Njira zachilendo kapena zowonongeka zowononga zowonongeka zingathandize kuthetsa vuto la erectile. Kugonana kwachibadwa sikungagwirizane ndi kupanikizika (imfa) ndi liwiro (maulendo ofulumira kwambiri) ogwiritsidwa ntchito ndi amuna ambiri osafuna. Kugonana pamimba (kumakhala kovuta) kungakhale imodzi mwa njira zovuta kwambiri zowonetsera maliseche pofuna kuchepetsa kukhudzidwa kwa kugonana.
Webusaiti iyi ya www.healthystrokes.com imathandiza amuna kuchira ku vuto la chizolowezi chodziseweretsa maliseche, lomwe amalitcha kuti "traumatic masturbation syndrome." Mafunso awiri ofunsidwa kawirikawiri akuchokera ku healthystrokes.com.
- Kodi Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome n'chiyani? Matenda Oopsa a Masturbatory Syndrome (TMS) ndi chizoloŵezi amuna ena amakhala ndi maliseche pamalo olowera pansi. Ogwira ntchito ena a TMS amafufuzira penitriti, pillow, kapena malo ena ogona, kapena pansi. Ogwira ntchito ena a TMS amagona m'mimba mwawo ndikuwongolera m'manja.
- Cholakwika ndi chiyani kuseweretsa maliseche motere? Kugonana kumaso kumapangitsa kuti munthu asamapanikize mbolo, makamaka pamunsi pa mbolo. Zomwe zimamveka sizikuphatikizidwanso mosavuta pamatenda ochita maliseche kapena kugonana. Izi zingachititse ogwira ntchito za TMS kuti asagwirizane ndi kugonana. Kafukufuku amene anachitidwa pa webusaitiyi anawulula kuti amuna omwe amadzionetsera maliseche amayamba kugonana kawirikawiri nthawi zambirimbiri kuposa a TMS.
Mwa njira, healthystrokes.com ikusonyeza kuti kusiya chizolowezi chodziseweretsa maliseche kwa sabata imodzi yokha kudzakhala kokwanira musanayambe kuphunziranso zizolowezi zatsopano. Malangizo oterewa angakhale abwino kwa munthu amene sanagwiritse ntchito zolaula, koma sizingagwire ntchito kwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwambiri. Amafunika nthawi yayitali kuti "ayambitsenso" ubongo wawo. (Werengani chenjezo lokhudza Healthy Strokes lolembedwa ndi membala wa forum.)
Ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa kuti zolaula komanso njira zodziseweretsa maliseche kwambiri zimayambitsa kufooka kwa chidziwitso ndi kusinthasintha kwa mawaya muubongo . Mwanjira ina, ubongo umafunikira nthawi kuti uchire ndikukonzanso mawaya kuti uthetse mavuto onse awiri. Onani Kafukufuku wogwirizanitsa kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kapena chizolowezi chogonana ndi zolaula ndi zovuta zogonana, kuchepa kwa mphamvu ya ubongo ku zolimbikitsa kugonana, komanso kuchepetsa kukhutitsidwa ndi kugonana.
Ndime zotsatirazi zatengedwa kuchokera ku ulusiwu pa zovuta zowonongeka:
Sindikudziwa chomwe chimasokonezedwa ndi njira zowononga kapena zowononga maliseche. Kodi ndi kutha kwa minyewa mu mbolo, kulumikizana kwa msana, kapena ubongo womwe… kapena zonse zitatu? Amuna omwe amakonda kuseweretsa maliseche amayenera kusintha momwe amadziseweretsa maliseche. Ndi zophweka choncho.
Ngakhale mtundu wa kuseweretsa maliseche, mwina ungakhale ukukulira ubongo wanu mwanjira zosiya "kuchita izi". Ngati mukufuna kuyerekezera kuti mudzakonzekere, ubongo wanu ukunena kuti "ayi." Ngati mukufuna mtundu wina wazomwe mungachite kuti muchite maliseche, ubongo wanu ukunena kuti "ayi." Ngati mukufuna zolaula kuti muchite maliseche, ubongo wanu ukunenadi kuti "ayi." Ndipo ngati muli ndi ED kuchokera ku zolaula / maliseche, ubongo wanu ukukuwuzani "Siyani!"
Ngati mutathyoka mwendo, ubongo wanu ukadakuwa, mwa kuwawa, "Usayende!" Ndi chifuniro chapamwamba kwambiri chaumunthu pomwe mutha kugonjetsa thupi lanu ndi mauthenga aubongo ndikulemera pa mwendo wanu wosweka. Izi ndi zomwe mukuchita mukakakamiza kuseweretsa maliseche. Mukunyalanyaza zizindikilo zonse za thupi lanu ndi ubongo kuti mukakamize magwiridwe antchito. Ndizovuta kwambiri, ndimasinthidwe onse amubongo.
Mfundo yakuti muli ndi zero libido, imakuuzani ndendende zomwe mukuyenera kuchita: palibe. Palibe malingaliro, osasangalatsa, osasangalatsa.
Dziwani kuti chilakolako chofuna kudzisangalatsa chimachokera m'malo awiri osiyana :
- Njira zanu zoledzera zimayambitsidwa ndi lingaliro kapena chidziwitso, kapena
- Libido yeniyeni - komwe mumangomvera mokwanira, ndipo simukusowa kukakamiza kwina kapena njira zachilendo zobweretsera maliseche.
Cholinga cha aliyense pano ndichochoka ku nambala 1 kupita ku 2.
Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti ngati mwakhala mukuchita maliseche, mwina mwakhala mukuonera zolaula zochepa kuposa anyamata wamba chifukwa ndizovuta kuwonera ndikugona pansi. Mutha kuchira msanga (kapena ayi). Nayi nkhani ya munthu m'modzi:
[Masabata awiri] Kwa zaka 25, ndinkakonda kwambiri zolaula - ndili pamalo okhazikika, kumbukirani. Ndinayamba kuyambiranso izi chifukwa sindinkatha kuchita zogonana - ndi akazi atatu osiyana.
Mwinamwake ndine mtundu wina wapadera, koma sindikusowa P kwambiri. Pambuyo pa masiku atatu okha, ndinakhala "wokondwa" mzanga wamkazi atabwera yemwe sindinakopeke naye kale. Tsopano, sindinayeserebe kugonana komabe ndikupeza zosavuta pano kuposa kale. Amayi amawoneka okongola kwa ine tsiku lililonse. Sindikudziwa chifukwa chake. Ndikumva kuti ma vibes ena amadutsa muubongo wanga nthawi iliyonse ndikawona zochitika pa TV.
P ndizosangalatsa, ndipo Hei, ndizosangalatsa kuwona zinthu zomwe mumangoganiza kale. Koma tiyenera kukana zivute zitani. Tikamawonerera kwambiri, zimatipangitsa kuti tizikankhira patali kwambiri kuti tikhale apamwamba kwambiri - kapena kukhutira. Zopenga monga izi zikumveka, ndikuganiza matupi athu ndi malingaliro athu akuyesera kutipulumutsa potseka msanga osakonzekereratu. Zomwe tidapanga ndikuchulukitsa zolaula sizachilengedwe.
Ndikuganiza kuti chizindikiro kuti zida zanu ziyamba kugwira bwino ntchito, ndipamene mumayamba kudzuka ndi matabwa am'mawa. Ngati mulibe matabwa athunthu, osachepera theka la nkhuni. Ndimakhulupiriranso kuti mukawona zithunzi zachiwerewere kapena zachiwerewere za anthu ndipo mumamva kumva kulira muubongo wanu, ndicho chizindikiro muyenera kukhala mukuyambiranso kudzisintha kuti mukhale okhazikika.
[Masabata atatu ndi theka] Ndinakumana ndi mkazi wokongola, tinagwirizana, tinagwirizana, ndipo tinagonana. Nthawiyo inali pomwepo ndipo zinachitikadi. Sindinakhale ndi vuto lililonse, ndipo ndinadabwa kuti ndinatha kupeza chidwi mwachangu komanso kwa nthawi yayitali. Sindinataye kukhazikika kulikonse kapena china chilichonse chonga icho. Chochitikacho chinali chabwino kwambiri. Ndinazindikira kuti popanda M ndi PI ndinatha kusintha ndipo malinga ndi mkazi wanga.
Ndikudziwa kuti sindichiritsidwa kapena chilichonse ndipo ndiyenera kuyambiranso, koma ndizosavuta kuyambiranso nthawi yachiwiri. Sabata ino yatha mwachangu kwambiri ndipo, ndikusangalala ndi moyo kwambiri.
Ndangotsatira upangiri pano, ndikuwutaya! Sikuti ndimangomva bwino, koma ndimakhala wokondwa kwambiri komanso wowopsa. Palibe njira yolongosolera momwe ndimasangalalira kwambiri ndi akazi. Ndikumva zogonana. Ndikumva ngati sindinamvepo kuyambira ndili kusekondale. Masabata ovuta a 2 opanda zolaula adabweretsanso chidwi cha akazi. Osangoti “Ndi wokongola!” chikhumbo, koma chidaliro komanso tambala tating'ono. Ndikofunika kudikira anyamata. Ndikofunika kukana komanso kufunitsitsa kupewa P&M momwe mungathere.
Nachi chokumana nacho cha membala wina wamsonkhanowu (amatchulanso za heathlystrokes.com):
“Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome (TMS) ndichizolowezi chomwe amuna ena amakhala nacho maliseche ali okhazikika (osakhazikika). Ogwira ntchito ena a TMS amapaka maliseche awo pamatilesi, pilo, kapena zofunda zina, kapena pansi. Odwala ena a TMS amagona pamimba ndipo amaponyedwa m'manja.
Kuchita maliseche pansi kumakakamiza kwambiri mbolo, makamaka kumunsi kwa mbolo. Zomvekazi sizimatchulidwanso mosavuta mu kuseweretsa maliseche kapena kugonana. Izi zitha kupangitsa kuti akatswiri a TMS asagone bwino. Kafukufuku amene wachitika pa webusaitiyi wasonyeza kuti amuna amene amaseweretsa maliseche nthawi zonse amakhala akugonana maulendo 6.6 kuposa ogwira ntchito a TMS. ”
Zowopsa ndizowopsa ndipo zimatha kukhala ndi zoyipa zosakhalitsa. (ED, kuchepetsa kuchepa, kuwonongeka kwa thupi) Ndinkakonda kuseweretsa maliseche, ndinazipeza nditayamba kuseweretsa maliseche ndipo sindinagwiritsepo manja mpaka nditasiya PMO.
Anthu amadzionetsera maliseche chifukwa amachititsa kuti mboloyi ikhale yowonjezereka, motero kukula kwakukulu kwa dopamine. Zinamveka bwino ngati chinthu china chomwe ndakhala ndikuchidziwa, ngakhale mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
Pambuyo pa zaka 5 ndikuchita izi sindinathe kuseweretsa maliseche ndi manja anga. Sizingatheke. Ndidayima pakusamba ndikudzipereka pambuyo pa mphindi 10. Ndinali wokhumudwa nazo koma osaziganiziranso, sindinadziwe kuti zinali za chiyani.
“Oposa 90 peresenti ya amuna amaphunzira maliseche pofuna kudziletsa. Amuna omwe amachita TMS mwatsoka adapeza njira yosavomerezeka. Amuna omwe amaphunzira kuseweretsa maliseche kuchokera kwa anthu ena nthawi zonse amaphunzira kuchita izi mwachizolowezi. (Amuna ambiri omwe amadzipezera okha amapezanso njira yodziwika bwino.) ”
Kwenikweni ndikuganiza kuti ndizovuta kwambiri. Kuchita maliseche kumakhala kopindulitsa kwambiri, kotero anthu omwe ali ndi nkhawa omwe ali ndi moyo wolandila kale atha kuyesedwa kuti ayese maliseche. Koma sindikudziwa motsimikiza…
Komabe, ndinadzipezanso ndekha njira yolakwika, kotero sindinadziwe china chilichonse. Koma nditazindikira kuti anthu ambiri amadziseweretsa maliseche ndi manja awo, sindinakonde chifukwa sikunali kopindulitsa, ndipo ndimangolakalaka nditagona pabedi langa pansi.
Pambuyo pa miyezi ya 4-5 popanda kugonana monyanyira ndimatha kudzitamandira kuti ndinayambiranso kuchita maliseche ndi manja anga, mofatsa komanso ngakhale popanda kulingalira ndikukhala ndi ubwino wabwino. 🙂 Masabata ochepa chabe mmenemo amapanga kusiyana kwakukulu.
Mnyamata wina:
Sindinakhalepo pano kwa kanthawi koma ndaganiza zokuuzani kuti ndachira ndipo inenso ndimakonda kudziseweretsa maliseche kuyambira ndili mwana, tsopano ndili ndi zaka 36. Werengani buku la Doidge ; ndi chitsanzo chabwino cha neuroplasticity. Mwina simungakonde izi koma sindikudziwa kuti zinatenga masiku angati kuti ndichiritsidwe. Ndinalandira upangiri kale ndipo ndinaganiza kuti ndisawerenge masikuwo. Ngati mukufuna kugwiritsa ntchito "masiku" ngati muyeso, zabwino. Kwa ine, kungosiya kudziseweretsa maliseche kwathunthu ndikuyang'ana zithunzi za akazi pa intaneti kwakhala njira yabwino, kuphatikiza masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi kusinkhasinkha. TMS ndi yovuta, ndikuganiza kuti zitha kukhala zovuta kuchira koma zitha kuchitika. Sindinakhalepo ndi vuto lililonse la ED kwa nthawi yayitali tsopano. Zabwino zonse anyamata.
Kwambiri, ndidatero ndipo ndili ndi ... ndinkasewera maliseche kuyambira 11 mpaka kuzungulira 14 kenako ndikupanga luso lodzisangalatsa maliseche. Ndinali ndimilandu yambiri yomwe sindinathe kuyimilira chifukwa cha PIED kapena sindimamva chilichonse chifukwa chofala. Lero ndachira kwathunthu. Zinanditengera kupitirira chaka chimodzi cha 60+ day Hard Mode streaks.
Kwenikweni vuto ndi kuthetsa chizoloŵezi chogonana ndi chiwerewere ndikuti mumasokoneza mafayilo anu (poyerekeza ndi mapulogalamu monga momwe zilili ndi PIED). Kotero mukufuna kuti mupitirize kumvetsetsa kapena makamaka kubwezeretsani kumazinga apachiyambi, molondola?
Ndikumvetsa kuti zomwe stroko stroke imalimbikitsa ndikungoseweretsa maliseche mwachizolowezi kuti mupezenso chidwi cha "mkangano" wamkangano .. Ndili ndimavuto awiri ndi awa: 1.) palibe njira yabwinoko yobwezeretsanso chidwi monga POSAKHALA WOSANGALATSA konse ndi 2 .) pankhani yodziyambiranso nokha, kuseweretsa maliseche ndichinthu chosamvetseka chifukwa, NEWS FLASH, kuseweretsa maliseche koyenera sikumakhala ngati nyini (ngakhale kuli pafupi nayo ndiye kuseweretsa maliseche).
Zomwe ndingakulangize kwa anamwali omwe adaseweretsa maliseche kapena omwe amafa kwambiri pamoyo wawo ndikuchita masiku 90 ovuta a NoFap kuti abwezeretse chidwi chanu ndipo ngati simumva bwino kudzipezanso ndi mkazi weniweni pazifukwa zilizonse, Osazichita ndi dzanja koma ndi nyali yofananira ndi vanila. Ndimatchula vanila yolembedwa chifukwa pali zowala kunja komwe zimakulitsa mbolo yanu kwambiri ndiye nyini yabwinobwino yomwe ingakubwezeretseni kudzidetsa nkhawa pamlingo winawake ..
Chifukwa chiyani ndikulangiza nyali? -Chifukwa ngati inu, pazifukwa zilizonse, simungadziyanjanitse ndi nyini zenizeni kuposa momwe mungachitire ndi woyimira wamkulu wa 2 - kuwala kwa nyama.
Za ine, ndikamanena kuti ndapulumuka ndimatanthawuza kuti ndachira. Mudanenanso kuti makondomu akuyenera kukhala vuto kwa wina yemwe anali ndi TMS - ndimatha kupanga kondomu mosavuta ndi kondomu. Kwenikweni, mbolo yanga imakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi mkazi. Pali chiyembekezo chenicheni kwa inunso, ndikukhulupirira 😉
PS Komanso, ngati mukufuna kuyambiranso kuiwala za kuseweretsa maliseche kwamuyaya. Ndizowopsa ndipo mukazichita nthawi yayitali zimakhala zovuta kuti achire…
Nkhani ina yobwezeretsa:
Ulendo 25 - Kudziseweretsa maliseche: Kubwezeretsa ndi kusinthanso
Mnyamata wina:
Zaka 26 - ED yoyambitsidwa ndi zolaula inachiritsa masiku 279 kuti ndiyambenso kuyambiranso. "Ndili mwana nthawi zonse ndinkadziseweretsa maliseche powakanda ndi maliseche pa matiresi atagona movutikira, zomwe ndinaphunziranso kuti zinali zoopsa kwambiri kwa ine."
Zoona zazimayi:
Zikugwira! Masiku a 35 a zolaula ndipo palibe zotsatira, zotsatira zazikulu!
Ndakhala ndi vuto la zomwe ndikuganiza kuti ndizokufa kwa akazi komanso zolaula, ngakhale sizinali zolaula kwenikweni. Kwenikweni, pazaka zingapo zapitazi, zinthu zasintha kotero kuti kuti ndichoke, ndimayenera kugwiritsa ntchito njira yanga yodziseweretsa maliseche komanso zolaula. Ndinayamba chibwenzi ndi mnyamata wabwino panthawiyi, ndipo ndinakhumudwa kuti sindingakhale ndi zibwenzi naye pokhapokha ndikazichita ndekha, ndipo ngakhale zinali zovuta.
Patadutsa mwezi umodzi, ndinayamba tsiku la 30, palibe vuto lililonse lolaula. Ndabwerera tsopano kuti ndikhale ndi zibwenzi kuchokera kwa bwenzi langa, ndi dzanja. Sizogwirizana pakadali pano, koma kusintha ndikokulu. Zikomo, palibe!
Ndapeza upangiri kuchokera ku Ubongo Wanu pa Zithunzi wothandiza kwambiri. Ndapanga mfundo yosaganizira zolaula ndikamagonana ndi chibwenzi changa. Ndikuganiza kuti zathandizadi kuthana ndi zolaula. M'malo mwake, ndakhala ndikuyesanso maliseche (popanda zolaula), ndipo zimandivuta kusiya kungoganiza za chibwenzi changa komanso kugonana komwe tili nako. Zakhala zabwino!
Chenjezo lokhudza mikwingwirima yathanzi kuchokera ku membala wa gulu:
Ngakhale ndikaganiza kuti wolemba Healthstrokes.com ndi munthu wodabwitsa, yemwe akufuna kuthandiza anthu kuti athetse khalidweli, iyenso ndi wopusa kwambiri. Ndichoncho chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa amalengeza poyera kuti 'zowonera' silili vuto konse. Amakhulupirira kuti zolaula sizowopsa ndipo kuseweretsa maliseche ndichinthu chabwino kwambiri padziko lapansi. Zikuwoneka kuti samamvetsetsa kusintha kwaubongo komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha chizolowezi.
Ndikuganiza kuti izi ndizovuta kwambiri chifukwa sizithandiza kuthana ndi vutoli. Itha kusintha, mwina. Ndibwino kuuza anthu za healthstrokes.com. Koma mukuyenera kuganizira zowonjezerapo kuti yankho lomwe liperekedwa patsamba lino lingapangitse anthu kulowa mumsampha wovuta. Izi ndi zomwe zidandichitikira:
Yourbrainonporn.com inandiphunzitsa kuti ndine wosuta bongo ndipo ndiyenera kusiya izi kuti ndikhale ndi moyo wabwino. Yankho: Siyani kuzizira kozizira kuchokera ku mtundu uliwonse wa PMO. Healthystrokes.com imaphunzitsa anyamata zavuto lokonda kuseweretsa maliseche, koma osati za chifukwa chake akukumana ndi mavutowa. Osati lingaliro kuti atha kukhala osuta konse.
Yankho la wolemba: Lekani kuseweretsa maliseche, yambani kuseweretsa maliseche. Ngati simungathe kuchita, siyani kuseweretsa maliseche kwa sabata kapena kupitilira apo, ndiye yesani njira yabwinobwino. Kulephera? Yambanso. Chifukwa chake wina amapita kuchokanso mobwerezabwereza.
Ndinali ndikadali ndikudabwitsabe ngati zomwe zimaperekedwa ku yourbrainonporn zili zolondola. Zimakhala zomveka kwambiri; ziyenera kungogwira ntchito. Apanso, mwina kupwetekedwa kumeneku ndikulondola ndipo ndiyenera kuphunzira kuseweretsa maliseche. Ndani amasamala ngati ndiyenera kungodzimangirira ndikungokhala 50 peresenti yokha? Zikhala bwino pakapita nthawi. ZALAKWITSA. Sizitero. Ndipo nthawi zonse zimathera pakubwereranso ndi vuto lodziseweretsa maliseche ndikupumira pamenepo. Ndinakhalapo ndekha nthawi zambiri.
Izi zati, anyamata ena ali ndi mavuto ambiri akuchira kuchokera ku TMS.