Wodala aliyense! Ndikuwonetsa izi ndi bio yaying'ono: Dzina langa ndi ojdidit, ndine katswiri wazaka wazaka 19 wazaka zapamwamba ku koleji yaukadaulo yolembera zamasewera, ndimasewera mpira ndi rugby ndipo ndakhala ndikusangalala kwambiri ndi maphunziro anga ngati masamu akulu.
Kusintha kwanga: Pamene ndinayamba nofap kumapeto kwa Novembala chaka chatha, ndinali wokhumudwa kwambiri m'moyo wanga. Ndinali namwali wovutika maganizo, wodzidalira (sikuti zimenezo ndi zinthu zoipa 😉 ). Nditaonera kanema wa TED ndikuyamba nofap ndinaona kusintha kwadzidzidzi m'maganizo mwanga mkati mwa milungu iwiri, koyamba patatha nthawi yayitali ndinali ndi chiyembekezo komanso wosangalala. Ndinali kulandira ndemanga kuchokera kwa anzanga monga, "Winawake akuseka lero" kapena "Chifukwa chiyani ukuoneka wosangalala kwambiri" (ngati kuti chinali chinthu choipa ha-ha!). Chifukwa chake ngakhale ndinali ndi zilakolako, ndimamva ngati sindingathe kugonja chifukwa sindinkafuna kubwerera ku vuto limenelo. Iyi inali nthawi yomwe ngakhale ndimayenera kuyang'ana kwambiri pa kudziwongolera, ndinali kuyang'ana kwambiri kuti ndisabwererenso.
Kudzikongoletsa: Ndinafika patatha masiku pafupifupi 30 pamene ndinasintha kuchoka pa malingaliro amenewo oti ndizingoganizira 100% kuti ndisabwerere m'mbuyo n’kuyamba kuda nkhawa kwambiri ndi kudzikongoletsa komanso kudzizindikira. Ndinayamba kuwerenga ngati chizolowezi koyamba ndipo ndinayamba kuphunzira zambiri za momwe anthu amakhalira ndi mabuku monga "The Game" ndi "The Art of Seduction" (onse awiri ndikuwalimbikitsa). Ndinkagona maola 6 mpaka 7 usiku, koma ndinapeza kuti ndili ndi mphamvu zambiri, zomwe zinandipangitsa kukhala wopindulitsa kwambiri komanso kupeza nthawi yogwira ntchito yanga yonse komanso kusangalala kwambiri pamene ndikudzisamalira bwino. Monga wothamanga, ndimakonda kunyamula zolemera. Ndinali ndi thanzi labwino komanso wodzipereka ndisanayambe kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, koma nditachita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndinapeza mphamvu yatsopano, giya latsopano lomwe ndikanatha "kusintha" ndikudzikakamiza kuti ndizidziwe mozama panthawi yochita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Ndapita patsogolo kwambiri m'chipinda cholemera m'masiku 90 apitawa ndipo ndikufuna kumva ngati anthu ena omwe amachita masewera olimbitsa thupi akhala ndi malingaliro ofanana. Panthawiyi sindinapambane pa nkhani yogonana, koma sizinandivutitse.
Nthawi ya nkhani: Kenako tchuthi cha masika chinafika. Ndinakhala pa hotelo ya pa eyapoti pambuyo poti mavuto a makina achedwetsa ulendo wanga ndipo ndinatenga mtsikana amene ndinakumana naye pa ndege (mwayi wake ndinali kukhala pa hotelo yomweyo). Ndisanayambe nofap, ndinkachita mantha kwambiri kuti sindikudziwa zomwe ndikuchita pabedi, koma panthawiyi (pafupifupi masiku 70) malingaliro anga adatenga malo ndipo ndinali ndi chidaliro (ndi boner woopsa) chomwe sindinamvepo kale. Kenako patatha maola asanu nditataya unamwali wanga kwa mtsikana wazaka 26, ndinalowa nawo kalabu ya mile high ndi mtsikana yemweyo (tonse tinali ndi ndege yomweyo m'mawa wotsatira). Ndinamva ngati wopusa kwambiri ndipo ndinatenga chidaliro chimenecho mu kuyankhulana ntchito komwe ndinali nako ku LA tsiku lotsatira. Ndinapha kuyankhulana ndipo ndinapeza ntchito yachilimwe (ku hedge fund!). Ndinafunsanso mtsikana amene ndakhala ndikumukonda kuyambira kusukulu ya sekondale. Zonsezi zinachitika mkati mwa maola 48, zinali zopusa kwambiri.
Ndiwo mitu yayikulu yomwe ndikufuna kukusiyani, kuti m'malo mongodzuka kuti musatsegule, zimapangitsa tsiku lililonse kukhala lingaliro. Tsiku lililonse limakhala ndi zokumana nazo zosangalatsa, ngakhale zowopsa. Tiloleni tonse kuti tizilumikizana kuti tichoke pamalonda athu, mwanjira zamaphunziro, ndi zina zambiri, ndinamvetsera kwa a Joe Rogan (ndi London Real - onse omwe ndi ma podcasts omwe ndikulimbikitsa kuti ndimamvere ndikamagwira ntchito kapena china) ndi imodzi zinthu zazikuluzikulu zomwe adanenapo, "kukhala ngwazi ya nkhani yako". Makamaka fuck zomwe anthu ena amaganiza ndikuchita zomwe mukufuna kuchita. Khalani achilungamo komanso odziletsa ndipo chitani zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti mukwaniritse zomwe mumafuna kukhala zofunikira.
Ngakhale ndasintha moyo wanga m'miyezi ingapo yapitayo, sindinafike pafupi ndi komwe ndikufuna kukhala. Masiku a 50 apitawa ndikadakuwuzani kuti kupangitsa kuti masiku a 90 akhale "mathero onse akhale", ndipo ngakhale kukwaniritsidwa kwake kopindulitsa, sizitanthauza kanthu ngati sindipitiliza kudzikonza tsiku lililonse. Uwu ndi uthenga wina womwe ndikufuna kukusiyani inu anyamata, ndikuti musayese kuyesetsa kukhala bwino. Ngakhale nofap yakhala dera lodabwitsa kwa ine m'miyezi yapitayi ya 4, zofuna zanga zasintha ndipo ndasiya 95% yazomwe zikufika patsamba loyambira. Ndamaliza maphunziro athu, koma ndiyenera kuthokoza nonse chifukwa chodabwitsa komanso kundiphunzitsa. Ndinkamenya kwambiri maulendo ena aliwonse ndipo ma nofap nthawi zonse amakhala ali ndi ine. Ndikufuna kukusiyirani anyamata ndi mawu omwe bambo anga adandiuza m'mene ndimavutikira zolimbitsa thupi zolimba (bambo anga anali wothandizira wanga). Nditamuwuza kuti ndinali wokonzeka kusiya, kugwada, ndikugwada ndi thukuta, bambo anga anandiuza kuti, "nthawi yokha yomwe ungafikire pansi ndi pomwe ungasiye kukumba".
Ameni abale ndi alongo, zakhala zenizeni
modzipereka,
Ojdidit
ndi ojdidit123 masiku 90