Pambuyo pa zaka 30 za PMO - Ndinakhala ndikukonzekera nthawi yogonana kwa nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga

Masiku 82 ndi nambala yodabwitsa yoti tilemberepo, koma ndagwira chinthu chachikulu lero. Mbiri yachangu. Ndidasudzulana ndipo ndidakwatirana ndi bwenzi langa loyamba (komanso bwenzi loyamba logonana). Izi zidatenga zaka khumi ndipo ndikuchita manyazi kuvomereza kuti PMO idandipangitsa kuti ndisamagonane.

Kusudzulana sikunali kokha chifukwa cha PMO koma ndikukuwuzani kuti ubale wopanda moyo wogonana ndiubwenzi woipa, nthawi.

Banja litatha, ndidakumana ndi zosintha zambiri, kuphatikiza kutaya kulemera LOTI, kusintha ntchito, galimoto, malingaliro, chilichonse. Koma sindinasinthe PMO, ngakhale mlangizi waukwati adandiuza molondola kuti ndimakonda zolaula (sindinawone chifukwa chosiya - ndinalibe GF ndipo zinali zotonthoza).

Mofulumira chaka chisudzulo ndipo takumana ndi msungwana wokongola wosamalira ndipo mutha kudziwa kale nkhaniyi - sindinathe kuyimvetsa. Ndipo monga paukwati wanga ndidayamba kuganiza kuti, ndangokhala wosweka mtima ndipo msungwanayu akuyenera kukhala ndichakuti ndine chibwenzi chachikulu Pokhapokha nditagonana.

Amandithandizira kwambiri ndipo adati 'titha' kuthana ndi mavuto anga - ndipo izi zidandipangitsa kulingalira za vuto langa. Ndipo popeza ndidapatsidwa chithunzithunzi chavutoli pafupifupi chaka chapitacho, ndidayamba kuwerenga za izi, ndidapeza tsamba ili, YBOP, ndi masamba ena. Ndipo tsiku lina ndili kutchuthi ndipo m'malo motuluka panja ndimapita kukaonera zolaula pa laputopu yanga ndikusangalala ndekha, zidandigunda - ili linali vuto. Ndinafunika kuyima.

Tsiku limenelo linali masiku 82 apitawo ndipo ndine wonyada kunena kuti ndakhala wopanda vuto lililonse kapena maliseche. Sindili wonyada kunena kuti ndimayambiranso zolaula masiku angapo akuwoneka - kawirikawiri ndimphindi zochepa chabe za bikini / zofewa koma ndikudziwa kuti ndizolakwika. Iyi ndi nkhondo yomwe ndimamenyabe.

Komabe, kwa ine, zikuwoneka kuti nofap ndiye maziko a yankho, chifukwa vuto lomwe ndinali nalo linali kukhumudwa chifukwa chakuwombera - sindinamve chilichonse kuchokera ku PIV kapena BJ kapena china chilichonse kupatula dzanja langa. Mwa kuchotseratu dzanja langa ndimatha pang'onopang'ono (pang'onopang'ono, koma ndithu) ndikumvanso.

Pafupifupi masiku 45 mkati ndimatha kumva kuti PIED ikuchoka, komabe sikunali kokwanira. Ndidauza GF yanga zavuto langa panthawiyo, chomwe ndi chinthu china chotsutsana pano; bola momwe ndinalili zinali zothandiza kwambiri kumuuza kuti amvetse zomwe ayenera kuchita kuti andithandize kukhala bwino.

Ndipo kuti ndikafike kumapeto kwa ngalandeyi - yomwe ndikuyembekeza kuti ndi CHIWERENGERO CHOYAMBA - m'mawa uno ndatha kuyisunga nthawi ya PIV kotero kwa nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga (ndipo ndili ndi zaka 30 ) Ndinapatsa mtsikana chiwonongeko kuchokera pamenepo. Ndinamvanso zambiri (mwachiwonekere kuyambira pomwe ndinatha kulowa ndikupitilirabe) komabe ndili ndi njira zopitira ndisanabwezeretsenso.

Chifukwa chake inde, iyi ndi nkhani yodzitamandira, koma ndimakonda kuwerenga zolemba zodzitamandira za anthu ena chifukwa kupambana kwawo kunandipatsa chiyembekezo chodzachita bwino. Ndili ndi njira zoti ndipitire, koma ngati ndingafotokoze mwachidule mfundo zapaulendo wanga:

  • Kutalika kwakanthawi PMO komwe kumapangitsa ukwati kuwola kuchokera mkati chifukwa cha iwo
  • Pomaliza ndidakumana ndi vuto langa pafupifupi miyezi itatu yapitayo ndipo ndakhala 100% yabwino pa nofap (yopanda m'mphepete kapena maliseche) koma osati yopambana pa porn (yochepetsedwa kwambiri, koma osati yamanyazi)
  • Adagawana zambiri ndi bwenzi latsopano. Chifukwa chake ndili pa 'zosavuta' rewiring nthawi yomweyo ndikubwezeretsanso.
  • PIED yambiri yachepetsedwa (m'malo mwake ndimakhala ndi nkhawa yamagetsi) za masiku a 45 mkati
  • Tinatha kumaliza masiku a PIV 82 mkati
  • Ndakhala masiku opitilira 90 opanda chiwonetsero changa, ndipo sindiphulika - chifukwa chake sizofunikira kwa anyamata onse

tl; dr PMO wokonda kugwiritsa ntchito yemwe sanathe kumaliza PIV adatha kuchita pambuyo pa masiku a 82 NOFAP. Reboot sichachidziwikire kuti ali ndi zambiri koma akupita patsogolo kwambiri komanso ayenera kudzipereka

LINK - Tsiku la 82 - pali kuwala kumapeto kwa mumphangayo!

by yetanotheranon1

 

ZOCHITIKA - Patatha pafupifupi miyezi inayi, ndikuyamba kuchita bwino

Tsiku lokumbukira tsiku langa linayi ndi masiku angapo apitawa. Nditangotha ​​mwezi umodzi nditakumana ndi bwenzi langa laposachedwa, yemwe anali udzu womwe udasokoneza ngamila kumbuyo kwanga ndikuphwanya kuzungulira kwa PMO. Anali wokoma mtima komanso womvetsetsa ndipo ndimamufuna iye woipa kwambiri koma osakhoza kuchita ndipo kwa nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga ndidati ndikufuna kukhala wabwino, osati kwa iye yekha, koma kwa ine ndekha. Ndipo kenako ndinawerenga, kuwerenga, kuwerenga ndikuganiza zoyambitsa pulogalamuyo.

<--break->” src=”https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/spacer.gif” title=”<--break-->“>It has not been without its bumps. I’ve been completely free of fap — no edging, no masturbation — but not pornfree. I’ve learned that its not because I am not satisfied looking at my girl, but its because of the novelty of seeing something new.</p><p>My main symptom was terrible PIED; while I was married for over a decade (to my first girlfriend and only sexual partner ever) I can’t say I ever successfully had PIV sex. I just assumed I was ‘broken’ at sex and that the PMO cycle was not the problem.</p><p>During the divorce I saw a counselor who told me I was addicted to porn, but I was going through a LOT of things and chose to ignore it, thinking whats the problem with PMO when you don’t have anyone. Looking back it was so stupid, but in my own defence, I was able to lose a LOT of weight and change my attitude towards women even before I quit PMO.</p><p>At around the 30 day mark of the program I told my girlfriend what I was going through. She was supportive and I stuck with ‘easy’ mode in the sense I still had sexual activity, just didn’t O, and still had PIED issues. At around the 90 day mark I for the first time in my life had PIV sex where I gave her an orgasm, and a few days later, I actually had an O inside a woman for the first time EVER. It was such a different experience that I didn’t even know it was happening till it was done.</p><p>Suffice to say I felt pretty good (even though like any one who is having first time sex, it was sooo quick). Then I think I fell into a flatline, or something happened. For the next two weeks I couldn’t get it up at all, and I was despondent. I felt like I did in my first relationship, that I was broken. But unlike last time, I felt horrible because I wanted to be better, because I know myself and my girlfriend deserve a normal sex life.</p><p>If one thing I’ve learned as a side effect of giving up PMO is that your emotions pour out of you like no one’s business. And this weekend after some progress in the right direction a few things happened that led me down a deep, dark path of self doubt. I can say honestly I never thought about relapsing, but I could not see the light at the end of the tunnel.</p><p>I also read the forums and we all know that in addition to the success stories we have stories of struggle, and there was a post yesterday that was something like “I just want to cry”. And I’m a typical guy, was told never to cry, and then you add on PMO which masks our emotions, I never cried. But I just cried about where I am, and cried in front of my girlfriend, just because the emotions were pouring out and I wasn’t bottling it up anymore and I wasn’t resorting to fap either.</p><p>As someone who PMOed for 30+ years and didn’t cry for 30+ years I can say that both things are definitely wrong. I can only wish someone I trusted had told me this. I can’t say that crying on its own felt better, but confronting my emotions, my insecurities, my fears, with someone I trusted was a big step of the process.</p><p>So after being reassured that my girlfriend and I would work on it as a team, and us talking over some things that normal couples do (such as being more expressive during sex over what we like, etc) we tried again the next couple of days. The next day, I was able to have PIV sex and have an O (so yes, the second time in my life inside a woman). Since I was aware of the sensation I was able to actually delay the O for a few minutes, but still not enough for my GF to O. The day after, I can say that it was a normal (still brief) sexual encounter .. I brought my GF to O and then I O afterwards.</p><p>In any regular life this is not something to write home about, because the sex was just ‘normal’. But after all this time, being normal is all I want. I now have regular issues – having to time my and my GF O, different sexual libidos, etc. And I’m not completely out of the woods. I am still so insecure about this and know that doubt will come into my mind again.</p><p>But I only know one thing — PMO is no longer an option. I just can’t do it anymore. One last aside. A couple of days ago my GF and I watched the movie Thanks for Sharing. That movie is about sex addiction but there’s a LOT in common with our problems (as porn and masturbation addiction are often also problems of sex addicts). My GF told me after watching it she felt a lot more understanding of the journey I was going through. Since she was sitting next to me she also said I was sweating a lot through the movie. I believe that was because it was uncomfortably accurate. So we had some more serious and frank discussions about the addiction and the recovery process.</p><p>I told her that while I’ve been tempted to fap I didn’t do it because I didn’t want to fail you guys online, fail the fellow soldiers in the nofap war, fail her, or fail myself. I think about all of those folks I’d let down if I fap and then I don’t. I told her the truth that I’ve had much more difficulty with porn and that I want to give it up for good too. And then she asked me, very sweetly, to give that up for her too. And you know, I’m glad she asked me. Some guys might take it poorly (like the Don Jon character did in that movie) but I know she did it because she loves me and now every time I’m tempted to click a link I don’t want to let her down.</p><p>tl;dr After four months with some severe ups and downs, many of them emotional, am able to have normal sex with all the normal issues that normal people have. The reboot isn’t complete but the journey is the ONLY option I have.</p><hr><p> </p><p><strong>UPDATE2  <a class=- Mutha kubwereranso (osudzulidwa chifukwa cha zolaula)

Kotero, ndakhala ndi vuto lalikulu ndi zolaula moyo wanga wonse. Mnzanga wapamtima anandiuza kuti ndibwerere kusekondale ndipo ndinali mwana wamanjenje, wamanjenje motero ndimakumbukira kuthera maola ambiri ndikuyesera kutsitsa ma GIF kuchokera pa modemu yanga ya baud 1200 ndikubisalira abambo anga (mbali: makolo anga amayandikira kuti angondiuza zoyipa zake osanenapo chifukwa chake SIYENDA. Muyeneranso kuganiza kuti ana anu ndi anzeru kuposa inu - ngati akufuna kuchita zomwe simukuvomereza, azichita).

Ubale wanga ndi zolaula unayambitsanso ubale weniweni ndi akazi. Sizinakhudze momwe ndimakhalira ndi akazi, koma zimandithandizira momwe ndimakhalira ndi SEX. Ndipo chofunikira ndikuti ndimakonda kugonana popanda chiweruzo komanso pakufuna m'malo mokwera ndi kugona kwenikweni.

Chifukwa chake ngakhale ndinalibe chidwi chokhudza kugonana 'ndisanalowe m'banja ndimakumbukira momwe zimakhalira zosauka komanso momwe ndidabwerera nthawi yomweyo ku zolaula. Sindinachite zogonana usiku waukwati, ndiyeno kwa zaka khumi ndi zinayi ndimachita mantha usiku wanga wogonana sabata iliyonse ndi mkazi wanga (wakale), ndikupanga zifukwa zopewa izi, kenako ndikufuna kupita kuchipinda china ndikapeze zina zolaula kuti musinthe.

Ngakhale ili silinali vuto lokhalo muubwenzi wanga, pakuwona pang'ono linali gawo lalikulu - mwina 90%. Ndipo ngakhale kusowa kwa kugonana, kwenikweni kunali kusowa kwaubwenzi. Ndipo panthawi yomwe ndimadabwa pomwe mkazi wanga (wakale) adapempha kuti athetse banja, pakadali pano ndiganiza chifukwa chake helo adadikirira nthawi yayitali, bwanji ndinalora?

Kotero panthawi ya chisudzulo ndinawona mlangizi waukwati yemwe adandidziwa bwino za zolaula zanga. Koma sindinanyalanyaze, makamaka popeza ndinali wosakwatiwa koyamba kwa zaka makumi awiri, ndipo zolaula zinali chinthu chabwino chomwe ndadziwa moyo wanga wonse.

Kenako ndinakumana ndi mtsikana wangwiro, ndipo tinagonana. Ndipo zinali zokhumudwitsa kwambiri. Zinapitanso molakwika. Koma nthawi ino, sindimangoganiza kuti 'ndi momwe ziliri'. Ndinafunika kudziwa chomwe chinali cholakwika, chifukwa ndimaganiza ndi mkazi wanga wakale kuti 'kugonana sikofunikira ngati muli ndi chikondi' kapena kuponderezana kotere. Tsopano ndinkadziwa kuti moyo wosangalala komanso wokhutiritsa ndi chinthu chofunikira paubwenzi wanthawi yayitali.

Ndipamene ndidakumana ndi nofap ndi ma forum azolaula ndikuwerenga nkhani za anthu onga ine. Ndipo wakhala msewu Wautali wobwereranso pakati, koma ndakhala ndikuyesera kusiya zolaula ndikukhala pafupifupi chaka chimodzi. Msungwana wapano amadziwa za vuto langa ndipo wakhala akundithandiza.

Popeza ndakhala ndikuyesera kuti ndisiye zonse ziwiri, ndakhala ndikugonana bwino (osakwanira mwanjira iliyonse) ndipo ndimatha kuchita nawo zachiwerewere ndi iye (sindinachitepo ndi mkazi wanga wakale). Ndipo yayitali komanso yayifupi ndikuti ndayambanso kuchita chibwenzi, nthawi ino moyo wogonana wopanda zolaula komanso zosowa monga gawo la dongosololi.

tl; Dr Chibwenzi choyamba cha zaka pafupifupi makumi awiri chinawola kuchokera mkati chifukwa chazovuta za PMO ndipo zidatsogolera kusudzulana. Ndinatha kutembenuka ndikupanga ubale watsopano (** NDAKHALA NDIPONSO **) nditasiya PMO.

Kotero kwa iwo omwe amamverera ngati inu muli otsika, ambiri a ife takhala tiri kumeneko. Mukhoza kuzitembenuza, mosasamala kanthu komwe muli.