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Moni kumeneko! Chifukwa chake ndafika masiku 90 kawiri tsopano, ndipo sindinachite maliseche kawiri mwezi womwewo kuyambira mwezi watha wa Marichi. Komabe, sindinalembepo lipoti lililonse la masiku 90 pa nthawi zomwe ndafika masiku 90 kupitirira apo. Dera lino lidandithandizira kuti ndikande ndikutulutsa nthawi yovuta kwambiri m'moyo wanga wamfupi, chifukwa chake ndikoyenera kuti ndibwezere kena kena.
Chiyambi chaching'ono: Ndinayamba zolaula ndili ndi zaka 11. Kukula m'banja lachipembedzo kwambiri, ndimalola chidwi changa kuti chiziyenda pang'ono ndisanatuluke ndikutseka kompyuta Yesu asanandimenyetse ndi bawuti kuchokera kumwamba. Ndinakhala patali kwakanthawi, koma pang'ono ndi pang'ono ndinalowa mdzikoli poyang'ana masewera a Sports Illustrated Swimsuit ndi Maxim paintaneti. Kwenikweni, m'malingaliro mwanga ndidaganiza kuti ngati sanali "amaliseche", zinali bwino. Uku kudali chiyambi cha msewu wautali komanso wowopsa wamaganizidwe omwe udanditengera zaka ndi zaka kuti ndisiye.
Mofulumira… pafupifupi zaka 6 kapena 7. Ndinali ndi zaka 18. Ndinkaoneka wokongola, wothamanga, ndipo ndikakhala pakati pa anthu ndimakhala moyo wachipani. Mtsikana aliyense amandifuna. Sindinathe kuwona izi, komabe, chifukwa sindinadzivomereze ndekha. Pakadali pano ndinali nditasuntha lingaliro loti zolaula zinali zoyipa chifukwa chachipembedzo, ndipo tsopano ndimangovomereza ngati zomwe aliyense amachita. Sindinkawuza aliyense za zimenezo. Ndidabisabe momwe ndingathere. Koma kwenikweni, ndinkaganiza kuti kamodzi pamlungu zinali bwino. Kuti ngati anali azigonana ndiye kuti zinali bwino kuposa kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha chifukwa sizingasokoneze lingaliro langa la zomwe amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amagonana. (tonsefe tikudziwa kuti 99% ya zolaula ndi anyamata ochita kwathunthu, osalola kuti azimenya mozungulira). Ndikulingalira kuti ngati ndikanangokhala M'd masiku angapo osakhala tsiku lililonse, ndiye kuti zinali bwino ndipo sindinali woledzera chifukwa ndimatha kudziletsa ndekha kuti ndisachite chifuniro changa.
Kotero ine ndinapitirira. Ndinafika kumapeto kwa chilimwe chaka chisanafike, zomwe zinasokoneza dongosolo langa. Ndinalibe abwenzi asanafike chaka choyambirira cha kusekondale, ndipo popeza kuti ndimangotchuka, ndinali kuti zonse zandichotsa. Moona mtima, izi zitha kukhala zovuta kwa aliyense, koma ndidaganiza zodzilanga ndekha ndi zolaula komanso masewera apakanema. Ndidachita izi kwa miyezi ingapo ya 7, mpaka ndidafika poti kukhumudwa kwanga, masewera apakanema, chizolowezi, chizolowezi cha PMO, komanso kusowa kwa chifuno zidakwaniritsa kuti ndiyesere kudzipha. Ndinayesa kudzipachika ndi lamba pachipilala changa chamkati mchipinda changa chapansi. Mwamwayi, chomangira lamba chidasweka, ndipo ndidangogona pansi usiku wonse ndikulira, ndikudabwa kuti ndalakwitsa pati.
Tsiku lotsatira, ndinadziyang'ana pagalasi ndipo ndinalonjeza ndekha kuti ndidzadzisintha kukhala munthu yemwe ndimamukonda. Osati kuti anthu ena azimukonda, koma munthu yemwe ndikanamukonda.
Patatha sabata ndidapeza reddit, kenako gawo ili, kuyambira pamenepo, chabwino, zonsezo ndi mbiriyakale. 'Ndikudutsa nthawi yovuta pakadali pano, koma chaka chatha ndi miyezi 3 zakhala zosangalatsa. Ndimakonda moyo ndi zonse zomwe ziyenera kundipatsa. Ndakhala ndi zibwenzi ziwiri, ndipo pamenepa ndi ine amene ndimathetsa zibwenzi ziwirizi. Izi zitha kundipangitsa kumveka ngati wosasamala, koma ndafika poti ndimadzipatsa ulemu kuti ndisapemphe wina kuti andikonde. Atsikana onsewa amandinyoza mwanjira ina, ndipo m'malo mokhala wosowa ndi wofunitsitsa chikondi chawo, ndinali ndi ulemu wokwanira kuti ndiwadule ndikupitilira. Malangizo anga atsopanowa "sakhazikika." Izi zikugwira ntchito kwa ine ndekha, moyo wanga, abwenzi anga, tsiku langa, maloto anga, ubale wanga, ndi zina zambiri. Zimakhudza chilichonse. Ndili ndi anzanga tsopano. Ochepa kwambiri. Ndili ku koleji ndipo ndili ndi zolinga zokhumba zamtsogolo. Ndinawerenga zambiri. Ndiyenera kuchita china chopindulitsa patsiku apo ayi ndimamva ngati ndachiwononga. Ndili ndi ulendo wautali, koma sindikuchitanso manyazi kuti ndine ndani. Sindilinso wozunzidwa. Ndine nkhandwe.
Chifukwa chake osachedwa, nazi maphunziro ochepa omwe ndidaphunzira ndikuganiza kuti ndiyenera kugawana nanu achichepere omwe ndidaphunzira panjira.
1) NGATI MUYESA MALO A VIDIYO MOSAVUTA (DAILY) MUKUFUNA KUTULUKA PANSI PA NTHAWI YABWINO
Pali maphunziro angapo kunja komwe kulumikiza masewera apakanema ndi zolaula ngati zowononga. Tsopano ndilibe nthawi yoti ndikalumikizane nawo, samavuta kupeza. Koma pamizu ya zizolowezi / zizolowezi zonsezi ndi kukwera kwa dopamine muubongo wanu. Zolaula makamaka zimakweza izi, chifukwa dopamine imakupatsani mphotho pazinthu zofunika kupulumuka. Popeza kuti zolaula ndizogwirizana ndi kugonana, zikuwonekeratu chifukwa chake izi zitha kuchitika.
Pazifukwa zilizonse, masewera a kanema amachitanso chimodzimodzi. Tsopano ndikukhulupirira kuti mutha kuziwongolera ngati ndinu olimba, koma ndikukupemphani kuti musamale masewera onse a PMO ndi makanema, osachepera masiku a 90. Ndimautcha kuti ubongo paleo zakudya. Ikani malingaliro anu kukhala opanda kanthu kuchokera ku chilichonse chomwe sichinali padziko lapansi pomwe tonsefe tinali opanga mapanga. Malingaliro athu amagwiritsidwanso ntchito motere, choncho chilichonse chomwe chimagwiritsa ntchito ubongo wathu kupitilira pamenepo chingakhale chowonongeka.
Komanso, mukudziwa china chomwe chimayambitsa dopamine? Cocaine ndi ndudu. Mukudziwa momwe zimakhalira zovuta kusiya chabwino? Mukuchita ndi lingaliro lomwelo. Kuchepetsa chidwi cha dopamine komwe muli nako, ndibwino.
2) MUKUFUNA KUTI MUZIKONZEKA PAKUTSITSIRA KUCHOKA
Zomwe izi ndizofunikira pachiyambi ndi chifukwa chakuti muli ndi zizolowezi ziwiri zomwe mumapanga chimodzi. Simungayang'ane zolaula popanda kuseweretsa maliseche. Simungathe kuseweretsa maliseche popanda zolaula. Chifukwa chake, nthawi itachedwa ndipo mwatopa ndipo mukungofuna kuthana ndi nkhawa, ndiye kuti muwotcha incognito, mulephera. Tsopano palibe chomwe mungachite kwa izi kwakanthawi. Zinanditengera kuyesa kwa 3 komanso masiku 70 kuti nditha kusiyanitsa m'malingaliro mwanga awiriwo. Koma mukachita izi, mulungu wanga mumatha kudziletsa. Mutha kuyenda ndi chikwangwani pamisika ndikungoyang'ana ndikupitiliza kuyenda osadumpha. Mukudziwa zovuta zonse zomwe mumawona pa intaneti? Mukafika pano, mutha kuwanyalanyaza mosavuta. Ngati muli pamalo ogulitsira khofi ndipo mtsikana wokongola atavala kabudula wamfupi amalowa, m'malo mokhala mukumuganizira za iye ndikuganiza zodziseweretsa maliseche kwa iye, mumadzuka, mumamuyang'ana wakufa m'maso ndikumwetulira. Ili ndiye gawo lamphamvu lodziletsa, chifukwa chake, ndiye gawo lamphamvu lamphamvu.
3) MUKUFUNA KUKHALA NDI CUTE CUT POPHUNZITSIRA CHIFUKWA CHIYANI MUKUFUNA KUTI MUYENDE PANO
Ngati mulibe izi, mukangolephera, malingaliro anu adzalingalira chifukwa chake zili bwino komanso chifukwa chake simukuyenera kusiya. Posakhalitsa, mutha kuthawa izi. Nditayamba, ndinali nditatayika kwambiri m'moyo ndikadatembenukira ku chilichonse. Nthawi zingapo zoyambilira ndidalephera, komabe, nditabwerera ndimavutika kudzilimbikitsa. Ndidapanga masiku 60 kuyesera kanga koyamba, koma kenako ndinaphulika kwa mwezi umodzi osatuluka sabata ndisanayambenso. Pakadali pano, ndimadziwa ngati ndikufunadi kuthana ndi vutoli kamodzi kokha, ndikufunika zifukwa zomveka. Ndinali nditawonapo "mphamvu zamphamvu" m'mbuyomu, ndipo ndimadziwa momwe ndimakhalira komanso momwe ndinalimbikitsidwira ndili pa nofap. (btw, mphamvu zazikuluzikuluzi zimatenga pafupifupi 2 kapena masabata a 3 kuti alowemo, choncho khalani pamenepo anyamata!). Chifukwa chake ndidatenga pepala ndikulemba zonse zomwe ndimafuna pamoyo wanga. Chilichonse kuyambira paulendo wapadziko lonse lapansi kukhala ndi yacht kukhala ndi mkazi wokongola wachikondi wothandizira komanso ana abwino. Chilichonse. Kenako ndinayang'ana pamndandandawu ndipo ndimadziwa kuti palibe njira yomwe ndingachitire izi ndikukhala PMO ndikusewera masewera apakanema. Ndalephera kangapo kuyambira pomwepo, koma nthawi iliyonse ndimangoganiza za chilichonse chomwe ndimafuna m'moyo, ndichifukwa chake ndimapitilizabe.
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Ndidayamba izi nditatsiriza kubwerera, ndipo ndazipanga mosavuta kuposa kale lonse. cholowa chamutu wa iphone ngati mukufuna kuyamba kotsogozedwa. Zowonadi mukazichita kwa sabata imodzi, simudzafuna kuima. Ndikusintha kwa moyo.
3) Zolimbitsa thupi zolimbitsa thupi
Sewerani masewera. Pezani nokha pa regimen. Zomwe ndimachita ndimachita masewera olimbitsa thupi masiku atatu pa sabata ndikuyenda pakati pa masiku amenewo, kenako ndimayenda bwino tsiku la 3. Sindimapanga izi nthawi ina iliyonse, koma ndine wophunzira kotero ngati mukufunika kutero. Ndimazichita nthawi iliyonse ndikasokonezeka ndipo malingaliro anga ayamba kuyendayenda, ndipo zimapangitsa mutu wanga kuyang'ana.
4) Dzikonzereni m'mawa komanso chizolowezi chamadzulo
Sindingathe kutsindika izi mokwanira. Mavuto anga akulu anali kugona pabedi ndi iphone yanga mwina ndikadzuka kapena ndikagona. Sikuti izi ndizowopsa kwa inu nokha komanso zokolola, koma ndizosavuta kupeza. Ndinkakhalanso ndi PMO pafupifupi usiku. Zomwe ndimachita tsopano ndi 11 pm, ndinatseka zamagetsi zonse. Ndinaika laputopu yanga m'chipinda changa, ndikayika alamu yanga pafoni ndikuyiyika patali ndi bedi langa, kenako ndimapita kukasamba kumaso, kutsuka mano, ndi zina zambiri. Kenako ndimalemba (osati tsiku lililonse, koma ndizabwino) ndikuwerenga mpaka Ndatopa. Izi zimachotsa zoyambitsa ndi ziyeso zonse kutali ndi ine, ndipo mmalo mosiya malingaliro anga ayendeyende, ndadzazidwa ndi buku.
5) Khululukirani nokha.
Dziwani kuti simudzakhala angwiro pamenepa. Dziwani kuti mudzalephera m'tsogolo. Ndipo khalani bwino ndi izi. Dzikhululukireni nokha pa nthawi yonse yomwe munawononga.
6) Pezani zokonda. Onani zinthu. Phunzirani. Dzazani nthawi yanu momwe mungathere
Ndikutsimikiza kuti aliyense amene achita bwino pantchitoyi amadziwa izi. Simungayembekezere kukhala moyo womwewo womwe mwakhala mukukhala, (mwachitsanzo, dzukani, gwirani ntchito pang'ono, kusewera pa intaneti, kugwira ntchito yochulukirapo, kusefera intaneti, kusefera nsfw, kugwira ntchito yaying'ono, kusefera intaneti , etc) ndikuyembekeza chilichonse chisintha. Mukukhala moyo womwewo womwe mwakhala mukuyembekezera ndipo mukuyembekeza kuti gawo lalikulu lazomwezo lidzawonongeka mwamatsenga.
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