Wodala aliyense! Ndikuwonetsa izi ndi bio yaying'ono: Dzina langa ndi ojdidit, ndine katswiri wazaka wazaka 19 wazaka zapamwamba ku koleji yaukadaulo yolembera zamasewera, ndimasewera mpira ndi rugby ndipo ndakhala ndikusangalala kwambiri ndi maphunziro anga ngati masamu akulu.
Kusintha kwanu: Nditayamba koyamba kumapeto kwa Novembala chaka chatha, ndinali wovuta m'moyo wanga. Ndinali namwali wopsinjika, wodziganizira (osati kuti chimenecho ndi choyipa). Nditaonera vidiyo ya TED ndikuyamba mwachidwi ndidawona kusintha komwe ndimakhala mkati mwamasabata awiri, koyamba kwa nthawi yayitali ndimakhala wosangalala komanso wokondwa. Ndinkalandira ndemanga kuchokera kwa anzanga ngati, "Wina wa mnzake lero" kapena "Chifukwa chiyani mukuwoneka wokondwa" (ngati chinali chinthu choyipa ha-ha!). Chifukwa chake ndili ndi zokakamiza, ndimakhala ngati sindingathe kugonjera momwe sindimafunanso kuti ndibwererenso nkhawa. Iyi inali nthawi yomwe ngakhale ndimayenera kuyang'ana pakudzibweza, ndinali kuyang'ana kwambiri osabweza.
Kudzikongoletsa: Ndinafika pafupi masiku a 30 pomwe ndidapanga kusintha kwa malingaliro a 100% popewa kuyambiranso kuda nkhawa zambiri zodzikwaniritsa. Ndidayamba kuwerenga ngati kosewerera koyamba ndipo ndidayamba kuphunzira zautali ndimabuku monga "Masewera" ndi "The Art of Seduction" (onse omwe ndimalimbikitsa). Ndinagona osagona 6 mpaka maola a 7 usiku, koma ndidapeza mphamvu zambiri, zomwe zimandipatsa mwayi wopeza nthawi yayitali komanso kupeza nthawi yambiri yogwira ntchito. Monga wothamanga ndimasewera wolimbitsa thupi. Ndidapangidwa bwino ndipo sindinadzipangire, koma nditapanga phokoso, ndidapeza drive yatsopano, giya yatsopano yomwe ndimatha "kusuntha" ndikudzikakamiza kuti ndikumbire mwakuya nthawi yolimbitsa thupi mwankhanza. Ndakhala ndikupita patsogolo kwambiri m'chipinda cholemetsa m'masiku a 90 m'mbuyomu ndipo ndikadakonda kumva ngati ena onse omwe ali ndi nkhawa akhala akumvanso chimodzimodzi. Pakadali pano ndinali wogonabe osachita bwino, koma sizinandivutitse.
Nkhani nthawi: Ndipo kenako kuphukira kwa kasupe. Ndinakhala pa hotelo yanyumba ya eyapoti zovuta zamakina zitachedwetsa kuthawa kwanga ndipo ndinatenga msungwana yemwe ndinakumana naye pa ndege (mwamwayi kukhala hotelo yomweyo). Pamaso pake, ndinali ndimantha mwamantha kuti sindikudziwa zomwe ndimachita pakama, koma pakadali pano (masiku a 70 mu) zikhalidwe zanga zidatenga gawo ndipo ndinali ndi chidaliro (ndi chowotcha chomenyera) chomwe sindinamvepo kale. Ndipo pafupi maola asanu nditataya unamwali wanga wazaka za 26, ndidalowa kilabu yayitali kwambiri ndi mtsikana yemweyo (tonse awiri tidathawa mawa lake). Ndinkangomva ngati ndikulakwitsa chilichonse ndipo ndinali ndi chidaliro kuti ndikulankhulana nawo ku ntchito tsiku lotsatira. Adapha zokambirana ndikupeza ntchito yotentha (pa thumba la hedge!). Ndidafunsanso mtsikana wina kuti ndakhala ndikulakalaka naye kuyambira kusekondale. Zonse zomwe zimachitika pang'onopang'ono kwa maola a 48, zinali zopenga bwino kwambiri.
Ndiwo mitu yayikulu yomwe ndikufuna kukusiyani, kuti m'malo mongodzuka kuti musatsegule, zimapangitsa tsiku lililonse kukhala lingaliro. Tsiku lililonse limakhala ndi zokumana nazo zosangalatsa, ngakhale zowopsa. Tiloleni tonse kuti tizilumikizana kuti tichoke pamalonda athu, mwanjira zamaphunziro, ndi zina zambiri, ndinamvetsera kwa a Joe Rogan (ndi London Real - onse omwe ndi ma podcasts omwe ndikulimbikitsa kuti ndimamvere ndikamagwira ntchito kapena china) ndi imodzi zinthu zazikuluzikulu zomwe adanenapo, "kukhala ngwazi ya nkhani yako". Makamaka fuck zomwe anthu ena amaganiza ndikuchita zomwe mukufuna kuchita. Khalani achilungamo komanso odziletsa ndipo chitani zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti mukwaniritse zomwe mumafuna kukhala zofunikira.
Ngakhale ndasintha moyo wanga m'miyezi ingapo yapitayo, sindinafike pafupi ndi komwe ndikufuna kukhala. Masiku a 50 apitawa ndikadakuwuzani kuti kupangitsa kuti masiku a 90 akhale "mathero onse akhale", ndipo ngakhale kukwaniritsidwa kwake kopindulitsa, sizitanthauza kanthu ngati sindipitiliza kudzikonza tsiku lililonse. Uwu ndi uthenga wina womwe ndikufuna kukusiyani inu anyamata, ndikuti musayese kuyesetsa kukhala bwino. Ngakhale nofap yakhala dera lodabwitsa kwa ine m'miyezi yapitayi ya 4, zofuna zanga zasintha ndipo ndasiya 95% yazomwe zikufika patsamba loyambira. Ndamaliza maphunziro athu, koma ndiyenera kuthokoza nonse chifukwa chodabwitsa komanso kundiphunzitsa. Ndinkamenya kwambiri maulendo ena aliwonse ndipo ma nofap nthawi zonse amakhala ali ndi ine. Ndikufuna kukusiyirani anyamata ndi mawu omwe bambo anga adandiuza m'mene ndimavutikira zolimbitsa thupi zolimba (bambo anga anali wothandizira wanga). Nditamuwuza kuti ndinali wokonzeka kusiya, kugwada, ndikugwada ndi thukuta, bambo anga anandiuza kuti, "nthawi yokha yomwe ungafikire pansi ndi pomwe ungasiye kukumba".
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