- Anthu okwatirana ali ndi chiwerengero cha kugonana kwa 20% kuposa momwe anachitira zaka 10 zapitazo
- Wolf imagwirizanitsa izi ndi kuchuluka kwa zolaula
- Zolaula zimabweretsa mavuto azaumoyo…
- Icho chimasokoneza awo omwe amaziyang'ana ndipo amakhala ndi zotsatira za nthawi yaitali
- Zotsatira zake, zimakhudza kugonana ndi maubwenzi
By Naomi Wolf
YAM'MBUYO: 19: 44 EST, 11 December 2013
- Kafukufuku watsopano: Kufufuza kwakukulu kwasonyeza kuti mabanja a ku Britain ali ndi chiwerengero cha kugonana kwa 20% kuposa momwe anachitira zaka khumi zapitazo
Mayi wachichepere wokongola wa anyamata atatu adafunsa mwachisoni momwe mwamuna wake, m'banja losangalala komanso logonana, 'adasochera' mpaka kufika pomusiya. Tsopano akudabwa momwe angatetezere ana ake.
Wophunzira wowoneka bwino, wamwamuna waku koleji adavomereza kuti ali ndi nkhawa ndi zomwe amachitcha kuti 'kink spiral' - mawu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito pofotokoza zakumverera kutsogozedwa ndi kufunikira kwake kuti awonere zolaula zowopsa kwambiri.
Amuna omwe ali ndi zaka pafupifupi XNUMX amandiuza kuti palibe amene akudziwa kuti akhoza kugonana popanda zolaula. Mlangizi pasukulu yabizinesi amafunsa komwe angapeze thandizo kwa ophunzira ake - ambiri mwa iwo omwe amakonda kwambiri zolaula pa intaneti kotero kuti chidwi chawocho chimakhudza maphunziro awo kusukulu komanso chitukuko.
Posachedwa, kafukufuku wamkulu waku Britain, Kafukufuku Wadziko Lonse Wamakhalidwe Ogonana, omwe amafunsa mafunso anthu opitilira 15,000 azaka 16 mpaka 74, adawonetsa kuti maanja akuchepera ndi 20% pamwezi kuposa momwe adachitiranso zaka khumi zapitazo.
- Kutulukira kwatsopano: Buku latsopano la Wolf Vagina: A New Biography ikufotokoza momwe neuroscience imawonetsera momwe zolaula zimakhudzira zogonana komanso maubwenzi
Monga munthu amene wakhala akufufuza m'munda uno kwazaka zopitilira 20, ndikukhulupirira kuti tiyenera kuyang'anitsitsa kukula kwa zolaula. Kafukufuku watsopano akuwonetsa kuti zikuwononga mayankho azakugonana amuna ndi akazi komanso kuwononga maubale chifukwa chotsatira.
Buku langa lachidule, Vagina: New Biography, lonena za chilakolako cha kugonana kwachikazi, liri ndi mutu pa zofukulidwa zatsopano zokhudzana ndi chiphunzitso cha ubongo zomwe zikuwonetsa momwe zolaula zimakhudza kwambiri kugonana ndi ubale.
Chikhalidwe chotchuka chikuwonetsa izi: Kanema watsopano Don Jon amayang'ana kwambiri zolaula. Ngwaziyo imagona ndi Scarlett Johansson koma amazemba kuti aonere zolaula, popeza sanena chilichonse ndi mkazi weniweni (ngakhale Johansson!) Ndibwino. Pakadali pano, zowonetsa zachiwerewere m'mafilimu ambiri zikuyamba kukhala zachiwawa. Mu The Kids Are All Right, ndinadabwa kuwona mawonekedwe a Julianne Moore akuyamba kumenya nkhope ya mnzake pamene amayandikira chiwonetsero.
Amayi achichepere amandiuza kuti kukoka tsitsi, komanso kupsinjika pakhosi pamalungo, ndi gawo lachiwerewere masiku ano. Awa ndi 'zolaula zobisika', monga mtsikana wina ananenera. Sindikudabwitsidwa ndikusintha uku chifukwa tonse tikudziwa zachiwerewere pagulu.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti mawu ambiri akanakhala akulankhula ngati kafukufuku watsopano pankhaniyi amamvetsetsa bwino. Zomwe sitikuuzidwa - ndipo awa ndi malingaliro omwe asayansi ambiri tsopano amatsimikizira, koma anthu ochepa okha omwe amamvetsetsa - ndikuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumabweretsa mavuto azaumoyo.
Zanga sindizo khalidwe labwino. Ndikuganiza kuti akuluakulu ayenera kuwona chilichonse chimene akufuna poyera paokha (ngati zithunzi sizingagwiritsidwe ntchito ndi nkhanza kapena nkhanza zomwe zikuchitika).
Komabe chidziwitso cha zizoloŵezi zolaula n'chachidziwikire: Kuonerera zolaula kumayambitsa matenda opatsirana pogwiritsa ntchito dopamine, ubongo wa ubongo mu ubongo, umene umapangitsa anthu kumverera mozama, molimba mtima komanso abwino.
Vuto ndiloti kukwezedwa kwamitsempha kwakanthawi kochepa kumeneku kumakhala ndi zotsatirapo zazitali. Choyamba, zimatha kuyambitsa kukhumudwa kuzinthu zomwezo zomwe zakusinthirani posachedwa ndipo, pakapita nthawi yayitali, zimatha kubweretsa mwayi waukulu wakugonana.
Wogwiritsa ntchito amalakalaka zolaula zochulukirapo - zachiwawa ndi zofanizira zimayambitsa dongosolo lamanjenje lodziyimira palokha, lomwe limakhudzidwa ndikudzutsa - kuti lifike pamlingo womwewo wachisangalalo.
- 'Atsikana amandiuza kuti kukoka tsitsi, komanso kupsinjika m'khosi pakhosi, ndi njira zodziwika bwino zogonana masiku ano.'
Izi zimapangitsa kuti mafano omwe amawoneka ngati fetishism, taboo kapena zachiwawa zaka khumi zapitazo tsopano akupezeka pa malo amaliseche.
Chotsatira chachiwiri, chotsimikiziridwa ndi amuna ndi chikhalidwe chokha ndi akazi, chimakhala chovuta kuchiza. Madokotala tsopano akulengeza mliri wa anyamata achikulire omwe ali ndi thanzi labwino, opanda matenda kapena vuto la maganizo lomwe lingathe kufotokozera mavuto awo, omwe ali ndi vuto la kugonana monga kusowa ntchito kapena kuchedwa kutayika chifukwa cha izi.
Vuto lomaliza lokhudzana ndi kuchotsa chilakolako ndi chakuti amuna ayamba kuwona anzawo omwe sali okongola, ndipo sangathe kuwaukitsa ndi khalidwe lachiwerewere.
Ndipo, zachidziwikire, mayi m'modzi sangathe kupereka zachilendo zosintha, zomwe zimalimbikitsanso ubongo kuti zolaula zimatulutsa ndikudina mbewa.
Palinso njira zina zomwe kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula kumakhudzira akazi. Ngati mayi samva bwino za momwe mnzake amagwiritsira ntchito zolaula kupsyinjika kwa mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo kungakhudze kuthekera kwake kuti athe kudzutsidwa.
Ngati mumvetsetsa zaukadaulo wazimayi, Akazi amafunika kuti machitidwe awo amanjenjemera (kugunda kwa mtima, kupuma, kufalikira kwa magazi) atsegulidwe kwambiri kuti ayatseke. Maganizo monga kupsinjika, mkwiyo, kuwopseza komanso kuipidwa kumatha kugwira ntchito ngati kuponyera chidebe chamadzi ozizira pamakina azimayi.
- Zowonongeka: Porn samaphunzitsa luso la kugonana la amuna lomwe liri lothandiza kuukitsa akazi
Ndapanganso kafukufuku wambiri kuti zachiwerewere zomwe zimawonetsedwa pazambiri zolaula sizimaphunzitsa amuna, makamaka anyamata, maluso ogonana omwe ndi othandiza pakukweza akazi. Monga Dr Jim Pfaus, mpainiya pankhani yokhudza zakugonana ku Concordia University yaku Canada, anena, kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumatha kukhudza maubwenzi chifukwa amuna omwe amawagwiritsa ntchito 'samangokhalira kugwirizana' osati ndi anzawo, koma ndi zolaula.
Katswiri wokhudzana ndi maubwenzi komanso mlangizi wa mabanja Michael Kallenbach akuti: 'Mabanja akudziwa zolaula kwambiri kuposa kale. Ndi aliyense amene ali ndi ma iPhones ndi mapiritsi ndipo nthawi zonse amakhala ndi zotsatsa komanso zithunzi zolaula, zolaula zimayamba kulowa m'miyoyo yathu ndikukhudza ubale wathu.
'Wina akamaonera modzidzimutsa, ndi njira yoopsa kugwa. Malingaliro awo, ndi ubale, zidzaikidwa pachimake pa zongopeka. Izi nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa zochitika. '
Kafukufuku waposachedwapa wa University of Sydney, amene apolisi awiri omwe anafufuza amuna oposa 800, anapeza kuti kuonera zolaula kunkachitika pafupifupi theka la omwe anafunsidwa (85 peresenti ya iwo anali okwatirana kapena pachibwenzi), ndipo adavulaza ntchito yawo komanso maubwenzi.
Chiwerengerocho chinali chodabwitsa: 47 peresenti ya amuna omwe ankayang'ana pakati pa 30 Mphindi mpaka maola atatu pa zolaula tsiku lililonse, mmodzi mwa atatu adati izi zinavulaza ntchito yawo, ndipo mmodzi pa asanu amatha kuwona zolaula kuposa kugonana ndi anzawo.
Ndikhoza kumvetsa chifukwa chake makampani opanga zolaula amafunitsitsa kuti mankhwalawa azikhala osakayika komanso kulimbikitsa lingaliro la libertarian kuti palibe zotsatira. Ndi makampani apadziko lonse omwe amafuna kuti amuna azitenga, ndipo mochulukira akazi, kukhala oledzera chifukwa chachuma.
Mkhalidwewu ukufanana kwambiri ndi malonda a ndudu popanda machenjezo auzimu m'zaka makumi asanu ndi limodzi.
Ndiye bwanji osalamulidwa ndi boma kuwulula zoopsa, monga momwe ziliri ndi ndudu?
Yankho lake andale athu sanamvetsetse kuwonongeka komwe kukuchitika.
- Zosasunthika pang'onopang'ono: Mafilimu akutenga maganizo athu ndikuthandizira kukhala ndi ubale wabwino
Posachedwapa, Daily Mail inapambana chigonjetso chomwe Boma linagwirizana kuti mabanja onse ayenera kulowa ngati akufuna kuona zolaula pa intaneti.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti ndidziwe zambiri zaumoyo, anthu amatha kupanga chisankho chodziwa bwino momwe angagwiritsire ntchito zithunzi zolaula, nthawi, komanso ngati ali ndi zithunzi zotani zomwe angafune kapena kuzipewa.
Iwo omwe akufuna kusiya chizolowezi chawo - monga kuthetsa vuto lililonse - atha kuchita izi ndi kuyesetsa.
Amuna omwe adachita izi - omwe ndi omwe tili nawo - amafotokoza zakubwezeretsanso kuwongolera kwamaganizidwe, ndikukweza chilimbikitso ndi akazi awo kapena atsikana. Makamaka amamasulidwa kuti asakhale ndichisoni cha chinthu chomwe ambiri omwe amandilembera amamva kuti amafunikira - koma sakonda kwenikweni.
Kodi 'timamasulidwa' ngati zolaula zikungotenga malingaliro athu ndikuwononga kuthekera kwathu kokhala ndi ubale wabwino? Ndikuganiza kuti sitikhala ogonana.
Makampani amphamvu akutigwiritsa ntchito - ndipo mopondereza amagwiritsa ntchito kulumikizana kolimba muubongo wamwamuna - kuti atipangitse kukhala maloboti azakugonana komanso otengeka, otha kukwanitsa kukwaniritsidwa kwakugonana mchipinda chokhala ndi kompyuta, patokha.
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