National Center on Sexual Proseitation imalemekeza Gary Wilson ndi Mphotho ya 2021 #CESESummit Founders Award.
Mwinamwake kale kapena muli ndi vuto loonera zolaula. Mwinamwake mwataya chibwenzi ndi munthu amene mumamukonda kwambiri chifukwa chilakolako chawo cha zolaula chinali champhamvu kuposa momwe amakufunirani. Kapenanso mwina mungakhale kholo kapena osamalira omwe mukuda nkhawa kuti mwana wanu akhoza kuwona zolaula pa intaneti. Ngati ndi choncho, muyenera kudziwa kuti a Gary Wilson - munthu waluso kwambiri, wamakhalidwe abwino, wolimba mtima, komanso wolimba mtima yemwe adamenyera nkhondo inu - wamwalira.
Mwa zina zomwe adachita, Gary anali wolemba buku logulitsa kwambiri Ubongo Wanu pa Zolaula: Zithunzi Zolaula pa Intaneti ndi Emerging Science of Addiction, wowonetsa nkhani yotchuka kwambiri ya TEDx "The Great Porn Experiment" (mawonedwe miliyoni 14+), ndi Wopanga tsamba lanu la YourBrainOnPorn.com, nyumba yosungira kafukufuku waposachedwa, media, komanso malipoti anu pazokhudza zolaula komanso zomwe zingachitike.
Ngakhale adachita chidwi kwambiri ndi gululi, Gary adzamukumbukira chifukwa cha kukoma mtima, kumvera ena chisoni, komanso kulimba mtima. Koposa zonse, Gary anali munthu wabwino. Tonsefe ku NCOSE tinali achisoni kumva kuti pa Meyi 20, Gary adamwalira patadutsa zaka zambiri akudwala.
Ndizovuta kwa ife kufotokozera kukula kwa kutayika komwe kupita kwa Gary kumatanthauza banja lake, abwenzi ambiri ndi ogwirizana nawo, komanso gulu lolimbana ndi zovulaza za zolaula zomwe adachita. Nkhani ya Gary ya TEDx, tsamba lawebusayiti, ndi buku lake zidapereka mayankho omwe amuna ndi akazi ambiri omwe sanathe kuthana ndi zolaula zawo anali atazifuna kalekale. Ndi chifundo chozama kwambiri mu chidziwitso chake chazomwe amafufuza pazakufufuza za chikhalidwe cha anthu komanso zaukadaulo pazokhudza zolaula, Gary adapulumutsadi anthu ambiri ku zolaula komanso kutaya mtima. Anasonkhezeredwa ndi kukoma mtima ndipo sanapemphe kanthu kalikonse.
Pomwe nkhani yake ya TEDx idamupangitsa kukhala womvera pa intaneti, Gary adakonda kukhala kutali ndi owonekera ndikuthandizira anthu ena kuwala. Iye ndi mkazi wake Marnia Robinson adapanga gulu logwira ntchito, akugwira ntchito mwakhama kuseri kuti athandize omwe akufuna kumasuka ku zizolowezi zolaula, komanso omenyera padziko lonse lapansi akufuna kafukufuku waposachedwa. Chimodzi mwazinthu zazikuluzikulu zomwe adachita ndikulemba ndi kupanga kafukufuku pazotsatira zolaula pa intaneti patsamba lanu YourBrainOnPorn.com.
Kumenya molimba mtima kwa Gary, kusanthula kochita kafukufuku kunali koopsa kwambiri m'makampani oonera zolaula. Izi zidabweretsa kuzunza kosalekeza komanso kowuma, komwe Gary molimba mtima adatsutsa. Anali wolimba mtima pakutsimikiza kwake, osasokera pa zowona.
Monga Gary adanenera kale,
"Njira zoletsa zolaula zaukadaulo ndizogwirizana ndi zachiwerewere zimalepheretsa kutsutsana pazasayansi komanso pagulu. Monga momwe Fodya Wamkulu adachitapo kale, amasokoneza anthu kuti asatengere zolaula zomwe zawonetsedwa kwa iwo omwe amazigwiritsa ntchito komanso omwe amawazunza. ”
Ngakhale anali ndi mavuto ambiri pantchito yake, mnzake wapamtima anafotokoza kuti Gary adapitilizabe "kulankhula zoona panyanja yabodza."
Pamene tikulira anthu omwe abwenzi ndi okondedwa awo amwalira ngati "ngwazi" komanso "woteteza" pali njira ziwiri zomwe mungalimbikitsire cholowa cha Gary.
Gawani Gary's TEDx Talk, "The Great Porn Experiment" pazanema.
Tengani kanthawi kochepa kuti mufotokoze kuthokoza kwanu chifukwa cha kudzipereka ndi kulimba mtima kwa Gary patsamba la chikumbutso GaryWilson.moyo.
Tikuwonjezera mawu athu kwa ena masauzande ambiri kuti, "Zikomo, Gary Wilson."
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