezi 3 yokha, mpaka nditasiya kuzizira. Chifukwa chiyani, ndiye kuti libido yanga yakhalapo kwa zaka khumi nditasiya zolaula? Lingaliro langa linali maliseche chabe. Ndimaganiza kuti chizolowezi chodziseweretsa maliseche chalepheretsa malingaliro anga kupeza zina zonse zomwe amafunikira, potero ndimagwiritsa ntchito ubongo wanga mopitilira muyeso. Koma posachedwa ndazindikira kuti kusowa kwanga chilakolako chogonana kumachokera ku vuto lalikulu kwambiri.

Wowona, wakupha mwakachetechete wa libido yanga ndi nkhawa yomwe idachokera ku hocd. Kulakalaka kugonana komwe kumachokera ku hocd kumabweretsa nkhawa, ndipo ndikumva nkhawa kumeneku komwe kumatsitsa libido. Chifukwa cha izi ndi chosavuta. Chikhumbo chakugonana ndikudzuka kumalumikizidwa ndi kupumula. Kuda nkhawa kumatsutsana kotheratu ndi chilakolako chogonana. Libido imakhudzidwa ndi dongosolo lamanjenje lomvera. Mukakhala ndi nkhawa m'maganizo ndi m'thupi lanu, imayambitsa matenda amanjenje, motero imasokoneza libido.

Nditangowerenga izi koyamba masiku angapo apitawo, zinali ngati mababu akuwala m'mutu mwanga. Inali mphindi yabwino kwambiri ya "AHA". Zaka zambiri zakulakalaka zogonana zomwe sizinasonyeze malingaliro anga enieni ogonana zidabweretsa lingaliro labodza lodzuka. Kudzutsa kwabodza kudalidi "kudodometsa" komwe kumachitika chifukwa chakugwiritsa ntchito kwathu kukukwera kukhala mitundu yatsopano yomwe siyimasokoneza komwe tikukhala. Koma "kudabwitsika" uku kudabweretsa nkhawa, zambiri zomwe sindinazizindikire zachikumbumtima. Ngakhale sindinadziwe panthawiyo, ichi ndiye chomwe chimandipangitsa kuti ndisakhale ndi libido.

Kuyambira pomwe ndidapeza izi, zasintha kwambiri kwa ine. Kusadziwa zenizeni zomwe zandichitikira kwakhala gwero lalikulu lazokhumudwitsa komanso nkhawa. Koma tsopano ndazindikira chifukwa chake ndakhudzidwa momwe ndakhalira. Ndipo tsopano popeza ndapeza chidutswa chosowacho, ndimamva kukhala wamtendere kwambiri ndikudzidalira. Kupsinjika kwanga kwatha, ndine wokondwa, womasuka, komanso wodekha tsopano kuposa kale.

Ngakhale zidapanga kusiyana pathupi langa. Ndili ndi nkhawa mumkhosi mwanga / kumtunda kwakumbuyo. Ndikulingalira kuti ndi msana wanga wapamwamba. Dera ili limamverera ngati katundu wachotsedwa, ndipo limakhala lolimbikitsa… ngati momwe mumamvera mukangotuluka kumene kusamba kotentha. Sindikudziwa ngati awa ndi malingaliro anga chabe, koma ndikumvadi kusiyana.

Ndiyenera kusamala kuti ndisasokoneze izi ndikumangokhalira kukhumudwa zomwe zimachitika atapanga zisankho zosintha moyo wawo. Koma patha masiku angapo tsopano, ndipo ndikusangalalabe ndi bata lamkati lomwe sindinakhale nalo kuyambira ndili mwana. Izi zonse zimangokhala chifukwa chodziwa zomwe zinali zovuta kwa ine. Ndachotsa mistique komanso osadziwika za matenda anga. Chifukwa chake zandipatsa chiyembekezo. Zomwe zidandipangitsanso kuti ndizindikire momwe ndakhala ndikumva chisoni kwambiri ndakhala moyo kwazaka zambiri tsopano.

Ngati muli ndi hocd, kapena mtundu wina uliwonse wokonda zachiwerewere kapena nkhawa, izi zikuyenera kukhala cholinga chanu chachikulu. Ngati mungapeze njira yothanirana ndi nkhawa yanu, muyenera kutero kuti mupezenso bwino. Kupewa nkhawa ndikofunikira monga kupewa PMO.

Kodi ndine gay .. ?? Zokwanira ndi zokwanira

Lembani kuchokera: wilder pa May 31, 2014, 03: 51: 04 AM

"Mwinanso mumangokhala ndi nkhawa chifukwa inunso, monga ena ambiri, munakulira m'banja momwe kukopeka ndi akazi ndiye njira yokhayo yabwino."

Sindikudziwa ngati ndilo vuto, ngakhale ndikuganiza kuti zingawonjezere nkhawa. Malo omwe ndimakhala komanso makolo anga sanakhalepo ndi vuto lokhala amuna okhaokha, ndipo inenso sindinakhalepo. Nthawi zonse ndimangodziwa kuti sindine.

Mpaka nthawi zonse PMO'ing adadza kwa ine ndipo ndinayamba kukayikira: HOCD. Ngakhale osawopa kuti malo anu akukutsutsani .. ndizowopsa kumva ngati ena omwe simunawakayikirepo m'moyo wanu angotembenuka.

PMO wanga adayambitsa OCD sichimangokhala zogonana. Lingaliro langa ndilakuti nkhawa iyi yomwe imayambitsidwa ndi OCD * imamamatira pazonse zomwe muli nazo kudziwa ndi. Mwachitsanzo, ndili ndi chizindikiritso cholimba ndi ntchito yanga. Ndimadziona kuti ndine munthu wolimbikira ntchito. OCD inandipangitsa kukayikira ngati ndimakondanso ntchito yanga, momwemonso inandipangitsa kukayikira ngati ndinali mwa akazi. Ndimazindikira kuti ndine munthu wokhulupirika komanso wofunitsitsa kukhala ndi ubale wolimba. Koma OCD wanga adandipangitsa kukhulupirira kuti sindimakonda bwenzi langa panthawiyo .. ngakhale panalibe chifukwa chokhulupirira choncho. Tsopano mutha kunena kuti: Mwina mwangokondedwa kumene. Ndikudziwa momwe zimamvera, komabe. Ndipo izi sizinamve choncho. (Nditha kupitiliza ndizizindikiritso zingapo zomwe ndili nazo, zomwe OCD adayesa kuchita nazo)

Ngati ndikhulupilira moona mtima kuti ndine gay, sindikadakhala ndi vuto louza makolo anga ndikuyamwa tambala onse padziko lapansi. Ngati ndimakhulupiriradi kuti ntchito yanga sinali ntchito yomwe ndimagwira .. Ndikadasiya. Koma ndimadziwa kuti sindimamva choncho. Chinachake chinali kuyesera kuti ndizembera ndi mutu wanga, potsutsa zizindikiritso zomwe ndimayamikira kwambiri. (Tsopano pali china choyenera kunenedwa chokhudza ine kukhala ndi kudziwika kwamphamvu kwa maudindo ndi zinthu zakuthupi, koma kukambirana kosiyana kotheratu)

OCD ikadzayang'ana nkhope yake yoipa, izi zimakuchititsani kukayikira za zizindikilozi kapena zinthu zomwe mumakonda kutenga (monga kugonana kwanu). Zochitika zachirengedwe ndi kuyesa izi. Anthu ambiri amatero, chimodzimodzi inenso. Timayamba kuganiza nthawi zonse ngati timakondadi ntchito yathu, kapena timakondadi bwenzi lathu, kapena timakopekabe ndi akazi. Tikayamba kuyesa 'kutsutsana' ndikukhutitsa malingaliro OCD amatiponyera: OCD iyamba kukangana.

Nthawi yotsatira mukawona mtsikana, mumakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri kwakuti mwina simungaganize zokopeka. Simumva kalikonse, chifukwa chake mumayambiranso kukayikira .. "O, mnyamatayo, sindinamvepo kuti * zing * nditawona msungwana wokongola uja .. INE ndine mwamuna weniweni?". Mnyamata akangodutsa ndipo ukuganiza kuti ndiwokongola .. nkhawa zako zimayambanso: "Shit, mnyamatayo anali wotentha .. Ndikumva m'thupi langa."

Vuto ndiloti nthawi zonse mumayamba kuyang'ana atsikana kuti akudziwitseni kuti mudakali hetero, ndikuyamba kuyang'ana anyamata kuti mudzitsimikizire kuti simuli achiwerewere. Mkazi aliyense yemwe simumamupeza wokongola amakudetsani nkhawa, ndipo amuna onse omwe mumawona kuti ndi okongola (zomwe sizisonyeza kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha) amakudetsani nkhawa chimodzimodzi. Zoyipa zomwezo: Nthawi iliyonse ukawona mtsikana yemwe amakukopa, m'malo mongoganiza kuti "Hei, mtsikana ameneyu amawoneka bwino". Mukuganiza: "Yesu .. mwina sindine gay!". Nthawi zonse mukawona munthu woyipa mumaganiza kuti "Tsopano sindimakopeka ndi MUNTHU ameneyo! Kodi ndingayamwe bere wake? Ayi, ayi. ”

MUKUFUNA nthawi zonse kuti mutsimikizire kuti simuli achiwerewere komanso amakopeka ndi akazi. Chifukwa chake mwachiwonekere SIMUNGATHE kumasuka ndikungokopeka ndi akazi. Mumakhala ndi malingaliro olakwika. Ikuwonongerani tsiku lanu lonse. Ingoganizirani kuyenda mozungulira ntchito yanu tsiku lonse mukuganiza kuti "Kodi ndikusangalala ndi ntchitoyi? Kodi ntchito imeneyi ndimaikonda? ”. Mwayi wake: simusangalala ndi ntchito yanu.

Izi ndizo malingaliro anga okhudza HOCD ndi PMO okhudzana ndi OCD, ndikuyembekeza kuti amathandiza. Amanditsimikizira ndikakhala ndikukayikakayika ngakhale kuti zikhoza kukhala zovuta kwa ine nthawi zina. (Ndikamangobwereranso, btw.)

OP. Lekani kuyang'ana pa craigslist, lekani kuyang'ana pa OKCupid, muyime kuyang'ana pa malo ochezera, malonda a masewera achiwerewere, malonda a chirichonse. Nthawi zonse mumayesa kuyimitsa kwanu, kuti muwone ngati anyamata ndi abambo angakulimbikitseni. Kodi mukuganiza kuti izi ndi zabwino kuposa kuyang'ana zolaula? Kuwukitsidwa kulipobe. Dopamine akadali pomwepo. Kusangalatsa, chisangalalo .. chiripobe!

Ndikukuwonetsani kuti mulowetse pulogalamu ya ColdTurkey ndikuyika mu craigslist ndi malo aliwonse omwe amakupangitsani kukayikira za kugonana kwanu. ZINTHU ZONSE ZA FUCKING ZIMENE ZAKUTHANDIZANI KUTI MUDZAKHALA WANU NDI WOTSATIRA.
Tsopano. Pitani kokayenda. Yendani, mupeze mpweya wabwino. Kambiranani ndi anyamata. (Osati mwanjira imeneyo.) Pitani mukamwe madzi (pitani mowa mowa, mozama).

Yesani kuona ngati kukhala kutali ndi mawebusaiti onse kumakuthandizani. Kumbukirani: Kuyezetsa ngati mutakopeka ndi amayi poyang'ana pa malonda osokoneza bongo kuli kovuta kwambiri. Perekani maganizo anu osachepera 30 masiku a 60 kuti apumule ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti muwona kusiyana.

Simuli achiwerewere. Simukonda ziweto.

* Ndimagwiritsa ntchito OCD posowa mawu abwinoko pano. Sindikukhulupirira kuti ndili ndi OCD yathunthu. Chokhacho chokhudzana ndi PMO.

My hocd paranoia yatha. Ndinawona sabata limodzi ku nofap kuti malingaliro anga a hocd anali akusowa. Ichi chinali chimodzi mwazifukwa zazikulu zomwe sindinasiyireko nofap kuyambira pamenepo. Tsopano ndili masiku 6 kuchokera masiku 90, ndipo sinditha ngakhale nditafika. Ndipitiliza. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa ikusintha moyo wanga. Momwe ndimaonera: Tsopano popeza ndili ndi mphamvu zambiri pazogonana, ndigonjetsa zizolowezi zanga zazing'ono. Pamapeto pa tsikulo, tonse tikupita kunyumba. Mwamwayi munthu aliyense ndikungodziwa hocd Idzatha. Nofap ndichinthu china. Ndikusintha kwa moyo motsimikiza. http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2uw8q3/do_you_have_any_questions_…