Ponena za chibwenzi chovuta komanso zochitika zogonana, kuthana ndi mavuto amthupi kumakhala chifukwa cha kusweka kwa kondomu ndikulowetsedwa mosayembekezereka. Koma zitha kukhala zoyipa kwambiri, chifukwa nthawi zambiri pamakhala malingaliro ovuta omwe amabwera ndi ma SNAFU akuthupi pabedi. Kunena zoona: Ndikulankhula za ukakhala ndi mwamuna yemwe akuvutika ndi vuto la erectile kapena kutulutsa umuna msanga. (Pali njira zina zambiri zomwe matupi athu angalepheretsere kugona pabedi—ndipo ife akazi timakumana ndi mavuto athu —koma apa, tikuyang'ana kwambiri amuna.)
Kulephera kugwira ntchito bwino kwa erectile—kapena kulephera kukhala ndi erectile—kumakhudza amuna mamiliyoni ambiri ku US, ndipo chiwerengerochi chikuwonjezeka ndi ukalamba. Koma sizikutanthauza kuti amuna azaka za m'ma 1900 sakumana ndi vutoli: Malinga ndi University of Wisconsin Madison's School of Medicine and Public Health , ED yochepa kapena yapakati imakhudza amuna 10 pa 100 pa zaka khumi zilizonse—kutanthauza amuna 20 pa 100 ali ndi zaka za m'ma 20, amuna 30 pa 100 ali ndi zaka za m'ma 30, ndi zina zotero, ngakhale tikuganiza kuti ndi kutaya nthawi ina. Kumbali ina, kutulutsa umuna msanga ndi pamene mwamuna sangathe kudziletsa kutulutsa umuna atangolowa. Magwero ena amati amuna 20 mpaka 30 pa 100 akhoza kuvutika ndi PE nthawi ina (vutoli likhoza kubwera ndi kutha).
Izi zikutanthauza kuti chiwerengero cha akazi omwe adagonapo ndi mwamuna yemwe ali ndi vuto limodzi mwa matendawa mwina chili chokwera kwambiri. (Ngati tingopita ndi gulu la anzanga okha, zimenezo ndi zoona.) Ndipo ngakhale mutamvetsa bwanji vutolo, kuleza mtima, kapena kusachita manyazi komanso kulakwa, ndi vuto lomwelo basi. Mukudziwa ndipo iyenso akudziwa, koma funso la momwe mungakonzere vutoli lidakalipobe.
Pansipa, malingaliro asanu anzeru ochokera kwa akatswiri azakugonana omwe angayambire pati.
Musapange Izo Pa Inu.
Ngakhale zingakhale zovuta kusiya kudzidalira nthawi yomwe chinthu chinalakwika—makamaka chikakhala ndi vuto la ED—yesani kwambiri kuti musayang'ane kwambiri pa inu nokha, akutero katswiri wa zachiwerewere Emily Morse , Ph.D. , wotsogolera Sex with Emily . “Izi sizikutanthauza kuti sakukondani,” akutero. “Amuna amaika chidwi chawo pa mbolo zawo zomwe zikugwira ntchito bwino chifukwa cha lingaliro la chikhalidwe chathu la umuna. Koma momwemonso momwe mumanyowera sizimawonetsa nthawi zonse momwe mwasinthira, zomwe zikuchitika pansi pa lamba kwa iye sizimawonetsa nthawi zonse momwe akufunira kukupatsani mafupa.” Pumirani mpweya wozama, chetetsani mawu amkati, ndipo pewani chilakolako chomufunsa chifukwa chake simuli otentha mokwanira kuti mumulimbikitse. Khulupirirani: Zinthu zilizonse zoipa zomwe mukumva m'mutu mwanu, akudziuza zinthu zomwe zili zoyipa kakhumi.
Khalani ndi Convo Wosasamala.
Kuphatikizapo kupeŵa kulankhula za inu nokha, musabweretse mdima wandiweyani, chiwonongeko, kapena kuonongeka kwakukulu pa zokambirana zanu mukamalankhula ndi mnyamatayo. Izo zimangomusokoneza iye kuposa momwe iye aliri kale. "Musakhale ndi zokambirana mu chipinda," adatero Morse. "Yesetsani kuchita izo pa kadzutsa tsiku lotsatira. Chinthu chinanso chimene mungachite mukakhala mu galimoto kapena kuyenda galu-ndi nkhani yovuta, kotero kuwapatsa mwayi wosayang'ana maso kungakhale mpumulo waukulu ndikupanga kukambirana bwino. "Mawu anu ndi vibe zinthu zambiri kuposa zomwe mumanena, koma uthenga wanu uyenera kukhala chinachake motsatira, "Chimene chinachitika usiku watha sichinali chachikulu! Ndamvapo anyamata ambiri akulimbana ndi izi, choncho mwina ndibwino kuti dokotala azindikire. "
Ulamulire Zochitika Zathupi.
Mwa anyamata, mwina vutoli limachokera ku maganizo, akutero katswiri wokhudza kugonana Laurie Watson , LMFT, wotsogolera pulogalamu ya podcast FOREPLAY: Radio Sex Therapy . "Nayi njira yodziwira kuti ndi ya thupi: Ngati ali ndi kukhwima m'mawa; ngati angathe kukhwima koma sangathe kupitirira; ndipo akhoza kukhwima yekha ndikutulutsa umuna popanda vuto lililonse akamaseweretsa maliseche, vuto sili la thupi." M'malo mwake, mwina pali chinachake chomwe chikuchitika m'maganizo kapena m'maganizo chomwe angafunike kuyang'ana. Kutengera momwe mulili ozama komanso odzipereka kwa iye komanso ubale wanu, chimenecho ndi chinthu chomwe mungam'thandize nacho.
Yankhulani Njira Zomwe Iye Akuziganizira.
Pali zinthu zina za moyo kapena zamaganizo zomwe mungamuthandize kuzithetsa. Mwachitsanzo, kodi amamwa mowa nthawi zonse musanagonane? Zimenezo zingaphe munthu wolumala. Kodi wakhala akuchita zinthu mopitirira muyeso pa zolaula? “Zolaula zimapitirizabe kukweza mphamvu ya chilakolako, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti amuna amafunika mphamvu zambiri kuti asiye chifukwa ndi zomwe akuzolowera,” akutero Morse. “Muuzeni—mokoma mtima—kuti ngati asiya kapena apumula, zingathandize moyo wanu wogonana.” Komanso, ngati mukumenyana m’mbali zina za moyo, zikhoza kufalikira pabedi, akutero Watson. “Ngati akukwiyirani, akhoza kutaya mphamvu yogwira ntchito bwino,” akutero. “Amuna ena omwe amachita chinyengo amavutika kukhala olimba mtima chifukwa amadzimva kuti ali ndi mlandu ndipo mbolo zawo zimakangana pankhani yogona ndi akazi awiri nthawi imodzi.” Ngati ndi mantha, mutsimikizireni kuti mukusangalala mosasamala kanthu za zomwe zingachitike ndi D wake—ndipo nthawi zonse akhoza kukusangalatsani m’njira zina. Akangosiya kuganizira za izi, angapeze kuti akhoza kuzidzutsa kapena kulamulira nthawi yomwe abwera msanga.
Tenga Zomwe Mukufuna Kuchokera kwa Iye.
Ngati simungathe kulowera pa zomwe zikuchititsa PE kapena ED, ndipo adokotala amati siwathupi, mungaganizire kuona wogonana, akuti Watson. Hey, ndizo akatswiri! Koma potsiriza, ndiye yekha amene angapeze thandizo. "Amuna amaopa kuona opatsirana pogonana chifukwa amaopa kuti adzauzidwa kuti sakukwanira," akutero. "Koma ngati akuchedwa kupeza chithandizo kwa nthawi yayitali, zingasonyeze kuti iye sagonana naye yemwe angakonde kukula ndikusintha nthawi." Ndipo imeneyi ndi nkhani ina yonse mkati mwake.
Ngati akungodandaula za vutoli ndipo malingaliro ake ali ndi zipsinjo kuti agwire ntchito limodzi ndikupeza yankho, mverani zomwe zikukuwuzani za iye. Kodi ndi munthu yemwe mukufuna kuti mupitilize kugona naye, osatinso za chibwenzi? Watson anati: "Ngati pali kuchedwa kocheperako, zifukwa, kapena kukwiya pankhani imeneyi, ganizirani mozama za kukhalabe pachibwenzi." "Sifunsa zakugonana, koma kusayenerana ndi munthu yemwe sanaphunzire, sangakhale womasuka, ndipo sakufuna kusintha."
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