Mzerewu ulipo kuti ukhale posts Zolemba zazitali moona mtima zidandibweretsera vuto, chifukwa chake ndiyesetsa kuti ndizifupikitsa, ngakhale ndili ndi zambiri zoti ndinene. TL: DR pansi.
Kunena zowona konse, sindikudziwa ngati ndinali 'wokonda' zolaula pa chilichonse, chifukwa ndimatha kufikira chaka chimodzi ndikuyesera kawiri. Komabe, ndimakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi izi, koma simungathe kunena izi mpaka mutasiya zolaula kapena mukuvulaza wina pakutero. Moyo ulidi wabwinoko kuposa zolaula chifukwa ndipamene mumayamba kukhala ndi moyo. Ma dopamine receptors anu amayamba kuchira, mumakhala ndi malingaliro enieni, ndipo mumawona zogonana mosiyana. Sizokhudza kukhutitsidwa kwakanthawi chomwe chiri, ndani anganene? Zomwezo zimatha kusiyanasiyana, koma sikuti ndikumangirira zinthu pazenera. Ndiye osati kugonana Momwemonso, kuyang'ana zakudya zamalonda sikufanana ndi kudya.
Chifukwa chake, malingaliro owona, sindikudziwa ngati ndidayipitsa zolaula apa ndi apo, koma ndayamba kuwona kuti kugonana kumatha kukhala dalitso, zomwe zolaula zimalepheretsa nthawi zonse. Ndapanga kufananitsa zolaula zingapo, koma zimafikira izi:
-The Food Analogy: Kodi mungakonde kuwonera zotsatsa kapena mungadye chakudya? Chifukwa onse awiri ali ndi kufanana kofananako wina ndi mnzake, komabe adali osiyana kwambiri, chimodzimodzi ndi zolaula ndizogonana. Ndipo inde, malonda azakudya amamva kwambiri koma nawonso sakhutitsa kwenikweni ndipo samakwaniritsa zosowa zanu (Zomwe muyenera kudya), momwemonso zolaula zingawoneke kukhala zokhutiritsa koma sizikukwaniritsa kufunika kogonana. Kodi chakudya n'choipa? Ayi, izo zingakhale zabwino kwambiri, koma malonda ndi vuto. Ndipo ... zomwe zimandipweteka kwambiri ndikuti ngati anthu ali oyenera kudya chakudya pamene akuyang'ana malonda, izi ndizolondola, sizolakwika kwenikweni popeza kudya bwino, koma kumangopitilira zinthu mopusa. Kuyerekeza komwe kulipo pakuwona zolaula ndikugonana ndi munthu wina, eya ndipita mpaka kukanena izi.
-Kufanizira kwa Ivy Poizoni: Ndidalemba za izi kwakanthawi kuti ndikopera ndikunama. Zolaula zili ngati ivy zakupha. Kwa Dick wanu. Poyamba kuwonekera, mumadzimva wosemphana (Kudziimba mlandu, kunyansidwa, kapena kungomva kuti dopamine hangover), kenako mumalonjera izi ndikupitiliza kuzikanda (PMO), apo ayi nthawi zina mumalolera ndipo zimapweteka kwambiri (Kubwereranso). Koma ngati simungakwanitse kuzikanda, zimatha kuchira, ndipo (NoFap) m'malingaliro mwanga ndi ngati mafuta onunkhira, omwe amafulumizitsa njira yochiritsira. Ndipo mutha kupezedwanso kwathunthu koma kuwonetseredwa ndi Ivy poizoni kudzapwetekanso osati popanda zotsatirapo zake, ndipo kuzichita pang'ono pang'ono chifukwa kukanda zilonda kumakhala bwino, ndibwino kuti musakhale ndi totupa konse, chabwino ? Zowonadi sizinthu zomwe mukufuna kupitiriza kuyesera, zinthu zina m'moyo ndizabwino kusiya.
Ndine wokondwa kuti ndidayankhula zomwezo, ndipo ndimangofuna kulongosola, kugonana ndibwino kwambiri!. Mutha kunena kwa ena kuti inemwini ndizabwino kwambiri, heh .. Mungaganize kuti popeza zolaula ndizoyimira kugonana, zilibwino koma ndimayesetsa kukumbukira mafanizo awiriwa kuti tithandizire kumvetsetsa ndikukhulupirira kuti ndikutha kufotokoza zomwe ndikufunadi kunena kwa inu anyamata.
Ndilibe chilichonse chomwe chimayambitsa kapena kutsetsereka pakadali pano, malonda achiwerewere omwe ali pa TV samandilowetsa mu `` gawo lofufuzira '', komanso kuwona ochita zisudzo, ndipo mndandandawo ungapitirire. Sindimayang'ana izi poyamba, komabe nthawi zonse akamatulutsa chisangalalo mwa ine sichimawoneka, zimawoneka ngati nthawi zina ndimaganizira momwe zingakhalire kukhala ndi mkazi yemwe angandikonde amene amandikonda kubwerera.
Panthawiyi, ndikudabwa kuti ndikupeza akazi akuvala kuti azikhala okongola kusiyana ndi omwe akuwonetseratu zolaula. Pomwepo, ndinali kuchitidwa ngati nyama ndipo ndikuzindikira kuti n'zosadabwitsa kuti ndinayamba kudzidzimvera ndekha, ndipo mosakayikira amuna ena omwe amawona zolaula amachita zomwezo. Kuwona zolaula kumatanthauza kuzindikira kuti 'Simokwanira wokwatirana naye', kwa iwo omwe alibe zibwenzi, komanso kwa omwe ali ndi zibwenzi, ndikuti mwangozolowera kuchuluka kwa dopamine komwe zolaula zimapereka kuposa zomwe moyo weniweni umapereka, koma sizingakhale zokhutiritsa. Simungatsutsane ndi ine ngati mukufuna kumeneko, koma ndi zomwe ndazindikira, ndipo nzosadabwitsa kuti zolaula zimasokoneza ubale. Zanditengera nthawi kuti ndizindikire kuti mutha kuwonabe zolaula mukakhala paubwenzi ndi munthu wina, kuti mumawakondabe (Ndikhulupirireni, zinanditengera nthawi yaitali kwambiri kuzindikira izo), komabe zikhala zopweteka kwambiri. O, zovuta zomwe mnzanu angamve kuti ali ndi vuto poyesera kuyerekezera ndi miyezo imeneyi, sangakhale okhoza kukhala nanu moona mtima. Zili ngati, (Kubwereranso ku chakudya), ngati munena kuti mnzanu ndi wophika wabwino yemwe amakupangirani chakudya, komabe mumangobwerera kuzotsatsa, mukadali abwenzi koma Ndizovuta kwambiri kukonda zithunzi pa moyo.
Kodi ndikufuna kubwerera kukaonera zolaula kapena chilichonse chogonana ngati ndikuwoneka kuti ndachira tsopano? Chabwino, kwa ine ndikuganiza kuti kuchira kuno sikunali kochokera, zinali zotsatira zoyipa zomwe zolaula zimandipangitsa. Ndizachilendo, nditha kumvetsetsa lingaliro lomwe anthu akadziwa kuti 'Amuna amaganizira kwambiri za kugonana', chifukwa ndizowona, zogonana zili m'maganizo mwanga kwambiri, koma zimamverera kukhala zofatsa, okhwima, okonda, komanso palibe ' Kuchuluka kwa ziwopsezo zomwe zimakhudzidwa kapena kudziimba mlandu, ndipo sindikuganiza za sekondi iliyonse yamoyo wanga. Sindikubwerera ku zolaula chifukwa sindikufuna kutero, ndipo ndizofunika kwambiri kwa ine. Kupewa zolaula kunandithandiza kuzindikira zomwe ndimakhumba kwambiri, zomwe zinali chibwenzi, ndipo pomwe ndidalibe, ndili ndi kulimba mtima komanso mphamvu zopitilira mtsogolo .. ndipo mwina nditha kutsimikizika kuti tsiku lina ndikulimba mtima chilakolako chichitike.
Inde! Muyenera kutchula, yesetsani kufalitsa tsiku la 90 tsiku loyamba la NoFap nthawi iliyonse yomwe mungathe komanso nthawi zonse yesetsani kuti musamazengereze maliseche tsiku lililonse, makamaka ngati mutangotaya zolaula monga kuseweretsa maliseche kudzakhala ndi malingaliro okhudzana ndi zolaula, Nthawi yokhayo ingakhoze kuwuza pamene mungathe kutha popanda zolaula. Komabe, malingaliro anga pa NoFap ndikuti amathandizadi ndipo amapindulitsa, kwa ine kukulira kumatha kuchitika, koma ndikuwona kuti sikupindulitsa, ngati kuwombera morphine. Zimakhumudwitsa, ndipo zimandipangitsa kukhala wokhumudwa komanso wosungulumwa, ndipo NoFap imakhumudwitsidwa (Osati anthu ammudzi, lol, sindimakonda kupita kumeneko)
TL: DR - Zachidziwikire, ndachira, osati kuledzera koma kuchokera ku zoyipa zoyipa zomwe zolaula zimakonda kupatsa wowonera. Nditha kupitiliza ndi moyo, mwina ndilemba zochepa pano kuyambira pano. Zowopsa, ili ndi vuto losafunikira kwenikweni, Chaka chimodzi chokha cha zolaula chandithandiza 'kundichiritsa' zaka zoposa 1 zamankhwala onse, sizinganene zimenezo ?? Komabe, zangochitika kuti ndili pa NoFap streak yanga yayitali kwakanthawi, ndilo sabata la 1 lero, ndikufika tsiku la 365 la zolaula. Ndafinya masiku 90 oyambiranso, koma ndapeza zifukwa zopitilira kupita patsogolo muzinthu zonsezi. Ndili ndi maloto akuluakulu oti ndikwaniritse tsiku lina, komanso kupewa zolaula komanso maliseche (Koma makamaka zolaula) kwandithandiza kuti ndipite patsogolo pamoyo wanga pazomwe ndikufuna.
Yadda yadda, ndili ndi mphamvu zoposa, koma osati yomwe ndimayifuna kwambiri, yomwe inali chidwi cha akazi, koma zili bwino, ndidali ndi ena! Ndinali ndi nkhawa yayikulu, koma tsopano zatha. Sindine wolimba mtima kwambiri, koma ndili ndi bata komanso bata. Ndili ndi mphamvu zambiri, ndipo ndili ndi chidwi, chomwe ndi chinthu chatsopano kwa ine chomwe ndikudziwa kuti ndilipo 😀 Sindikumva manyazi poyang'ana mkazi, ndipo ndimatha kuyankhula naye pamaso m'malo moyang'ana pachifuwa pake. Ndikhala wowona mtima, ndizokwiyitsa pang'ono kuti ndizovuta kuti amuna azichita izi, ulemu waukulu kwa iwo omwe amatha kungolankhula bwinobwino osachita mantha. Sindiyeneranso kukana poyang'ana mbali zina za thupi!
Ndipo ... ngati ndikhala pachibwenzi, ndikhoza kukhala munthu wolota wina! Tsopano ndikuyamba kuda nkhawa kwambiri ndi maubale chifukwa, ngati nditakhala m'modzi ndimakhala ndi chisangalalo chomwe sindinathe kuchilingalira, ndipo ngati sichoncho .. chabwino ndikuyamba kuzolowera kumverera kumeneko tsopano ndipo komabe tikhoza kukhalabe ndi moyo. Mtendere.
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Ndikutanthauza..poyamba ndinali wokwiya, koma ndikulankhula ndi anzanga titamaliza sukulu ndinamva nkhani yochititsa chidwi: Chifukwa chake panali msungwana watsopanoyu pasukulu yathu yemwe ndimaganiza kuti ndi wamkulu, koma zikuwoneka kuti ali mgiredi lathu. Ndikuganiza kuti ndili ndi vuto lalikulu, koma ndikumva nkhani ija, komanso kuti anali wabwino kwambiri komanso wosungulumwa chifukwa amakhala yekha ndipo sakudziwa wina aliyense panopo .. Ndikumva ngati ndameza mankhwala opha ululu moona mtima.
Chabwino, nazi zinthu ziwiri zokhudza nkhani yomwe ili pamwambayi yomwe ikukhudzana ndi subreddit iyi. Imodzi ndiyo Kukhudzidwa. Ndinali ndikuyang'ana panja pabwalo la sukulu ndipo anali atavala juzi, koma atavula ndipo anali atavala malaya aatali kunsi, ndipo chiuno chake chitangowoneka pang'ono, ndinatsala pang'ono kufa. Nthawi ina pamene amayenda patsogolo panga kutsika masitepe ndimatha kumva ngati 'aura', china chake, ngati wtf ndi ichi?
Koma ndikutanthauza .. Izi ndi..ku ndikukula komwe masiku 298 atha kufikira zolaula (Ndipo zoyesayesa zovuta kwambiri ndi NoFap, masiku a 135 pakati pa masiku pafupifupi 300, osati pano), sindinamvepo motere, makamaka, mwina..mwina zolaula zimandithandizira kukulira msinkhu moyenera? Ndikulingalira ndikungoyenda apa, koma monga ndidanenera ndimamva ngati ndameza mankhwala opha ululu ndipo sindinamvepo chonchi kale. Sindikuganiza kuti ndi 'matenda achikondi' ndendende koma atha kukhala choncho. Ndani akudziwa… nditatha "kudalira" kwambiri kotero kuti sindikusowa chifukwa choti ndipite ku Prom..kusintha kumeneku!
Ndinaganiza moona mtima, nditasowa chilakolako ndikudzimvera chisoni ndi zolaula (Koma osati kugonana, kusintha kwakukulu chifukwa ndimakonda kudana nawo onse) mwina izi zitha kukhala 'zolipira' zoyesayesazi ine. Ndine wokondwa kwambiri! : 'D
Sinthani: Kwa inu nonse anyamata omwe atha kukhala atsopano kapena osandidziwa chifukwa chomwe ndikulemba ichi ngati dumbass, chabwino..wakhala pafupifupi mwambo, zowona, kuti kulumikizana kulikonse komwe ndidakhala nako atsikana anatha ndi kunyansidwa, chifundo, kapena kusadziwa, koma tsopano .. ndi zolaula ndi NoFap, zonse zomwe zapita. Ndipo sindikutanthauza kuti walowedwa m'malo ndi china chilichonse chabwino, koma kungoti ndili pafupi ndi malo 'osalowerera ndale,' palibe chomwe ndidachita pamoyo wanga chomwe chidatha kuchita, palibe upangiri, palibe, kupatula izi. Palibe chidwi cha atsikana kwanthawi zonse, ndipo vutoli silinathandize ndi izi (Ochepera… sichinachitike?) Koma chinthu ndichakuti, ndili ndi chidwi komanso chikhumbo chachikulu, mosasamala momwe munganene, ndipo ndikudziwa kuti mu PMO'ing wanga masiku chikhumbo choterocho sichinaganizidwe konse m'malingaliro .. ndipo onani momwe zikuchitikira tsopano! Zowona, pafupifupi masiku 300 osayang'ana zolaula amamva ngati kwamuyaya, koma mkati mwa muyaya ndinaphunzira momwe ndingamverere ndikumva kuti sindinatope ndi dopamine, ndipo mwina..kulimbikitsana, osati ndi mtsikana uyu, koma kuphatikiza ndi zosangalatsa zanga. Ndikuyamba zinthu zina zokhala ndi mkanda, pang'ono pang'onopang'ono popeza ndimafunikira zofunikira, ndipo ndakhala ndikuchita bwino ndikulemba malingaliro, ndikukonzekera kudzakhala wolemba tsiku lina. Kodi aliyense wa inu anganene izi, zonsezi pamwambapa ^, zopitilira zaka 16? Tikukhulupirira kuti zomwe ndalemba pano zitha kulimbikitsa ena kupitiliza!
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