Zopatsa chidwi! Ulendo wabwino bwanji! Sindingathe kuwuluka kapena kuimitsa nthawi, sindingathe kuyatsa magalimoto ndi malingaliro anga kapena kuzemba zipolopolo. Komabe, ndikukhulupirira ndasintha zina ndi zina pamoyo wanga, ndipo ndapeza mphamvu yoposa zonse: kulanga.
Ndadzijambula ndekha ndikulemba lipotili kwakanthawi tsopano, ndikuganiza ndicho chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zandithandiza kupitiliza. Ndazindikira za vutoli mu Ogasiti 2012 pomwe, ndizodabwitsa, kuyang'ana zolaula pamsonkhano wina. Poyamba ndinali wokayikira, koma ndimakhala masiku amenewo ndikuwerenga malipoti mazana ambiri ochokera kwa anthu osiyanasiyana, ndipo zidanditsimikizira kuti ndiyesere. Ndinabwereranso patatha masiku 14 nditakhala ndikulakalaka kwambiri zolaula, zomwe zidandipangitsa kuti ndiziwonetsetsa kuti "kutulutsa kamodzi pa sabata ndikwachilengedwe .. bola ndikapitilira, zili bwino". Zachidziwikire, ndimangobwerezabwereza tsiku lililonse pambuyo pake ndikumandichotsa kutali ndi cholinga changa.
M'dzinja ndidayeseza pang'ono. Masiku angapo nthawi iliyonse, osapatsa chidwi chochuluka pakuchita NoFap. Ndikuganiza kuti ndayiwala za izi mpaka mwezi wa Marichi pomwe ndidaganiza zowupatsanso.
Chifukwa chachikulu cha izi poyamba chinali kudzitsimikizira ndekha kuti ndili ndi kudziletsa kokwanira kuti ndimalize vutoli. Komabe, ndinazindikira patapita kanthawi kuti ndinali ndi ED yopepuka ndikugonana. Ndinkafuna malo enieni kuti ndidziwe, ndipo ngakhale apo ndinadzipeza ndikuganiza kuti ndigona ndi nyenyezi zomwe ndimakonda kwambiri kuti ndisamapeputse. Sizinali zoyipa nthawi zonse koma ngati munthu wathanzi m'ma XNUMX, izi siziyenera kukhala vuto. Ndinasiyanso kupeza zovuta zokha. Nthawi zambiri sindinkakhala wovuta ngakhale ndikamaonera zolaula, pokhapokha zitakhala ndi malo abwino komanso mtsikana wangwiro. Zolakwa zilizonse zazing'ono zokongola ndipo sindinathe kuvutikira. Uwu ndiye ngozi yakuwonetsa zolaula - kupatsa owonayo ziyembekezo zosayembekezeka, palibe mtsikana m'moyo weniweni amene angafanane ndi mfundo za pulasitiki izi.
Sindinkawonera zolaula nthawi zambiri, mwina 2-3 nthawi pasabata. Nthawi zambiri ndimadzaza kamodzi patsiku, ndikamagona pabedi langa ndikangodzuka. Nthawi zina ndimakhala pafupipafupi, koma sindinadumphe tsiku. Ndinadziyang'anitsitsa ndikuyembekeza zolaula, ndiye kuti ndizofunika kwambiri masiku anga.
Komabe, zolemba kumbuyo zokwanira. Ndidayamba izi pa Marichi 19 ngati ndikukumbukira molondola. Ndimakumbukira kukhala ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri sabata yoyamba ija, koma pafupifupi tsiku la 7 libido yanga idatsika ndipo ndidapita pamalo otsetsereka mpaka tsiku la 30. Ndikukumbukira kuti sindinawone kusintha kulikonse kwa moyo mpaka tsiku la 30, chifukwa chake ngati mungakhale pafupi ndi nambala imeneyo kusintha kulikonse kwamtundu uliwonse, musataye mtima. Idzabwera.
Komabe, kuyambira tsiku la 35 mphamvu zanga ndi kudutsa zidutsa padenga, ndipo zakhala zikuyenda bwino kuyambira nthawi imeneyo. Ngakhale sabata yathayi ndimaona kuti ndalimbikitsidwa kwambiri, ndipo ndikuyembekeza kuti zipitiliza kuyenda bwino.
Ndikulakalaka ndikadakuwuzani anyamata kuti ndakhazikika ndi ma 10 olimba, ndikukhala gulugufe ndikuyamba kupanga mamiliyoni ndi kampani yatsopano. Pepani, koma sizowona. Ndiloleni ndifotokoze chifukwa chake ndili wokhutitsidwa kwambiri:
Kuyambira nthawi yomwe ndinathetsa chibwenzi changa chakale ndi GF pafupifupi chaka chapitacho, kulimba mtima kwanga ndi chisangalalo zakhala pansi. Kuyambira ndili mwana ndinayamba kuchita chibwibwi. Tsopano ndayamba kuchita zodandaula komanso kukhala ndi nthawi yovuta yopita kukakumana ndi anthu atsopano, ndikumverera kuti sindiyenera kusangalala kapena chilichonse chomwe ndimafuna.
izi, anzanga, asinthiratu. Ndalandira malangizo osintha moyo wanga. M'malo mongodzimvera chisoni ndikakhala wopanda chidwi, ndayamba kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zanga zonse kuthana ndi zovuta zanga.
- Kulimbikitsidwa ndi kulangidwa. Ndimagona tsiku lililonse pamaso pa 12 am ndipo ndimadzuka ndikukhala wokangalika komanso wotsimikiza. Tsopano ndimachita zomwe ndikuyenera kuchita pophunzira, kugwira ntchito ndi kudzikonza m'malo mozengereza.
- Kupereka chisangalalo kwakanthawi kochepa ka chisangalalo chosakhalitsa. Zomwe takambirana posachedwa pamenepa za NoFap ndizowona kwa ine. Tsopano ndaphunzira kusiya kusiya kuchita chilichonse ndikumayesetsa kuchita luso lililonse mpaka nditakhutira.
- Siyani kusewera. Kwa nthawi yayitali, masewera a pakompyuta yanga atenga nthawi yochuluka kuchokera kwa ine. Ndawononga zaka zanga zaunyamata pachimake m'malo mokhala moyo wanga, ndipo sindibwerera. Ndili masiku a 48 a / r / StopGaming ndipo simunamve bwino.
- Zizolowezi zatsopano zodzikonzera. Kuyambira pomwe ndinasiya masewera a zolaula, zolaula komanso kusefa foni, ndakhala ndikupatsidwa maola ambiri tsiku lililonse. Ndakhala ndikufuna kuyamba kuimba gitala kwa zaka zambiri, ndipo ndakhala ndikuimba kwambiri tsiku lililonse kwa masiku omaliza a 80. Sindine wamkulu, koma pamapeto pake nditha kusewera nyimbo zochepa ndipo ndikusangalala ndi njira yophunzirira.
- Kugwira ntchito. Ndakhala ndikuyesera kuyamba kugwira ntchito pafupipafupi pazaka 3 zapitazi. Pomaliza, ndakwanitsa kukhala ndi chizolowezi, ndipo tsopano ndagwira ntchito masiku 4 pamlungu mwezi watha. Sindinawonepo zowoneka bwino, koma ndine wokonzeka kupitiliza kufikira nditakhutitsidwa.
- Kupereka zibwenzi zakumapeto. Ndakhala ndi anzanga ochepa omwe akhala akundikhumudwitsa kwazaka zambiri, ndikupanga munthu wopanda pake komanso waulesi. Tsopano ndazindikira kuti tasiyana ndi banja ndipo ndaganiza zothana ndi chiyanjano chilichonse chomwe ndili nacho pamoyo wanga. Izi zitha kuoneka ngati zovutirapo, koma ndikufuna kupereka mwayi kwa anthu omwe amandiganizira ndipo ali ndi zolinga zofananazo m'moyo.
- Kudya wathanzi. Ndakhala ndimadya nthawi zonse ndimathanzi, koma pamapeto pake ndimayambitsa chizolowezi chodwala kwambiri komanso makapu angapo tsiku lililonse. Ndine mwezi wa 1 waufulu kwa iwo onse ndipo sindinamvepo bwino. Ndimadyanso zipatso, masamba komanso zakudya zopatsa thanzi.
- Kusinkhasinkha. Ndasinkhasinkha tsiku lililonse kwa masiku omaliza a 45, ndipo ndikuyamba kukonza gawo lililonse la moyo wanga. Ndimagwiritsa ntchito kusinkhasinkha kotsogola www.getsomeheadspace.com. Ndi okwera mtengo kwambiri (monga $ 13 pamwezi ndikukhulupirira), koma ali ndi mawu oyamba omasuka osinkhasinkha masiku 10 omwe ndikupangira aliyense amene angafune kuyesa kusinkhasinkha.
- Ndatha maola angapo tsiku lililonse kuti ndiyeserere kulankhula ndi kusiya kuchita chibwibwi, ndipo zotsatira zake zakhala amisala. Miyezi 6 yokha yapitayo ndimatha kunena chiganizo osakhala ndi chibwibwi chotsekereza kuyankhula kwanga. Chaka chapitacho, ndinali ndi masiku omwe ndinali wokonzeka kutha moyo wanga chifukwa cha izi. Ndikulankhula ndi alendo kapena m'malo opanikizika, ndimangotulutsa mawu. Tsopano, nditha kuyankhula kwa mphindi 5 molunjika osaterereka pazinthu zingapo. Ndikudziwa kuti izi sizikunena zambiri kwa ambiri a inu, koma kwa ine uku ndiko kusintha kwakukulu komwe ndikadalota. Ndidakali ndi njira yayitali yoti ndipite, pokhala wangwiro, ndipo ndimavutikabe ndi nkhawa chifukwa cha izi. Koma ndikutsimikiza kuti nditha kuthana ndi izi ndi njira yanga yatsopano. Ndipo ngati sinditaya zonse, ndiye kuti ndithana ndi nkhawa zanga ndikuphunzira kukhala nazo.
Tsoka ilo, sindinapezebe mwayi wodziwa mavuto anga pakati pamashiti. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zina ndimasungulumwa, ndaganiza zodzipangira ndekha m'njira iliyonse. Ndikutali kuchokera kuzolinga zanga, ndipo ndizomwe ndiyambe ndikayamba. Mkazi wangwiro abwera ndikakhala wokonzeka, zinthu zofulumira zitha ndi mavuto, ndikulankhula kuchokera pazochitikira. Sindikukondweretsanso maimidwe amodzi usiku umodzi, koma ndilibe vuto kudikirira. Kutchula wina pa dongosololi: "Yendani m'misewu ngati mulungu, ndipo mulungu wanu wobwera adzabwera kwa inu."
Malangizo aliwonse a NoFappers atsopano kapena ovuta? Ndalingalira za izi kwambiri, ndipo izi ndi zomwe ndikadatha kupeza. Zina mwazomwe zimabwerezedwabwino kwambiri mu lipoti lililonse la masiku 90, koma zambiri sizingathe kubwerezedwa mokwanira.
- Yesetsani kusintha. NoFap sikungakupatseni zosintha zokha. Simudzakhala mulungu wa gitala kapena luso la kutola atsikana mongosunga dzanja lanu kutali ndi Dick. Ikhoza kukupatsani chilimbikitso chowonjezeka, mphamvu ndi chidaliro, koma zili kwa inu kuti mugwiritse ntchito izi ndikusintha moyo wanu. Dziwani zomwe mumakonda komanso Ingochitani!
- Osapereka chidwi chanu chonse pakupeza atsikana. Izi ndizachidziwikire ndipo ndikuzindikira kuti anthu ena atha kusagwirizana kwathunthu. Koma upangiri wanga ndikuti muziyang'ana pakukonza nokha ndikukhala munthu amene mungafune kukhala. Atsikana (kapena anyamata) abwera pamapeto pake.
- Ikani fyuluta ndikuchotsa zolaula. Anthu ena amawoneka kuti amakonda K9. Sindinadziyese ndekha, koma ingogwiritsani ntchito zowonjezera za Firefox zotchedwa StayFocusd. Ndizosavuta kuzimitsa, koma ndakhala ndikumva kuti ndikufuna kukhala ndi chilango chopewa zolaula. Ndikabwerera m'mbuyo, ndiye ndikuganiza ndiyenera kuwonjezera kulanga kwanga. Inde, iyi si njira yofananira ndi aliyense, ndipo anthu ena pano ali ndi mavuto ozama kwambiri azolaula kuposa momwe ndidalili. StayFocusd ndi zowonjezera monga zilinso zabwino kwambiri kukuletsani kuzengereza. Ndili ndimabokosi angapo okumbutsa kuti ndisayang'ane mitsinje yamasewera, midzi yamasewera ndikukhala pa Reddit kwanthawi yayitali.
- Werengani "Mphamvu ya Chizolowezi" yolembedwa ndi Charles Duhigg. Ngati mukuvutika, ili ndi buku labwino kwambiri komanso lanzeru kwambiri lomwe mungawerenge. Idzakupatsani chidziwitso cha chifukwa chomwe mumakhalira komanso momwe mungasinthire zonsezi komanso magawo ena m'moyo wanu. Zowona sindikuganiza kuti ndikadafika mpaka pano popanda bukuli.
- Sinkhasinkhani. Ndanena izi pamwamba kwambiri, koma ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungachite.
- Onani zomwe zimayambitsa. Liti, pati ndipo chifukwa chiyani mumatha? Ngati mumakonda kulunga zinthu zoyambirira m'mawa, ikani nthawi yanu yotsatira kuti musabwerere kukagona. A Duhigg amalankhula izi m'buku lomwe ndalongosola pamwambapa. Werengani, mumvetsetse kenako ndikukhala ndi moyo, ndipo mudzachita bwino.
Kotero, bwanji tsopano? Ndasankha kusunga NoFaps pakadali pano. Ndine woyamba kukhuta ndekha ndi momwe moyo wanga ukupitira, ndipo NoFap yakhala chikhalidwe chachiwiri kwa ine. Ndimavutikabe ngati gehena nthawi ndi nthawi, koma kukakamiza ndi ukali kuti usunge zatha. Zolaula sizimandisangalatsa konse ndipo ngakhale ndilibe vuto nazo, pakadali pano ndimaona maliseche komanso zolaula ngati chinthu chosasangalatsa komanso chosangalatsa kwenikweni kwa thupi.
Gawo lotsatira kwa ine ndikuchepetsa kwambiri zochitika zanga pa Reddit, chifukwa chake NoFap aswell. NoFap yandithandiza kwambiri komanso ndimazindikira zambiri, koma ndichikhalidwe chachiwiri kwa ine. Ngakhale ndikufuna kuthandiza anthu omwe akuvutika, ndiyenera kundichitira izi. Ndikadakhalabe kwakanthawi, ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti ndibweranso kuti ndikapereke lipoti la masiku 120, 200 ndi 365.
Tsopano ndayamba kukhala munthu yemwe ndakhala ndikufuna kuti ndikhale, munthu amene nditha kunyadira naye. Zedi, ndimakhalabe ndi masiku oyipa, koma abwino amawonjezerapo. Zikomo NoFap pondithandiza kupeza munthu ameneyo, ndi mwayi kwa inu nonse! Ngati muli ndi mafunso, ndingakhale wokondwa kuwayankha.
TL; DR? Muyenera.
Sinthani: Ndikufuna kuwonjezera kuti ndakhala ndikuchita izi pamawonekedwe ovuta osalola kuti ndichepetse kapena kuyang'ana zolaula konse.
LINK - Malipoti anga a masiku 90 - masiku 90 ndikudzibwezeretsanso.
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