Ndakhala ndikuchita maliseche pa intaneti kwazaka zopitilira khumi ndi zitatu ndikukwatirana zaka ziwiri nthawi ino chaka chatha. Sindinali wokondwa kwambiri ndikufunika kwanga kukhala wosakwatira, koma ndimadana nawo ngati okwatirana. Ndine wotsimikiza kuti zakhudza ubale wathu, popeza ndimatha kuzindikira kuchepa kwaubwenzi ngakhale tidali okwatirana kumene. Nthawi zina ndimakhala ndikudikirira kuti mkazi wanga agone kapena kupita kusitolo kuti ndikachite maliseche, ndipo ndimamukwiyira akadali komweko.
Nthawi iliyonse yomwe ndimafuna kugonana ndipo sindinapeze, ndimayitenga ngati cheke kuti ndithandizire. Ndi njira yoyipa yochitira wina, komanso ndi njira yopanda tanthauzo yolankhulira ndi chilakolako chanu chogonana. Ndi chidziwitso chosanenedwa: mwina mukusamalira boner kapena ine. Amachepetsa kukondana, mawonekedwe akuthupi la ubale wanu mpaka kusintha kwamafuta. Kaya ndimalowa nayo m'sitolo kapena ndimachita nawo panjira yanga, zotsatira zake ndizofanana (ndimakonda kutambasula fanizo lofunikira lonse).
Mfundo yodzikongoletsera idabwera pomwe ndimayenda ndekha kwamilungu ingapo, ndipo - mosaganizira- kuseweretsa maliseche usiku wonse. Zinanditopetsa komanso kusasangalala ndipo mwina ndinali kufunafuna zolaula pa reddit pomwe ndimathamangira kumalo ano ndikuyamba kufufuza. Nditawonera makanema ndipo (koposa zonse) ndikuwerenga zomwe anthu adakumana nazo, ndidatopetsedwa ndipo ndidaganiza zopita nawo. Nazi zomwe ndazindikira mchaka chatha:
-Zinthu zidakhala zophweka kwambiri nditauza mkazi wanga. Mwezi woyamba kapena apo ndinali ndekha, ndipo zinali zovuta kwambiri. Sindinkafuna kumuuza mpaka nditakhala ndi chidaliro kuti ndikhoza kupitiliza, chifukwa sindinkafuna kuti ndimuuze za kubwerera m'mbuyo. Koma ndikuganiza kuti kumutsegulira koyambirira kukadakhala kosavuta kwambiri. Amandithandizira kwambiri, ndipo nthawi ndi nthawi amandifunsa momwe zikuyendera ndikufotokozera momwe amasangalalira.
-Komwe mkazi wanga ali m'bwalo langa ndinali ndi zida zamphamvu zotsutsa kubwereza: Ndikuganiza basi tsiku lotsatira pambuyo podula maliseche: ndikudzuka ndikudziwa kuti ndalephera, ndikubwezeretsa beji yanga, ndikumuvomereza. Izi zidzakuchititsani kuti mutseke ma tabu anu pa msakatuli mwamsanga. Mukhozanso kuyesa izi kaya muli ndi SO kapena ayi. Dziwonetseni nokha mumdima wotsatira tsiku lotsatira, ndikulemba mobwerezabwereza kuti mutumize ku nofap.
-Kutengera kusintha kwa thupi / malingaliro / umunthu: Ndikuganiza kuti zambiri zomwe anthu amati ndi nofap ndizomwe zimachitika ndi placebo, koma ndazindikira zinthu zina zomwe sindingathe kufotokoza. Ndimakhala wovuta nthawi zonse, koma osati m'njira yosasangalatsa. Malingaliro anga anali okonzeka kuyembekezera kumasulidwa nthawi iliyonse ikakhala ndi chikhumbo, koma pang'onopang'ono ndafika poti ndikhoza kukhala (momasuka) ndimadzutsa omwe sanamalizidwe. Zimakupatsirani mphamvu zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito pazinthu zina m'moyo wanu (monga sukulu, pakadali pano).
-Kugonana kumachitika pafupipafupi, kwakutali, komanso bwinoko. Poyamba ndikuganiza kuti mkazi wanga amayesetsa kuchita zogonana ndi ine ngati njira yothandizira (phindu lina louza mnzanu za nofap), komanso ndikuganiza kuti tonsefe timakondana tsopano. Pali china mwa akazi chomwe chimayankha mukakhala ofunidwa kwambiri. M'malo mopempha mwachangu "kusintha mafuta" komwe amapeza, tsopano ali ndi mwamuna wokhala ndi libido yanthawi zonse ya mwana wachinyamata yemwe amangolunjika kwa iye yekha, osati "kutsika" ndi njira zilizonse zofunika. Zili ngati kuti ndayamba kukhala wamwamuna kwambiri ndipo wakhalanso wachikazi, zotsatira zake kuti tonsefe timakopeka kwambiri ndi enawo.
-Ndazindikira kuti zonse zomwe ndalemba mpaka pano zakhala zabwino kwambiri, koma ndakhala ndikubwereranso kangapo m'miyezi itatu yapitayi. Nthawi zina ndimakumana ndi chithunzi pa intaneti, kapena zochitika pa TV (ndasankha kuti ndisayang'ane Game of Thrones pachifukwa ichi) kapena kungodutsa mtsikana wovala mathalauza a yoga ndipo zili ngati kuthamanga kwa magazi kwanga kukuwombera za 3 mfundo. Nofap amachita zinthu zambiri, koma sizimakupangitsani kuti mukhale osafunikira poyesedwa. Ndikuganiza kuti anthu ambiri osakwatira amachita nofap ndendende chifukwa cha izi, koma ndizovuta kwa amuna okhaokha.
Bwino, abale ndi alongo.
LINK - Wokwatirana NoFap, lipoti la chaka cha 1 (masiku angapo oyambirira chifukwa cha fainali).
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